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Open Question: A few questions about this girl who left me confused.? and more... Open Question: A few questions about this girl who left me confused.?It all started in 7th grade. This girl was in my Science Research class and I barely knew her. Back then, I was just a kid, and I really didn't have interest in girls. I became friends with this girl and after a few weeks, a lot of people thought I was dating her. I always denied it, and it left me wondering, "Am I dating this girl?" The thought of it disgusted me, lol. Everyday, people will come up to me and tell me that this girl likes me, and I didn't believe them. Sooner or later, this girl started going out with a major jerk. This dude made her cry every single day, and she would always come to me. After she cried, he would break up with her and get back with her again the very next day. This went on for about half a year, more than 2-3 times a week. I got sick of it so I stopped talking to her for a while. I met some new girls who were a grade older than me, and this is where I started getting interest in girls. I liked one of the new girls I met, and we always IM'ed each other 24/7, talking about how we loved each other. The problem is that this girl spoiled me. Her personality really messed me up, and talking to her for so long turned me into a jerk. During Spring in the same year, two guys moved into the school. Ends up I was their first friend after we met in Lunch, and they were jerks too. They became friends with the new girl I met and now we were like a clique. Sadly, I started to drift away from this new girl, and I started liking the old girl now, however, she was still dating that jerk who was making her cry. My love for her was unbearable, but my friends didn't like her. They made fun of her, and made her cry multiple times in school. When I tried to calm her down, she got pissed off at me, and now my love hated me. The year ended soon and I was depressed the whole summer. Now it's 8th grade, and I'm off to a fresh start...seriously. Over the summer, I grew my hair and got new clothes. Yes, I had a complete change of style, and personality. I was depressed 24/7, I stopped talking to all my friends, and I honestly, started hurting myself multiple ways. My love for her hadn't faded at all, and no matter how many times I tried to talk to her, she avoided me. I spent the entire year getting made fun of for my style, and it left me an outcast. The year ended and I cut my hair, and went to a new skater style. I go back to school and now I'm in 9th grade. SCORE! This girl was in my lunch period and she talked to me, a lot. We were great friends, and I was in the middle of building a relation with her, until...she apparently met the love of her life. She dated him for a long time now, and now there are a lot of things that left me confused. On Halloween, I hung out with her, and I obviously knew she liked me from the way she was touching me. She let me give her Piggy-Back rides, she hugged me, and I even went to her house where we watched movies. Her best friend was with her and while we were at her house, she said I looked like I was dating her. This girl's reply was, "You never know." That startled me. I knew she had a boyfriend, but why was she acting this way? In school, she held my hand at lunch, and we always texted each other outside of school. One day, just out of no where, she stopped answering my texts, and she suddenly backed off a little. I was guessing her boyfriend read her text messages and told her to back off. Now we never act the same way we acted before. I was talking to her best friend one day, and I confessed my love. Her best friend trusted me with her life, and I trusted her as well. I told her I loved this girl and she wasn't surprised. Then, disaster struck. This girl read her best friend's text messages and found out I like her, and honestly, I feel as if it damaged my relationship with her even more. Then one day, I met another girl at the mall, and I liked her. We dated for about two weeks, but I broke up with her. She hated me. I couldn't see her as often because Track season had started. Looking at my dominating love, I was left unaffected. Now I'm single, and I still like this girl who's still dating the love of her life. She came to school one day, knowing that I liked her, and started showing off her Hickies in front of me. I knew she was trying to make me jealous, but could it possible be cause she liked me? I had no idea, but her relationship with the love of her life got stronger and stronger everyday. Now she cares about him 24/7 and doesn't even text me anymore. The only time I can talk to her is at Lunch, and we never act or talk the same way we had in the beginning of 9th grade. She's more distant now. 1) Do you think her relationship will last? 2) How should I act around this girl? 3) Should I move on or try to win her? Open Question: Girls: Would You Date A Ex-Drug Addict?We're both only 17 and I'm a good girl, I don't drink or do any kind of drugs. There is this guy I like and he's so sweet but he used to be hooked on drugs. And its wasn't just weed and alcohol, he did real bad stuff like cocaine and PCP (Angel Dust)! But he realized that these drugs were taking over his life and he stopped everything and he's been clean for 8 months even though he's been hit pretty bad and he can't sleep for more then 3 hours a day. Today though I found out from his friend that he likes me a lot and has had a crush on me for 2 years but he has a big anxiety problem and couldn't tell me and he's been depressed for a while, part of the reason why he started doing drugs. Also he has a history of severe child abuse and neglect so that explains the other part. He wasn't doing them to have fun or party, he just did it to get away from everything. He's still a virgin and hasn't done anything with another girl and he's hoping he could share the experience with me and lately he's been making it known that he really likes me. I really like him too its just the fact that he did these hard drugs scares me and makes me think of him as a bad person. However he's actually really nice and treats me with respect. So my question is do you think I should ask him out cause we both like each other? Open Question: Two questions about a girl?It all started in 7th grade. This girl was in my Science Research class and I barely knew her. Back then, I was just a kid, and I really didn't have interest in girls. I became friends with this girl and after a few weeks, a lot of people thought I was dating her. I always denied it, and it left me wondering, "Am I dating this girl?" The thought of it disgusted me, lol. Everyday, people will come up to me and tell me that this girl likes me, and I didn't believe them. Sooner or later, this girl started going out with a major jerk. This dude made her cry every single day, and she would always come to me. After she cried, he would break up with her and get back with her again the very next day. This went on for about half a year, more than 2-3 times a week. I got sick of it so I stopped talking to her for a while. I met some new girls who were a grade older than me, and this is where I started getting interest in girls. I liked one of the new girls I met, and we always IM'ed each other 24/7, talking about how we loved each other. The problem is that this girl spoiled me. Her personality really messed me up, and talking to her for so long turned me into a jerk. During Spring in the same year, two guys moved into the school. Ends up I was their first friend after we met in Lunch, and they were jerks too. They became friends with the new girl I met and now we were like a clique. Sadly, I started to drift away from this new girl, and I started liking the old girl now, however, she was still dating that jerk who was making her cry. My love for her was unbearable, but my friends didn't like her. They made fun of her, and made her cry multiple times in school. When I tried to calm her down, she got pissed off at me, and now my love hated me. The year ended soon and I was depressed the whole summer. Now it's 8th grade, and I'm off to a fresh start...seriously. Over the summer, I grew my hair and got new clothes. Yes, I had a complete change of style, and personality. I was depressed 24/7, I stopped talking to all my friends, and I honestly, started hurting myself multiple ways. My love for her hadn't faded at all, and no matter how many times I tried to talk to her, she avoided me. I spent the entire year getting made fun of for my style, and it left me an outcast. The year ended and I cut my hair, and went to a new skater style. I go back to school and now I'm in 9th grade. SCORE! This girl was in my lunch period and she talked to me, a lot. We were great friends, and I was in the middle of building a relation with her, until...she apparently met the love of her life. She dated him for a long time now, and now there are a lot of things that left me confused. On Halloween, I hung out with her, and I obviously knew she liked me from the way she was touching me. She let me give her Piggy-Back rides, she hugged me, and I even went to her house where we watched movies. Her best friend was with her and while we were at her house, she said I looked like I was dating her. This girl's reply was, "You never know." That startled me. I knew she had a boyfriend, but why was she acting this way? In school, she held my hand at lunch, and we always texted each other outside of school. One day, just out of no where, she stopped answering my texts, and she suddenly backed off a little. I was guessing her boyfriend read her text messages and told her to back off. Now we never act the same way we acted before. I was talking to her best friend one day, and I confessed my love. Her best friend trusted me with her life, and I trusted her as well. I told her I loved this girl and she wasn't surprised. Then, disaster struck. This girl read her best friend's text messages and found out I like her, and honestly, I feel as if it damaged my relationship with her even more. Then one day, I met another girl at the mall, and I liked her. We dated for about two weeks, but I broke up with her. She hated me. I couldn't see her as often because Track season had started. Looking at my dominating love, I was left unaffected. Now I'm single, and I still like this girl who's still dating the love of her life. She came to school one day, knowing that I liked her, and started showing off her Hickies in front of me. I knew she was trying to make me jealous, but could it possible be cause she liked me? I had no idea, but her relationship with the love of her life got stronger and stronger everyday. Now she cares about him 24/7 and doesn't even text me anymore. The only time I can talk to her is at Lunch, and we never act or talk the same way we had in the beginning of 9th grade. She's more distant now. 1) Do you think her relationship will last? 2) How should I act around this girl? 3) Should I move on or try to win her? Open Question: please help! relationship problem!!?I have this problem that i cant seem to explain. I have my share of guys who are interested in me, but i dont like any of them. some of them are pretty cute too. At first i just thought that its normal, and i just need to find that special guy, but this has been going on since 9th grade, and im a senior getting ready to graduate. ive only ever had 2 bfs and neither of them lasted more than a month. if i like a guy, i lose interest once i find out they like me too. sometimes i try to force myself to like a guy who it would make sense to be with, but i just cant. i feel like there is really something wrong with me, i just cant like anyone! i went on a date last night and it was perfect, i just dont like the guy, this happens with every guy i talk to! can someone explain whats wrong with me?? my best friend is the same exact way, we are the only 2 ppl in the world i know about who is like this. please help! Open Question: She won't make a move, won't kiss me?I'm a senior in high school and i've been dating a sophomore for like a little less than a month. we're not officially together or anything but we both admitted at a point that we really like each other. sometimes we hug and hold each other and stuff at school. i kiss her on the cheek or random places on her face most of the times and she's fine with it. she doesn't pull away or anything but the problem is she hasn't kissed me back yet. I'm her first guy, she had a thing with another guy before and that lasted a long time but they didn't even hold hands. i don't think i'm asking for too much. i just want her to show more affection and maybe kiss me back and hold my hands at school. what could i do to fix this problem? thank you. Open Question: What if my brother replaces me?I'm so sorry, I've posted something similar before, but I have a different question concerning it (whereas before I was asking how to keep his love). I just wanted to say this first, I love my brother and want him to be loved, but I gave up having a life (literally, I never go out with friends or talk to them anymore, because I'm so busy trying to keep my dad happy) and my own identity to earn my dad's love so being replaced is upsetting. In my family my mom favors my twin brothers and my dad favors me, then there's my other brother who isn't exactly a favorite but is close to being my mom's (he's always lying about me to my dad though and I'm afraid my dad will want to be friends with him instead of me; he's really different than my dad- he's a drug-dealer and living at home at 25 years old without an actual job (whereas my dad was recruited by the all of the best schools because of his academic record and chose to get a job even though he didn't have to as a teenager)- but he's been trying to impress my dad lately which means soon I'll be replaced). My mom loves my brothers no matter what they do (through the drugs, through them yelling at her, through their girlfriends, through their friends that are also on drugs, and through everything else). Whereas with my dad, it's different. Ever since I was a child I have felt that I needed to be perfect for him. I know who I am on the inside, but outwardly I am exactly who he wants me to be- always smiling, straight 100s, aiming for his Ivy alma mater, never dating (I'm probably just too sensitive, but I was a little hurt when one of my upper upperclassman friends asked me to prom and my dad went away the weekend of prom), always acting mature but staying a kid at the same time (mature in that I listen to his problems, and that I cook and clean, but a child in that I joke around and kind of look like one- I have an eating disorder and I purposefully try to keep my body from changing (except to become smaller), and a ton of other stuff. The thing is, I do have the same values as my daddy- I'm a perfectionist and hurt myself to handle it when I get even a 99, I love volunteering (and am so thankful to have parents who love it), I love our religion, etc.. I don't mind being exactly who my dad wants because I know he needs to feel loved (so I am in no way complaining about feeling the need to be everything he wants me to be), and because I couldn't handle not being loved by him. I had thought I was recovering form my suicidal thoughts since I had finally kind of accepted that I couldn't go against God, but the thought of losing my dad's love makes me reconsider the idea. It sounds simple, but I can't handle trying to be "perfect," always failing, and knowing one day I'm going to be replaced. When we don't have the things I need to complete something I told him I would (not realizing we don't have the things) I always wind up breaking a bone rather than failing him, because not having the tools makes him upset even though I can't drive so I can't pick them up unless someone else feels like taking me. How can I feel better about being replaced? I feel so guilty and I can't handle it. Thank you for your time. Open Question: Why do women make lame excuses saying they are too busy to TEXT EVEN?It takes 4 seconds to text me and this girl I am dating, she will make excuses saying: "AHHH I AM SO BUSY, I HAVE HOMEWORK, I CAN'T TEXT!" What is her problem? If she isn't interested in talking to me anymore, she should tell me directly. That's just a ridiculous excuse for her to not text me. Something isn't right! Open Question: Why are realtionships so hard?Well let me start by saying what my problem is, you see about three years ago I was friends with this girl and me and her ended our friendship in bad way. And last week I wrote her a message on facebook asking her if she wanted to be friends again and well she hasn't wrote me back in a week and I think that she doesn't want to be friends with me because I know her and what she thinks of me, Also I not only have problems making friends but I also have problems in finding a girlfriend, I was talking to this one girl on this dating website for three months and we got along really well then all of a sudden she tells me that my new pictures I put up on the site were ugly and that I was too ugly for her to date. So my question is there anyone in the same way I am when it comes to realtionships? I'm so unhappy right now with my life I feel like I'm always going to be alone without friends or a girlfriend. Open Question: I don't understand it =\..Advice please?=\?Okay....in the middle of last month (November) I asked on here about one of my best guy friends. This is my 2nd time today posting this because no one seems to want to give me advice=\. A quick recap: I'm 17 and a Senior in high school. He's 18 and a Freshman in college. We have known each other for about 2 years and get along really great. We talk pretty much about anything and everything. And I like him a lot. A lot a lot. He's everything that a girl would want and I can truly see myself being with him for years. We have so much in common and both are on our way to being successful. Most importantly, he likes me for who am I, loves every flaw that I don't like about myself and doesn't mind having a friendship/relationship with him being white and me being mixed with Native American and African American. But there is one problem: One night I was talking to him and I gave him a compliment. He said Thank you, but quickly added something negative about himself. He does this not a lot but pretty often.In my eyes, he basically put himself down and he's scared to love me. I got kind of upset because it seems like he pushed me away =\. The most recent time this happened which was in October I questioned him about it and made his arguments run in circles. It's like he saids something negative about himself, but doesn't know why he saids it? He's also a hard person to read. I posted this question before asking what is wrong with him and why he does it. One person responded that I need to stop making it about me. Honestly, I'm not making it about me. I'm not that type of person. I was also told that it was insecurity and/or low self-esteem, but I only got 2 answers. It's just that it has been driving me crazy. I want to tell him I like him as in being boyfriend and girlfriend but I need more opinions. Why do you think he keeps doing this? Is he afraid of something? If it is low self-esteem is there any way that I can help him bring it up? Some additional info: He's really protective over me. Even when he's busy, he makes sure that I'm okay even if we talk for about 5 minutes...and he tell me he loves me everyday, but I don't know how to take it because that phrase is used loosely. I know he's single because he tells me basically everything. Last time he was dating, the girl he was interested in just want a relationship just to mess around. He's in college in MA..I'm all the way in PA. I talk to him alot, now he's in college, over AIM. And I'm planning on telling him that I like him next time I talk to him this week, and hope for the best. =\ Sorry for the length =\ Open Question: I want to bring boyfriend to Christmas, but stubborn family disapproves... How to work out a solution?I'm a 28-year old female who met a 26-year old male at work. We've known each other for over a year, but started dating a little over a month ago. At this point we are in an exclusive relationship and are rather serious. His schedule won't allow him to go home to his family for Christmas, because they are in another state and he has to work on Christmas night. Thinking that's no way to spend Christmas (alone), I told him I'd ask if my family minded him coming over, as we usually just hang out, have dinner on Christmas Eve and do breakfast on Christmas morning. He said he would love that. Well, I called the family and explained the situation of him being alone, etc. and they shot me down saying they'd rather not have any guests that aren't family (our festivities typically and will only include myself, my mother, two aunts and an uncle). Maybe I'm a little laid back, or am more in the spirit of sharing, but I have a real issue with that answer. I guess I thought they'd appreciate that he wanted to meet my family, and wouldn't have a problem sharing a nice Christmas experience with someone I obviously care about, when they couldn't be with their family. My question is, am I being completely irrational in assuming that this isn't a big deal? Should I push the situation and see if I can change their minds? Any other advice? More Recent Articles
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