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Open Question: I need help with my weight loss.? and more... Open Question: I need help with my weight loss.?sorry this might be long. However i started dieting back in march and have lost 60+ pounds to date (12/4/09). I am eating healthy 5 to 6 meals a day depending on my school schedule, and i workout 5-6 times a week depending on my work schedule, I do yoga for 45 minutes twice a day and i do pilates 45 minutes once a day plus cardio mwf 30 minutes and weight training t,th,s, the problem is im losing about 4-5 pounds a week. What am i doing wrong i eat 3 big meals and 2-3 snacks drink plenty of water, and do weights and cardio i read that when you lose too much to quick its usually just muscle and water so how can i stop this i eat about 2000 calories a day give or take a few can anyone help me please? Open Question: Is he taking something away from me? why do I feel so bitter?I have been dating this guy for a little over 2 months. We treat each other amazingly. We are both 27. We are not bf/gf because he has made it clear that we are not ready and he wants to take his time. I never let him know that I had a problem with that until 2 days ago. We are exclusive (his request) ~ I would have liked to date other people and be single until we are ready to be bf/gf but he wants us to be essentially bf/gf except we do not say it or tell people. I brought it to his attention that I do not like just sitting around waiting for him to be ready and that if he is not, fine, but then let's not be exclusive...not ok with him, so we agreed to keep doing what we are doing until he is ready. I am bitter now bc I feel needy and annoyed that I had to bring it up. I feel like he robbed me of the exciting feeling that every girl wants in a new relationship, I want to feel wanted and hear that I am his and not dragged along like this. Some background: He already introduced me to his parents one weekend at this event in his hometown. We have not slept together yet so it is not an issue of him getting sex without commitment. Am I being crazy? Is it wrong to feel that I do not want to say "yes" when he says that he is ready? why do I have to wait around, am I settling for less than I deserve by being ok with what he took away from me? Open Question: i need help with this girl. what do i do?there's a girl that i met about 5 months ago online. she goes to the same school as me and i have one class with her. i primarily talk to her online but i can talk to her in person. that's not the problem. anyway after talking and flirting with her almost nonstop for about 3 months, i told her i love her. (i do) i know that she had been dating other guys at the time and one of the reasons i didn't want to tell her is because of that. I was under a lot of pressure at the time to say that i love her so i did. but now i really do love her and she hardly notices me at all anymore? what should i do to get her to like me back? Open Question: For Guys.. What does he mean when he says we need to spend more time together?The guy im into has been burned by chicks in his past, I told him im not like that. He was thinking on if he wanted to date me or not. This is how some of the conversation went: Guy: I'm not comfortable making that decision yet because we didn't spend much time together and the time we did wasn't fun. Me: And ok and that means what? Guy: That if i had to decide today it would be no. Me:Just like I thought. Guy: You did? Me: Yep. Guy: Sorry. Me: All i fucking wanted was the shot but i never get it. Guy: I'm not saying no! I'm saying we need time together. Guy: Way to spaz out. Me:Im sorry but how did u think i would react? Guy:I told you i wasn't ready and why.What's the problem? Me: You did explain.Im just wondering if im just some booty call for you. Guy: No. And that's not what i meant by spend time together. So guys what does it mean when a guy says 'spend time together'? Open Question: My boyfriend asked me that if we broke up, would I be ok if he went out with my best friend. Dump him?First off everyone should know he was my first everything. Kiss, virginity, ect. How he ended up asking me this was he was sitting playing video games and I was texting a friend I had set up with my best friend. They had recently broken up and he was telling me about why he had let her go. The gist of what he said was that she had a great body and nice rack but had the face of a man. I got very angry about this and told my boyfriend at which point he exclaimed, "What! That's crazy, Sarah could be a model she's so hot!" After about another 30 seconds of silence he slowly turned to me and asked, "If you and I were to break up would you be mad if I dated Sarah?" My best friend had previously had a thing for him but she after I told her if she still did I would step aside with no animosity towards her and let them date she then told me that after seeing the way he behaved with me and learning more about him she wouldn't ever want to date him. That and she also said she would never date a friends ex. Anyways he comes back from Mexico in another two weeks so I have a lot of time to think about everything. So far this is how it's going to go. When he gets back I will ask him to meet me for coffee, when he asks why I will tell him what he said to me about Sarah was unacceptable and we need to talk about it. When I am at the coffee shop with him I am going to ask him, "Please I need you to tell me something and when you do I need you to not consider my feeling just tell me what you want. I need to know that if given the choice between Sarah and myself who would you rather be with?" If he chooses Sarah I will be like okay it's over and btw I talked to her the same way I've spoken to you and she's not interested anymore. After this Sarah says she will send him a facebook message saying, "sorry if I sent out the wrong signals blah blah blah, I'm not interested." If (and this is a very small chance) he says me I will say he has planted a seed in my head and I don't know if I could trust him anymore. That and Sarah wouldn't want to hang around us anymore and she's been my best friend longer than you've been my boyfriend. It's still over. My only problem is that I'm still in love with him and if he does say that he wants to be with me I don't know if I should forgive him or not. He's young and stupid and it might just have been a slip of the tong, but obviously he's thought about going after my best friend, which is so low class and wrong. I'm still just so confused about this! Open Question: Tough Guys Vs. Me, how will it turn out? Who will win the girl?Here is the story. I have some friends who are also guys; they are really tough football/basketball types. Then, I met this really athletic girl, who is smart and really incredible. Well, long story short, we went out on a date the other day and had a great time. Here is the problem. As it turns out, a couple of those guy friends I first mentioned have been trying to impress her, and they and a few others hang out with her and her roommate. They found out I went out with her, because her roommate told them. Yikes! Well, I am pretty sure several of them are jealous and really angry at me. My question is how do you think they will act when they see me? Will they be violent or just avoid me, or try to backstab me somehow? Also, if you were the girl, what would you think if some guys, who you were just friends with, started to gossip/badmouth about a guy you started to date? Open Question: any way to fix past mistakes and move on? serious answers only please!?I've made a big mess out of my life by making mistakes I could actually afford at the time. I had a great job making enough money that I could afford my own apartment and a brand new car. Life was great for about 2 years, all my payments were on time, and I had a little extra cash so I could go out with friends on the weekends. I met a guy and he moved in, and everything went straight down the tubes. My boss fired me and didn't give me an explanation ("something needs to change and we think it's you" whatever that means), and I found another job immediately but only making about half of what I was making when I got fired. This whole time, I was still paying all the bills for the apartment and car, even when I had a full time roommate because he didn't contribute a dime for the first 5 months he lived with me. I used up all savings and started to borrow money from family and friends until they all cut me off ( reasonably stating that because I had someone else living there, they shouldn't have to rescue me and I'm inclined to agree ). so at this point, I'm about 2 months behind on my credit cards and car payments, and my brain snapped and I told my bf that he had to start helping with the bills. at which point, he started "helping" with about 1/4 of the bills for the apartment ( i never expected him to help with the car or credit cards, but I do feel he should have had to help with 1/2 the bills for the apartment, especially since his kids were there on the weekends as well ). I quite stupidly started just flat out ignoring the harassing calls from creditors and collection agencies (hey, I couldn't pay my bills just to live, sleep and eat much less give anything to the creditors, and they refused to work with me the first couple of times they called). I surrended my 2 year old car that I adored because the creditors told me they had reported it stolen (i don't even know if they can do that, I was 2 months behind on payments). also adding to the misery, I had co-signed a loan for my brother to get a truck, which he also defaulted on and surrended. So to date, I have $20,000 in debt and have no way of paying it back (at least not for the foreseeable future). I do have a job, making less than $400 a week with no possibilty of any overtime and / or supplemental income. last october, I was severely depressed and got behind the wheel of a car drunk, got arrested and charged with a dwi. so now, I have to pay rent, fines and surcharges, my car insurance went through the roof, and my phone bill. at the end of the month, I'm left with about $50, $100 if I'm really lucky. I talked to a credit counselor to try to get the debts under control, and she informed me that my ONLY option is bankruptcy. I've come to terms with the whole bankruptcy thing ( and believe me, I'm not thrilled about it ) but the biggest problem I'm facing now is trying to come up with the money to file for bankruptcy. The creditors are getting more aggressive, I've been sued at least twice, and they are threatening bench warrants and garnishing my wages. I can't afford what I'm living on now! If they garnish my wages, I will not be able to pay for something (most likely fines and/or surcharges) and all of this is going to turn into an even bigger mess. I'm at the point now where I understand all of my mistakes, realize that I have to pay for them. But I'm also at the point where I am extremely close to suicidal. I can't eat, I can't sleep and I can't concentrate on anything. I'm ill at the situation I've created for myself, but I don't know how to fix it. I don't even know where to start. I quit drinking nearly 6 months ago after realizing what it had cost me. Is it too late? Am I doomed to be a mess my whole life? It seems like this situation never gets any better, it's gradually just getting worse, to the point of just giving up completely. This situation feels completely hopeless. No one has any advice for me. every one just says "that sucks". well, no kidding! I hate to sound so shallow, like money is the only thing that matters to me. I don't just care about money ( in fact, I HATE IT ). The fact of the matter is that my whole life feels wasted, like I'll never recover from any of this. I hate no longer being self sufficient, and feel like I will never be able to take care of myself again. Is there anyone out there that has any advice for me at all? Steps I can take to improve the situation? Or possible jobs I could take on to try to make some extra cash so I can take care of all this with a less than stellar record? I just need some help and this is my last resort. I really don't know what else to do. And for anyone who has snarky remarks, IE: you're on the internet ( so I must have $ right? no, I use my computer at WORK), you made your bed blah blah blah, please keep the comments to yourself. the purpose of my post is a last ditch attempt at trying to get some help, not lose any more of my self esteem, if there is any left. Thanks More Recent Articles
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