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Open Question: Does this constitute cheating? and more... Open Question: Does this constitute cheating?I dated a co-worker, Mark, right after I broke up with my ex, 2 years ago. Yes, it was too soon, but I was attracted to him and we seemed to want similar things and were very compatible. I didn't realize how not over my ex I was until I started seeing Mark and could see how much Mark was feeling for me. I finally told him that I did think it was too soon and how sorry I was. He was hurt and surprised, but that was that. A few mths later, I ended up getting back with my ex for another 2 years, even though not much had changed as far as our goals (he didn't want marriage and kids and I did.) He was a decent, nice man though which made it difficult for me to leave sooner. We finally broke up once again this past July, for good. It's now been 5 mths since my ex and I have been together and I do feel as if I am over him. I've been finding myself thinking about Mark non-stop, in fact, for the past few mths. The only problem was as far as I knew, Mark had been in a LTR for the past year and a half or so, so I never approached him. In October, I confided to another co-worker (let's call her Jill) my feelings. She's an older woman, who's always been like a mother figure to both Mark and I. She told me that the last she spoke to him in September, that he was single again and depressed b/c he is so marriage minded. She sees him from time to time because he usually passes by to talk with her. She took it upon herself to bring me up casually just to see if he still felt anything for me. He wanted to know why she brought me up and asked if I was interested again. She told him I was and he was in shock and told her that he's been seeing someone for a while now and what a shame about the timing. He proceeded to seek her out more and more and just kept telling her how he really thought I was the one, how shocked he was when I ended it b/c we were so compatible and how hurt he was. She told him nothing is written in stone and even though he's seeing someone and it is relatively new, everyone deserves a 2nd chance and how confused I was back then, how ready I am now and to just think about it. He told her there was no harm in keeping me in mind. Recently, my home computer stopped working. I was complaining to some co-workers and was going to have the computer tech guy in our building look at it. Again, Jill took it upon herself to tell this to Mark and he told her it would be his pleasure to come to my place and look at it (he used to be an engineer and knows a lot about computers.) He had come in to see me, but I had already left for the day. The following day, I brought my computer in so the tech guy could look at it, but my co-workers were all trying to convince me to just have Mark come over, but I didn't feel right since he has a GF. I approached Mark and apologized for Jill asking him to fix my computer, that I didn't want to impose. He told me it would be his pleasure and asked if I had the same # . I gave him my new # b/c I had moved, but told him I already brought my computer in. He said in that case, he'll look at it here and drive me home with it once it's fixed b/c I take the train. It turned out I had a major problem with the computer and I ended up having to order a new one. In the meantime, I have a laptop which I didn't know how to access the internet on. I brought it here, the tech guy showed me how to access the internet through my computer cable plug, but when I went home, it still didn't work. The next day, Mark came to see me and told me the tech guy told him about my laptop and how I couldn't get it to work and he once again, offered to come by to look at that. He came over this past Wednesday. We talked non-stop on the way to my place, came in, I showed him around, he loved my apartment and I showed him that I still had the rose he made me from 2 years ago. It's yellow, so I've kept it in this cute little vase with ducks on it, so it matches well. He was impressed by that. He started working on my laptop and I told him that I was hungry and asked if he wanted to join me for dinner. He agreed to that and I thought I'd have time to cook while he hooked me up to the internet, but he did it within seconds, lol. So, while I was cooking, he came into the kitchen and wanted to know if he could help, but I told him I felt too nervous since he knows how to cook and told him to just sit and watch TV. When dinner was finally done, we sat down and were talking about all different things. Somehow, the topic of exes came up and he asked if I still talk with mine. I told him that we do, that he was a normal, decent guy and we just wanted different things, that for once, things didn't end badly. Then he said, "Well, I don't think we ended badly," but I didn't want to tell him that I didn't really consider us a couple, but I told him that I just meant in terms of a long-term relationship. He asked if I had any prospects in terms of guys and I told him, "No, just you, but you h Open Question: relationship in dating?what are some books that talk about Relationships in terms of dating.. such as like why do guys act the way the do in a relationship.. advices... problems that couples faces in relationship such as jealousy!! what kind of books do you recommend More Recent Articles
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