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Open Question: How to ask out a co-worker on a one-on-one non-pressure date? and more... Open Question: How to ask out a co-worker on a one-on-one non-pressure date?I recently lost contact with a female friend, and I would like to go out and take my mind off of it, and some other things. I always prefer the company of females, especially when dealing with personal problems. There is a girl I work with, I think she is single, we aren't that close but we are on friendly terms. I figure I could ask her out and get to enjoy the platonic company of a female. Its just been a while since I had a female friend and I was never the one to ask to hang out. So I could use some tips. Like where to go, how to ask, and how to make sure she knows I just want to go out as friends. Open Question: what should i believe ? is he lying or telling the truth?i am with my husband since 10 years and married 8 1/2 years we have a son 6 , a daughter 5 , another daugther 2 and a son on the way , he is black and i am german . he is in the army so it happens that we are seperated some times . the been 3 times i know about that he had contact while we where together , ones while we were dating and the other time in 2005 while i was in germany and he was in ft bliss . both times he claimed that therewas no sex involved , he just neded somebody to talk . than the last chick ( she was black , short and fat and worked for the army as a civilian where my husnad worked ) i really have a problem with , this was the one he had contact with in march 2008 while he was in ft bliss and i was in germany . i found out because he left his e-mail open and i saw it . the e-mail said " i really enjoyed our conversation last night about marriage and kids ! i miss you i love you and i can't wait to talk to you again " his story is that she was working with him and one time some people went to lunch together and him and her went , so they start talking . so from that time on they talked at work , than she asked him to go to lunch with her , they went and she paid for lunch . so they kept talking and then they went to lunch again this time he paid . he said that they talked about her boyfriend marriage and kids. than he told her that he would go to watch a fight on the weekend and she asked him if she could come with her boyfriend who was in town that weekend . they talked on the phone every now and than . he claims thay only talked for an month . then he left ft bliss to go to meet us in alabama and then to go to korea for one year . he says that they had no sex or anything .she was 25 and my husband 33 and we had 3 kids by then . but what i have problems with to believe that there was nothing is that he kept telling me lies about her after it came out , wrong names , diffrent stories , lies over lies . after he left ft bliss , he called her on the day me and the kids came back after 2 1/2 month he called her for one our from our house phone , thats how i found out her work number and called her ( about 6 month after they were last in contact ).he said he wanted to tell her not to call no more . when i asked her if they had sex she told me that she was at work and i need to talk to my husband about that . if there was nothing why would she not tell me that they were only friends ? another thing was that he called her again a coujple days later after we had a fight from a pay phone and this is when a day after the e-mail came ( i really enjoyed our conversation last night about marriage and kids ! i miss you i love you and i can't wait to talk to you again " ) i found . a couple month later i also found out that he uses her name as the password for his online buissnes . i think if there was nothing between them why would he use her name as password or why would she send such an e-mail or why would he call her for one our before his wife comes home ? the only thing i got to say that when he picked me up from the airport he dresses up for me , he cooked for me . and he couldn't wait to have sex with me even while i was past out , he came twice in 5 minutes . i don't know what to believe , if they really didn't do anything like my husband told me or if they did and he is lying . i think about it every night , and i cry everyday and since i am pregnant my feelings are even worse . he said he would do i lie dedecter test , but i am scaried what would come out . Open Question: My best friend but we both want more than that...?Okay, so I have this friend, actually we are like best friends. We are exactly alike and being around him is just amazing. Lately, well for like the past month, I have been developing like "more than friends" feelings for him and I know he feels kind of the same way. The problem is he has a girlfriend and they have been dating for almost three years. I told him that the last thing I want is for them to break up because even though I don't know his girlfriend, I don't want her to be hurt. He asked me to tell him what I really want, which is to be with him, but I wouldn't because I don't want him to break up with his girlfriend at all, and I'll be okay with us being best friends for now. But he keeps bugging me and telling me that I need to do what makes me happy and not worry so much about other people's feelings but to look out for myself for once. Should I tell him how I really feel? Or should I just try to forget about it, because I really don't want him and his girlfriend to break up. Oh by the way, him and his girlfriend have been having some issues, that don't have to do with me at all. Open Question: Is it still worth it to send older xbox 360 in for repair for $100.?My son has an older xbox, one with the notorious "Red Ring of Death" or "Red Lights of Death" problem. I think he waited too long to get it sent back and now, instead of repairing the defective system free of charge, it will cost a little over $100, with shipping. Would it be worth it, cost-wise, and would it still be prone to problems? I know that it would have a 1 year warranty effective from the date of repair. I really wish he had gotten it sent back before they started charging to repair the defective game systems. It's just been sitting unused all this time, and now it's going to cost more in addition to what we paid a few years ago (I think it was between $300 and $400), or that money will have been wasted. Open Question: Should I break up with my fiancee?I'm going to give you the whole story. We have known each other for 2 years. We have been together for one. We got engaged early in the months into the relationship and are planning a long engagement. The story is slightly more dramatic because she used to date my roommate. It has been rough, but we always seem to pull through. My question is if we should keep going or if we should give it up. Our relationship began with a one-night stand while I had a girlfriend. We discussed it and said it was a mistake and would go about the rest of our lives like it never happened. I continued seeing my girlfriend until it became clear that my fiancee and I weren't a fluke one-night stand. We have different opinions about the following weeks. According to her she didn't consider us in a relationship until several weeks later and was still going out, giving out her phone number, and hanging out with guys she met at the bars or wherever. She claims that she never slept with anyone after me and doesn't consider any of it "dating". Meanwhile I told my roommate about her and broke up with my girlfriend. My roommate and I got into a huge fight and I ended up moving out. (I spent the next 5 months paying rent at 2 different places because I couldn't get out of my lease. My roommate was a big douchebag. He got violent with her more than once which ended in me jumping in.) We don't really fight much about those few weeks just because there was a lot of confusion overall. Although she still gets mad that I continued a physical relationship with my girlfriend and I still feel like she was "dating" after we had committed to being together. That's technically beside the point. A month into our relationship we went on winter break separately. I was working several nights a week and she was going out and partying several nights a week going home with "guy friends" and staying out with them until 6 and 7 in the morning, including one friend who I found out had hit on her and she went home with him anyway and an ex who also tried to sleep with her. She says nothing ever happened, but I didn't believe her and cheated on her with my ex, planning to break up when she got back. She also became friends with a guy from her class and began meeting him secretly to study together. (sorry to editorialize, but why meet in secret to study?) Literally from then until now, we have had issues over him. He described his perfect woman as her, he hit on her frequently, he spent months telling her that our relationship wasn't real, she got drunk and went over to his apartment while I was at work and then dumped me for being pissed and jealous(she claims nothing happened), we fought over him constantly, up until recently when he told her that he had pictures of her in a wedding dress saved on his computer. She agreed to stop being friends with him, but even that was a lie as I found her going through his fbook pics. She got arrested at 6 am three months into our relationship for drunk driving as she was coming back from a different guy's house. We didn't really discuss that because she was really upset about the DUI. According to her, nothing happened there either. However they did have a long conversation about him having romantic feelings for her. Uggs. There was also a lot of drama and fighting over both of our exs. My ex is in the navy and writes me an email of few months. The emails have been reduced to single line fbook message or wall posts. There was an aim convo once or twice too. I made a stupid mistake and wrote "I love and miss you in an email." It really was a stupid nonromantic mistake. My ex and I had been friends for 5 years and had only dated for 3 months. We had said I love you countless times throughout our friendship and short-lived relationship. It was a completely mindless response. I admit it was a stupid stupid mistake. My fiancee found it by searching through my computer and reading every last aim convo I had ever had during our relationship. (my computer logged my conversations.) She also sent dug up pictures of my ex and emailed them to her friends. We also had issues with a deceased ex of hers. I made a lot of mistakes here. I had never dealt with that kind of situation before and I overreacted a lot. She had an ex that died in a motorcycle accident. She cried every single time she talked about him for months. She still does sometimes. She talked about him every time she got drunk, and as such she cried everytime she got drunk. I felt like I was living in his shadow and that I was just her transition guy. She also dated guys consecutively and concurrently from his passing up until me. I thought that she wasn't over him and was just passing time with me. I realize now that a lot of this was her dealing with his death. I feel bad about everything that happened around that time. With that said, we have problems with a different ex. They were still friends when we first got together so I was okay with it. More Recent Articles
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