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Open Question: 10 points! Will award BA. Need good advice from the Ladies? and more... Open Question: 10 points! Will award BA. Need good advice from the Ladies?Background: I have dated Victoria on and off for 4 years. During our off periods, we drift apart, date others, then realize that we're sort of made for each other, so we always end up back together. No big fights or anything, just poor timing. When we're together, we are very close. But we always break up the same way.... she just kind of drifts away. During the last break-up, she moved to another city, but its close enough to where we now that we found each other again, we spend one weekend a month together. She wants me to move there and move in with her. We both say that this is it... we are together forever now, so I am going to move within the year. We call and text throughout the day etc. The problem: After all these years, I have a vibe about her. I know the way she texts, I know the way she speaks, etc etc. and every time she flakes on me, it starts with an almost imperceptible pulling back. Less texting, less communication, less detailed info, less interaction... inch by inch. I know when it's coming because I've felt that vibe before and been right each time. So, the last several days, I can feel the vibe: she's starting to pull back again. I don't even think she realizes it, but I think when she starts feeling flaky, everything gets prioritized over me, and then she inevitably wanders away. Then when she has emotional, sexual, or real-life needs... she drifts back and I'm there. The advice I need: I want to give her a message that this time I'm not going to put up with it. Either she nips it in the bud, or this time I won't be there at all when she decides to wander back to me. But I want to do this subtly... just so she gets the feeling, a vibe. Just like she gives to me. Yes, I know I should talk to her about it blah blah blah. But FIRST, I want to send a perceptible message, so that maybe she can snap out of it before I have to bring it up. Any ideas? Open Question: What should I do? should I just forget it? or keep on waiting?I'm having trouble with my feelings for my ex- Boy friend... We dated each other for about 2 months and we had a long distance relationship but things didn't turn right. It just kinda got very complicated so, he decided to break up with me. Didn't hurt much because I wasn't pretty much serious my self. But after 3 months later. I fell for him again. And he asked me if we could get back together with him again.. which of course I agreed to give it another try...things were going pretty well. We were pretty much in love with each other a lot. But, he had some sort of family problem and then by almost the end of the month he said he was leaving. But not leaving me. Just going out of town and far away from where I was... He didn't want to break up with me and said that maybe we should cool it off for a moment until he works things out with his family & that kinda hurt a lot because we already had a long distance relationship and then, he's going away far from this country? I waited for like a whole month and then my friend showed me a wrong sent text message from him that was supposed to be sent to another girl.. he was hitting on another girl. so, I decided to break up with him. But the family problem thing was real one of his family member told me. Now, we're going on the same school. We see each other everyday but we don't talk to each other a lot. now, my problem is I think the feeling is coming back again and it's really bothering me because i don't want to bring back the past but why won't the feeling just stop? I mean, i know i should forget him. but how? when he's always around me and I see him everyday? I really need help.. So, do I give it up or just keep on waiting for him. Open Question: Can I get over this crush when I just want to be friends?I have a problem. I'm pretty sure I have a slight crush on my best guy friend. And by best guy friend, I mean that I would trust him with my life and just loving hanging out with him. We always have a good time together, and our personalities just go. I mean, get this, when we first met and hung out at a football came, all of my friends asked if we were dating and that we should date. Of course, we weren't going to. We just met for crying out loud! I wanted to get to know him better. It's been a little over a year since then. He asked me out about a month or two after we began to hang out more, but I turned him down for personal reasons. So, it was a little rough for a while, but we managed to stay friends. He got a girlfriend and was with her at the end of the school year and stayed with her over the entire summer. Him and I were still great friends, and if anything, over the summer we got even closer. We just really get each other, have stupid conversations and arguments, but it's all in good fun. When the school year started up again, I had over 6 classes with him. So, naturally, we see each other a lot. His girlfriend got jealous and told him to tell me to back off because I was "flirting" with him. (I got very annoyed by that because she started to spread rumors and everything.) But turns out, she broke up with him to go out with another guy anyways (which was really low, and I know Ian was a bit hurt by that. I was talking to him on Facebook right after it happened and told him I'd always be here for anything.) So, once again, we're just really good friends. Closer now because he doesn't have a girlfriend to say crap about me, and I'm enjoying this friendship I have with him. He trusts me, if now more than ever, and I trust him. But to my absolute horror, I'm beginning to realize my crush for him is resurfacing. I don't notice it when I'm around him, because it's so easy to get along with him and be myself. We're constantly texting, we're going to a dance together (just as friends, of course). So, now to the main problem. I don't, I repeat, DON'T, want to have a crush on him. Don't get me wrong, he's a great guy and everything, and I'm well aware of his faults, but I don't want to ruin this awesome friendship we have. My family and friends pick on me, telling me I have a total crush. I deny it, but I know it's quite true. And I mean, my grandma was talking to me, and she said "You never know. Maybe he'll be the guy you marry someday". That had crossed my mind previously as well! I mean, about a month or so before I met him, I had prayed, "Dear God, I know that this has a near zero possibility of happening, but this school year, I want to meet the guy I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. It might be to much to ask, but I think it'd be so cool. Thanks God!". And I remember this prayer only a few weeks ago after I began to think about marrying one day. It's a little bit freaky! So how do I get rid of this crush? I don't want to have it, because I don't want to jeopardize our friendship that has taken a bit of time to develop. Please help! Open Question: How can i hit it off with this really Hot EURO guy at work?Im [24] and work in an office. I'm pretty shy when it comes to picking up new guys and dating etc.. But this week i felt i hit the jackpot. The manager came down and bought herself to my desk a really hot guy from one of these Eastern european countries who has now joined our team and will be working with me, infact sitting right next to me. Kerching Kerching! i said in my head. He is just absolutely gorgeous, like a perfect angel fallen from heaven. Infact i look FORWARD to going into work now. How many people can say that? He's really smarted dressed early 20's blond, light blue eyed, clean fair complexion and a nice well defined butt and a musclar body. He has a really cute twinkle in his eye and a delicous smile. The problem is the language barrier, his accent is really really heavy when he speaks. Its like "Da and rrrr" with most verbs. He also seems like the shy type. I think he might also be gay as i've got the right signals from him. (he hasnt mentioned a girlfriend!) I was thinking of asking him for drinks after work? What do you think might be the best way to find out if he really is gay and allow me to you know what... Because we've got on really well he's bright intelligent, funny and totally compatible workwise and as a friend. Also im getting the impression he really likes me, he's always asking "Want some Waterrrr" "Shall i on the heaterrrr" and always smiling at me and being really loving. But the real problem is the communication? Or shouldnt i mix work and pleasure together? Open Question: Interracial Dating for the Single Mother?I am young, black and educated with my own car/own place. I got married at a young age and had 2 kids as a result of the marriage. I suffered various forms of abuse and neglect and finally forced my way to a divorce once I discovered his affair with a co-worker 20 years older than us. Dating is difficult already because I am a single mom now, but to make matters worse, My ex-husband is black like me and recently, I have been dating white men. Some say they don't mind my kids at all, but I don't really know how practical it is to hope for a future with any of them. I just don't believe they would want to deal with the stigma. I never have a problem getting a man's interest, but I worry that I'm destined to be a pit-stop, never a wife. What do you think? Open Question: I like my best friend, but I'm scared to say anything?I've been having problems during the last 3-4 months, and one person has always been there to help me. He is truly my best friend. I don't know what I would do without him. He has just been there for me whenever I needed him. Over this time I have developed strong feelings for him though... I want to say something, but in a way i don't. I'm just afraid of rejection and the fact he may find it weird to be friends with me... I'm okay with just being friends....because i don't want him out of my life. We're very open to each other on most things. We know about each others pasts, and things about our families (like things you just don't want people to know). Lately though he came to me with a problem. He told me I was the only person he felt comfortable helping him with it. He told me that he still liked his exgirlfriend, even though he hated her (which i pretty much took as a rejection to me)....but then a few days ago he brought it up and said that just didn't know.....he said the only reason he feels that way was because he feels he did her wrong but would never be with her again. Then again he stated he hated her. I just don't know though. To me it seems like he does like me.... We've been mistaken as dating, and then for most of the rest of the day he tries to avoid me, but at the end he'll call. I don't know what I should do though. Suggestions? Open Question: People keep getting to my head,they ask me questions and say my girlfriend isnt right,how do i solve this?well i have been dating my girlfriend for 3 weeks so far,and she really loves me,but i have a problem because i have a strong personality,and i dont just let people get away by saying stuff about me,they say that i am with the wrong girl,and that the girl is ugly,and they ask me questions like when am i going to kiss the girl,they just dont understand,it happens like everyday,and it is really affecting my relationship with the girl and its starting to get me to a point where i just cant take it no more and want to break up with her,i need help because i really like her too,i dont want to break her heart,and i just want to sort this problem with people continously asking me questions,they just keep bothering me,i look at them and i just take it all in,i dont want to cause a huge argument by saying LEAVE ME ALONE,they just think they can get me angry and get away with it,im not the kind of guy who deals with that,my best friend wants me to carry on,because he thinks its the best thing,but for me its hard to fight off people continously getting to me head,i hate it when people goo aww when they see me and my girl,its been 3 weeks and its like not forgotten yet,they just cant leave me and my girlfriend alone,should i giv it more time?,CAN SOMEBODY TELL ME HOW I CAN SORT THIS :),MUCH APPRECIATED AS I HAVE BEEN UPSET LATELY. TY Open Question: My Boyfreind is really stingy with me?My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over a year now, and he is extremely wealthy, but also very stingy when it comes to me. He has no problems blowing through thousands of dollars on himself for extravagant toys and clothes that he doesn't need. (He literally has more shoes than I have ever seen in one closet). In the meantime I am a full time student, working full time, and I am barley making ends meet. On top of it all I'm losing my job at the end of the month. I'm not expecting him to support me, but I would be nice for him to be sensitive of the situation. For example, one weekend he went to the mall, after he spent about $2500 on clothes for him self I asked if I could stop by the make counter to pick up some face wash( $20). In the meantime a sales lady at the make up counter snags him, and starts showing him the new men's skincare line. He buys the entire line for him and a buddy ($350). I walk over to check out with my $20 face wash and I was thinking maybe just maybe he would say it was all together…but no…I paid for my own face wash. It just little things like this; It would be one thing if he truly could not afford it but he can. Even though I can't spoil him with expensive things, I make sure he is always taken care of, I constantly clean for him, give him massages when ever he asks, run all of his errands, and "physically" he is always satisfied I want to confront him, but I'm not sure what to say with out sounding like a gold-digger, but he is really acting selfish. How should I approach the situation? Open Question: For girls only.. please answer : (? Just got totally rejected said i had a bad personality?She said im very attractive but didn't like my personality. Would you date me? Im 6 3 dark brown hair, have good Hygiene, weigh 160, have Hazel eyes. Like to play basketball on free time. Play video games. Go fishing, hunting, ride my motorcycle. I like to take trips and be spontaneous about it. I like to hug, kisses, watch movies and love scary movies but tend to close my eyes on some parts. I work for a living and support people and my friends. Drink sometimes, don't smoke anything. Im a talker and love to share my feelings. I Always keep an open mind. and don't think sex is number one in a relationship. Cons, I don't think before i speak. I don't sometimes don't understand the word no. I don't give that much attention to my partners as i should. I Always wont to be right, im a sore loser. I have a bad Habit of leaving stuff around. Im bad with money and i don't worry about things until they post a problem. I hate people that say that there going to do something but never do it. dislike liars, cheaters, and fake people. Don't care for people that live off of someone Else and has no major plans in life. Open Question: Honest opinions and adivce PLEASE!!?Me and Austin (my ex-boyfriend) are still friends. We dated for 6 months until his parents found out that me and him had sex. Since then, he has been banned from seeing each other, calling each other, or texting each other ever again. It's been about a month since our forced break up. We have been secretly emailing each other. He says that he's not going to wait for me and he's going to get another girlfriend. Me and him had a lot of problems when we were dating and I did cheat on him a few times. I regret it so much. It took me untill very recently to realize all that I've done and that I've lost the one guy who's treated me the best. I told him to give me one last shot to prove that I've changed. He said that he'd talk to his parents' today about giving me a "sit-down" talk. I'm really scared and nervous. I love him with all my heart so I'm willing to do this and whatever it takes just to see him again. The problem is, Austin's parents know that I'm sexually active (I'm 17 and Austin is 16). They also know that I smoke pot, drink, and party. Austin's family is one of those proper, christian, go-by-the-book type of families and compared to them, I'm like satan. I'm a good person on the inside. My friends know that, my mom knows that, and I know that. How can I convince Austin's parent's that I'm a good person and that I deserve one last shot? I'm willing to do anything. I love him that much. Open Question: I have to talk to my ex boyfriend's parents?Me and Austin (my ex-boyfriend) are still friends. We dated for 6 months until his parents found out that me and him had sex. Since then, he has been banned from seeing each other, calling each other, or texting each other ever again. It's been about a month since our forced break up. We have been secretly emailing each other. He says that he's not going to wait for me and he's going to get another girlfriend. Me and him had a lot of problems when we were dating and I did cheat on him a few times. I regret it so much. It took me untill very recently to realize all that I've done and that I've lost the one guy who's treated me the best. I told him to give me one last shot to prove that I've changed. He said that he'd talk to his parents' today about giving me a "sit-down" talk. I'm really scared and nervous. I love him with all my heart so I'm willing to do this and whatever it takes just to see him again. The problem is, Austin's parents know that I'm sexually active (I'm 17 and Austin is 16). They also know that I smoke pot, drink, and party. Austin's family is one of those proper, christian, go-by-the-book type of families and compared to them, I'm like satan. I'm a good person on the inside. My friends know that, my mom knows that, and I know that. How can I convince Austin's parent's that I'm a good person and that I deserve one last shot? I'm willing to do anything. I love him that much. More Recent Articles
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