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Open Question: Angry with boyfriends family for not helping him more during phase of depression, I want to tell them I'm ang? and more... Open Question: Angry with boyfriends family for not helping him more during phase of depression, I want to tell them I'm ang?URGENT!! THIS IS LONG BUT READ IF YOU CAN GIVE ME ADVICE: HOW TO DEAL WITH DEPRESSION AND BOYFRIENDS PARENTS WHO WONT ACKNOWLEDGE IT... My boyfriend and I have dated for the last four year, He is 25 now and I am 24. We bought a house in Massachusetts together and have lived together for about 2 1/2 years now. We have 2 dogs and are planning on getting married. We are extremely healthy and practical young adults and we are doing out best to make it independently in this world without having to fail or move back in with our parents. The stress is heavy but our bills are still getting paid and food is always on our table. After over a year of being efficient in living on our own, The past four months my boyfriend has dropped into a stage of being overwhelmed and depressed. He has begun going to see a therapist because he started to lash out on me personally and have these breakdowns where he got really angry and unreasonable. With winter coming he has gotten to the lowest point I have ever seen him. His attitudes are unpredictable and he says some pretty rotten things to me I never thought he'd say. Very manic, very uneven. His mother is very depressed, his parents have been wanting to divorce for years but his siblings are still teenagers and so they stay together. His family are in no way emotionally efficient. They don't talk about problems, they bottle them all up. He has been going home after work to do odd jobs for his parents every day after work and not coming straight home from work like he used to. He always "stops in" to check on them or to pick something up or drop something off. I understand his need for seeing his family regularly but they don't help him with his serious depression. He has expressed to me he has suicidal thoughts and they pretend everything is just the same. His dad won't even acknowledge he is in therapy. HIS FAMILY DOES NOTHING TO HELP HIM. I have to deal with the manic attitudes, and the depression, and the complaining about the shadows cast over life, while his family gets to not have to face it. I have to bear the brunt of his depression. This has caused a divide divide between his family and I. I feel they aren't trying to help him out of this rough period. They pretend he isn't sad and depressed and everything is okay, they pretend not to hear when he comments about therapy or depression. How do I act around his family. Can I express to his parents how disappointed I am with them at their lack of support for their suffering son, what do I do about being so angry and resentful that I am the only one who has to deal with this depressed man? Where are the boundaries? Since his family tends to clam up when faced with real issues of importance or of heavy emotion how should I approach this. Is writing a letter to them rude And cold or is is appropriate and discrete? I don't want to cause more stree for bf by creating and argument between me and them. I want to make a big note that I lived with his family, in his families inlaw apt. with him for one year so I am close with them... relatively Open Question: Gay guy has a massive crush on a girl. Any advice?Hey guys. I've never been with a girl before. I have never even kissed a girl let alone dated one. The problem is - I've fallen head over heals for a member of the opposite sex for the first time in my life. This girl is amazing. She's the most intelligent person I have ever met. She's classy, stunning, funny and incredibly kind - exactly the sort of person you imagine growing old with. We've become friends who see each other on campus a few times a week, and she knows I identify as gay. I have yet to ask her out on a date, but I have this inkling of a feeling that if I did - she might actually say 'yes'. And this is where my confusion lies. Is it fair? My biggest fear is that were something to actually happen between us, I'd be subconsciously treating our relationship as some kind of experiment on my own sexuality. That strikes me as not just unfair on her, but deceitful, selfish and cruel on my part. I guess I'm afraid of being the guy that turns around 5 years down the track and says to her "sorry, but I think I am gay after all...". Normally I would never think this far ahead about a relationship that has yet to actually materialise - hell, there's still a huge possibility she'd just laugh off any invitation to dinner. I just can't help but think under these circumstances, a few "what if's?" now could save a lot of heartache later on. Anyone care to offer some advice? Thanks in advance! Open Question: Opinions? Do you think I love him? Or not.?Its my ex boyfriend & I KNOW already that I sound like every other damn person on this thing. Read this story though please & tell me what youu think. I know its hella long but whatever. It's really embarrassing because I'm usually not like this about boys. I dated him for a while last year & the whole time, I planned on cheating on him to be honest. I know i'm crazy but its because I just wanted to keep him around still & be single like my girlfriends too. i don't get why. I promise i'm not evil, I just have a lame lame commitment problem. I wanted him to commit but at the same time go out & be single. He always told me he loved me so much all the time & all these things and I never said it back once because i didn't think i did. Then he started giving up on everything and thats when i told him I loved him without thinking & i don't know why i said it because i didn't mean it. Then out of nowhere HE broke up with me before our junior year started & its the first & only time a boy has ever broken up with me but it killed me. I felt so alone without him. He's the only boy i said i love you to. & i was DEVESTATED. I don't know if I really love him or not. I still i think about him, he's totally hot & has an attractive personality, & we have the same group of friends so we always talk still. After we broke up he had sex with a friend of mine. Of course I got rid of her & her reputation was ruined. I was mean to him for a while but I also understand him for it. He totally treats her like a slut & ruined her rep. & they don't talk at all. But he's never been like that to me. He's disrespectful to all of his ex's except for me, & he's so sweet still and has never been mean. We get along way well still but there's a weird feeling like something's missing when we're just talking at a party or something. When he starts to talk to me all the time, I feel like I don't really love him. But whenever I don't see him for a while i miss him like its just SO crazy. Am i in love? Whats your opinion pleassssse i'm dying to know. Open Question: Why do I keep getting involved with the wrong type of guy?i was involved with this guy for a few months, and I'm stressed out I can hardly sleep.I just found out that this guy I was involved with, flew out out of town to see another woman or visit her shall I say, i text messaged him from a different number and we were texting back and forth, and stuff, and hes asking me what am I doing for the day, and eveything, he thinks that I am somebody from a bar he met, but I just think its weird that he would fly out to see someone , he told me about this girl, that she was his close friend, and that she would always call him about her boyfriend problems, so he flew to the east coast to visit yet he was on the phone with me, plus on top of that he treats me bad, he doesnt want to take me out, does not want to talk or have a nice conversation, he basically told me sex is all I will get and all I deserve, and he also told me that if he was nice and stuff to me I would not respect him and he wanted me to come over a few hours, but I never can stay all night, and he was making breakfast and I told him "Oh I'm hungry, I'm on my way" and hes like "Well there maybe none left by the time you get here" but yet on the flip side he prank calls my phone and job phone as well..and I just notice that these are the type of guys I always tend to get involved with, guys who do not want a relationship with me, or date me, or take me out,...I always get used and hurt for some reason.. I feel like I'm not good enough, or unattractive, what gives??I thought I had all this figured out,..I was celibate for four years, and I broke my celibacy for someone who could care less about me. and its been over five years since I ve had a REAL fulfilling relationship.I feel so so bad now..and the thing is that I still have feelings for this guy..what do I do?? Open Question: Why do I keep getting involved with the wrong kind of men?I was involved with this guy for a few months, and I'm stressed out I can hardly sleep.I just found out that this guy I was involved with, flew out out of town to see another woman or visit her shall I say, i text messaged him from a different number and we were texting back and forth, and stuff, and hes asking me what am I doing for the day, and eveything, he thinks that I am somebody from a bar he met, but I just think its weird that he would fly out to see someone , he told me about this girl, that she was his close friend, and that she would always call him about her boyfriend problems, so he flew to the east coast to visit yet he was on the phone with me, plus on top of that he treats me bad, he doesnt want to take me out, does not want to talk or have a nice conversation, he basically told me sex is all I will get and all I deserve, and he also told me that if he was nice and stuff to me I would not respect him and he wanted me to come over a few hours, but I never can stay all night, and he was making breakfast and I told him "Oh I'm hungry, I'm on my way" and hes like "Well there maybe none left by the time you get here" but yet on the flip side he prank calls my phone and job phone as well..and I just notice that these are the type of guys I always tend to get involved with, guys who do not want a relationship with me, or date me, or take me out,...I always get used and hurt for some reason.. I feel like I'm not good enough, or unattractive, what gives??I thought I had all this figured out,..I was celibate for four years, and I broke my celibacy for someone who could care less about me. and its been over five years since I ve had a REAL fulfilling relationship.I feel so so bad now..and the thing is that I still have feelings for this guy..what do I do?? Open Question: i need some help. a friend of the court help?i need a little help please keep all rude comments to yourself i have been going threw alot with my kid father and iam a new mom and need some help.... my 6 month daughter has some problems; he is on SSI for a learning disability we went to court i have sole and physical custody of my 6 month old daughter he has no over night visits and he has to be with me or one of my family members when we see our child we have no set time date when he can come over.... but lets get to the point; he has been controlling me.. he wont let me go to school. he wants me to stay at home 24.7 7days a week. so he can come over. he dont help out when i ask him too. he gets mad easily. we stalks me and blows up my phone non stop i have 3 police reports for harassment reports on him. now he is taking me to court cause i wont take our child to his house. cause i dont like where his house is located and dont feel safe when im there. but he is taking me to court to modify parenting time. i need help what do you think will happen. i dont want him to have alone vists without me... or someone... but not his family members can anyone help me what would they think would happen.. im going threw alot and this is all new to me with the courts.. Open Question: MODIFY PARENTING TIME HELP?i need a little help please keep all rude comments to yourself i have been going threw alot with my kid father and iam a new mom and need some help.... my 6 month daughter has some problems; he is on SSI for a learning disability we went to court i have sole and physical custody of my 6 month old daughter he has no over night visits and he has to be with me or one of my family members when we see our child we have no set time date when he can come over.... but lets get to the point; he has been controlling me.. he wont let me go to school. he wants me to stay at home 24.7 7days a week. so he can come over. he dont help out when i ask him too. he gets mad easily. we stalks me and blows up my phone non stop i have 3 police reports for harassment reports on him. now he is taking me to court cause i wont take our child to his house. cause i dont like where his house is located and dont feel safe when im there. but he is taking me to court to modify parenting time. i need help what do you think will happen. i dont want him to have alone vists without me... or someone... but not his family members can anyone help me what would they think would happen.. im going threw alot and this is all new to me with the courts.. i have tried everything i tried getting a p.p.o on him they wont do it unless i have bruises from him. and i know i went back to school he aint controlling my life. and when he is here he dont want nothing to do with her he wants sex. but i just dont want him getting any rights or having alone vists Open Question: Is there something wrong with this student teacher relationship?Hey, im 14 years old, and in 8th grade. Last year I got extremely close to my 7th grade teacher, who is also a girl. We never contacted each other out of school, some texts maybe here and there over the summer but that was it. And we always talk and she knows a lot about my personal life like I always tell her who Im dating and how the date went and everything like that. Shes a really nice lady and she always buys me little gifts and I make her poems and things. She always helps me with problems and she's like my second mom, because I don't have a good relationship with my mom. Is this alright? Open Question: How do I fix this problem,?I recently took a leap and slept with a man I have been dating for about 6 weeks, in the middle I dont know where it came from but I called him by my ex husbands name.... OMG how do I fix this... I have not spoken to or seen my ex in months, and I do not love him. Why did this happen? Open Question: Relationship help? please!?So i've been talking to this guy, which i'm in high school, and he's two years older than me. Which he has a lot more experience with relationships than me. We've been talking for a while, and the subject has come up about us dating. I really wanna date him and he feels the same way, but he wants to hang out more with me, which isn't a problem. But he says he feels like we're just friends right not anything serious like romantically which he wants. He said it's because we haven't held hands, hugged,Etc.. I don't know if i should flirt with him more or what? To make it feel like it's more than just being friends.? I'm new with all this relationship stuff! What do i do to make it feel more "romantic"? Help please! Open Question: i like this guy alot but...?Okay so I've been good friends with this guy for awhile. We've kinda been talking like sorta. Well we went to the movies last night because he really wanted to go. i didn't think he thought it was like a date or anything. but apparently he might have? because he flirted with me alot and grabbed my hands alot and stuff. And when i got home later that night. we were texting, and he said 'so you flirted with me alot tonight' and i was just like no? i think that was you and his reply was okay(: and i told him i didn't realize i was and he said 'i don't care(:' so he likes me right? i'm pretty sure. And i like him too. There's just one problem.. and yes it sounds shallow, i know, so don't cut my head off.There's a major height difference. I'm 14 and very, extremely short for my age. I am like 5'1, but most people don't believe i'm even that tall, and he's 6'1. when i'm walking with him, i feel kinda strange. But he makes me happy. When i'm with him, i laugh and smile(: I like him soo much like i haven't been able to get him outta my head all day. So what do you think? Does the height difference matter? i mean, i'm not shallow, i just feel like maybe we wouldn't look right together and either me or him or both of us would get made fun of): I'm just kinda upset here cause we can't help what our height is! And what about if and when we break up? Our friendship will prolly go down the toilet ): Thoughts and comments greatly appreciated ((: Open Question: is there anything i can do?okay..i'm not so sure how all this stuff works and i'm not even really sure how to start. i've never been this depressed that i've had to go to the internet for help, but i need some advice my bestfriend doesn't seem to know what to do. so ne way, im a senior and recently i have been dating this guy. everything was amazing i thought we were happy. until he started telling me he was "busy" and he couldnt talk. i didnt think anything about it really because he told me it was school related. well about a week or so went by of us not really talking or seeing eachother of that matter..i got a text saying i think we're done. he wouldnt give me a reason why..he just said he needed time to deal with his problems. i pretty much begged him not to go. he told me to wait on him because we would for sure get back together. so i did. i still am. we talked a little after we broke up but not much it always felt awkward like neither one of us really knew what to say. i finally got the nerve to ask him i we could talk in person and he said yes..but later on that day he completely blew me off he said he just didnt want to see me. which really upset me. so i went to town with some of my friends and i saw him with a with a few of his friends..some were guys and a few were girls...i didnt think much about it. then a few days later i went back and i saw him again with..yeah you guessed it...girls. :[ it hurt me alot. now we dont talk at all..its been a month and ive been trying to give him space. he doesnt even seem to notice im gone. its like he woke up one morning and decided to hate me. im transferring to his school in two weeks and i really don't know what im gonna do. he told one of my friends if he doesnt care now then he wouldnt care when i got there. i havent tried calling or texting him for about 5 weeks or so..and i havent got a call or anything from him. i keep going back to all our old places we used to hang out in hopes he'll see me and maybe think about me enough to try to get back with me but nothing ever happens. i just want to know what i should do to get him back. please dont tell me how pathetic i am because i already know..also i dont want to hear "move on" i get that enough from my bestfriend. any advice would be much appreciated :] Open Question: I like a guy but his friend likes me. what do i do?this guy in my school is such a sweetie and he is so nervous to talk to me because he likes me so much but i really dont reciprocate those feelings. i really cant see myself dating him and i just feel really awkward about the situation. and then there is another guy who happens to be his friend. we talk all the time and he is really funny. whenever we hang out i have such a good time and i cant wait to see him the next day. he sits behind me in one of my classes and we flirt and talk the whole period. problem is the guy who likes me is also in that period and sees me talking with him and now knows that i like him. i really dont want to hurt anyone but i want to do what is best for me.... help! Open Question: girlfriend issues...?Ok so ive been going out with this girl for almost a month now and the relationship is fine and all but the problem is with her parents. the thing is that her mom approves of me, BUT... her dad doesn't even know that we go out. By the way her parents are divorced so they dont live together. Any way my point is how can we keep this relationship a secret from her father? He says she isnt allowed to date until she is 16. sorry for the semi-long story but any help would be appreciated! By the way, Im 14 and she is 14 she lives with her mom, her dad lives in another town Open Question: Would you be happy if you found out that your girlfriend/wife had never been with anyone before you?nd she's 22 years old and very pretty. Hasn't done anything past making out. I've know her for years before we got together and she really is a virgin but has had plenty of offers. She just didn't want a boyfriend before, she said. She wants to wait until she is pretty sure she is with the right guy. Will this be a problem that she hasn't had any relationships before or dated? What do you think? Open Question: does he like my best friend?my boyfriend, rob and i have been dating for 2 weeks now. he used to flirt with my best friend kristen alot before we started dating. before we started dating we used to talk and he said he never liked her it was just something to do. he apperently loves me and doesnt want any one else but me. but in school he talks to her more than me and on several accounts has called her cute during texting. i really want to trust him but i dont know. Should i? i've brought it up before and he said he's only kidding and he would never ever do that to me. today he asked me how she was doing cuz he knew she was having boyfriend problems.but then when he was texting her today he also said he thinks of her as a sister and told her that he has the pefect girlfriend and how we're in love. but while we were on the phone he said she was cute with a winky face. ugh idk. am i over reacting? Open Question: Am I a Bad Boyfriend?Or is she a bad girlfriend? We've been dating over 3 years.... I have lied to my girlfriend quite a few times and she has extreme paranoia about people lying. She would cry and cry and act crazy and paranoid about it. I would lie anyway to her face sometimes. It's because I feel like she was mean to me a lot. never wanting to believe anything i said and accusing me of cheating, thinking shes fat or ugly, and lying. she has temper problems too and i get really jealous of her male friends. i get mad when she wears lowcut shirts. i dont let her go to concerts by herself or walk long distances by herself. we also have a friend, dan, who i talk to and hang out with but i dont let her hang out with. she also went to europe with her family without me on vacation for 3 weeks and i got mad when she left and called her everyday nonstop. i felt betrayed. sometimes when she gets really mad she hits me. who is the bad one me or her? More Recent Articles
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