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Open Question: How do I prevent my emotional problems from messing up my relationship? and more... Open Question: How do I prevent my emotional problems from messing up my relationship?Alright so I've known this girl for about two years or so and I've always liked her a lot. I've been dating her for three months now and I say she's my world, she's amazing, and all the other corny but sweet stuff I could say about her. Here's my problem now: I' always having some sort of conflict in my head and it shows. I'm an emotional mess more than half the time due to the atmosphere that I've been brought up in and the past things that have happened in my relationships. I always think she's cheating on me, I always think she's ignoring me, I always think she's only telling me things I want to hear. She makes me happy and all but it feels like everything is one-sided and that I'm the only one who cares. Any constructive ideas to help me out here? Alright so I've known this girl for about two years or so and I've always liked her a lot. I've been dating her for three months now and I say she's my world, she's amazing, and all the other corny but sweet stuff I could say about her. Here's my problem now: I' always having some sort of conflict in my head and it shows. I'm an emotional mess more than half the time due to the atmosphere that I've been brought up in and the past things that have happened in my relationships. I always think she's cheating on me, I always think she's ignoring me, I always think she's only telling me things I want to hear. She makes me happy and all but it feels like everything is one-sided and that I'm the only one who cares. Any constructive ideas to help me out here? Sometimes I think I just care too much and I set my expectations so high that I always get letdown, not by the other person, but by myself. Open Question: Should I stick to what I got or go with my gut? (boyfriend issue)?Hiii. I am a junior in high school and I've been going out with my current boyfriend for over a year now. He's my first boyfriend ever, and I absolutely love him. Obviously, we're in a serious relationship if it's lasting this long. The problem is, I'm the type of person that wants to go around to "experiment". (not in a "hoe"-ish way). I want to go around and date different types of guys just to build up a preference, and you know, actually having a "dating life". My boyfriend is amazing, I love him and I am happy... but not happy enough to want to be tied down at this age. I'm only a junior and I don't want to be glued down! I have no idea what to do...is my thinking of moving on from a great guy just stupid or am I right on just experimenting and not being tied down since I'm young? Another problem is that Im known as shy + a goody-two shoes girl...(which I'm really not -.- only in school...) I only dated and went out with one guy which is my boyfriend. We went out since last yr which is when I was a sophomore... before that, I felt unliked and stuff...(low-self esteem), so i feel like the only guy that would ever go out with me is my boyfriend :( Bleh , sorry... I've been like this for a while and I just want to know what you guys think, thanks :) I flirt around a bit which I shouldn't be doing... I kind of like my bf's bff but that's another story. Open Question: How do you get her back?OK folks this one is a little awkward but I need the Internets help on this one. Me and this girl were going out for 10 months.she was conservative and I had to prove myself a lot to get her to date me (and threw to her family). everyone I knew said to back off from her because she was crazy. but I just saw her as a bi-polar type girl and I kinda just accepted her for who she was. anyways so we go threw the relationship and not have any major fights until November 2nd. well she asked me to skip class to go to Boston with her.. for my birthday, she drops 300$ on me. I was really appreciative. then when my real birthday actually came on Nov 17th.. she offered sex before marriage (we had talked and decided to have sex after marriage when we first dated.) and at first I declined and she was persistent enough to make me start to change my mind and when I told her that I did want to.. she no longer did...long story short we come to the conclusion that we are but it's shaky... and after it's said and done she starts to cry and claims she wasn't ready. at this point is I know where I made my mistake... I told her to shut the fuck and stop crying because thier's no reason to cry. I know... some of you are like.. no shit she left you. but i just was afraid... what would anyone think if the girl who 12 months before was actually excited about sex... but then cried.. anyways she ignored me for a few days kinda.. we talked... and then this last sunday came... she informed me she was on her period and that she needed this night to work. I thought she was just being her typical bi-polar self. until we woke up (on monday) and she said she was thinking of breaking up with me. I was sad and mad. I was confused... I was shocked because usually when two people lose thier virginity... they usually stay togather for awhile. so I went to college... (she dropped me off) and thier must have been some kinda miscommunication in the car because I thought she had already broken up with me.... so when I got home I checked the awnser machine and she left me a message to call her. she got mad at me and said that I had broken up with her. but I laughed and said but I thought you did and she goes "I was but that's not the point". this pissed me off so... we talked and we kinda decided to fix the relationship and after 7 hours she said that the euphoria of reuniting was wearing off and that she really needed to leave me. I was like... you gave me 7 hours... so I went thru all of tuesday without talking to her until the late night where I called and apologized so much and told her I didn't mean to do what I did and that I was a tool and that im soo sorry. and I called her in the morning... on wensday and I talked to her friends and family and everyone told me to give her space.. but it was hard and I talked to her guild mates (she likes to WoW) too and then I called her again and she got angry with me and said I was starting to scare her and I was stalkerish. I got mad and wondered how in a week someone could hate you so much when 7 days ago they trusted you enough to take thier virginity. I know I destroyed that when I told her to shut up...but that doesn't make it ok for her to cry because that hurt my feelings too. everytime she kept asking me for the sake of her to move on and that I needed to face the facts the relationship was over. she said that I shouldn't contact her for a couple of months. So I need to get her back and I wanna prove to her im not a douche bag and that I need a legit communicated second chance. everyone (including her mom) said to give her space. but the one thing they can't conclude on is how long i should wait to talk to her again. Some say a week because a month or two is too long. Some say exactly the month or two like she asked. others (I like this one) to wait for her for up to a couple years or not to get into another relationship and leave the door open but not to make contact and wait forever. and last the one I hate the most is move on. I am decently confident that if I ignore her she will wonder why I am not talking to her and she will come back but I have to do what she asked and leave her alone. (in the relationship she only wanted your attention when she couldn't get it and I learned that if I gave her the attention at the wrong time until I was absolutely sure then she would get mad.) some say not to call her back with in one month because she could be back on her period and the problem could happen again. looking for get back together advice only and does the ignore technique work? alot of people it's worked for says it works. (ages.. hers 19 and mine 20... yeah we waited a long time before having sex... it was an important thing to us...or so I thought.) Open Question: Girls: Would you date someone shorter than you?I'm 5'6", but I wear heels 90% of the time, which make me almost 6' tall. I have no problem with being tall, but I recently met this really cute, nice guy who is my height. I met him on a day that I wasn't wearing heels, and every time we hang out, I don't wear them because I don't want to be taller than him. So my question is, girls, have you ever dated a guy that is your height so you don't wear heels around him so that you're not taller than him? Or am I being ridiculous? Open Question: if im 24 and a guy and never had girlfriend, would girls find out IF i ever go on a date or talk with them?i am a 24 year old virgin guy who never had a girlfriend. i am NOT ashamed of being a virgin. if someone asks me if i ever had sex, i will proudly tell them the truth which is no i havent. my excuse is that i am a christian waiting for marriage, in which i am.....now the problem is the girlfriend part. IF and only IF i ever talk with a girl, have a conversation or go on a date, will she eventually find out i never had a g/f in my life? based on my personality, interest, hobbies, behavior and the way i talk and what i talk about, will she know i never had a g/f before? thats my main concern. now another problem is, i really dont have any friends neither but that i could careless. i feel confident in myself and i am not afraid of rejection. the big problem is where to go to find a girl and having a conversation with her. since i dont really have any friends, i cant go to bars or clubs. and i dont even drink neither, so thats out. i can easily start a small talk with people but dont know how to continue the conversation with them especially girls. i have a stable job and my salary is over 50 a year, i can support myself and more. so nothing can get in my way with a relationship but i just dont know how.... Open Question: Crazy ex?? Please help me!!?ok so this is the thing...me and my ex (T) had gone out a couple of years ago during part of my high school years and we have now been broken up for 3 years. I broke up with him because i just didnt feel like we were on the same page anymore, and after months of thinking it over i called it off. He didnt take it well as to be expected and tried for months and months to get me back, it got to the point where he would just show up to my house and beg and plead for me to take him back, but i just was not going back....ok so like i said fast forward 3 years and now im dating my current bf (D) hes great and i love being with him....but now T is showing up around my house, hanging out with my neighbors and stuff and the whole thing has me feeling uncomfortable...D doesnt see him as a threat to him and doesnt see the need to cause problems that is unless he trys to get back with me....but still...T shows up while im around D and keep in mind were holding hands and hugging and stuff and still comes by...when my neighbors are telling me that he still loves me! H shows up by my place the day before my bday and trys to act cool.....and then i over hear him talking about karma and all this other crap! Im just so over it...he looks like an idiot everytime he comes over and does crap like that and i dont want to go through any of this again.....What should i do people...if anything??? Please help me!! Open Question: I'm Confused about Guys Help!?I have a Problem i'm Confused about guys, A Few different guys like me and i like them too But i can only choose one but i can't because im scared to lose one of them as a friend or something like that and i dont know what i should do maybe i should stop dating?? i dont know... Open Question: How come my Pisces husband always wants other girls...?So my husband (pisces) and i (sag) have been married for almost a year now, and even before we got married he had a problem with talking to other women on the internet, and we talked about it, and i thought we had an understanding that this did not make me comfortable and makes me feel a little self conscious and that it wouldn't happen again. Well about a month ago I found out he was doing this again behind my back, he even lied to me about why his password to his email had changed as in "he let his friends get on his laptop on his email (he is deployed) so he had to change the password and now he forgets it", when he told me after he got caught talking to other girls that he had changed the password cuz he didn't want me to see the sites he signed up for. He signed up for sites as in : tagged,speed date, and other dating sites, and said he wasn't married. My question is...Are Pisces faithful people? and why would he be doing this to me? Open Question: Songs about letting go...?So to make a long story short, I am head over heels for this guy. From the day I met him I have had this feeling like I have never had before. He's the first guy to ever make me feel safe, even over the phone. He can make me smile on even my gloomiest days and makes me feel like I have a thousand butterflies swarming around my stomach. The problem is he says he doesn't feel the same way. We dated for about a month before he moved a couple states away and since then we have both dated other people. But no matter what we have both come back to each other. We're the ones the other calls when we need advice, when something goes good or bad... we share everything but that mutual feeling. I can't keep loving him like I do. It just hurts too much and music is my thearpy. It helps me work through everything and move on. So, I need songs about letting go and learning how to be ok with not being with him. I will always hold out hope that one day he will realize what he has in me, but I know that won't happen. I love country, but most genres are good. THank you. Open Question: Another ex-boyfriend story but need advice!?So I have quite the dilemma here. Before I start, I just want to say please hold any comments for/against religion to yourselves on this one, (as it has a lot to do with religion, but it's in this specific category for a reason). I don't want people to start a debate...I just want advice. Warning: This is a long story. I appreciate anyone who will take the time to read and offer some feedback. I began dating a guy I met thru a friend (that I don't really have much contact with anymore) at the beginning of November. Everything was going great for the first couple weeks. He was nice, funny, cute, treated me very well, enjoyed being around me as much as possible...he also had flaws as well, just like anyone would...he doesn't have his license so I was the one always doing the driving, he's kind of stuck in this rut where he doesn't work much and isn't in school. (By the way, we are both 20 yrs. old) Those flaws were no big deal to me though, so the relationship seemed to be off to a good start. The major difference between us, however, was the religion. He is a born-again Christian, going to church 2, sometimes even 3 times per week. I, on the other hand, am an atheist and have no desire to be bothered with religion. He understood this and it wasn't a problem. And I understood how much going to church meant to him. Which is why I brought him a couple times and even sat thru it those couple times with him...not because I was interested in what was going on, but because I wanted to make him happy I guess. I even gave one of his friends a ride to church with us one time. All of a sudden, one night when I was over his house, he informs me that his pastor just called, drove by the house, and wanted to know who's car that was outside (it was mine). When he told him it was my car, and that we were dating, the pastor basically gave him this ultimatum: It's either her or the church. He wouldn't allow any member of the church to date an "unsaved" person. Not only was I unbelievably horrified at the mere fact he practically stalks the members of his church, but I was deeply hurt that he would say such a thing to someone who had been a member there for 2 years and who had done so much for that church. Of course I wanted to know what he was going to do. Without even having to think about it, he instantly chose me. He said he would just go to another church...one that wouldn't be as strict as the one he had been going to for the past couple years. Then, come Sunday a few days later, I didn't hear from him all day. Finally, around 9pm, he called me. We talked for a while and I asked him if he had gone to a new church and he said he did. About 5 mins. after we got off the phone, he texted me and said he had really gone to the same church, but wanted to spare my feelings, therefore didn't tell me the truth. I was so angry and hurt by this. I didn't want any part of him as long as he was still going to that place. The following day (Monday) I tried to be diplomatic. I said I would try to be more understanding because he had expressed how much he enjoyed going there, and that those people had become like his own family, and that the pastor had apologized for driving by his house that night. I tried to let bygones be bygones I guess...I don't know. That's the best way for me to put it. Shortly after saying all that to him, my mom called me. She told me this story about how she had been talking to her friend at work about my current issue, and well, let's just say apparently this church has quite the reputation. Her friend told her all about how she used to know a woman that went to that church all the time, and had eventually became extremely brainwashed and a bit crazy. At that point, I was done being diplomatic. I had had enough and couldn't deal with this nonsense any further. So that was exactly what I told him. He basically said sorry and that he was still going there anyway. A couple hours later, he called me and wanted to hang out so we could talk. He said he really needed to tell me something. So I did. According to him, he wasn't going to pick the church over me. He expressed just how angry he was with the pastor, and that it wasn't fair the way they were treating him after all he has done for that place. I pretty much said that was great and we could still be together. Then, the next couple days, he practically disappeared it seemed. He showed no interest in wanting to see me (so not like him) and had all these excuses as to why he was so busy. I would call, he wouldn't answer, or return my calls. I got so frustrated, confused, and even suspicious. I gave up. I texted him and told him I was so done with him by now. I guess what I'm really trying to make sense of out of all this is, what the heck happened? I mean, clearly he couldn't make his mind up, but to ignore me like that?? To the point I actually had to end things for good? 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