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Open Question: Hey i got a problem please help? and more... Open Question: Hey i got a problem please help?so im a 17 year old men i havent dated for a while b/c im very picky i like whait musclealur men that are very straight but gay lol also im gay and were i live there is not alot of people around me that are and im very sexaul like i love having sex and i just really want to commit to a high stardered not just sex any more :( lots of love dylan Open Question: Two questions. 1. Coming out to family. 2. Falling out of love with a straight girl.?Question 1: Did you love your family with all your heart and know with almost 100% certainty that you would be rejected by your family or would cause serious psychological harm to one of your family members? Did decided to come out to them? How did you get the courage and strength to do it? What happened? Question 2: This is the typical 'I fell in love with a straight girl when I didn't know I was gay' problem. So that happened to me. Five years ago met her. At this point in my life I am certain that if I were opposite genders I would want to marry her. This caused me depression. Went through it for a few years. Finally got over myself and decided I was bi. Then got even stronger and told her to her face how I felt about her. Now we have a good friendship. And every day I get stronger and begin to accept that she has a boyfriend and that he loves her and they have a good relationship and it could end up in marriage and I would have to go to their wedding and I'd be happy for him to marry her because he seems like a beautiful person and he would take good care of her. So I've just gotten to the point of talking to him at parties and getting to know him. So today I went to coffee with her just for a catch up and it went really well and I was happy and lively. She talked about him a lot and all of the wonderful things they do together and the holidays they have planned. I feel like I've been quite strong. But later tonight I just felt a bit sad and actually quite lonely. When I had depression I used to cry at least once a day for a very long time. Since I resolved my problems I rarely cry at all, I'm quite a lively person. But tonight I cried, it's been probably a month, I can't remember. I know the reason is because it caused me pain to hear how she was happy with someone else. I don't want to go through it again? Should I just deal with this occassional crying for the sake of preserving the friendship? I really don't want to discontinue the friendship, I think it's a punishment to her. And I need her, she is a rock in my life and I think I can be strong enough to push through my jealousy. Is there any things you suggest I could do? (In terms of my relationships, I just kind find anyone to compare to her at the moment, with both guys and girls, I date often, but I just don't feel the same.) Open Question: My girlfriend of one year was kissing a her new guy-friend who admits to wanting her?My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year now, it started wonderfully as a friendship and end up with both of us together. We both helped each other overcome many of our own problems, and are now much better off then when we first met. Along the way though we've had our share of problems and some distance grew between us for a bit. She changed a lot and started getting asked out by guys a lot, which was a new experience for her, she would have trouble answering them since at the time she was new to this confession thing and we where also a bit shaky at the time. And usually from her lack of response or stuttering they would finally assume that she had a boyfriend, which she would reply sorry. The catch was that every one of these guy immediately switch to trying to be her friend.She would tell me of these things, so I was alright with it. But things changed when she met one guy friend who she was completely impressed by in almost every way. So much so that she wouldn't talk about him with me like she did with the others. Again he asked her out, and found out she had a boyfriend and so befriend her, but with the difference that he actually intended on stealing her away from me. Something she had noticed and was worried about telling me, because she didn't want to lose this awesome new friend she had that she really admired. Keep in mind everything I'm stating took place in the matter of a month and a half so it's not some long time friend where talking about here. He would later take her out late in the day, and the two would spend the rest of the day together alone until 1 or 2 in the morning in his car driving around to date type places like overlooks. As time passed tensions grew and she started to get confused as to how she felt towards him, she admitted to me that she saw him as someone she could potential date hypothetically, but that she wasn't attracted to him in that way. His advances would continue and he would give her advice about our relationship issues while hinting that he liked her to and was available, still keeping the friendship as a way of getting closer to her. She would finally tell me about him after a certain amount of time had passed and my concern would start to show, I have never told her she couldn't spend time with her friends, I would only tell her how I felt about it and leave it at that. I would started to spend more time with her and find ways to make my love for her known and clear. Finally on night this guy takes her out for a drive, I call her and she wont pick up, they go to a secluded place and after a bit of drinking on her part she starts to cry and tell him about me. at this point they start to kiss, she doesn't really kiss back, but she doesn't stop him either since it seems to me that she wanted to know if she could have feelings for him. after a few more try's on his part he stops kissing her and apologizes thinking that she might not be enjoying it, but all this time she hasn't said anything to about stopping and had even held him a few times during . He drops her off back home really late, I call her to find out if she's ok because I couldn't sleep wondering where she was wanting to know if she was safe. she tells me she was out with him, but doesn't tell me everything that happens in this case the kiss. at this point we come close to a break up, but that very night right after hanging up I decided to run on foot to her home 11 miles away in the rain in the middle of the night, I ran on open highways since there ain't any sidewalks around here tripped over a few fallen logs, and even got lost. I ran for 5 hours till morning, weakened before the run because I hadn't eaten for three days or showered since I was so devastated by the direction our relationship had taken up to that point. I ran just to tell her that I still loved her, and wanted to be with her. when i get there we tentatively makeup at this point, and finally she tells me everything about the night she when out with him including the kiss, and tells me that she loves me, after considering his advice about me, not the stunt I pulled. but this isn't the end of it. because later that night he calls her when she's alone again and tells her how he feels awkward but still wishes to be with her and still has feelings for her. after there long chat late into the night she becomes really sad and says that she feels he's going away, even though they agreed to stay together as friends. then she tells me she's confused about what to do because she wants him in her life. We make up, but later find out that she talks to him late in to the night for hours. I don't know what to do, since she said she loves me, but still admits to wanting him around. This is painful since I want her to be happy, and she seems to want the both of us to be happy with her, but I'm having trouble adjusting to this race between me and him. I feel that the moment I mess up he'll attempt something again, I know he will, but if More Recent Articles
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