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Open Question: I just want to meet my bf's ex. Is that too much to ask? and more... Open Question: I just want to meet my bf's ex. Is that too much to ask?My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now and he broke up with his ex to date me. And here is my story...PLEASE PLEASE READ. I really do not know what to do. Ever since they have maintained a friendship, they talk on the phone, email, and see each other from time to time (only like 3 times tho). I was fine with this till one day after a month of my boyfriend and I dating I saw an e-mail he wrote her a week after they broke up. It said he had made a mistake and would never stop loving her. This e-mail was written two months previous to me reading it, and as I said, a month after we started dating. So orginally I didn't care if they were friends but after reading the email I told him I did not want him to see her...ever.... which was a mistake. Ultimatium only made him go behind my back. When I found out he was going behind my back to talk to her and call her, I freaked, broke up with him yet he begged for me back and I gave him a second chance. I did learn that I need to give him room, if they are gonna be friends so be it. So they called each other, met up for coffee, e-mailed...etc. The only problem is she hates me, wants nothing to do with me and refuses to be in same room as me. He just avoids it by hanging out with her without me. But I have HAD IT! I want to meet this girl and she what she is all about. Everyone I talked to who knew her when they dated say she was a huge bitch! So why are they friends!?! ugh... So yes here is my question. I told my boyfriend that the next time he sees her I want to meet her. I feel this isn't much to ask, but he feels it would only make things worse. First of all she does not want to meet me. Second he thinks I may take any laugh, look or facial expression between them to the extreme. What do you guys think? Open Question: What should I do? Love/Disrespect? (We're both 18 years old)?It's a very long story, so I'll try to condense this. When things between me and her had been so great, well, they were absolutely great. But, things crumbled, and even though she doesn't feel anything towards me any longer, I guess I still feel something. In fact, I feel much stronger about her now than what I ever did, because now I've learned to genuinely appreciate this girl. I guess I know that things won't ever be the way they used to be; she's engaged, and even though she's only dated this guy for about 4 months, I'm not going to question their feelings for one another. I've changed so much though since things between us soured, that I know that I'm not nearly the same person. I just want her to know that, and to know that I love her too. I'm in no way trying to still pursue her; I know my boundaries, but is expressing yourself ever a crime? I know that I'm not going to make her confused in any way either. The problem is just getting to her. I spoke to her today for the first time in over 4 months, and even though she was expecting me to speak (we had a meeting arranged after school), she gave me less than a couple of minutes to talk to her. I've made it clear to her that I wasn't trying to win her back, and I tried to express myself genuinely, but I doubt that anything went through to her. Her disrespect hurts so much, but despite all the signs that tell me just to quit, it's like a part of me says not to. I love her just as much as her fiancee does, and I'm willing to do anything to let this girl know that I care genuinely about her, but doing nothing will not convey that message. I once sent her flowers (when she wasn't with the guy), but that only reinforced her disrespect about me. If I were just to stop now, I know she'd always remember me as that creepy guy with an obsession. I'm not creepy, this is not an obsession, and I don't want to be remembered that way. I know my boundaries; I'm not trying to pursue her, but I'll never get the closure I need if I can't even express how I feel. What's strange about all this, is that I just found out about the engagement last week when I spoke to someone about my problems...she's been engaged for two months; I just felt that if I weren't supposed to say anything else to this girl forever, then I would've never found out. It wasn't until I found out about this news that I could finally find the courage to speak this girl and know what to say. But like I said, today's meeting went terrible. I don't know what to do, because now I feel that my heart isn't even certain. I'm tired of this coldness and disrespect, but I know I won't feel any better if I do nothing. I just don't know how far I'd have to go get her respect back, if I ever could. I don't want to be remembered this way. What do I do? We dated throughout April and May of this year. I know her choice not to speak to me isn't because of her fiancee's wishes; I've heard he is a good person, and I'd like to think that he'd at least allow me to say this. I've tried forgetting about her multiple times throughout the year. I've tried thinking about other girls and burying myself in my schoolwork, but my mind always goes back to her. Fate always occurs, but only because the actions we choose in themselves are predetermined. Regarding fate, I believe that if God truly intended anything positive in my life regarding her, then He would've also intended for me to do something. Open Question: do i like him or am i still adjusting?ADVICE? :)?sooo, i was dating this guy for four months, my longest relationship and pretty much my first serious one, and i liked him a lot but as time went on i found myself less interested in him and beginning to flirt with other guys at my shcool (he doesn't go to my school). i decided it wasn't fair to keep him hanging on and i wanted a change so i broke up with him almost 3 weeks ago. now the problem is i reallllllllly miss having him! we work together and he doesn't really talk to me at all anymore but everytime i see him my heart aches and i want to be with him! i've become quiet and oftenly upset which is the COMPLETE oposite of me.. what's going on? do i like him or am i only adjusting to my new single life. Open Question: Advice on what to do about my boyfriend and our relationship?Okay, this might be a little long, but bear with me; you need to hear the whole story to be able to understand my situation and be able to offer advice that is even remotely helpful. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years now. We both lost our virginity to each other, and are very serious about our relationship. Many a time has he tried to convince me that we should get married now, but I'm 19 and he's 24, and I don't wanna be the whore who gets married right out of high school. People judge you harshly for things like that, and even though I know that I shouldn't care what other people think, I personally also believe we should wait longer before we get married, if we do, even though there's no doubt in my mind that he is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. We already want kids together (he mentioned it before I did, so he's not just agreeing with me about everything), and I want to grow old with this boy. He can be kind of girly because he is so compassionate and loving, which is a total plus because it's like we're on the same level with each other. I trust him with my whole heart, even with my history of relationships where I have been cheated on frequently. He respects women greatly (his dad left when he was 6 so his mother raised him herself along with his sister) and he is a genuinely kind, loving man. Oh, and he is hilarious! He has a great sense of humor (what attracted me to him in the first place) and he can always keep me smiling even make me laugh when I am in the worst of moods. The relationship seems perfect, but there is one problem. He is the most unmotivated person I know. He dropped out of high school his junior year because he was going through an intense depression. He also has a couple phobias, one being water, the other being his phobia of new people and working around them. He can be very antisocial. VERY antisocial, as in, at my graduation party he played volleyball with my little brothers and sisters and sat on my porch while everyone sat at the tables in our yard and ate and talked. He has trouble meeting new people and making friends I guess. Anyway, his mother has convinced him that he has something wrong with him. He is on depression medicine and recently got accepted to receive money for "disability" because his mom claims he is like 10 years old mentally. Granted he can be immature at times, but he's only 24, I can be very immature too, especially with my sense of humor, he doesn't act like he's ten, for god sakes. I wouldn't date someone who acted like he was ten. Anyway she has brainwashed him into thinking that he is mentally stunted and that it's okay to just stay home and collect disability all his life and not to get up off of his arse and get a job or finish his education. He sits at home all day, living with his mother who recently retired at 65, who is also on depression meds, and I have tried to push him to take the GED classes the school a couple blocks from his house offers and for a while it worked he was going every tuesday and thursday but then one night we were at the movies and of his lungs collapsed and he had to go to the hospital and get a tube in it (it was terrifying, I was there and I thought he was dying) and for a couple months he couldn't go because it was winter and the cold air would hurt his lungs. After that he forgot and didn't go. Numerous times after that I have asked him if he was going to finish his GED and he just seems so unmotivated. It's like he doesn't care at all about it anymore, and I asked him once, "What are you even going to do with your life?" and he didn't have an answer. I don't know how to properly motivate him to get a job, get out of his house, and stop listening to his mother. I myself am not a completely motivated person but at least more than him! I want to go to college to be a veterinarian or an artist...and it scares me because while I know that if I become a vet it will give our future children a good life (we were both raised poor) which is important to me, I will not be able to be a housewife and spend time with my kids and raise them and that makes my heart ache. I feel like even then he will just sit at home and if I quit my job even long enough to raise my children we will be poor because he won't be able to get a good job. Please, PLEASE, help me, give me some advice, anything really. I am out of ideas of how to make him understand that this is important it's our lives and our future children's lives we are talking about. Thank you for listening and have a merry christmas! ^__^ Open Question: Attention seeking Stepdaughter? *Serious thoughts please*?I have seen 8 years of consistent behavioral problems with my now 19 year old stepdaughter. Her and I had a great relationship to start with when her father and I began dating when she was 11; we played board games together, laughed, I helped her with her homework, would pick her up from her mother's and go to the mall, etc. That was all before her dad and I announced to her that we were engaged and getting married the following year. I can honestly pinpoint her negative behavioral changes toward me to that exact moment. Soon it became more like walking on "eggshells" around her, she would withdraw to her room most of the time, and when she would actually come out of her room she would still be quiet and be glaring in my direction. She began making comments to me such as "if it were up to my mom, her and my dad would never be divorced" or "my dad has lots of money, and if anything ever happens to him, I get it all!" A week before her dad and I were to get married, she phoned her dad and begged him not to marry me. Her dad was shocked and basically told her that we were going to be married and he hopes to see her at our wedding. She hung up on him, mad. Then 3 days later, calls him and says "I wrote a poem that I want to read in front of everyone at the wedding." ??? I am a reasonably understanding person. I realize that before I came into the picture, her mom and dad had been divorced ever since she was just 2 years old. Her father dated a few women, with no serious relationships, until I came along. So I know that she has received a majority of her dad's attention for the past 9 years. But I still start to wonder if there's something else under the surface. Her dad and I marry, and then real troubles started. I became pregnant with our twins 1 1/2 years later and she attempted suicide for the first time shortly after. Only her mother tells my husband that she wasn't in the hospital for it because her mom didn't feel like waiting in the long waiting room line to get her checked out? Makes no sense to me. Her mom also calls a few weeks later to tell my husband that stepdaughter has also been "cutting" herself. Then a few months later, stepdaughter (now 14) calls her dad to just let him know that she's had sex. I don't know, I'm just thinking what girl wants to call her dad just to tell him she's had sex? Time rolls on and more and more situations like this crop up. Until this year, when the worse hits. In January, at 18, she announces she's going to get married to a guy she met online and has known for 4 months. Got the wedding plans going, I mailed her invitations out for her and that same afternoon that they'd been mailed, she calls to say the wedding is off. No explaination, just that she changed her mind. In May, she attempts suicide for the second time. She is hospitalized for awhile, but thankfully comes through. Afterward, she starts a counseling program. She has been through counseling on and off since the age of 13. In June, she calls my husband to tell him 1. she has been promiscuous since she was 14. 2. she blames him for all of her problems. 3. she hates him, me, and our 5 year old twins (innocent to the whole situation) and doesn't want us in her life anymore. 4. that she has a real dad in her life, her stepdad (her mom's new, 3rd husband) and doesn't need my husband for anything. Yes, my husband is painfully hurt by her words, but tells her that if she needs to use him to step on to get herself out of the "hole" she's in, then he's not about to deny her wishes. She's tells him she's mad at him for not crying when she told him she hates him. During the conversation, she continually tells him she is his first-born child and that she is the child and he is the adult. He reminds her that she is 19, now an adult, not a child. She is mad and hangs the phone up on him. A month later, she calls to tell him sorry. Two months later, she calls to tell him she's pregnant by some random boy who has dumped her, doesn't want anything to do with her or the baby. She asks her dad for money because she can't pay bills, since she decided to move out on her own last April and lost her medical benefits for being out of work too long after her last suicide attempt. My niece, her cousin, who has been around since before I came into the family, has told me that my stepdaughter has always been dramatic and always trying to be the center of attention since she was little. Seriously, when the family found out that my stepdaughter was saying she's pregnant, they even questioned if it was true. I am in a worldwind. Feel like I'm losing "it" myself sometimes. Don't really know what else to do except to completely disengage. I have no doubt that there are some serious underlying issues with her, but wonder if all of this resembles an Attention Seeking Disorder? Open Question: It's been 2 days, should I call him?So I met this guy during the summer and we hit it off. We dated for a month but I had to leave for school. I thought he was going to call it quits when I left but he still continued to call. It got too difficult so I called it off. During Thanksgiving break we reconnected and it was great. He was sweet but I left again for school to finish finals. So now that I'm back at home for winter break I saw him twice. And the second time I saw him we started to have sex again. But the way he went about it made me feel used. I went over to his house, made some small talk, and he immediately started making out with me and fondling me. So we have sex, he turns on a movie, and never really gives me much attention (only when he thought he was going to get some sex again). So the movie ends and he slaps my leg twice indicating that I should leave. And this is earlier than usual. He said he had to get up for work early tomorrow though this has never been a problem before. He is also going through a hard time in his life. He has some financial problems and sometimes his checks don't make it in time for bills. So due to this he can't really take me out to places or even come over to my house since I live too far away. So it's been 2 days since I've had any contact with him. The last time I talked to him I told him that I'd appreciate it if he drove to my house for a change because I always came over to his. And he said he couldn't afford it. He was telling me about some job interviews he had but his phone was giving out. So he said he'll just call me the next day. And he didn't. Should I give him a call just to ask how he's doing and if he still wants to talk to me? Or should I just cut my losses and move on? Open Question: Are we having sex to soon?Me and my girlfriend had sex last night. IT WAS AMAZING. I like this girl. More than anyone in a long time. The problem we have only been dating about a month. I was wanting to wait two or three months at least. I can't really say I regret it. But I am concerned about it. I don't want us having sex prematurely to have any negative effects on our relationship. Advice? Edit: It doesn't really bother me doing it. I liked it. I just hear that it causes problems. That relationships do better when people wait longer. To me...I like her and I am not going to leave her now that we had sex or just want to lay around having sex all the time. I just want to do whatever will give us the best chance for a good healthy relationship. Open Question: Do I Have Commitment Issues?Okay, I have this problem that I never really knew I had before and I don't know if it's a commitment issue or what. Every time I try to date someone I want to get into the relationship but as soon as I'm almost there or even in the relationship, I get this weird feeling and think I've made a mistake. Like I want to take it all back and just be single again. I don't feel like I'm free or something. Would you say this is a commitment issue? Open Question: Why do girls hit on my boyfriend right in front of me?So I just started dating this guy and he is damn fine. The problem is though that he is almost too hot because whenever I'm out with him girls seem to hit on him left and right! It drives me fucking insane and I try to keep my cool but its very hard. Who the hell do these slutty bitches think they are and why do they think its okay to do this when I make it very obvious that he is taken by me?? Open Question: Problems in the bedroom?My bf and i have some trouble in bed sometimes. 3 times he's been unable to orgasm. 2 actually, today i insisted and we went for it until he did, but that was only after a loooo-oooooot of work, and frankly i was getting tired and sore too. anyway, everytime this has been an issue it's when he's had to rush back to the hospital (he's a doctor) because he's on call and can't be late for work. so he blames it on work-related stress. we talked about it very quick while he was showering afterwards (coz he had to rush...) and and he told it was just work, that it's nothing to do with me. but what if it's actually me? i know it's a bit stupid because when we talk on the phone, or the minute we meet up and he sees me, he gets hard. but then i wonder if maybe there's sthg i'm not doing right, or maybe sthg i should b doing that i'm not doing at all. or do you think it's possible that he may be a bit slow because of his age? he's 48 and i'd nvr dated someone that old till now (i'm 26). what should i do? i don't want him thinking i'm not good and then go off find someone else, nor do i want to go at it for like a whole hour each time because then i start feeling sore. Open Question: Double date to movies?Hey yall I'm going out to the movies with a smart, cute guy. He's a little akward but reallly funny. I know all of the flirting tips like touching his arm and resting my head on his shoulder, but what are some more tips? As i said, it's going to be a double date. He has tried ot kiss me before, but i just stood there. We ended up just looking at each other awkwardly. I've never had my first kiss, so I guess im kind of nervous. He's had a girlfriend before and they madeout all the time. The problem is that I told him that I've kissed guys b4. That was a huge lie. I don't know why I told him that, but I guess I wanted to seem experienced. I don't plan on telling him the truth about that one thing. To be honest, first kisses don't matter that much to ee. It's really just putting ur lips on a guys mouth. What more is there? But i also don't want my kissing to be so bad that he's figured out that i have never kissed a guy. all answers are greatly appreciated, and the best will recieve 10 points =] btw im 17 if that helps.. and the movie is 2012. would that be a good date movie? Open Question: Lung Problem and inconclusive results to date?Had DVT then lung embolism then pneumonia and AF. Shadow on lung where pneumonia was. Had CT scans and the shadow caused by pneumonia has got smaller. Dr cannot confirm remaining shadow. Had lung biopsy with inconclusive report. was told will need a bronchoscopy. Phone call from Dr to go and discuss treatment. Any comments please. More Recent Articles
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