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Open Question: Does this make me a racist or open-minded? and more... Open Question: Does this make me a racist or open-minded?I have no problem hanging out with mexican, white, asian, etc girls that into black guys but I do not like hanging out with black girls who are into white guys. They kind of annoy me. I am a black girl. I am not sure if it makes me racist. In your opinion what am I? I date interracially to but black girls are into white guys seem to want to be white to me. Not always and they tend have to something bad to say about black men. Open Question: Could our marriage problems be my fault?My husband and I separated for awhile and decided to get back together recently... you'll want to know why we separated now so I'll give you the very short version---We were engaged and while we were engaged he had a girlfriend because he said he didn't take the engagement seriously... I found out 4 months into our relationship that he had had a real life... honest to God... go on dates girlfriend... he would never talk to me about it... I got more frustrated because he didn't tell me ... I found out I couldn't ask him questions but instead of leaving him like I should have done I kept trying to get him to talk about it... he withdrew because he felt I was harassing him and ended up spending less and less time at home, then he cheated again with another girl... again ... instead of leaving I tried to dig out of him the reasons, the why... he withdrew completely and refused to talk about it... I heard he's been doing this sort of stuff our entire marriage from his friends, our friends, everyone...things exploded I screamed at him... he screamed back... I tried throwing his stuff out of the house... he started pushing me around, and I ended up on the bathroom floor bleeding from my face and him screaming "look what you made me do" He left and we tried to make things better from their but turns out he "wasn't ready to be married... and jumped into too soon" ...He stopped coming home and when he did come home to shower he wouldn't talk to me ...and one night one of my friends was giving me comfort because I had broken down and I used what had happened as an excuse to sleep with my friend... tit for tat I figured at the time. Well I got what I deserved, my husband found out ( because I told him) and he came home one day, said he wasn't going to help with the rent, the bills, nothing, he got all of his stuff and moved in with his mother and proceeded to engage in a relationship with the girl he'd been canooking while we were married. One night while we were supposed to be signing divorce papers we had sex... I got pregnant, he didn't care and told me to leave him alone... (this was after I had been evicted from our home because I couldn't pay the rent, had the electricity turned off, the water and been living off Ramen for pretty much a month while trying to find a job and milking the 100 dollars I had) --- anyway, I had to move out of state, I lost our daughter at 7 1/2 months and I had to restart my life all over again, not having heard a word from him... he moved away to pursue his career and did not leave a forwarding address... he got a hold of me to do taxes because he felt he deserved a portion of the return and we started talking again.... we eventually got back together after a really difficult year and a half and things were going well.... until now---- (OK I know that wasn't short) He's started getting moody again, feeling frustrated and depressed... he says that he isn't normally this type of person, that he's only like this around me, that there is no way that he is solely responsible for the way he's feeling because while we were separated he didn't feel this way... he says that he felt this way before because I wouldn't leave him alone about cheating while we were engaged, that I wouldn't let it go that he cheated while we were married, that I I say I never do anything wrong and it's all his fault.... Could I be the cause of our problems? I've worked very hard this past year to discover who I am, recover from a deep loss and rebuild a better person... I have anthems for my life... "be happy" "Don't sweat the small stuff" "Think about how your moods are affecting those around you esp those you love"... I am generally a happy person... but I fear that I could perhaps BE the one who is damaging him. That maybe I have become high and mighty in my disposition... that I'm heartless and inconsiderate like he says... I want to help him out of his moods but he cannot recover from them ... he has the hardest time being an optimist What can I do? Does anyone else have a moody husband who is prone to self pity instead of self improvement and do you have suggestions on how to assist those you love into being a 'glass half full' type? are there things I should look at in myself to change? just need some advice Open Question: From a girls point of view should she lay off?ive been dating my friend Emily for a month tomorow and i have a problem with her best friend Greg.Theyre always together and say "love you" and stuff and she buys him clothes and stuff.Shes explained to me that since theyre best friends its just like a girl and girl exept hes a boy and girls say i love u to there bffs so why cant she. He likes her from what hes told me. and she knows that but idk if i should let them be together or keep her. She says that if she wanted to be with him she wouldve made her move in the 4 years shes known him and been close with him but i hate how close they are! am i too jealous or just looking at the situation like a normal person would? Open Question: Girlfriend Leaving for College?Hey Everyone My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years since we were 17 (we're both 20 now). Over the summer she got a scholarship to a school about 2 states away and we started having some small problems worrying about what we were going to do about her leaving. About 2 or 3 weeks ago, we had an argument, I brought up that we had been growing apart, and the discussion about her leaving came up and we thought I would be too difficult to keep going, so we broke up. We took about 2 1/2 weeks of not talking, and recently we started talking and hanging out again. We both still love and care for each other, but she is worried about being that far from home for about a year and 3 months would be too hard for her and us since we started growing apart. I told her about all the possibilities that we could do while she was gone when it came to staying together like seeing each other one weekend a month, webcams, etc etc. She considered them, but is still worried about the distance. We both talked about how we felt during the initial break (casually looking at other people, but not seeing us together with anyone else), and talked about how tough it was for both of us. We are still on great terms with each other, but are trying to not act like a couple. Do you think that we have a chance at getting back together? Has anybody else experienced this? I love her so much and want this to work, so I'm just looking for advice. Thanks! - Woody Open Question: My boyfriend watches porn... What should I do?I know that men watch porn, but I think its wrong to if you're in a relationship. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. I caught him once and he sweared he never do it again. And of course I've caught him several more times. Just last week I caught him again, (and by "caught" I mean found it on the internet history) I know I shouldnt be snooping through his stuff but if he's lying to me about it I have the right to. Anyways, my whole problem with this is really that it makes me feel less of myself. He's looking at these girls with perfect bodies. & theres me. Im not unattractive to be honest. Our sex life is just 'blah'. We do it and its over. Nothing kinky, nothing sexy etc. & I would love to do those things for him but I dont feel comfortable because I feel like I cant compare to "porn girls". I really dont wanna sound immature but I dont know how else to put it I suppose. Not to mention that he doesnt compliment me, ever. He doesnt insult me in anyway but I mean it would be nice if I heard something nice about me? Then maybe I would do more for him. Anyways, I just dont know what to do. It really brings my confidence down about myself & I just want him to make me feel more special.. & one more thing, here's what happened about two weeks ago. I went to talk to his parents, & they called me fat, (jokingly) & honestly, Im NOT fat, I weigh 125lbs, 5'3, 18 years old. So I went to my boyfriend to comfort me, and I said, "Babe... Im fat" He says: "Says who?!" I said: "Your parents..." He says: "Do you want me to say something?" I say: "No..." He says: "Aw babe its okay" I was on my period so I was emotional so I start crying (pathetic I know)... He then says: "Aw babe its okay, its okay, just try & eat like 1 or 2 meals a day" Yeah! Like who the f*ck says that to their girlfriend? Anyways, that was just an example. Any other guy would be like: "Aw babe your not fat dont worry" etc. & I love him regardless but I would like him to change? Advice? Open Question: I need some help with this certain girl I would love to get to know?I know this girl, J, from swimming for our high school. She's really funny and attractive, and I want to get to know her a little better so that I can see if there's a spark. At the beginning of the year she looked at me a lot, but I never really got around to talking to her because she hangs out with other girls on the swim team and I sort of liked someone else at the time. Well I dated the one girl I liked and we broke up so now I want to see if I can figure out whether those little glances meant something awhile back. Maybe it was just a little crush, but it never hurts to try. Only problem: We have no classes together, I don't her phone number, and I'd have to talk to her like its the first time since I never really did during swim season. How am I to do this??? I have her as a friend on Facebook and I commented on her status and joked around and commented pretty enthusiatically. As well as that, when I see her in the hall (and when I saw her at the swim team banquet last Tuesday) she looked at me like she has done before. Well here's what I'm thinking: I message her on facebook saying something along the lines of "Hey, I noticed that we never really talked during swim season... (fill in what you think I should say)" and maybe get her number? I'm really not sure if it'll ever work but it never hurts to try, so any advice or suggestions??? More Recent Articles
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