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Open Question: HELP PLEASE. I will soon have my first date with my boyfriend "sa biglang liko."? and more... Open Question: HELP PLEASE. I will soon have my first date with my boyfriend "sa biglang liko."?But I have a problem. I am ashamed to show my private parts to my boyfriend. He might get turned off. My "singits" are very maitim. How can I make them whiter in a short time ? Open Question: What do I talk about on dates?I have the problem that I tend to talk about "intellectual" things, and about movies, and music, and stuff, which is fine to some extent, but I think I do it too much, and it turns women off. What are the sorts of conversations I should try to get into on dates? Open Question: There's a problem here... HELP?Okay so im really good friends with this guy. We always text each other and we always talk. So now i think he likes me a lot. He always does stupid things around me. But I don't like him back at all. See he hangs out with these 2 other guys and I really like one of them and I think he likes me back! We talk a lot and he also asked me for my number. He also asked me who am i going to the dance with... it seemed like he wanted to go with me. Now me and my besty were just sitting down on the ground and then all 3 of them suddenly show up behind us. They were trying to be annoying and they were like fake coughing just to get attention lol. So then everybody in our school got separated in 4 teams, red, blue, yellow, and green. We were on the blue team. Um my crush was also on the same team as me and we were making A LOT of eye contact with each other. At the end we were suppose to take the tape off the ground and he was like seriously right next to me <3 I never knew that but then when i looked left he was right there! i was like, haha damn lol :P So the guy that texts me a lot likes me when i like his best friend! What will he think if i ever do date his best friend? i dont want to hurt his feelings :( Open Question: Please help with this relationship problem I have,, ezy 10 points?I have been dating this single mom for about 2-3 months now and I know that the kid comes 1st and etc. which I am cool with espically since I knew what I getting myself into. My question is that since the like first month things have kind of started to change for example we dont text as much or we dont hang out as much as we use to the first month we were getting together, and I dont know if it is me or if she is just been super busy lately or if I am doing something wrong... What should I do or am I over-reacting things? Any help would be great. thanks Open Question: Does he still care,, this is long but i really need help =/?okay.. me and this guy used to date for 8 months,a perfect relationship, barely fought it was amazing! everyone knew about us and loved us including his family :) before the relationship started me and him were good friends, and i would come to him with guy problems and he'd help me through it. he was really a good guy. anyways after 7 months into the relationship i broke up with him because i was unsure about me feelings for him. this really did affect him from what i herd and also saw. after like the second day i realized how much i really loved him and i plead for him to come back and he refused.later that night he called crying (supposedly he never cried for any female) saying forget everything he said and told me he loved me and wanted me back and well this made me cry only because i was so happy. anyways things weren't the same as they used too ( from what he said ) . a month later after the brake up he broke up with me,and dated one of his ex like 2 weeks later !? i was beyond heartbroken! we barely spoke of course but i would text him randomly and he would always find ways to make me jealous.. like he always tells me about some girl and if i don't hear him or pay attention to what he says he WILL MAKE SURE I HEARD HIM AND SAY IT AGAIN.. but he doesn't care ( so he says ) if my friends are around him he will purposely make them bring up my name and say a bad comment about me.. i didn't do anything to him so why is he acting this way?? it has been months and he still acts this way. i did try an move on into another relationship with a guy guy who he knew,and from what the other guy i dated my ex mugs him since we dated( we are broken up now).. but why would he act this way if he doesnt care ?? im so confused. ever since we broke up in JANUARY he decided to change and be a player and become someone the total opposite of his personality which was sweet,sensitive and caring.. i saw him recently after a LONG TIME and he smiled at me and waved and i smiled back. 2 days later we had a random conversion like always and he would always ask hows life and i would say great and for the first time he said its sucks and completely unloaded all his problems on me and told be he didnt want to be a player no more and desperately wanted to change for the better but for another girl.. but Y is he telling me that ??. PLEASE HELP ME I LOVE THIS BOY SO MUCH , he did to at one point and i was his only love too ,,, should i get him back or let huim go ? Open Question: Please hep i need good advice.(for guys) girls can answer to.?So theres this boy and we are really really good friends but i have been starting to like him and now i wanna date him but he has a new girlfriend about every week and i dont want that to happen to me and he dont even know i like him. should i tell him? or just keep it a secret? because im scared that if i tell him our friendship will get wierd. Somtimes he acts like he like me like i have caught him looking at me.he always talks to me but at dimisal and ask the teacher if he can sit at the table with me and my friends.and he use to send me FWD messages that talked about love and had cute little picture like for example one of them had a picture of a bear holding a heart. and i have one more problem i overheard him and his friend talkin and he said that his girlfriend gave him a hickey!!! "/ and i havent even had my first kiss so im not sure about that either. Please give me some good advice on what to do. Do you think he likes me back? or do you think he will just hurt me? to the answer below i am 11 Open Question: How do I fix the issues I have? What is it that is wrong with me?So, for over a year now, I've been in a relationship with a really caring, fun, and sweet guy. We love each other, and spend a lot, if not most, of our free time with one another. He is trustworthy, honest, and just one of the most decent people I've met. With that in mind, why is it that I'm in constant fear of losing him, of being traded in for someone more attractive, more intelligent, more worthwhile? It seems that the longer he stays with me, the more scared I am. The longer we are together the more paranoid and jealous I become. He has done absolutely nothing to warrant any of this. Of that, I am absolutely sure. We've had our problems just like any relationship, normal ones. But I tend to cause more out of control problems than I should due to jealousy, fear, and being insecure.... Because of all of this, I have become (internally), extremely needy, and struggle with jealousy. I can't bear even the thought of him talking to other women, yet alone finding other women attractive (more attractive than me, especially). Even the most innocent facebook comments from other women makes me feel nauseated. He swears he has never even laid eyes upon another woman than me, and had never even had any interest in dating until he met me. He's had a few meaningless relationships..the kind that go no further than pointless phone conversations and last no more than a week..but only one. But for some reason I struggle to believe or trust him even though I have no reason. I know this is all irrational, and I would really like some advice on how to deal with this, especially from people who have experienced, and found a way to move past, these feelings. Perhaps some men could give insight into how they view women other than their girlfriends/wives? When you meet a charming, attractive, and intelligent woman, do you compare her to your partner? Do you find other women more attractive than your partner? He swears he never looks at other women, and has never even had any interest in looking until me. He is sort of a computer nerd ((i mean that in a good way)), more interested in video games and fixing computers and watching old movies and things than dating or relationships. And yet, I still have issues with trust, jealousy, and self esteem. He is always so very good to me and never given me a reason to distrust him, but for some reason I do. Sometimes. Just the thought of him seeing another woman's body, even by accident and not even meaning to, makes my stomach hurt. I don't even want him to watch certain movies or shows because they have half naked women, women in skippy cloths, or women nude in them. Or sex. So many different things make me uncomfortable and make me feel betrayed if he were to see them or anything. I even worry about what he may have seen in the past before he met me. And in return, I am also completely loyal and refust to look at other men and void movies or shows that show other men shirtless or nude. If I don't want him to do it, it's only fair I don't. But these issues are becoming a struggle and beginning to control my entire life. It's becoming and obsession and I need help but don't know what to do. I just need some insight or someone who maybe has had the same issues and worked past it that can give me advice? And everytime I think I am beginning to become more confident or become less worried about these things, it always comes back. Sometimes I feel less paranoid than other times. I just need a fix, a way to make it go away and for me to not care as much anymore. In my eyes, looking at other women or seeing another woman that isn't your wife/girlfriend is cheating. That will NEVER change. It's unloyal in my eyes, and always will be. But I need a way to fix the way I am always worried that he looks when I'm not around or that he lies about looking or seeing. I need these worries to just not matter anymore. What do I do? Open Question: Is my boyfriend controlling? please help?Okay. I'm confused. I started dating this guy, let's call him Brian, about 2 years ago. I'm not sure if I'm in a controlling relationship or not, and I need help. Brian can be very nice and loving at times. However, I've noticed that my self esteem seems to be getting chipped away at since I've been dating him. So, here are some specific things that he has said to me. He and I are both musicians, and one time in the car, he said to me that I'm not a real musician like he is, I'm simply a music student. Mind you, I've attended top music colleges and I've sang with community groups. He's said, "I know you're not very scholarly" although I graduated from college cum laude with 4 honors tassels. He's complained about my make-up, he's complained about my shoes, and he's complained about the people I chose to be friends with and even called one of my best friends "white trash." He's very arrogant and always thinks that he is so smart and more talented than other people. Every time, however, that I call him on his comments or object to what he says, he turns it around on me somehow. Here's an example of how he behaves: at Thanksgiving, we went to his cousin's house. After dinner, Brian, Brian's cousin, and myself, all sat down on the couch. Brian wanted to watch a comedy. I took the remote and put on "The Wedding Singer." Two minutes later, Brian said to me, "What kind of wanna-be art piece of low-grade garbage is this?" I said, Brain, it's "The Wedding Singer with Adam Sandler, and I thought you liked Adam Sandler." He responded that he thought I put on some bad sit-com. When I asked Brian why he had to be so arrogant in the first place, he said, "See, here we go. More problems. You're always causing problems. I don't take back what I said. Now, you're the one being critical about me and what I say." Anyway, that's just a small example of one little thing that happened with Brian, but I thought it was a good example because it shows how every little thing gets turned around on me. My friends tell me that he plays mind-controlling games and that my self-confidence seems to get progressively worse the more I stay with him. Every time I bring this stuff up with Brian, he says that I'm the one with the problems and that I suffer from low self-esteem. I don't know. I feel like I'm going nuts. Then, he'll turn around and tell me how much he loves me and how I'm so lucky to have him because he's so honest and loving. Every time I try to break up with him, we end up back together because I feel like I need him somehow. Am I being nit-picky? Am I the one at fault here? Please tell me what you think. Oh, and another reason I'm confused is that when I googled "signs of abusive relationships," "signs of controlling relationships," etc., he didn't seem to satisfy a lot of the classic descriptions and indicators. Open Question: Is my best male friend in love with me?I know this question has come up alot but I have a dilemma. Heee's a bit if back groun info. - the man in question has been my best male friend for over 4 years - we both love to salsa (that's where we met) - he was more than a friend, my family sees him like one of our own and my mum calls him her "son" - could always count on him - I know his dirt and he knows mine - he's EXTREMELY good-looking (the man has the face and physique of a male model) - he's a dog (in terms of dating women ect) and tells me all his dirt in this department - used to be there for me 24/7 and vice versa THE PROBLEM My best friend used to play the field for a long time until he had a serious girlfriend. After a year they broke up and it took him forever and a lot of night long talks till the early hours in the morning to get over her. When he was back to his old self, he started playing again - I was so happy that he was ready to get back to his old self . I was single at the time too and still am. (i know this may sound weird, but the thing about him is that he is the most faithful partner when he's in love with a girl. and would go round in circles for her - I've seen it first hand. But when he's single, he does "community service"). We were going out a lot and spending a lot of time together, salsa dancing everywhere. People who didn't know us well always thought we were lovers because there is such a physical connection between us. Which is true. When we talk, we touch a lot, he holds my hand, strokes my back. We are all smiles and sometimes he will just come over and hug me. But he has never tried to kiss me on the lips. At times I caught him looking at me when I was dancing with another guy and he will quickly look away when our eyes lock. Even some friends would not beleive when we told them there was nothing going on. They thought we were just keeping things secret. After a while I had to admit to myself that I had feelings for him and always have done. But never really wanted to admit it. I mean, after all he was like a brother to me..right? I finally had enough and TOLD HIM how I felt. I got into a bit of a talk-rush and fired my feelings at him. I told him point blank that I have feelings for him, that we know each other better than our own mums.I told him that I want to be with him... OMG. He said nothing for ages and his hands were shaking but then he finally tells me he loves me so much but does not wanna lose me as a friend. He does not wanna mess up things. I was crushed but let it go. We got back to normal but I was doing my "own" thing as well. After several months I then started dating my now Ex. My best friend knew him and was kinda not happy at all with me. Always made negative comments about my ex for no reason. My ex even asked me one day if my friend did not like him because they bumped into each other in a club and my friend completely blanked my ex when he went over to greet my friend! I was so confused. When I told my mum and aunt, they said that my friend is in love with me. My friend then started to ignore my calls, would not pick me up anymore to go dancing in another city. Started hanging out alot with another mutual female friend ect. I was so hurt by this as I could not fathom why he felt he could not tell me what was going on. I broke up with my Ex after some months and told my friend but he was just not normal towards me any more. I was so hurt and felt so alone. The worst part was that I felt as if a part of me is missing. After several months of his behaviour and having cried myself dry, I decided to go on without the missing part of me. I started doing my own thing, stopped calling or texting him. Found other rides to take me to salsa dance in other cities. But still was nice to him when I saw him. So now, I still go salsa dancing to our normal clubs and we say hi when we see each other. But I have noticed a change in him. He does not dance that much any more when he's out, he is constantly looking at me when we're at the salsa club. Is always standing close to where I am. Then sometimes he will flirt with other girls in front of me. Last week we went to an event and I went over to him and asked for a dance. We danced again together for the first time after MONTHS and I could feel him shaking, his hands were trembling. When we finnished dancing he hugged me wo tight. A friend said we should stop being such idiots and get together because it is obvious as day that he loves me. My question is: WHAT CAN I DO? Perhaps I am being stubborn but I have already told him what I feel and he's been such a jerk to me. If he truly loves me and wants to be with me, would he not just tell me? If it is that he is scared to tell me, what can I possibly do to make him feel more relaxed and talk to me? Please, I need your help. I want to clear this once and for all. I now know that it's either all or nothing. But I dont know what to do. His actions signal that he has feelings but h More Recent Articles
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