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Open Question: Do you think the rationale for suicide makes sense? and more... Open Question: Do you think the rationale for suicide makes sense?I'm 25. Finished grad school last year. I stay in shape, but I've never been with a woman. I don't pursue women for sex. I have zero interest in "the game" of seducing women. I'm comfortable with who I am. I want to get married and have kids someday. I get involved places like church, volunteer work, etc. But being very quiet is in my nature. I'm just really not interested in women that aren't going to show some kind of interest in me, not sure why they haven't so far. I'm too shy to ask women out. Much akin to how most women cannot bring themselves to ask a man out -- I cannot either. I was born without some element that allows me to do so. I didn't choose to be this way. Whether it was biological or programmed into me socially -- I can't change it. The female gender role for relationships and dating is just part of what I really am. And I hate it. I hate that women won't ask men out -- and that I won't ask women out. I don't hate women I hate that gender role that submissive part of myself. Option 1 is just straight up asking women I'm interest in out. No pretenses of flirting or friendship, just cut to the chase with no finesse. If I tried, I'd come across as too intense or creepy or straight forward. I'm not OK with the dance of courtship that society goes through. I'm not going to pretend to be some girl's friend and get stuck in the friend zone. I know right away if I'm going to be interested in a woman or not, and my instincts with people are usually right. But if I were to ask a random woman out, she would say no because she has no idea who I am. If I were to ask a female acquaintance out, she would either think of me as a friend or be put off by my awkward and straight-forward way of approaching her. No matter what, if I were direct I would be rejected with a 100% probability. That's just how I am. Option 2) So another option is to lie -- to misrepresent my intentions and get closer to her under pretenses of friendship. But that's cowardly and manipulative, and I'm not like that. I won't lie. I guess most people don't know instantly and don't understand people that quickly, but I do. Option 3 I can try and delude myself into thinking that some day, some way a woman would ask me out. That even though I'm quiet and passive and fine with myself the way I am, that some woman would make the effort to get to know me and accept me for who I am. But yeah right, why would any decent woman even bother? She's already inundated with plenty of men approaching her. There is no reason for that. The only women that would someday approach me would be gold diggers or women wanting casual sex, which I don't want. I believe it cheapens the people involved and the value of sex as a form of physical intimacy that should only accompany and follow emotional intimacy with a person. Option 4 is I try and change myself. Become a player of the game and try to engage in a bunch of meaningless sex via clubs or bars or what not. But I hate alcohol and that music. I despise that game and the way it dehumanizes the people involved into objects. It makes me sick just writing about it here in this box. Even if I were successful, it'd be an empty and meaninglessly hedonistic life. Alternatively I could give up altogether. Try and convince myself that I'm some asexual hermit and live alone. But being alone with the darkness just reminds me of what I really am -- the fundamental problem. I'm missing that critical element that other people have. That intrinsic, innate understanding of facial expressions, body language and human feelings. While I infer what other people are feeling like, and I don't want to see the people I care about hurt or upset I don't often feel that way myself. But I want to be different. I don't want to be this way, empty and alone inside my head. I don't want the darkness in me, that splinter in my mind to control me. I'm not going to hurt people and blame the world for how I am. I won't give in to that. That's low and cowardly. In the long run, if I live alone. I'll snap. This deluded, ritualistic and repetitive thought process will end in the only conclusion that I must lash back at the society that did this to me. Knowing that darkness inside of me and noting the similar thought processes between myself and many famous sociopaths and mass murderers, I cannot say that it wouldn't happen. I fit that psychological profile almost perfectly, and the family background only makes it worse. Maybe my father was right -- nobody could really love someone like me. Even if they did, I'd just end up hurting them too. No matter what I choose, no matter what I do... The problem is me, and there's no solution. It's destiny. The only way to end that pain and the void within myself, to stop the darkness in me before it progresses farther and hurts someone... the most rational option left to me is to end my own life. He was right, my birth was an accident -- my entire existence is a mistake. If I'm allowed If I'm allowed to live, nothing good can come of it, right? After all, only a monster is rejected by his own father and mother. Open Question: First boy friend---plzzzzz help?Ok Im a girl and ive just turned fourteen. I know a guy and he had a friend that was trying to get a girlfriend. So he asked me to like u know hook up with him. So I thought well ok well talk as friends now and if we like each other well go out. So yesterday we were talking online and he seemed like a really nice guy, he was also shy. So just before i signed out because i had to go, he told me that he liked me. I like him back too. So i confessed as well. But now i have a HUGE problem. I live in a family that does not believe in dating not one little tiny bit AT ALL. And now im scared that he mite ask me out and then i wont actually be able to go out with him. I mean my school holds parties and stuff like that so we can meet up there. But wat should i do wen he asks me out? What should i say? Shall I just fess up?? PLease help me ASAP!!! Open Question: [18+] ladies pls. HELP, We dated, she went back to her EX, and now shes contacting me again.?Thanks for reading. We are both 22, at uni. I dated a girl over the summer. Then all of a sudden she said she wasnt ready. We tried again a month later but then I think she went back to her ex. She seemed to have had relationship problems that I didnt know about. I asked her out again but she didnt reply to me. On facebook a week and a half ago, she wrote on her best friends wall that she was having some relationship problems, she wasnt feeling the love. Then a few days ago, she sent me a msg on my bday, and spend a lot of lines apologising that she never replied to my txt. what does she want from me? Is she confused? Shall I continue to move on? Open Question: should i stay or walk away??or be close friends. please help or advise x?this guy was so into me when i first met him 10 months ago, but i ahd just cum out of a 3 year violent relationship, he nw this so i was little all over place. i kept having mood swings. anyway cut long story short that was minor. his gay friend hated him having gf cos it took his friend away even though i tried involvin him in stuff which clearly still was not gud or nice enuff of me. his gay friend called my bf at the times family and twin bro saying all this bullshit his family hate me and we ended up splittin up after 4 months due to his family going on and his gay mate bull! my x thinks its unfair and out of order thathis gay friend bryan did all this but his family wont change there mind and he did wish things cud of bin different but once his family think sumink thats it. we have maintained a close friendship since and its been 6 months now since we split. we see each other 3/4 times a week, he stays over or i stay at his. go cinema, cook for each other, or relax or i pluck his mono brow lol or cut his hair. we still sleep together this has never stopped as he says he is very attracted to me and loves sex and my company wit me. like wise i feel the same. thing is brian his gay mate has lost me something i wanted to much that it is becoming to take over me. i am so angry all the time. he has maintained his friendship wit brian even after wot he did but says they will never be friends again, only maybe have coffee as they live opposite eACH OTHER but thats as far as it goes. he stAYED over mine last nite and has brought me gorgeous necklace and earing set for xmas platinum set but why? were close friends. he says we will never get back together cos to much has happened, but why is that cos off brian and his niave family! its so unfair. how do i let go of my anger to his gay friend and is it too late to turn it around? he does love cuddling kissing me and my company surely i can turnit somehow???? he would do anything for me but i feel i am loosing the plot cos i want him back so much, hate brian and feel at a lost cos i want him back and i dont knmow how to turnit around and how to do the test of how he really feels? how do i know if i can get him back when he is so focused on to much has happened. i dont think to much has happened at all, yeah he is very close to his family which is a major problem but how can i turn things around there must be a way all i seem to do by my actions and panickyness is push him further away. or am i being used? i dont know. when i am wit him he is so lovely to me and we speak everyday 2 or 3 times either by text and call.please advice me honestly as i am feelin so alone and sick all the time. i cant focus on nuffin. how can i play the sweet humble me when his gay friend bitches about me, cos it gets my back up big time i explode on my x about it. my x wants to be close friends wit me, says he aint interested in anyone else, i said to him last nite does that mean we can sleep wit other people as we aint together, not that i would cos im not like that just wanted to know what hje wud say. he said no, if i do that, he wont be sleepin wit me again. i den went on to say i had been offered on date tue, he said who, where u meet him etc, den said he was not bothered. but then made the odd comment. please help Open Question: Complicated situation I am in for Christmas?Ok there was this girl I dated 5 years ago (just a 1 year relationship)...Well things didnt work out there, but we are BEST friends now She has had the same boyfriend for 5 years now....and i am very happy for her...And over the past five years...I would always get her a Christmas present, and i would get her boyfriend a Christmas present.....and they would each get me one Now since I have a gf, my gf was so excited for it...We went Christmas shopping together and decided together on presents for both of them. The problem: They now broke up (but they do this FREQUENTLY) And my gf wont let me give her a christmas present (that we chose together)..And i keep telling my gf that I will feel like a complete idiot when my BEST friend gets me a present and i dont get her one, and then she gets back together w her bf (because it always happens) I dont know how many times i have stressed to her that she is my BEST friend and nothing happened with us in 5 years...I dont know how many times i have to tell my gf that she doesnt have to worry about anything I have told my gf she comes first, and my friend, second What can i possibly tell my gf that since my BEST friend is single, nothing will still happen?? I mean i think i should be able to get her a present, single, or not....I mean her and her bf got me presents over the last 5 years (and i was single that whole time) I doubt age means anything but Im 23 and my gf is 20 my friend is 23 and her bf (on break) is 29 any help would be appreciated Open Question: Date/Time problems in Canon PowerShot A480!!!?When I turned on, the date/time is empty. It is 00/00/2008 00:00 [MM/DD/YYYY HH:MM]. So, I filled the date/time completely. When I turned off and turned on again, the date/time is empty again. More Recent Articles
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