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Open Question: Am I silly for wanting just one big romantic to-do? Is there really no hope of us having a romantic moment? and more... Open Question: Am I silly for wanting just one big romantic to-do? Is there really no hope of us having a romantic moment?I'd like to prefix this by stating, my husband and I have a good marriage we have a monthly date night, when we get a sitter and go do something without the kid we eat dinner as a family every night, talk about our day, cuddle and watch tv together, etc.. and as far as sex goes, we both would like to find time more often but with our busy lives, a few times a week gets us by just fine until life calms down alittle- the only real problem is a lack of romance I know its silly, but after everything we've been through, I look back and I can't remember a single romantic moment in our whole relationship: we were a one-night stand that turned into friendship and the next thing you know we're talking about getting married, 3 weeks later in a court-house I said "I do" in a sun dress, married a month when we found out we were pregnant- now our son is nearly a year old and I'm happy and my husband is happy, but at the same time it'd be nice to have a nice big romantic to-do, for once I mean, I didn't even get a real wedding or a honeymoon, don't even have a cute "first date" story so I guess what I'd really like is just if I could feel worth the work of wining and dining or if I could kinda relive my wedding night the way I had hoped it would be instead of how it was (too tired for sex after 12 hour work shift) I talk to my husband about all this and it just makes him feel bad- he says he feels like he robbed me of all these experiences and I try to explain to him that I love our life, I have no regrets I know its silly but I just can't stop thinking about a moment I wish we could have- one of those dancing by candle-light kind of moments, or something like that rose petals on the bed or whatever- I can tell that my husband tries- he's a great man and a great father and a wonderful husband: he helps with housework, holds my hand in public, tells me he loves me every day when he kisses me goodbye before work or goodnight before bed- even when we fight, we always work it out and feel stronger for having gone through it- so I try to help him out- I try to set up that romantic moment for us- but it never seems to work out either he's too tired or we get our signals crossed over sex vs. cuddling or something like that my question is this: for anyone with more seasoned marriage- am I as silly as I feel I am for wanting something as trivial as romance when every other part of our marriage is so great? and is there any hope to have that romantic moment? neither of us really seems to be good at setting up a 'candles and rose petals' scenerio so at this point I'm just trying to get myself to give up on it I should explain- our monthly date night is our big attempt at romance- but it usually ends up being a game of mini-golf or a dinner out or movie--- we start off in a good mood, but somehow we always run out of things to do on our dates, spend the last hour debating picking our son up early from the sitter's house--- date nights are never romantic because, well, because we aren't very good a planning romantic--- and the few times we get it right, something happens to ruin the mood, if that makes sense--- basically we try, it just never works out Open Question: Does anyone else think this is being rude?Two weeks ago, we received a notice from a contractor stating that they would be installing new cable lines in my apartment building. They left a notice on November 19 stating that they planned to install the cables into my unit a week ago Monday. They never showed up or even left a note that they had been delayed. My husband waited from 8 am to 5 pm for the technician to arrive. I finally got mad and saw the workers packing up and leaving. I called my landlord and he was overwhelmed with phone calls from angry tenants. He told me that a glitch occurred and the company had to get more cable lines. They were gone from 11 am till 3 pm. All 15 of them to get a box of cable wire? He got upset with the company and called the local cable company. The cable company sent out their technician to watch the workers after a 4 hour lunch break on Monday. The next day, the supervisor came to our apartment and apologized after all the complaints. He said that it would be the following week after Thanksgiving. That's not what the first notice mentioned. Now, I'm battling a sinus infection from seasonal allergies. It has been unseasonably warm in Ohio. Last week we had temperatures in the upper 60's. Now we're facing a big change. The company is planning to come either today or Tuesday to finally install the new wires. I find the somewhat inconvenient and rude of the contracting company. My cable company gives us a specific date and time when they will arrive. This company can only give us an approximate time. My apartment building only has 25 units in the building. It isn't my landlord's fault for the scheduling problem. It's the cable contractor's fault for deciding the last week of November to install cable wires in snowy Ohio. Does anyone else think that this is bad timing? Shouldn't the cable contractor also be courteous enough to give appointments for the tenants? Thanks. Open Question: problems with my fiance's cousin?I posted a question about my annoying fiance's cousin a while ago. Turns out the situation hasnt gotten any better. To recap, my fiance's cousin feels like she has a bone to pick with me because her brother had a huge crush on me ... feelings which I did not reciprocate. We didnt have any sort of friendship on any level, so Im not sure why he took it so badly. Anyway I started dating their cousin, whom I am very much in love with. We are very serious about each other and plan on getting married within the next year. His cousin has been incredibly rude to me right from the start, and when I told my fiance about it he was really upset and chatted to her about it. She started crying about how she cant have anything to do with me because as far as shes concerned Im the girl who broke her brother's heart (crazy considering I know next to nothing about her brother!) Then she made him feel bad by saying shes so upset that shes causing a problem between us. My fiance was incredibly upset because she said some pretty mean things to me, and she needs to accept that we are together because Im going to be his wife, and if she cant accept that then shes pretty much going to find it hard to be around us in the future because she doesnt like me. Initially my fiance completely wrote her off - he told her to leave him alone because I was the woman hes chosen to be with and she cant be rude to me without even giving me the chance of showing her who I am. I was a little sad about that because my fiance accepts shes a bit of a bully, but sticks her personality purely because she has two little girls who he adores, and he wants our kids to know who their cousins are. So I told him to talk to her and make it right. I accept that she and I will never be friends, but I will tolerate her because she is his family. Things were great for a few months - she stayed out of the picture and my fiance and my fiance and i really had a chance to develop our relationship. BUT NOW shes back to haunt me. Even though shes older than I am I am TRYING to be the bigger person and ignore her. My fiance even put off family trips because she would be around and hes sort of lessened contact with her. Its just that now shes overplaying the fact that they dont get to talk alot - and doesnt realise its HER fault. I was never rude to her, even in response to her awful comments about me. So she's constantly like 'brother we need to talk, brother I miss u, brother theres so much to tell you lets skype' HES NOT HER BROTHER! her brother is just as nuts as she is because he had it in his head that we would be married and live happily ever after without even meeting me! And now she keeps trying to push me aside and overplay her relationship with my fiance even though she is married and has a family of her own. I know its a long winded story but the bottom line is that I was willing to tolerate her purely because she is related to my fiance. But now she cant see shes damaged her relationship with me as well as any potential friendship we could have had. Im not sure if she'll go away if we ignore her, she seems to just drop out of the picture and then come straight back...so im not sure if i should say anything at all and to who. please help ... I really dont know how to handle this bully Open Question: Should I even try anymore? I am so lost and confused :-( PLEASE PLEASE HELP!! (10 points best answer)!!?So I was talking to this guy for about two months, and after HE repeatedly told me that he really likes me and would like to hang out sometime, we finally made plans to hang out on Tuesday. But on Monday night, I saw that he had me blocked online. When I asked him why, he said that he cant hang out with me because I'm "too good," and he feels like I can do better than him (he was a heroin addict for a year, but has been clean 7 months. I told him I don't have a problem with his past though). He told me he has self esteem issues and anxiety, and that my confidence and positive nature makes him feel like I should look for someone better. About three months ago, he was also cheated on by his ex girlfriend(whom he dated nine months), so I know he has trust issues. I told him I'd never even think about cheating on him, but he responded with "That's what they said too." We are both 21, I am graduating college in May, while he is taking some time off, trying to figure out what to do. (Which is another reason why he feels like I am "too good" for him). I kept trying to tell him that I DO think he's amazing and that he makes me happy, but he still insisted that he's not good enough. He said that I mean more to him than anyone else, that the past two months meant more to him than he can explain, but that he needs more time before we can hang out. About two nights later, he called me and cried because he is afraid to lose his dad, who is very sick. After I consoled him, he said, "I hope you're not mad at me. I really like you, and I mean it." The next day, I didn't hear from him again, when I contacted him, he said he felt embarrassed about crying to me about his dad, but I told him that it's not problem at all, and I want to be there for him. Yesterday and today, not a word from him again. What is going on? Should I wait for him to go back to normal? Should I keep talking to him, or let him go? I REALLY like this guy, but I am so confused. Is he messing with me? If it's all so disappointing now, won't it be worse later? Thanks in advance! Open Question: My fiance and I want have a baby but he is getting ready to ship to basic will this get him kicked out?My fiance and I are looking at starting a family, but the problem is he is in the Delayed Entry Program for the Navy. His assigned is ship date to basic is Aug 11 2010. We want to know since he has already done his paperwork and signed with no dependents, will this move his ship date back? Will he loose his job completely and get discharged before he starts? Or will it not make a difference? He is in the Navy for AIR C trying for AIR R. More Recent Articles
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