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Open Question: How can i ask my mom to give my ex another chance? and more... Open Question: How can i ask my mom to give my ex another chance?Me and my ex Chris have been off an on for 4 years. started dating in 7th grade and we broke up a couple times between this but recently broke up in April. My mom called "quits" because i was crying because i was so upset, and told me to never talk to him again. she montiored my texts and calls for about 3 months making sure i didn;t talk to him. well we go to school together, and we have recently started to talk again,its been 7 months. I have had a 2 boyfriends and they didnt work out, & he has had 1 gf and it didnt work out for him. I do honestly love Chris he has been in my life for a long while, and he became my bestfriend his whole family loved me, and my whole family loved him even my mom & dad, my dad doesn't seem to have a problem with him. My mom is juust says she wants what is best for me. but she doesnt understand how i feel about chris and i dont even think she will take time to listen. it has been a long time probably since summer since i have mentioned something to her. i would like to ask her to give chris another chance on being my boyfriend. but i cant think of any way to ask her with out her freaking there is nothing wrong with him, he doesn;t do drugs, hes an great soccer player, makes good grades. my mom just watches out for my feelings too much and just doesn;tt like him cause he made me cryy, but it was because of her that we broke up. i hope i didnt confuse anyone i just would like some suggestions or someone that has been through the same thing to help me out, on how i can talk to my mom. Ill be 18 next year but i dont wanna make this love wait... Thank you for you time :)) I'm 11th Grade. Open Question: Stay in touch with ex or not [Long Story]?I will try and make this as breif as I can. I dated this girl for 3 1/2 years and they were great. She was abused as a child for 5 years with her bilogical father. When I dated her I tried to get her to trust me. I had to move away and that changed everything because on the last day I spent with her she tried to commit sucide in front of me by trying to slice her wrists. I calmed her down and told her everything would be OK. She told me to never tell her parents which became a bigger issue later on. While I have been gone we still have kept in touch. We have gone through phases of not talking. I think 2 months has been the longest. She started to date other guys but found problems with them. They were over before they started. She has now gotten back with her ex (she dated him for 6 years before me and were HS Sweethearts.) While we dated this guy admitted he cheated on her while they were together before. So she is getting back with him because she is out of options. As soon as she announces to this guy that she wants to give it another try, he pops the question and she says it is too soon. She said she has to trust him again which is the advice I have been giving her. So now, my ex's mother finds a reciept for $400 for a ring so when I call them she is also buying a rings. It hurts when I am hearing this "Hey Whats Up" "Oh My mom found a ring and now I am buying one too" Hello its me, your ex - the one who saved your life when you had a weak moment. My gut instinct about this guy is he is a no good user and he will Use and hurt her. As she is spending her time with him it hurt me and my mood is changed at work and everyone can tell I am in a bad mood. I just don't explain. I have always been a good friend and bf to her and helped her but dealing with this is ruining my whole life now. I am not happy with this. I try to adivse her as a friend and tell her to know who you are marrying. She thinks he will perpose on Christmas. That will ruin the holiday for me. I come to hate this year. She said even if he perposes that she will wait around two years to see if he doesn't mess up. I told her you never found out he cheated, he told you. So it will be easier for him to get away with it becuase you never suspect that he does. Everytime I talk to her. I just want to talk to her as a friend but when I know she spends the day with him or talks about it I just want to yell at her for taking back the Cheater BF and even considering marrying the guy. I don't know if I should stay friends to help her make the right choices? Or hang up the phone and not talk to her for awhile? Or Limit Our Conversation to where she doesn't talk about their relationships, just friends? What should I do? Sorry for the long story Open Question: He's given up but I haven't..should I keep trying to save our marriage?This is gonna be kind of long, so please bear with me. To start with, I met my husband at a party when I was 19 and he was 24. Since then we've had our ups and downs (details later) and we have a 6 year old daughter, our son was delivered stillborn at 35 weeks, and are now expecting our 3rd (I'm 17 weeks so far). Also I'm black and he's white...don't know if that makes any difference. We got married in 2006 after 5 years together and things were rocky even then but we really loved each other. Now, he wants to get a divorce because he says he's tired and unhappy, things won't ever change for the better and he feels he'd be better off by himself. Okay, the details. We met while I was in college and I fell in love with him right away. I guess he felt the same way because he asked me to marry him after only 3 months of dating (a month later I got pregnant, which resulted in a miscarriage). Due to financial issues I had to move back home with my parents (which was 2 hours away) and he continued to live with his uncle. We maintained a steady long distance relationship for about 4 months and he moved in with me as soon as I got my own place. Everything was great between us and 6 months after we were settled into our new apatment, I got pregnant with our daughter. Throughout the entire pregnancy, he treated me like a queen: backrubs, foot massages, cooking, cleaning. Things started to go south about 6 months after our daughter was born. We'd have little squabbles here and there, which only got worse as time went on. He took money out of my purse behind my back and spend it on all kinds of things, leaving us with no way to pay the bills. I can't count the number of times our phone got shut off and it was only through some sort of miracle that the lights never got turned off. I can remember one time when he wanted to surprise me with some sort of vacation deal he received in an anonymous email and used my debit card to pay the required fee and wound up overdrawing the account. We ended up getting evicted from our apartment because he was irresposible financially and would fight me every time I voiced my concerns. We managed to find another apartment and he finally admitted he had a problem handling money and allowed me to have control over the finances, but that only lasted a short time. We still fought, though, and it was mostly because of finances, but there were other issues involved. I got more and more frustrated as time went on but my feelings for him never changed. He's made a lot of mistakes, and I'll admit, so have I. My major issue is that I have a problem controlling my temper when I get frustrated. However, his major problems were making mistakes that put us in financial jeopardy. He's also lied to me and kept things from me (including a drug problem he's had for years and I only recently found out about it). Each time he screwed up, though, I always forgave him and gave him chances to make it up, which wasn't very easy. I've always overlooked the mistakes and each time I gave him another chance, he'd improve for a while, then things would go back to the way they were. Depsite all of that I would still give him another chance because I love him so much and felt that if I gave it enough time, eventually, things would improve for good. When I was pregnant with our son, he left and moved in with his dad, and even accused me of cheating on him and saying the baby wasn't him. He finally admitted he was wrong and came back home, but the stress caused complications with the pregnancy and the baby died in the womb. That was a really dark time for both of us and we still haven't gotten over the loss. He left me again 6 months after the death of our son, but he came back again and we started marriage counseling. That lasted all of 2 months before he took a job as a commercial truck driver. Things were good between us, even though finances were still in the toilet. Or so I thought. One day about 7 months ago, he suddenly asks for a divorce and after talking things out he admitted that he cheated on me once while he was out on the road and he felt like I didn't deserve someone like him. He left the divorce decision up to me but I couldn't find it in my heart to end our relationship because of how much I love him. He was and still is very upset about this but I never called it quits. Recently I got into an argument with my mother concerning him. I should point out that I lost my job and we were unable to renew the lease to our apartment so my daughter and I are living with her now until we can get another place. She and I haven't gotten along since her divorce from my father when I was 9 and even though she's never openly admitted it, I can tell she doesn't like him. She's done things to put a strain on our relationship and after that last argument she told me to pack up my things and get out. My husband was in town during that time (due to my mother's issues he h Open Question: Ripping DVD TV show with Handbrake- Problem!?I'm trying to rip 2 episodes from a disc and they wont seem to work. There are a total of 6 episodes on the disc and the first 2 are the only ones that wont rip correctly. I've watched the DVD before and I know that the disc works right and there are no deep scratches on the disc. I've tried ripping from an ISO created from DVDdecrypter, ripping the episode by themselves in IFO mode. I've watched the Video before putting it through Handbrake and it plays, but once handbrake is done converting the video it wont play. Any help? I'm ripping it as MP4, H.264 with detelecine and decomb on default. Windows 7 x64 and up to date Handbrake. Figured it out. Reverted back to Handbrake version 0.9.3 and was able to rip them with out a problem. Left this open for anyone else who might ever have this problem. Open Question: So after this guy and me had a connection he just ignored me?This is really bugging me. I'm not really that upset, more disappointed in him....and it actually made me laugh for quite a bit. I've known him for the last 5 months...We almost dated once, but he wanted to jump straight into a relationship....when i really would rather get to know somebody before that (and he was 'needy' at the time, which was annoying). Anyway, about 2 weeks ago we began to talk to each other more than normal again...Last friday he told me that he liked me again...and i'm like i like you to, but i'd like to still at least take it slow.. Well he wanted me to hang out with his friends and him, and i couldn't then. Then sunday we talked again...he had told me that he wanted to hang out and that we should plan to hang out some day this week. Well this week was completely weird. Tuesday everything was going good..Wednesday was sorta weird, he really wouldn't talk to me at school, he just ignored me...but when I got on facebook...it was completely different. He just kept talking to me...for hours. We had actually settled alot of stuff out,,, Thursday....he ignored me at school yet again (i see him a few times a day, but we usually would talk whenever we could in person...). He gave me a horrible looking glare to though, it kinda was like an angry hating glare... I knew something was up then... When I got home that day, and got on fb...his status was lie 'talking to her, she's amazing'....and i'm just thinking what?.....and yesterday I found out they're a couple... So really i'm just sitting here thinking what the hell. I know that that I had made a good decision of being cautious of him (kind of why i wanted to take things slow...plus i had a bad vibe about him for along time), but this just amazes me... I really don't understand it that much, just how he could flip-flop like this when we had actually really started to connect more. I have a problem actually having this kind of connection with a guy, amd it hurts to know he did this... I don;t want to say anything because it just kind of makes me feeling weird...at the same time I want to say a whole lot...it's confusing. I mean, i'm over it in some sense, but at the same time it hurt me cause i really did like him...and it kind of lowers my opinion of him too (disappointing..). I wasn't playing hard to get, i just didn't want to rush things....Why would he do this though? Shouldn't I be happy that at least i didn't have to actually be with him like together...I don't even know. Open Question: Im getting sick of my boyfriend?ok so me and my boyfriend have went through alot of shit. weve been goin out for almost 5 months. he has realy bad history with girls but he tells me its not true. i let it go before we started dating and things went realy well for about 2 months. after 2 months all this stuff kept happening. were finaly though all of that stuff. we have been off and on too. he almost broke up wit me. but he decided not to. then i broke up with him but he met up with me when i was someware and he was like look i love u soo much i cant stand to not be with you i miss you. and so i took him bak because i did miss him too. now the new problem is he never calls me anymore and i always have to ask him if we are going to hang out and make plans. the weird thing is he only texts me and says all this sweet stuff. but y not call????? i talked to him about this about a week ago. he was like im sorry we dont talk as much ive been busy with basketball everynight. he said i can call if u want me too. and i said yea i jus miss talking to you. so after that talk he has been texting me alot more. but no calling????? wtf??? i just dont understand him anymore. its like i cant let him go because everytime i do we still need eachother. i just dont no what to do its rreally just starting to make me derpressed all the time. plz help?????? thankyou Open Question: Help with ex boyfriend! Please!?Okay, so I broke up with my ex boyfriend about 2 months ago. It was a really sour brake up and he was really upset about it because he didn't agree to it. (I'm 16 by the way.) About a week ago I started talking to him again because I wanted to get a shirt back that he had of mine, and we started to talk. He really wants to get back together with me, and we hung out. Before we hung out I felt like I had no feelings for him at all, but when we did it reminded me of old times and we ended up kissing. He kept on asking me over and over again if I loved him and such,( we dated for 10 months) and when he kept on asking him I told him that ofcourse I still love him because I do. You don't just stop loving someone even though you aren't together. So he is convinced that we are going to get back together, and that we just have to work out the problems that we had. But I'm not sure if I want to get back together. I'm afraid that in a relationship I won't be free because the last time I wasn't and that is the main reason why I broke up with him. also, I'm starting to feel that I don't know if I love him in that way, but moreso in a "I really care about you" way... please help me on what to do =/ I feel rotten like I shouldn't have talked to him in the first place. I really don't want to hurt him... HELP! More Recent Articles |
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