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Open Question: Should I keep waiting or just give up on him? and more... Open Question: Should I keep waiting or just give up on him?I've been recently seeing this guy, and I really adore him. Unfortunately I've let myself become emotionally attached to him and I'm not sure he feels that way about me. I just had my year 12 formal, and he asked if I liked him, I said yes and he told me he felt the same way, the problem is I get this feeling that he feels the same way over another girl too, or maybe his not over his ex. I have this big issue with some other girls too, you see his very popular with the ladies, don't get me wrong his not a jerk,he just has good manners and a great personality that attracts people to him, every time we get close there's always another girl who is close with him too, maybe I'm just jealous but I cant say anything because I'm not really dating him. We are so close though, I tell him everything and he tells me everything too. I don't know what to do? I have this feeling his just not into me and that he forces himself to like me, I don't want to keep waiting this is a big risk for me of getting hurt. sometimes I feel it wasn't meant to be, Im just a nerdy school girl and his a bit of a meathead. Open Question: Am I right to feel this way?I really love this boy. He is my best friend in the whole world and he knows I Iove him but he doesn't love me back, which is totally okay because we wouldn't actually date each other until we were older even if he did love me. Right now, we are just friends and I like it that way. We are both religious jews and according to jewish law, males and females are not allowed to touch before marriage. And its really not that hard to live by since we're just brought up that way. But I still love him and he is my best friend and sometimes, I really wish i could give him a hug. So back in the spring, I was feeling down and I just wanted a hug from my best friend to know that everything was okay, and it got me sad that I couldnt get one. So, I told him how I felt and he said he understood. And of course i didn't expect anything out of it but it felt good to just get it off my chest. A couple weeks later though, he told me that now, he felt the same way. And I guess it was eating at him because the next week, he gave me a hug. And I was so shocked that I fainted. It was one of the wildest things that ever happened to me. And then a few weeks later, we were having a conversation and I guess it was a high emotion one or something because I remember telling him i loved him and he said he loved me too. And although I was absolutely thrilled and elated and I was a sobbing mess, but I was thinking that he didn't truly love me and he was just caught up in his emotions and he thought he did. But i knew that for the moment, in his emotional state, he believed that he loved me and that is what made me happy. So about two weeks ago, he was talking to me and he was saying that it's just too much to love someone before you're older because complications come up and it eats people up and you always want to satisfy desires but then you always want more in the end and etc...you get the idea. So, I remembered when he told me he loved me and I was already confused about why he said that to me because it just wasn't him and I thought now would be a good time to ask. So I asked him why he said that and he said it was because he was young and stupid (i.e. overly emotional and wasn't thinking things through) and he was also young and stupid about the hug and he regretted giving me it. He said he didn't hate me and we were still friends and he only feels this way because of a religious/moral standard and he was sorry for deceiving me and he was really expecting me to start crying. And at first I actually felt fine, which surprised both of us. Then the "didn't I tell you this would happen??" moment came and all of a sudden I started crying and I didn't quite know why. I just couldn't put my finger on it. I wasn't upset that he deceived me and he didn't love me after all because I already understood that way back when he told me. I was really sad but then I started getting really mad as well and I finally figured out why i was feeling this way. I decided that it's important to be strong, if you're strong, you can survive, you can live and you will always get through your problems. And even if you feel weak, don't give in, you just have to be even stronger to pull through. And people give in because they aren't strong enough, because they don't think before they act. They focus on themselves giving up but they don't stop and think how what they would do if they give in would affect the things and people around them and it could have a bad effect. I loved the hug, I loved the memories. They were so precious to me, but now I started getting mad when I thought about them. I felt that he was always strong, he always kept to not touching girls. He never had a weak spot and it never bothered him that he couldn't. But when he became sad about not hugging me, he found a weak spot. And instead of trying to pull out of the weakness and thinking before he acted, he gave in and hugged me and told me he loved me anyways, when he might have realized that he would regret it later and it would also affect me as well. And then he can just say oops and throw out his little mistake and not take into consideration how what he did affected other things than just him. I truly love him and I really do wish he meant it and I wish I could just give him a hug and there are so many things I myself could do to slip up but I've managed my self control and I've worked hard to be strong because even though I want to touch him I know that it will affect everything around me and it's bound to have a bad effect so I don't touch him and it gets me so upset to know that he can afford to just be weak and think it's so easy to excuse himself when I have to work so hard everyday I'm near him to be strong. And I feel like screaming at him that he should've been stronger and then this wouldn't be happening and I absolutely treasured those memories but now they feel like nothing and it really hurts to know that this is happening. And he's my best friend and I hate getting mad at anyon Open Question: As Climategate unfolds and the emails from CRU reveal the Lie of Global Warming - do we need criminal trials?http://www.climatedepot.com/ has the emails that were hacked from the Climate Research Unit (CRU) of the UK. They reveal the extent to which these scientist have gone to fake Global Warming. At http://pajamasmedia.com/blog/three-things-you-absolutely-must-know-about-climategate/ they began to call it Climategate. Some examples of the huge amount of data and emails hacked going back more then a decade and confirmed by experts to be real: In 1999, Phil Jones, the head of CRU, wrote to activist scientist Michael "Mike" Mann that he has just "completed Mike's Nature trick of adding in the real temps … to hide the decline" This refers to a decline in temperatures in recent years revealed by the data he had been reconstructing that conflicted with the observed temperature record. The inconvenient data was therefore hidden under a completely different set of data. The scientists on several occasions discussed methods of subverting the scientific peer review process to ensure that skeptical papers had no access to publication. In 2003, Tom Wigley of the University Corporation for Atmospheric Research in Boulder, Colorado, complained that paleoclimatologist Hans von Storch was responsible for "the publication of crap science 'in order to stimulate debate'" and that they "must get rid of von Storch" as an editor of the journal Climate Research (he indeed subsequently resigned). The scientists worked to circumvent the Freedom of Information process of the United Kingdom. Nowhere is this better evidenced than in the email reproduced in full below (minus Dr. Jones' contact details): From: Phil Jones Open Question: For girls only.. please answer : (?Would you date me? Im 6 3 dark brown hair, have good Hygiene, weigh 160, have Hazel eyes. Like to play basketball on free time. Play video games. Go fishing, hunting, ride my motorcycle. I like to take trips and be spontaneous about it. I like to hug, kisses, watch movies and love scary movies but tend to close my eyes on some parts. I work for a living and support people and my friends. Drink sometimes, don't smoke anything. Im a talker and love to share my feelings. I Always keep an open mind. and don't think sex is number one in a relationship. Cons, I don't think before i speak. I don't sometimes don't understand the word no. I don't give that much attention to my partners as i should. I Always wont to be right, im a sore loser. I have a bad Habit of leaving stuff around. Im bad with money and i don't worry about things until they post a problem. I hate people that say that there going to do something but never do it. dislike liars, cheaters, and fake people. Don't care for people that live off of someone Else and has no major plans in life. Open Question: Should I stay with this guy?I've met this guy on match.com last month and then went on several dates together. He's a really nice 24-year-old guy that have his life together (going to school, works for the government, etc). He and I have started to like each other a lot over the past month.... and we have slept together recently. The problem is that he and his ex are still living together. They were together for 6 years until recently, she have cheated on him. He broke it off with her and recently, she kept finding ways to beg him to stay with her (such as crying a lot, threatening to hurt herself if he have left her, etc). They have a 4-year-old child together. Earlier, I talked to him on the phone and he told me that he didn't know what to do... he said that he still loves her a lot as a person even though he is hurt by what she did to him. I asked him if he still wants to move out of that condo (where he is living with her... the ex owns the condo) and move on with his life... and he said that he does want that. He feels that I deserve someone better than him and so on. He can't move out of the condo ASAP because his friend is planning to move out of his parents' house by the end of January and they were planning to be roommates together. I told him not to let his ex manipulate him like that... not to let her walk all over him. And he agrees with me. My problem is that I'm afraid that he might get back together with his ex... based on how things are going over there (even though he and I still like each other a lot). What should I do? Should I stay with him? Please help... Thanks. By the way, I'm 25. Open Question: Should I stay with him?I've met this guy on match.com last month and then went on several dates together. He's a really nice 24-year-old guy that have his life together (going to school, works for the government, etc). He and I have started to like each other a lot over the past month.... and we have slept together recently. The problem is that he and his ex are still living together. They were together for 6 years until recently, she have cheated on him. He broke it off with her and recently, she kept finding ways to beg him to stay with her (such as crying a lot, threatening to hurt herself if he have left her, etc). They have a 4-year-old child together. Earlier, I talked to him on the phone and he told me that he didn't know what to do... he said that he still loves her a lot as a person even though he is hurt by what she did to him. I asked him if he still wants to move out of that condo (where he is living with her... the ex owns the condo) and move on with his life... and he said that he does want that. He feels that I deserve someone better than him and so on. He can't move out of the condo ASAP because his friend is planning to move out of his parents' house by the end of January and they were planning to be roommates together. I told him not to let his ex manipulate him like that... not to let her walk all over him. And he agrees with me. My problem is that I'm afraid that he might get back together with his ex... based on how things are going over there (even though he and I still like each other a lot). What should I do? Should I stay with him? Please help... Thanks. By the way, I'm 25. Open Question: I am so hurt and confused, but I don't want to give up either...I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!(PLEASE PLEASE HELP)!?So I was talking to this guy for about two months, and after HE repeatedly told me that he really likes me and would like to hang out sometime, we finally made plans to hang out on Tuesday. But on Monday night, I saw that he had me blocked online. When I asked him why, he said that he cant hang out with me because I'm "too good," and he feels like I can do better than him (he was a heroin addict for a year, but has been clean 7 months. I told him I don't have a problem with his past though). He told me he has self esteem issues and anxiety, and that my confidence and positive nature makes him feel like I should look for someone better. About three months ago, he was also cheated on by his ex girlfriend(whom he dated nine months), so I know he has trust issues. I told him I'd never even think about cheating on him, but he responded with "That's what they said too." We are both 21, I am graduating college in May, while he is taking some time off, trying to figure out what to do. (Which is another reason why he feels like I am "too good" for him). I kept trying to tell him that I DO think he's amazing and that he makes me happy, but he still insisted that he's not good enough. He said that I mean more to him than anyone else, that the past two months meant more to him than he can explain, but that he needs more time before we can hang out. About two nights later, he called me and cried because he is afraid to lose his dad, who is very sick. After I consoled him, he said, "I hope you're not mad at me. I really like you, and I mean it." The next day, I didn't hear from him again, when I contacted him, he said he felt embarrassed about crying to me about his dad, but I told him that it's not problem at all, and I want to be there for him. Yesterday and today, not a word from him again. What is going on? Should I wait for him to go back to normal? Should I keep talking to him, or let him go? I REALLY like this guy, but I am so confused. Is he messing with me? If it's all so disappointing now, won't it be worse later? Thanks in advance! Open Question: Was it all my fault? What should have I done differently? Help because I feel guilty and won't forgive myself!?Okay! So I will try to keep this really short but I would really like some good advice on what I should do! Alrighty!So....It all started at a party! I was talking to my friends and then this guy who I liked came over and asked me to our school dance! I was confused at first because he already had a date but he told me that he talked to her and told her he did not want to go with her anymore because he wanted to go with me! So we texted every day and we talked at parties and stuff until the dance. He asked me before the dance if I was serious about us and I told him that I was but I really did not want to get together until after the dance just because I wanted to get to know him more and I am really conscious about who I date and he knew that and he was cool with it! Then the dance came, we went, and we had a great time! We talked for a month after and he never asked me out! I do not know if I should have told him I was ready to date?? He also told me he did not want to push me into anything to early. So then one night about 1 month after the dance we were talking and he told me he really liked me but he did not want to push me into anything. I was like okay and I like you too, and we just talked for a while and I thought everything was cool and he would ask me out soon! But then the very next night he text me and he was like we need to talk about something. I thought it was just something he wanted to talk about because we talked about our problems all the time with each other. But out of no where he was like I think we would be better off as friends. I was really disappointed but I was okay with it because obviously that is what he wanted and I wanted what was best for him. And by the way I never felt the way about anyone like I felt for him. So I have been stressing out but I told everyone I was okay with it because I did not want him to feel guilty when I really am upset. We are still friends but things are kinda weird when he is around. What do you think I need to do?? Just any advice will work!! Please help me out!!! Open Question: Does this guy like me or no?I started working in the food industry September of 08; when I was hired I had long hair. Just recently I got it cut short, like a pixi cut. While chilling in the brake room, this really cute guy was sitting across from me. A couple minutes passed before he asked why I got my hair cut. (Apparently he thinks chicks with short hair is cute). He voiced that my hair was really cute short :D. There was also another worker sitting at the far end of the break room table and they got into a conversation and he said that it would be impossible to date me b/c (originally he thought I was 16) then I corrected him and said 17. But still he was unsure about whether he could date me (if he wanted to) or not because of my age. A couple of weeks ago he asked me several times where I go to school and I simply answered Springfield, the first time. The second time he asked I said Springfield High School. Then he asked a couple moments later, when I graduate. I said this year. I just think its a little weird that a young guy like him would ask me where I go to school and when I graduate. Nobody else that worked there ever asked me those personal questions. Not even 'girl' friends I I hang out with there. He also asked if I wear contacts, I said no, and he said I have really cool pretty eyes b/c I have a mix of yellowish/green, grey and blue eyes. Problem is he's dating and 24. (I'm 17) Is he just being nice or flirting w/ me? Now all of this happened over a 2 months period time it didn't happen overnight. I also said something embarrassing when he was around while I was working. I told him that it would be very embarrassing if everyone else that I work with knew about what I just said. He promised me, while facing me that he would not to tell anyone what I said. More Recent Articles |
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