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Open Question: Asking out a friend on a CASUAL date.? and more... Open Question: Asking out a friend on a CASUAL date.?So, I decided for a little while I wanted to simply casually date, where in my case that means dating without looking for a planned relationship to follow. There is a friend of mine who I considered asking out and telling them "casual, you're really, I'd enjoy being with you for one evening if you'd like, etc." The problem as so historically comes is being afraid of losing a friend from making things akward. Any opinions? Suggestions? Open Question: Boyfriend + parent obstacle issue. PLEASE HELP (long)...?I'm single but...I've been liking this guy for quite a while now. After a long period of time debating with my friends about his feelings, one of my close friends that is also close to that person that i like found out & confirmed that he likes me too. I'm overjoyed by that aspect but I'm extremely bummed out and also troubled by the fact that if we do ever get into a relationship, things will not work out because of my parents.* My parents are really strict and when i say strict i actually mean strict. They are really old schooled. What's worst is that they seem to know where I'm at at all times even though i don't tell them. The don't have a set schedule for their work since they have their own business so they can leave whenever they want, go wherever they want and so on. This is not a good thing for me at all because i could be spotted/caught more often since i don't know if their busy or not [just like how i was today] thus not knowing where they are at at all times. They expect me to be home by 3:30 the latest after school. anything later, they become really angry. There was this one time i decided to rebel a bit & stayed out until like 5 which in my opinion wasnt even that bad because it wasn't even hanging out. It was a group study at a restaurant. They were really angry and threatened to take away all my privileges [but its not like i had any in the first place]. They expect me to tell them where i am at all the times.~ This is a big bummer because i've now grown a sense of paranoia that they can always be keeping an eye on me wherever i'm at. And i can't go places that i want to because i am an extremely bad liar. I even have to call them when i get home which is like OD. I mean it's home!...it's not like im 7 or something. They won't let me hang out at all. ~ This is probably the biggest aspect that ties everything together. I can't hang out at all. nothing...No shopping, No going out, No movies, No walking around, No eating lunches at restaurants w/ friends [or dinner], I can't go to birthday parties, no one can go to my home, and i can't go to my friends' homes & the list goes on. What does this have to do with getting a boyfriend?...Everything. The main fact that i can't even hang out kills the whole thing. I want this person to be my boyfriend. For the first time, i actually like him for who he is not because of how he looks. For the first time, this isn't like some little crush that only runs temporarily in your heart. I actually feel like there's a connection that only both of us can understand. I know, you guys are probably like how old is this girl? Well I'm 16 and i know that what i wrote about 'liking that person' may sound ridiculous and maybe it is because im still young and inexperienced after all but atleast i can admit that without hiding in shame. It's jsut that this intuition is really special to me. I'm feeling something i've never felt before. And i don't want it to be ruined because i can't hang out or my parents' control. introducing my bf [if we ever do become a couple] to my parents is out of the window becuase that is like just not an option at all. *It's almost impossible to do anything behind their backs.* I don't want to tell that person these things because it's embarrassing and i don't want him to choose someone else over me. However, lately, i've been thinking that maybe it's better to just let him go. because i know that once we get together i would have to tell him this anyways and i don't want him to be regretting his decision in choosing me. I really hate it when people regret their decisions especially if it was about me, because it makes me feel so useless and humiliated. its going to be hard to go out with each other with the way things are set in motion. I don't want to feel pressured to spend time with him when i know i can't because of my parents and their rules. I can't lie for life so that's out of the picture. I really like him but i don't know what to do... Should i continue to let this pre-relationship grow any farther or should i start pushing him away for the better of things? please don't tell me things like "just wait until yoou're 18 and you can leave them' or "sucks for you" or "choose the more lenient parent" or "just date him behind their backs" or "they seem really protective of you" or "i don't know/nothing works/give up" or any other saying that won't actually give me an idea of what i can do to solve this problem. My mind is really confused right now i really need good advice to tell me what i should and shouldnt do and that's why im relying on you guys. I need your advice please. thanks. hope this helps me figure things out a bit. Open Question: verison wireless users, do you think the envi 2 was way better than the envi 3?i do I'm having problems with it always wanting to die faster than the envi 2. which i have to say was my favorite. And if you hanv't had any of those what was your favorite cell phone model to date? Open Question: Should i go out with him? He dated my best friends though.?He dated one of my friends for about 3 years but that was like 4-7 grade and they dont care about each other now Heres the REAL problem- hes on and off with another good friend of mine but i dont think she likes him anymore. Its really not fair what shes doing to him. Just dragging him on like hes nothing. But tonight i found out that he probably likes me. The thing that is really unfair- i have liked him for two years now. I have kept it a secret though. i havent even told my very best friend. either he was dating a friend of mine or a friend was trying to get over him. So thats why i never went out with him before. so should i go out with him? Open Question: NEED LOVE ADVICE- BEFORE THE HOLIDAYS- Complicated Situation- Can you help?HERE GOES... So this guy and I have been friends almost ten years now. When he needed someone I was there for him and vice versa. I'd talk to him about guys he'd talk to me about girls. I always secretly harbored a love for him that was more than platonic. However, because he was always such a womanizer I brushed it off and dated other people (I am much more shy in social situations). My logic was that I'll love him for the rest of my life and staying friends with him will be the only way I can for SURE keep him in my life in some way, shape, or form forever. Over the past ten years he always seemed jealous when I would love another guy romantically, go out on dates, and he never really got excited about giving me advice about guys (unless he was helping me break up with them). He's always been pretty possessive and protective (which I obviously never minded... in fact I'd often go out of my way to piss him off :) If we were sitting on my couch he'd have his arm around me, he'd always kiss my forehead, my cheek, occasionally a peck on the lips, and he'd always hold my hand. I loved being around him because I always felt so special. He'd tell me he was going to grow up and marry me, that he loved me more than the girls he was dating at the time etc etc. Eventually he went off to college and we maintained our friendship, he always asked me to go visit him but I never did. Four years later he's graduated from college and moved away and we still maintain our friendship.... the problem is what happened before he moved away for good.... Well he was home for eleven nights and he spent nine of them in bed with me.... it just happened... it was natural and emotional and phenominal and right. Those were some of the most amazing moments I've had in my life to date. I knew that if I didnt experience him in that timeframe then there would be a chance that I never would... and I couldnt hold out anymore. After he left I cried myself to sleep for weeks and weeks and weeks but he has NO idea. I was so crippled and so sad that I didnt even want to talk to him so I pushed him away ... I needed space. Eventually we got into our old routine of friendship and talk to each other like we used to (except now not about other people) We started up with the I love you's and I miss you's... last week he told me he thinks about me ... I told him I think about him all the time and he said that he was glad he wasnt the only one. I started trying to see other people almost immediatly after he left (ha... what a laugh) and I know he did too. In fact someone recently told me that he's going to have to move to another city because he's screwed every girl in the one he's currently in... :( Problem is he is coming home for christmas and I have no idea what the heck to do.... if he tries should I let him back in my bed? I miss him.. I want him there. I still wake up expecting him to be there. If he doesnt try does that mean he doesnt love me? Did he ever love me? Should I move on? If I try and he doesnt feel the same way ... ya know the whole "I love you but I'm not in love with you" mumbo jumbo...... I'll have lost one of the most cherished relationships that I have. He has also mentioned over and over and over agian that he wants me to move where he is.... does he really mean it? Open Question: how do i ask my boyfriend to show me a bit more affection?i have a new boy friend and he is really great we get along really well and hae been dating for about 3 months now. i am a very cuddly affectionate person with quite a high sex drive, higher then his and at times its really hard not to feel unattractive even though he has told me thats not the case. i know that he likes me thatnot the problem but i know that if he just showed a little more affection or was a little more forward it would make me feel better. but how do i go about this with out sounding like a needy girlfriend? Open Question: I know this isn't a good reason to leave, but i'm going insane?Me and my hubby have been married for a year and a half now. And 3 months after we were together (dating) he accidentally called me by his ex wives name. That is when this all started. Well, we were dating for 6 months before I found out that he was actually going through a divorce and wasn't actually fully divorced like he had told me. Everything he told me about their marriage was a lie. We live on a military base, and my housing has kicked me off our lease 3 times already, and put her name on it. The doctors office has called me by her name 5 or 6 times now. I am getting mail for her every now and then. I've had her bill collectors calling me. My husband said he has taken care of everything and that I shouldn't have this problem again. Well today, I went to sign up for web bill pay from our bank. but I did it under his account. and it asked me if my email address was still her email address. So I flipped. Is this normal. I accept the fact that he was married before, but i'm getting real tired of being called by her name, and it getting thrown in face at least once a month. Would this make you mad? What should I do? I really think i'm about to have to be put on meds over this crap. More Recent Articles
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