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Open Question: How do I get on the track of self improvement as far as my relationships are concerned? and more... Open Question: How do I get on the track of self improvement as far as my relationships are concerned?I have had about five boyfriends over the past five years. May not seem like much but keep in mind two of those were two weeks long. I don't know what my deal is, well that's a lie mabey I do. You see my dad cheated on my mom. He was a strong Christian man (or so I thought) but my first year of middle school he moved in with a woman he claimed to love (my parents were married at the time) and middle school was a really hard time for me, not only was I practically failing all of my classes -due to lack of motivation- but my whole family was changing.. anyways it was that summer that I had my first relationship. I was very young, yes I know. But at the time I didn't feel I was to young. He was (and is) very cute. He is in my youth group, and I liked him A LOT but when it came time for me to kiss him I was hesitant. I was silly and young I didn't feel ready (which I don't blame myself for) but he is two years older than me (so he was in his second year of high school at the time) and I think he realized I was to young. So as soon as we got home from out youth function (two weeks later) he broke up with me. And even though I didn't have much of a right to be, I was devastated. My next relationship was a rebound sadly. He is an amazing guy, but at the time I really just wanted to get over my last boyfriend. We are great friends now (he also is in my youth group) But agian when I felt it was time to kiss. I broke it off. huh... So then came my freshman year and I went out with a guy at my school. Well my school was small and therefore we had limited physical contact. We never hung out after school. So again that was not much of a relationship. And we never kissed, because of course I broke up with him. It was a year and a half later (still with virgin lips, haha) in my tenth grade summer that I went out with another guy (also in my youth group- who happened to be very good friends with my second boyfriend) he was awesome. Still is. But I wasn't feeling the "magic" and to be honest hadn't felt that spark sense my first boyfriend. After a few weeks it was over, again without a kiss. So now we come to the summer of my junior year... I had just gotten home after living with my dad and said girlfriend. I lived with them for six months before I finally cracked. (the reason I lived with them was because I was wanting to transfer to a christian school and there was none where I lived with my mom.) I don't regret living with them. It was hard, but taught me a lot and made me the person I am today. Anywhoo... My youth group went to a church function and I started to really talk to a guy I had always dismissed as a "buddy" he was easy to talk to and very funny. I started to develop feelings for him and told his friend (who was my second boyfriend. But like I said at that point we were very good friends and still are) I asked him not to say anything to the guy I liked. But like the butt he is (haha) he told him. Well (his name was Mike) and he was very shocked, he for some reason or another didnt think he had a chance with me. We went out for six months. He was my first (and only) kiss. One time we were texting and he messaged me something that I thought meant he was going to break up with me. It was a misunderstanding... but I literally had the biggest panic attack of my life. That was how much I liked him. I think at times I was dangerously close to loving him at times. But he had a scare where he almost ended up moving. He had gone on a trip with his family to the town they wanted to move to, and we had very little contact in the time he was away (two weeks)... Well I think we had been dating for about four months at that point. It was then our relationship started to slip. When he came back he was sort of distant. Well the month after that we had a big youth function we always go to every year. It lasts two weeks. But right before we left, I freaked out and broke up with him. He had been acting so strange and had said somethings that really bothered me. While we were there (at the youth function) I had such a hard time. I was going through some more family drama and I missed him so much. I told him so and we ended up getting back together. Well about a month after that we were talking on the phone. Like we did almost every night. He told me some really cruel things about the time we had broken up. I was really hurt, but I pushed aside our problems for the moment and tried to focus on how our relationship had been. Our relationship was still very strained... And after our six month relationship we broke up. To what I would like to call a mutual break up. It was over the phone (lame I know) and after wards he was really nice. He told me not to be a stranger and that I should call and text him often. I was hopeful that we could be good friends. Well the first time I saw him, lets just say he was less than friendly. He ignored me most of the time and made fun of me the rest of the time. It didnt put our relationship on Open Question: How do I get my boyfriend to see it from my POV?My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half And for that entire year he has had problems with two of my best guy friends They run in different crowds, and don't particularly like each other, but my guys friends are at least civil to my boyfriend when I'm around. My boyfriend hates that I hang around them. He thinks that they are a bad influence, but they have been my friends forever. My two best guy friends are kinda druggies, but they are fun to hang around, and it's not like they ever push me to do it with them. My boyfriend is an athlete. He drinks, but he doesn't do drugs, and he only pays attention to my guy friends' reputation, not what they are really like. Jayde W I wouldn't look to them as a role model But, I'm not influenced by friends and my boyfriend knows that Open Question: I've been single for 2 years with no prospects. Starting to feel hopeless and desperate. LONELY.?I'm 31 and not unattractive. People have said I'm attractive. I have a young son and my ex left me two years ago. We no longer hear from him. He's off dating his 4th 20 year old while I raise our son, alone. I'm in nursing school full-time, work part-time as a secretary and have little free-time otherwise. I'm feeling lonely! I'm a little shy and the idea of dating makes me nervous... but I would like a companion. I haven't had sex in 2 years! I'm starting to worry that my desperation is not helping me. I don't think I appear desperate with others. If anything, I appear shy and at worst, if they misinterpret my shyness... distant or uninterested. I don't go out much because I have my son who is 3. I'm starting to feel abnormal... others seem to find someone no problem... me, I'm not having much luck. I think I come across as insecure if someone talks to me... because I AM. I've done the whole being single and on my own thing and love myself, blah, blah, blah... but I would like someone to share my life with. Is it normal to be single for this long with no prospects?! What's wrong? Open Question: Virgo lied to me, me Cap got mad, very mad and he wants to end things - What to do?** I am asking this question from an astrological point of view, if you do not believe in it, Please do not answer, I am asking advices on what to do according to my partner's sign. Thank you ** He is: Sun and moon in Virgo. Mercury in Libra, Venus in Lion. I am a Capricorn. We have been dating for a year and half, he always told the truth, but a week ago, he started hanging out with his new friends more and he started lying to me about it. At first I didn't know he was lying but after I pushed him he admitted it. He said he lied to me because he didn't wanna hurt me, he didn't know what to do. He is having a lot of fun with them, (3 males) and I got mad because I asked him to stay home and talk to me instead but he went out to see them and drink. Two days ago, I got so mad that I pointed all the flaws in our relationship, told him that lying is bad and I ended up making him feel like turd. Not on purpose, but I was mad and the things I said made him feel that way. I didn't want that, but I just got so mad that he lied. Now, he wants to end things with me, even after he thought about it. After he cooled down. He doesn't seem to understand that his lies are what causing our problems and why I got mad at him. He does not understand my emotional side of it. How can I make him understand? Thank you very much, "Also thru experience Virgos like to twist things/words around in their minds so that they are not the ones at fault.." This is TRUE! Open Question: 4 guys dumped me after a week of dating? What's my problem?Ok here's every honest truth about me: Ok I'm 16, 36C, 110lbs, blonde, blue/hazel eyes can laugh at all of the crude guy-jokes, understand guys, not shy at all, approaches guys constantly, very flirtatious but still modest, nice, never would hurt someone's feelings unless they hurt mine, I'm very athletic, play cross-country, and pregnant with 2nd baby. Open Question: can anyone help me with this wow problem?well I can't download wow I did at first but then I wanted to make the screen smaller but afterwards I did I deleted it and it came up really big and now it will not let me open it because it says "world of warcraft is unable to start up 3D acceleration. please make sure DirectX 9.0c is installed and your video card driver is up to date" what should I do? Open Question: What do you do when someone is asking for forgiveness and you are not ready?Two years ago I got out of a destructive disturbing relationship...It was doomed from the day we meet. I was rich college kid with a secret drug problem and he was the bad boy from the wrong side of the tracks. I believe we both hated ourselves so much that we fed off each other as a validation of forms. He was very manipulative and let me feel that pain i needed to feel alive since i was hurting so bad in side from lack of self confidence. He called me every name in the book, cheated, brain washed me, beat me on occasion and controlled every aspect of my life. If i smiled he told me I was a fool if I laughed or acted happy he told me I was embarrassing myself. I gave up everything and anything for him my parents were to scared of losing me that they just allowed it to go on. I supported him and they supported me financially. During this time I had number of run ins with bad health and car accidents I was hospitalized for a total of 40 days during our relationship during my hospitalization he was still tormenting me. I needed him he was my drug since i stopped using for him. I was so scared of life with out him it was almost like death to think of...But eventually things spun into a stage of no return. After one particularly violent and insane fight he left said i left him no choice. when he was the one who cheated on me while i was hospitalized for internal bleeding he caused. I was renting him a apartment and he packed what he had sold what he could (no job no money just me supporting him) and moved 1200 miles away to live with his sons mother. I cried and begged him to stay but after a while i was relieved he was still controlling me through the phone and internet. Threatening me calling me all hours of the night..if i did not pick up he would call my parents house in the middle of the night tell them i was out doing drugs (i was not!) something i never touched again...He made me feel that i deserved all this that I wronged him..I might have told a few white lies out of fear but i lived by his rules! Eventually i started to break away stop the phone calls delete email accounts went back to finish me degree. This infuriated him..He found a way to fly home and lure me in again.. Showed up at my job talked to me things felt right I always loved him in a sick way we were soul mates...He is dark and mysterious, deep and see's right through me...We ended up having sex during his Visit and he secretly taped it...When he left I realized I could not doing this anymore. I needed to live for me he was living with his son and his mother they had a life I knew we could never really be together my family would disown me and they are number one! He was angry when i cut off communication and plastered this sex video all over the internet, sent it to friends of mine and my own brother. When he found out i was casually dating someone through the grape vine he sent it to him. I never contacted him to yell that is what he wanted I just decided to cut him off for life...Now here we are... almost 2 years latter. I am in a new relationship..It is completely the opposite of what me and my ex had. I am content and my life is quite (boring maybe by safe and calm) I look at my ex's myspace still b/c he is constantly posting things about me poems, quotes pictures anything to try to get my attention he is hurting but i am not sure if it is b/c he lost control or b/c he loves and misses me. He has been home twice since our last blow out and the first time he tried very hard to seek me out i was terrified of him. The last time he did not and I think this got to me i emailed him to say i forgive you but then realized i do not forgive him and had such bad anxiety thinking that he could get in my head again that i deleted my email account right away before i could get a response. Now just this friday he sent me a very mature email saying he loves me and forgives me (for what i did idk) and he wants me forgive him he has changed and wants to make peace that he is joining the military and that i would be proud of all he has accomplished he misses my smile exc..It sounded so real but he is a sociopath. I don't know what to do if I should let go of this and forgive him, I am so scared! my new relationship is suffering from my past, I am constantly angry and mean b/c i am so scared... I need help. I have no insurance and cant see a therapist I just need some outside advice...Can you really forgive someone who ruined you??? Open Question: I hate that I don't trust men but how do I change?I don't know how to feel comfortable around men anymore. The few that I've been brave enough to actually get to know always end up just wanting a fling and have no lasting interest in me beyond the physical. I've stopped dating because most men seem to want to go straight to their apartment rather than having a real "going out" date. And when I encounter these men it only makes me more distrustful. It's like its supports my fear that guys only want to use women for sex, and have no interest in a emotional investment anymore. Worst yet i know its effecting my own self confidence. I feel I'm getting more negative everyday. I don't want to get to a point where I hate men.( I believe that's so unattractive) I want to get back to the point when I was truly indifferent and didn't think in terms of men vs women. I miss not taking things so seriously. How do I fix this problem it's making me unhappy. Open Question: Egypt: LOOOL....read this! Haha?O.k I got another one of those emails that are like you know your 3rab when.......anyways I thought it was funny so I thought i'd share. Enjoy! You know you're an Arab when............. 1. A visa is not a credit card. ... 2. You refer to your dad's friends as 3amo... 3. You have an endless supply of pistachios, dates, and seeds... 5. You curse at your teachers or strangers in Arabic. .... 6. You can spot an Arab a mile away and they have spotted you because they keep staring... 7. After a family meal, the women fight to death over who should wash the dishes while the men sit on their behinds and discuss politics, waiting for their tea/coffee.. 8. Your parents want you to become a doctor or engineer. ... 9. You use your forehead and eyebrow(s) to point something out... 10. Your mother yells at the top of her lungs to call you to dinner even if you're in the next room.... 11. You have at least thirty cousins. ... 12. You arrive one or two hours late to a party and think it's normal 13. You are standing next to the largest suitcases at the Airport 14. You talk for an hour at the front door when leaving someone's house.... 15. You say bye 17 times on the phone. ... 16. When your parents meet strangers and talk for a few minutes, you discover they know one of your uncles back home. ... 17. Your parents don't realize phone connections to foreign countries have improved in the last two decades, and still scream at the top of their lungs when making long distance calls. .. 18. Your mother does everything for you if you are male... 19. You do all the housework and cooking if you are female... 20. Your relatives alone could populate a small city..... 21. You still came back home to live with your parents after you graduate... 22. You teach Westerners swearwords in Arabic 23. You always say "open the light" instead of "turn the light on". 24. Your parents drink 6 cups of tea a day... 25. You've heard Amro Diab's "Ya nour el ein" 764363 times in ur life 28. You go to Arabic Resturants, tell the owners you're Arab, and think you're going to get free food. 29. You can smell your dad's cologne from the next room. 30. You've gotten a slipper thrown at you, a wooden spoon thrown at you, or any other odd objects. 31. You say "bolice" and "beoble" for "police" and "people" 32. Your father swears at you with words that effect him 33. At weddings it takes the bride and groom 4 hours to kiss all the Guests 34.You act like you want to pay, but in reality you hate to pay 35.You own and/or play the tubleh 36. Your Mom has a "creative" quick nickname for you like: "Susu", "Natoosheh?, or "Tuntooneh" 37. Your favorite food is ma7shi, but you are embarrassed to tell your friends that you ate leaves for dinner 39.You love Arabic music at anytime of the day 40.You have a problem saying the English word tease, because it means something else in Arabic 41.You know at least one Mohamed 42.Your mom calls you mom 43.You watch the hell out of Arabic Satellite 44.You cook a meal that lasts 3 days 45.All your relatives live near by, and most are in walking distance 46.you love Um Kalthoom and if you don't, your dad makes you listen to her and translates the lyrics into English so you appreciate her music 47.You put olive oil in and on everything and brag about how healthy it is 48.Your middle name is your father's first name 49.If you're an Arab woman you dye your hair an obviously fake shades 50.You're proud to be an Arab The reasons the numbers aren't right are because I took some out ;) So what do you think????? I personally disagree with a few haha Open Question: sort of long.. but need advice, hopefully you can help.. or have experience with this?So my wife has been married twice b4, 1st was with a paranoid schiztsophrenic for about 3 months, 2nd was to a controlling manipulative but otherwise caring father who I wouldn't call an alcoholic but he's had his ups and downs, not to mention chewing tobacco, and she claims he was into porn for a bit not sure how it went, she loved him however and it lasted 14 years and she just couldn't keep going through the stress and problems he presented etc. she has two kids from him. Then she got a divorce and about 1 1/2 years later she found me online, went on a date the next day and we had a nice kiss she called me right after and said I owed her another date lol.. She drove 50 miles to come see me and we played basketball.. so the next date we made out for like hours, and cuddled and we never went past that.. I met her parents which actually didn't have a big deal with our age diff. & she met my family and we went on some double dates, then about 3 months into it we were heavily involved with each others life she invited me to her sisters for thanksgiving and she broke up with me after and a month later I was taking a nap and finally felt I was just getting over her and her phone accidentally dialed mine twice in a row, so I texted her and told her. She called back and wanted to know how I was doing etc. and asked if we could date again and I love her so I said yes. (bad decision) lol.. So things went back to heavy making out and dates etc. and we talked about getting married and what we wanted etc. 1 1/2 mo. later we got married. She got pregnant on our honeymoon, which was fine we wanted to have kids.. Well we were both on Paxil and she had to get off of it when we found out. She kept telling me she loved me and that within the first 15 days I'd done more for her than her ex did in 15 yrs. and like 2 weeks later she stopped sleeping in the same bed, and didn't like it when I told her I loved her, and she told me she was confused, and eventually she didn't love me anymore and told me, she also quit her nursing job. We went to marriage counseling and I got her onto Zoloft for the pregnancy, and now that she has the baby she just recently started back onto the Paxil. So it's been 5 weeks since the babys been born and she is nuetral towards me, she doesn't love or hate me she just takes care of our son and now that he's born she isn't bringing up divorce every day etc. but she just wants to take care of him. I don't want a divorce but it's like she's sick or something and doesn't treat me like were really married, and I live at my parents alot except for weekends and I just stay in the other room. Open Question: I'm dying to tell her but it's not the right time.?I really really really want to tell my crush, that I have had for years, how I feel about her. One problem is she has a boyfriend (he is in college, we're sophomores in high school) and they have had a long relationship that seems to be going well. Another problem is there isn't a single girl out in the world right now who will date me. And a lot of people have said I'm one of the most interesting human beings they have every met. But when ever I ask or plan on asking a girl, I find out that there's another guy. What to do I really like her, I've given a couple hints that I like her and a lot of people know that I like her. Should I just tell her? And any other suggestions? PS: She is way out of my league. Open Question: Do I just need to keep being patient with her?So my wife has been married twice b4, 1st was with a paranoid schiztsophrenic for about 3 months, 2nd was to a controlling manipulative but otherwise caring father who I wouldn't call an alcoholic but he's had his ups and downs, not to mention chewing tobacco, and she claims he was into porn for a bit not sure how it went, she loved him however and it lasted 14 years and she just couldn't keep going through the stress and problems he presented etc. she has two kids from him. Then she got a divorce and about 1 1/2 years later she found me online, went on a date the next day and we had a nice kiss she called me right after and said I owed her another date lol.. She drove 50 miles to come see me and we played basketball.. so the next date we made out for like hours, and cuddled and we never went past that.. I met her parents which actually didn't have a big deal with our age diff. & she met my family and we went on some double dates, then about 3 months into it we were heavily involved with each others life she invited me to her sisters for thanksgiving and she broke up with me after and a month later I was taking a nap and finally felt I was just getting over her and her phone accidentally dialed mine twice in a row, so I texted her and told her. She called back and wanted to know how I was doing etc. and asked if we could date again and I love her so I said yes. (bad decision) lol.. So things went back to heavy making out and dates etc. and we talked about getting married and what we wanted etc. 1 1/2 mo. later we got married. She got pregnant on our honeymoon, which was fine we wanted to have kids.. Well we were both on Paxil and she had to get off of it when we found out. She kept telling me she loved me and that within the first 15 days I'd done more for her than her ex did in 15 yrs. and like 2 weeks later she stopped sleeping in the same bed, and didn't like it when I told her I loved her, and she told me she was confused, and eventually she didn't love me anymore and told me, she also quit her nursing job. We went to marriage counseling and I got her onto Zoloft for the pregnancy, and now that she has the baby she just recently started back onto the Paxil. So it's been 5 weeks since the babys been born and she is nuetral towards me, she doesn't love or hate me she just takes care of our son and now that he's born she isn't bringing up divorce every day etc. but she just wants to take care of him. I don't want a divorce but it's like she's sick or something and doesn't treat me like were really married, and I live at my parents alot except for weekends and I just stay in the other room. Open Question: What do you think about my situation?So my wife has been married twice b4, 1st was with a paranoid schiztsophrenic for about 3 months, 2nd was to a controlling manipulative but otherwise caring father who I wouldn't call an alcoholic but he's had his ups and downs, not to mention chewing tobacco, and she claims he was into porn for a bit not sure how it went, she loved him however and it lasted 14 years and she just couldn't keep going through the stress and problems he presented etc. she has two kids from him. Then she got a divorce and about 1 1/2 years later she found me online, went on a date the next day and we had a nice kiss she called me right after and said I owed her another date lol.. She drove 50 miles to come see me and we played basketball.. so the next date we made out for like hours, and cuddled and we never went past that.. I met her parents which actually didn't have a big deal with our age diff. & she met my family and we went on some double dates, then about 3 months into it we were heavily involved with each others life she invited me to her sisters for thanksgiving and she broke up with me after and a month later I was taking a nap and finally felt I was just getting over her and her phone accidentally dialed mine twice in a row, so I texted her and told her. She called back and wanted to know how I was doing etc. and asked if we could date again and I love her so I said yes. (bad decision) lol.. So things went back to heavy making out and dates etc. and we talked about getting married and what we wanted etc. 1 1/2 mo. later we got married. She got pregnant on our honeymoon, which was fine we wanted to have kids.. Well we were both on Paxil and she had to get off of it when we found out. She kept telling me she loved me and that within the first 15 days I'd done more for her than her ex did in 15 yrs. and like 2 weeks later she stopped sleeping in the same bed, and didn't like it when I told her I loved her, and she told me she was confused, and eventually she didn't love me anymore and told me, she also quit her nursing job. We went to marriage counseling and I got her onto Zoloft for the pregnancy, and now that she has the baby she just recently started back onto the Paxil. So it's been 5 weeks since the babys been born and she is nuetral towards me, she doesn't love or hate me she just takes care of our son and now that he's born she isn't bringing up divorce every day etc. but she just wants to take care of him. I don't want a divorce but it's like she's sick or something and doesn't treat me like were really married, and I live at my parents alot except for weekends and I just stay in the other room. Open Question: I Like My Friend's Sister?My best friend's sister (We'll call her Brittany) is in 8th grade and I am a Sophomore. When I was in 8th grade, I realized that I was attracted to her. I haven't acted upon those feelings because she was too young and we didn't spend much time together. Now my feelings for her are stronger and this has led to some struggles with myself. When I was a Freshman, I watched all the girls in my grade date the Juniors and inevitably give the Junior guys what they were looking for. I told myself I'd never do something like that. The problem is, I wasn't thinking about Brittany. I've contemplated this over and over again. I know I wouldn't have sex with her because I'm a Christian and besides that, I wouldn't want to screw up my friendship with my best friend (We'll call him Kody). However, it is the perception of it and what her parents might think. This leads me to my next problem. Kody and I have been friends since 4th grade. He found out once that I liked Brittany and didn't seem mad about it, more like confused as to why. However, I wasn't prepared to act upon my feelings then ad he knew it, so now if I were to be serious about this, I don't know what his reaction would be. Tonight, I slipped in a hypothetical situation where I was dating his sister and he told me if I did, he'd kill me. Also, I know I'd never intentionally hurt Brittany, most people don't intend to hurt people, but it might happen. If it did, I know he'd take her side and even if he didn't, her parents would which would be just about as bad. So should I go out with her or not? If I do, how do I go about telling him and what do I do if me and her break up? More Recent Articles
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