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Open Question: I have a girlfriend that is pure evil. This is how it has been.....? and more... Open Question: I have a girlfriend that is pure evil. This is how it has been.....?She broke up with her x-boyfriend(psycho), after 9 years. Next, i had already know her periodically for the last 10 years. We dated off and on. She had always ran back to her boyfriend after dating me, but this time , she stayed! The thing is, the attraction had worn off. Well, i let her stay for a few days, but you know how that turns out if the indivuidual has no other place to go. 8 months later , now, she is still here.we argu e a dozen times a day , and she picks on me, shes cruel, tells me , "dont touch me", when laying in my bed , in my/moms house, saying she wants to sleep in my bed only, when we have extra guest rooms in this house to sleep in, but she have none of that! She is a pro manipulator, knows how to push buttons really well, and would love to provoke me to the point of me losing control of my temper, but that is not going to happen.The crux of the situation, my mother has been lonely for the last few years, she really needed a friend. This girl came into the picture at the rite time as far as that is concerned. She is really good with elderly peoploe and what not. She got my mom believing that she is her saving grace, she is not.This women was kicked out of her own house at 16 from ohio because her mom , for sum reasons unknown to me, had it with her. Her mom brought her up as a adopted child, but her mom was a disciplinarian. Not bad, just tough. She had been through the rigors of the 2 World War.Well, this is the problem. I want her gone, but when we get into a confrontation or agrument with each other, my mom takes HER side, and wont back me up, therefore, i cannot get her or coax her to leave.If my mother wont back me, she can stay, for the simple fact that it is her house and that is her choice. I am suck in what seems a hell. I am stuck with this chic with no counciounce, dosnt care about my feelings, and am losing a little bit of my mothers and mine relationship more everyday.I could be in a more meaningfull and happy relationship with someone else, but she wont go away. What should i do? ... Open Question: I feel some sort of admiration/attraction by someone that i met in the web? (read details please)?He add me on facebook and we started talking about stuff, most all about work, digital creation, art and design. I'm really impressed about him, mostly about his skills and work, good taste. I find him a very interesting person. kinda reserved talking, he never been a jerk or tried to date with me. He seems to be a simple guy who is just interested about sharing experiences about acknowledge and and new stuff in digital creation. He is been helping me a lot in the work field and giving me some tips. And not asking anything back... the problem is that we only talk about the artistic field and share opinions about each other work. I really would like to know a little more about his personal life, but i'm afraid i might sound too out of subject and he seems to be a reserved person of talking about his personal life. I just would like to get to know him better. If i ask him straight some personal things, friends, family, where does he hangs out and so on... it may sound weird and out of subject. i think of him a lot. i usually admire people by what they do, specially about their artistic work, it tells alot about them. And his work is AMAZING! Open Question: Dating a guy who is too good looking?I've been on quite a few dates with this guy and he's fantastic. We have alot of fun together and I'd like to take things to a more intimate level (yes, meaning I'd like to have sex with him). The problem is that I'm intimidated that he's so gorgeous and I feel self-conscious about the idea of getting into bed and....not being as great looking as he is. How do I deal with these self-esteem issues? Open Question: i dont know what to do...(u dont have to answer, i just thought saying all this wud make me feel better)?i really just need some help with all this. its getting hard to deal with by myself... Well...im 14 years old. im a freshmen in high school. i dont have very many friends. i only have 1 or 2 close friends. I have a friend, who is my ex, he is constantly making fun of me and talking about mein a bad way. i still treat him like my friend and make it known that i do know that he is talking about me. it does hurt my feelings because he was my best friend after we broke up at one point. he treats me like crap but i still try and be nice and do things for him without complaining. He asked me for help to get with my best friend. and i helped him out with that. they ended up breaking up after about 2 weeks. then they both still like eachother so im trying to get them back together again. im helping him with that. i alwasy help him with homework and stick up for him when people make fun of him. but he wont do the same. he is usually the one making fun of me. Another problem is that my family might lose our house very soon. my mom is working, but is not gettin paid at all for her work and my dad is not getting good pay checks. they are only a couple hundred dollars. he gets paid once a month and we cant live off that. i get 2 dollars for lunch once a week sometimes. my best friend is starting to ignore me and not hang out or talk to me very much anymore. 2 of my favorite dogs died and im stil upset about that. my whole family except my mom treats me like crap. as weird as it sounds, i'd rather be at school than be at home. and i'd rather be with my boyfriend than anyone and anywhere else in the entire world. he is my everything. without him, i really dont know if life would be possible...the only thing is, he is 18 and im 14. im really not aloud to date him. i see him only once a month, sometimes less. i text him alot, bcuz he refuses to call sometimes. we r both broke and when we do see eachother, we cant do alot of fun stuff cuz we dont have the money. and he has made it very clear that he Does Not want sex anytime soon, which is totaly fine with me since i am only 14. but despite all of that, i can tell that he really and truly does love me.he has stayed with me at my worse. he knows all my secrets and i trust him. i love him so much, but the fact that he lives so far away, i barely ever get to see him, im not even aloud to date him, hurts a bit. i also have a bad bi-polar disorder (which means i change moods really really quickly and often sometimes) i have anger issues, and i guess u cud call this depression. i've been depressed for about a month and i dont know how to fix it. i usually hide my feelings and act happy and i've been doing that for the past month, but its getting harder and harder each day. i've started crying during school for things. i just hold so much in that i cant help it anymore. i even cried today because i dissapointed my sister and she was upset at me. i really just dont know what to do anymore, i cant trust anyone enough to tell them all this but my boyfriend, but im afraid i'll just annoy him with all my problems and seem like im complaining. I dont wanna do that to him...any advice? any advice with any of the other things i talked about...anything u say to help would help me :/...... (BTW if u dont have anything to say that will actually help me, then i really dont want ur answer -.- and thank u for the people who actually do care and will have answers at least trying to help :/) Open Question: Single Black Females & The Marriage "Problem"?I just read this essay by Politico reporter Helena Andrews of The Washington Post: http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/12/09/AR2009120904546.html?sub=AR&sid=ST2009120904680 In summary, it basically speaks about Ms. Andrews' poor dating experiences. I am sorry but I have to say that although I can empathize with this woman, it sounds to me like she is lumping all black women in a corner. That all of us are looking to be married off, & she says that no one says hi to her in the office because she is "b*tchy". Well, if you are bitchy, then of course you won't get a date. I would have to say that there has to be at least a small degree of shaming and blaming- which really isn't even that, but more so, awareness, recognizing your place in this issue, and owning your personal contribution to both the problem and the solution. Those things apply to everyone. You have to ask yourself: At any point, have I bought into a stereotype about black women and relationships? If so, why? How can I change that? At any point, have I ever perpetuated a stereotype about black women and relationships? Or black men, for that matter? Or how other ethnicities perceive both? As a black woman, where do I draw the line in regards to what is assertive and what is obnoxious? Am I crossing it, and by doing such, am I promoting ugly stereotypes? Or most importantly, how am I representing myself? Am I comfortable with myself? Am I comfortable WITH representing myself? Basically, to introduce myself: I'm 21 yrs old, & a young black woman whose about to graduate university in May. I plan on teaching & will be certified at teaching grades 4-8. My parents are immigrants from Trinidad & Colombia. I'm a pretty, friendly, soft-spoken, person & I just want to have a simple life: decent home in a decent neighborhood with good schools (of course, I'm going to be a teacher LOL) but I'm not big on materialism at all, my family didn't have much growing up & we still don't. I've dated many guys before, & many of these guys haven't been black. Not that that is a huge issue, but I am not letting race be a deciding factor. Although I do believe that I will be married some day, one of my fears is being a part of that unmarried black woman statistic. Can anyone offer any words of encouragement towards this marriage "problem" & how not to fall into the "trap"?? Open Question: How old do you think is too old to get vaginal rejuvenation?I'm a 64 year old widow, and I'm starting to date again, but I have a little... "problem" downstairs. I have given birth eight times, and I'm a little saggy. Actually, a lot saggy. (Sorry for the tmi) I was just wondering if it would be an appropriate procedure for a woman my age. Open Question: Please Help me with this relationship problem? im desperate?thank you for reading and answering this now on with the details ok i'm 18 years old and i never had a girlfriend yes that's right never had one. now there's this girl i REALLY like and i feel shes my greatest chance to date. shes smart, kind, pretty (beautiful in my eyes) and loves to laugh. she knows im funny, sweet, kind, and i support her in whatever she does or likes. i told her i liked her and wanted to ask her out but she said she not lookin for a serious relationship now cause her past relationships ended really bad. i KNOW i can help her and be there for her and treat her right (i did comfort her when she got into a argument with her ex). As i said before she is pretty so there are a lot of guys after her even one of my friends (though he is kinda creepy about it) and i always see a guy around her. i still want to go out with her but to me we seem to become a lil distant like we text'd almost every hour when i got her number and she would send me texts like good morning and stuff but now i send her texts first (which is ok not that i have a big problem with it) we still text almost everyday but its me first now and sometimes i send her texts and she doesn't reply ( i don't know if she's busy or not). i feel so lonely, confused, and helpless. i just don't know what to do. i asked some of my friends and they said patience ( i believe that) can you help me by answering and telling everyone you know to answer it too. Open Question: Does breaking up always mean its OVER between those two people?I am 19 and my bf is 20 ( we have been dating for 6 months now). I had an argument with my bf last night, he said I want you to be my wife someday, so I said I don't know what fate brings some people break up and then come back to each other and marry....he said no that doesnt happen in real life, only in movies, if two people break up, this means its OVER for good. I told him, thats not true coz my ex-still wants me back although we broke up 3 years ago (I don't, I have been saying NO for 3 years now, with constant gifts and golds from him, I dont want him back coz I dont love him anymore), and I added that my ex and I used to break up and come back, it happens. then he said how do i know u dont love your ex and want him back, i said NO WAY i dont love him and i dont want him back, i am just giving u an example to show u that breaking up does not mean its over (I DONT LOVE MY EX- I am faithful to this man, but I just wanted to give him an example to show him that it DOES happen). Then, he said why would you come back to someone who dumped you? I think EVEN if two people are MADLY in love with each other, problems happen and could lead to breaking up, its normal its life, maybe you will find someone else to love and maybe you will think NO I STILL LOVE MY EX, and as long as your break-up was NOT due to unfaithfulness or extreme hurt or fell out of love, then the two people CAN come back to each other, perhaps even STRONGER!!! I think breaking up doesn't mean its OVER unless there was unfaithfulness, out of love, or extreme hurt, otherwise any 2 people can pass through tough times and break up, maybe not sure if its the right person, although they love each other, THEY CAN COME BACK after they break up! WHAT DO YOU THINK? ADVICES AND OPINIONS ARE GREATLY APPRECIATED, just tell me what YOU think? THANK YOU!! Open Question: Why is due date so off?On April 9th I flew to NY to see my husband from FL. I was on birth control but I had missed 2-3 pills and started taking antibiotics. I flew back to FL on April 15th and stopped taking my birth control all together on that day. April 17th I had a light period that lasted for 4-5 days. I took it as a period and on May 17th, or around then, I expected another period. I never got a period the entire month of May and on May 24th my husband flew to FL and we took a pregnanct test that day. It was negative. We took another pregnancy test on June 7th and it was positive. Since I had only seen my husband for those 7 days in April, we were sure that's when we got pregnant. It would only make sense, right? The last time I had seen him before April 9th was March 9th and that would make me a lot farther along. And I couldn't have gotten pregnant when he came home on May 24th because the pregnancy test wouldn't have picked it up that soon on June 7th. So it's only logical that we concieved between April 9-15th. With those dates, that would give me a due date of mid January. Or 9 months from conception. 40 weeks would be around January 20th. Here's my problem. The doctors INSIST that my due date is February 10th. According to two ultra sounds and the size of my uterus. My first ultrasound was August 29th and they said the baby is measuring 16 weeks. But according to my conception dates, it would have been more like 19 weeks. So they did another one on Oct 6th and the baby was measuring 21.5 weeks. I tried to explain to them that I can not be due in February because that would mean I would have gotten pregnant in early May, which is impossible. But I am just so confused because at every appointment when they measuring my uterus, the baby always measures according to the February due date and they are so so sure that's my due date. I'm almost starting to believe them but how could I have gotten pregnant 3-4 weeks after intercourse. Is that possible? If anyone has any input, that would be great. Sorry this is so long. I'm just frusterated. My last pregnancy due dates weren't an issue because we didn't know when we got pregnant, this time..we knew..I think.. Open Question: What Is Wrong With Me?Ok, so I have a few problems to talk about. So my first problem is that I always seem to get anxiety attacks and I worry way too much and I get nervous over the littlest things. I'm not even 14 yet and I was wondering if it is normal for someone that young to get anxiety attacks? My next problem is that I've liked this person since the 4th grade and I'm always his second choice. He's liked me before and I don't know if he does now, but he's with one of my friends. He seems to always intentionally talk to me about the girls he's dated or about the ones he's dating at the moment. Today after school he went up to me and was talking about him kissing my friend ,who's his GF, 2 times in a row, and it's like why the heck do you think I want to hear about it?! Also, he is always making me go crazy because he does this thing where he pretends to ignore me and stuff to make me want him to talk to me, and I don't know. I know I should get over him since he's treating me like I'm his last resort, but I don't know if I can. My next problem is his GF/my friend. She is practically perfect! She is a cheerleader and knows everybody in school and she is more athletic than me, more flexible than me, more outgoing, more likeable, more people want to be friends with her, more guys want to be with her, and she's just, as i said, perfect. The only area I'm better than her at is in academics, and the people who I know could care less about your smarts and more about your social skills and status and looks. And I don't really get why so many like her to tell you the truth. I guess it's because they only catch glimpses of her and talk to her occasionally while I see her almost more than half my day because she's in that many classes with me. She doesn't talk that much, and she's not that fun to me. Am I weird in some way I don't know? Or is it just because she's a cheerleader that people like her way more? My life just seems so messed up and worthless to me that I really don't get why I'm living sometimes. Oh, and can you tell I also tend to put myself down and have depression problems? And just to add to my anxiety attacks problem, I'm a new lacrosse player and I'm just so worked up over it and scared and I get small anxiety attacks over it because it's the first sport I've joined and it's overwhelming because the coaches are yelling at people and I'm the youngest child in my family so I've been babied and have never been really been pushed around like that, so I'm always worrying that I'll do bad since others are so much more tougher than me. I guess I wasn't prepared enough for middle school huh? (That gives away my grade, lol.) My siblings are way more outgoing than me and are always busy with friends and activities and I'm always the loner who is at home and never hanging out with friends. Not just are my friends more outgoing, but my whole family is more outgoing than me. I stand out like a sore thumb in the crowd of people that are in my life, and it just sucks alot. Sorry for my really boring and long rant on my pitiful life. I bet I wasted a whole 5 minutes or your life. Sorry again. Merry almost Christmas!!!(or hannukah) (or kwanza) Open Question: what do you think i should do? i'm lost.. in love.?well, to make an extremely long story somewhat short, i'm in love with this girl. i've seen her in a serious relationship, i've seen her get cheated on and be completely broken. i've seen her rise from that, and she's now in a relationship but she always says "it's nothing serious." this january will make 3 years that i've known her/felt this way for her. friends tell me to try and date others, and i dated this one girl but it didn't work out at all, she ended up hurting me. i ended up going to the girl i'm in love with for advice, because she's one of the only ones i could trust with it. she helped me through it. she'll sometimes do things that look like she could possibly be into me, too. (walking into a circle of people i'm in and bringing up a show i told her i was watching the night before. like, 'so how about criminal minds last night?!' and taking me out to clear my head, asking me to go to her job with her to get papers and contiuously telling me 'i'm so happy you came with me, i'd be so bored without you.' showing a lot of skin around me, etc.) but then my insecurities get the best of me and i point out all the things that would make her NOT like me (besides the fact that she's 5 years older.) we don't talk everyday, maybe a couple times a week.. sometimes less than that. she leads a very busy life. i know many of you are probably like "okay, i don't see the problem.. just tell her how you feel." well, it's truthfully not that easy. it's taken me so long to finally get her to trust me and open up to me like she does now. i'm willing to wait, because i've been waiting this long and some of her (meaning having her as a friend) is better than none of her. i just don't know what to do.. i'm so in love with her, and it breaks my heart to not have her. i miss her so much the pain is excruciating. i don't know what to do.. someone PLEASE help?! she's the only reason for happiness i have in my life, and i don't know what i'd do if i lost that. but i feel like i'm not good enough for her and she deserves so much better than me.. 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