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Open Question: How do you get a guy back into your life? and more... Open Question: How do you get a guy back into your life?I am in love with 2 men and they're not in my life anymore...here's the story: I met a guy at homecoming last year and it was love at first sight. He was the sweetest guy i've ever met and he's funny, energetic, lovable and everything i want...However on New Year's Eve i through a party and one of my friends invited her boyfriend over. He flirted with me and i couldn't help but flirt back. In the end we fell in love. Two months ago I was dating my first true love and we had everything. But my second true love came into my life. For some odd reason i longed to be in a relationship more with my second true love than my first. So...they were calling each other horrible names and i had had enough. I couldn't take it anymore and i said to both of them that i needed a break. My second true love was understanding by my first, not so much. He swore and cussed his way out of my life and told me i wasn't his problem anymore and he told me to never talk to him again. Now i a little while after dated my second true love which didn't last as long as i'd hoped because his father told him to break up with me or he would. I'd soon fallen into depression and i was having a lot of difficulties in my life. My second true love was talking to me and i asked him to stop talking to me for a little while. He cussed me out also. I then apologized and asked for forgiveness but he told me to not talk to him...what am i supposed to do?? How do i get them back into my life?? Open Question: What does it exactly mean to "like" someone?I am a single eigtheen year old girl and to be honest have never dated. I met this one guy recently, and I really like him...I think. My only problem is that he isn't really what I would call attractive. But everything else is cool. And I think he likes me. That matters a lot to me. My heartstops when I see him, my throat goes dry when I try to talk about him, and I turn bright red and nervous whenever I talk to him. I'm not a junior high school girl. I want to be real. Am I proud? Or is it all in my head? I want to get to know him and see if things work out. But is it vital that you are attracted to someone? What exactly does it mean to "like" someone? Any advice would be very much appreciated. Open Question: I don't know what to do...so confused?My boyfriend and I dated for 7 months, I loved him, and he broke up with me last saturday. I saw it coming, but didn't want it to happen, because we could have fixed the problems we were having. I'm a freshman in college, and he's a senior in high school, but I'm close to home and I visit often. This is where I got stupid. Two or three days after we broke up, I was on campus hanging out with one of my guy friends who I knew liked me while I was dating my ex (but I told him to respect boundaries)....and he kissed me, and I let him. I know there's potential for us. But I also knew it was too soon to tell. Now, only a week after breaking up with me, my ex is talking to me (via skype chat). He asked if we could talk on the phone, and I said no, that I wasn't ready for that. Then he told me he didn't know how I feel about him, and he was worried he would make a wrong move...he said he missed me, and I told him we're both confused, and we need to have a face-to-face conversation. He agreed, and wants to talk asap. I'm home for about a month, so I can do that. From the way he's acting, it sounds like he wants me back...I'm afraid, though, that getting back with him would be a mistake...but I'm ALSO afraid that giving him up would be a bad idea, especially if I give him up for a potential relationship that might not work out. I do love him, but I don't want to be hurt again. Any advice as to what I should say to him? What I should do about the other guy? Thank you so much....this is an awful dilemma. Open Question: Finally i'm having the nerve to face it...or should i?I'm an 18 year old girl in my last year of high school and will be going off to college next year. However my case is a little complicated. I'm the typical good girl, never had a boyfriend nor dated but unfotunately i have been exposed to sex (visually). At 14 i randomly searched to know what sex was ran upon a sex video that i was intrigued with and have been watching porn for a while, (not everyday, once a month or once a week). However i felt extremely guilty and developed anxiety (panick attacks) and have been dealing with it. The problem that i'm facing is that I am very afraid to date now and have sex. Especially have sex, those girls in the videos looked hurt and the whole thing looked uncomfortable. I'm totally scared since i know that i have to do it someday. I mean what are these feelings? am i crazy? will i never have sex?? Open Question: What exactly do you "have" to share with a significant other/fiance?I don't accept dates and I don't know if I ever will (I like guys, but even when I'm interested in someone I don't want to go out with him or have anything to do with him- aside from talking with him, I mean). My parents have a very messed-up marriage and my entire family is so judgmental of me that I worry about ending up in the same type of relationship (I'm indifferent to having a boyfriend, I could not care less if it never happens- I don't tell people that). My friends always tell me what they tell their boyfriends/girlfriends, and some of them tell them everything (I have a lot of older cousins as well, but since we're close they told me how they tell their fiances everything). Most of these people are pretty open about things in general, so is it just them? I'm very closed-off, I'm friendly so people mistakenly assume I'm exactly the person I seem to be on the surface (not their faults, I do that on purpose- not in a fake way, I really am that person as well as who I am inside). It made me think though, are you supposed to tell the person you're going to marry everything? For example, I sometimes still self-injure, but when I'm an adult I'll hopefully be over it, so why would I share that? Or, I deal with an eating disorder, but it's only an internal struggle, so why would someone else need to know? Or, past sexual abuse, it's over and done with, I handled it by myself and never told anyone, so why would I share that randomly just because I'd be going to marry someone? I just wonder about those three things really. I mean, aren't some things meant to be private? I've explained what I'm trying to ask so terribly, but I hope it makes sense. Also, I don't not admit to these things to hurt people, I do it to spare them from being uncomfortable and from burdening them (everyone has problems after-all, so why add mine to the mix?). Thank you for your understanding. I hope this is alright in this section, I wasn't exactly sure. And, I didn't know who else to ask because I only know people who either tell their partners everything or who tell them nothing. Thanks so much. Open Question: Christians, do you think God would punish me for this?This is for Christians, i don't need to hear anyone tell me God doesn't exist or i'm being stupid. So if you have something rude to say, please don't answer this question. First of all, i'm a born-again Christian. I'm 27 and was planning on waiting until marriage to have sex. I have had horrible luck with me, and it seems my luck just gets worse. Seems like no guy wants to wait, and all guys wanted to do was try to get me to have sex with them. I'm not a "everything but" kind of girl either. I wasn't out there doing oral sex or anything. It was like i was a challenge and no one wanted to invest time because sex wasn't an option. I even thought about it and told myself i at least wanted to be in love and engaged, so i would know i was only going to have sex with one person for the rest of my life. Anyway, i had guys telling me "you have to test drive the car before you buy it" or "i can't have a relationship without sex." So i kept weeding them out, but it seems like i would never find someone. Then i started talking to an old friend and we started see eachother. he was different and i actually saw myself with him in the future and was really starting to fall for him. I guess i fell in love with himn early because i already knew him from my past. He made me open up whereas before i was a closed book. He was sweet and sincere...only problem, he wanted sex. He said he couldn't have a relationship without sex. So eventually after a year of seeing him i decided to have sex with him. He said he needed sex to be in a relationship and i figured since i loved him we would eventually do it, so i gave in. I waited 26 years, and then gave it to him because i truly felt like i loved him. I always pray, and i was asking for God's guidance and i was putting it in his hands, and i knew it was wrong before marriage but i did it anyway. Honestly, i look around me and see so many people falling in love after they were only supposed to be a one night stand, or making babies then falling in love. Just seems like everyone does it backwards and i don't know what got into me but i did it backwards! I tried to justify why i kept having sex with him, feeling like there HAD to be a reason, even though he never made me his girl. Well turns out there was no reason, it just happened and now here i am after 3 years of giving him my all and he is with another girl and doesn't care less about me. Now i see all these guys that wanted to date me while i was wasting my time on him, and they are all happy in stable relationships, while i spent 3 years with a player! So now i'm 27 and have no one, and no kids, not married! I feel like i will never find someone and honestly, i can't see myself having sex with anyone but him, or wanting to be with anyone but him.I'm heartbroken and can't believe i ever trusted him and thought that i was making the right descison. I feel like i'll be alone forever :( Do you think God would punish me for this? And i passed up the guy i was meant to be with? I mean i knew it was wrong but i kept praying to get over him if he wasn't the one, to find the right guy, but still this guy stayed in my life, so honestly i thought it was right. Would God punish me for making this descision while still putting it in his hands, almost liek i tried to do things my way :( I feel horrible. Am i going to be alone forever? More Recent Articles
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