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Open Question: How can I have a love life while living with my parents? and more... Open Question: How can I have a love life while living with my parents?So I am dating this guy right now, we are both 21 and trying to finish college, and save up money to move out…but as of now, we are both living with our parents. It's getting kind of frustrating because we never really have the privacy to be intimate with each other..like hooking up in a car at this age just seems a little childish lol. anyone else ever have this problem, what you think that we can do? and please, no rude answers…yes, I live with my parents. but I am working a lot so I can move out soon. thanks in advance for your advice. Open Question: Do you think that the following confirmed social trend is a good thing?For men with degrees, who want marriage and children ("marriage" includes long term relationships with a woman): The men date and sometimes marry, women with degrees of a similar or slightly lower age, in the first 3-5 years after they leave University. However after this period, the single men remaining, tend to start dating women younger than them, many of whom do not have degrees and may marry them. The remaining men who then get into their 30's, often marry women 3-8 years younger than them, the majority of whom do not have degrees. This then means that Tradesmen often marry women who do not have degrees (as normal) and these women are skilled, semi-skilled or unskilled. Unskilled men who want to get married are then left with fewer women to choose from. However this is not too much of a problem, as there are many more unskilled women that want marriage and a family than unskilled men who want the same. Of course, men with degrees often opt out of marriage and children altogether. However these men are not included in the above trend. The "casualty" of this trend are are mainly a lot of unmarried women with degrees who want marriage and children. However, this is not a problem to society as these women continue working (and occasionally opt to become single mothers). Open Question: So this guy just started to ignore me after things started to head in the right direction?This is really bugging me. I'm not really that upset, more disappointed in him....and it actually made me laugh for quite a bit. I've known him for the last 5 months...We almost dated once, but he wanted to jump straight into a relationship....when i really would rather get to know somebody before that (and he was 'needy' at the time, which was annoying). Anyway, about 2 weeks ago we began to talk to each other more than normal again...Last friday he told me that he liked me again...and i'm like i like you to, but i'd like to still at least take it slow.. Well he wanted me to hang out with his friends and him, and i couldn't then. Then sunday we talked again...he had told me that he wanted to hang out and that we should plan to hang out some day this week. Well this week was completely weird. Tuesday everything was going good..Wednesday was sorta weird, he really wouldn't talk to me at school, he just ignored me...but when I got on facebook...it was completely different. He just kept talking to me...for hours. We had actually settled alot of stuff out,,, Yesterday....he ignored me at school yet again (i see him a few times a day, but we usually would talk whenever we could in person...). He gave me a horrible looking glare to though, it kinda was like an angry hating glare... I knew something was up then... When I got home that day, and got on fb...his status was lie 'talking to her, she's amazing'....and i'm just thinking what?.....Today I found out they're a couple... So really i'm just sitting here thinking what the hell. I know that that I had made a good decision of being cautious of him (kind of why i wanted to take things slow...plus i had a bad vibe about him for along time), but this just amazes me... I really don't understand it that much, just how he could flip-flop like this when we had actually really started to connect more. I have a problem actually having this kind of connection with a guy, amd it hurts to know he did this... I don;t want to say anything because it just kind of makes me feeling weird...at the same time I want to say a whole lot...it's confusing. I mean, i'm over it in some sense, but at the same time it hurt me cause i really did like him...and it kind of lowers my opinion of him too (disappointing..). Why would he do this though? Shouldn't I be happy that at least i didn't have to actually be with him like together...I don't even know. Open Question: ADVICE?? Do i have a reason to feel insecure and doubt him?I've been "talking" with this guy and we like each other. We want to date each other, but I tell him i'm not ready to 'officially' date. BUT: I only tell him this because I don't think he's ready to 'really' date someone. I'm monogamous because I like him, but when he goes out of town and parties with friends, if some girl throws herself at him, he'll go for it (especially if she was a past hook up). He doesn't have sex or get blown - he limits it to just making out (still, wft??!! why would he do this if he likes me?? please read on )... He's been out of town twice and he hooked up with the same girl both times ... He's honest when I ask him about it. He tells me that it's just a hook up and he doesn't like them the way he likes me. His reason is that we're not dating otherwise he wouldn't do it ... He tells me he wants to be exclusive, but how can I trust him after this ... I don't want to be with someone who just does things because of a sense of entitlement. If he really liked me and doesn't want to loose me, why would he risk loosing me by hooking up with someone else?? Why wouldn't he even consider this??? The second time he did it, I just cut it off with him and he was miserable. I was too, but i did it out of self-respect. We got back together because i missed him and he missed me ... and becuase the first time he did it, i didn't let him know how much it REALLY bothered me: i just told him i was upset, but understood we're not exclusive and left it at that ... I'm glad that he's super honest and up front about it, but this makes me really insecure ... I like him a lot, but it's not good if he just makes me insecure, right ... my story goes on ... Before he went out of town this month for two weeks, he told me when I asked him that he already anticipated hooking up with someone else ... I told him I understood we're not together and official, but I'd like to know after he fools around with someone ... I asked him to just text me how far he went with a girl if it happens ... I asked him not to talk to me, to just notify me about it ... I talked to him about this and how i felt and that i had a problem with it and that I'd prefer to give my attention to someone else cause this is a big problem. I told him being "offical" shouldn't be as important as the actions he takes to get there. I was sad and hurt and i just wanted to drop everything, so in turn he said he wouldn't do it. He told me he wouldn't hook up with anyone cause he likes me and he doesn't want to ruin what we have ... How can be with him after this ... the fact that he wanted to make out with other people while he's out of town?? Is this partially my fault?? Do guys really just don't understand stuff like this?? I know girls make it complicated sometimes and i feel like that's what I'm doing... Every time he text or calls me, I get nervous and anxious that I dont' want to see what he's sent in the message or even talk to him - so far he's just contacted me to chat and say hi or that he misses me. But i feel so insecure and I have doubts ... should i have doubts ... what should i do?? He hasn't hooked-up with anyone, but it's only been a few days. I really like him (A LOT) and it feels real in comparison to others I've been with, but I feel like because of all this maybe i should just drop it and take my chances with someone else and not giving dating a shot with this guy ... any advice?? Am I over-reacting?? Before the break was the only time i actually expressed my feeling fully about all this ... he said he'll try his best to be on good behavior for me ... but if we end up dating, i don't want to be in a relationship t be built on 'this'...the concept that he won't fool around with anyone while dating becuase it's wrong. Just that, not: he won't fool around with anyone while dating becuase it's wrong and he likes me enough not to want to deviate and jeapordize anything ... Am i over reacting?? I still feel insecure. Should i just cut if off all together because he makes me feel this way ... being insecure it's a good feeling to have if we eventually start dating ... any advice?? Open Question: I can't tell if I like him or not?So I've been talking to this guy for about a month now and we recently started dating in the past couple of weeks. We've hung out and gone on dates pretty much every to every other day and I've had a pretty good time on every date. The only problem is, I'm unsure if I really like him. He's cute, funny, intelligent, and such a gentleman. I have every reason to like him but I'm still uncertain. I know he likes me and I think I might just be getting scared as I usually do when things start to get more serious. I usually have a great time when I'm with him, but then the second he leaves I start to question everything about him and our time together. I'm so confused about what to do, I don't want to lead him on but I also want to see if I really do like him. More Recent Articles
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