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Open Question: How does a man go about attracting women to him?

So traditionally women attract men to them and act as the selectors. I find the rule that men must be the pursuers and women the selectors to be silly and outdated. Rejection from some woman I don't know does not and would not bother me, but at the same time I don't ask women out because it puts me in a position to constantly be moving the relationship. I am not comfortable in the driver's seat of a relationship in that manner. I only want the woman that has shown some level of interest in me. I trust women's judgment of me far more than I trust my own judgment in women. I'm really not willing to ask women out for these reasons. Like most women won't ask men out under any circumstances. Why should it be seen as anymore lazy, cowardly or "not confident" for a man to have that exact same attitude? Initially, I figured that you feminists would agree with me and see that this is very clearly a societal gender role at work. If it were biological, dating wouldn't be different in some Eastern countries than it is here. But it is. It seems that 90% of the feminists here will not acknowledge the gender roles of dating simply because of how much the status quo benefits women. It's occurred to me that my beliefs are not the problem. Sure it would probably be easier for me to go ask out a bunch of random women and deal with the dating process that way. Or to join some dating site, but that's the easy way out. I could really care less about random sex, and I'm waiting until I am married or in a committed relationship. I've decided that the woman that is right for me will be one that makes the first move and sees me for me. What do I have to do to become the kind of man that a decent woman will go out of her way to pursue (and I don't mean just for sex)? I will do what it takes to become that man. Sara W, your answer implies that men must initiate the communication. Why is that? Why can't I simply assume that a woman who is interested in me will talk to me first.

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