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Open Question: im having problems with my fiances family and ex would really appreciate help, losing my mind.? and more... Open Question: im having problems with my fiances family and ex would really appreciate help, losing my mind.?k so here is my situtation. my fiance and me have been friends for four yrs now and of the four yrs we have been dating one whole year. i met him and only him, well a little into our relationship i met his dad, all seemed ok and well i did not really talk as much as i should have but im a shy person,its a bad quality on my part but im working on changing it. then i met his mom, we hit it off seemed like all was going good. his step dad seemed ok with me,met his step bro liked and thought he was cool and thought he thought the same about me. well then i meet his grandparents and everyone else and again all seemed well and good. his older bro seemed to be ok with me but we did not talk as much but it was my fault again cuz im shy. i was shy with his whole family but if they talked to me i talked to them right back i take full blame though because of my shyness and insecurity i did not talk as much as i should. anyways, well we moved in together and it was ok but as any normal couples do we fought it just so happened to be though that his brother was one of our roommates so anything we said or did he told his and my fiances parents, but to make it worse he told my fiances ex who is dying to get back with him. well one fight got really bad and when i was trying to leave my fiance held me down and i kicked him, we were both wrong but it was our business no one elses, until his brother made it his whole families business and from there everything went wrong. my fiances family threatened to punch me in the face if i ever touched him again, they practically ignore me everytime they see me and so on, its horrible i hate it. i know i was wrong but so was he for putting his hands on me first i felt threatened so i reacted. well there is more. so shortly after that we come to find that my fiances ex is living with his older brother, this upsets my ex and me but i move on and ignore it until his whole family and the ex tell me he is cheating on me with her. my fiance denies it and so do i because there is no proof. my fiance never leaves the house without me or someone else because of this, so there is no way that anything they are saying is true. well this fight has gotten so bad that his family shuns me ignores me and writes thing to her encouraging her behavior on breaking us up. i have tried and tried to get there acceptance, i have appologized for hitting him, i have came to family gatherings and talked and was charming as can be, well all seems good at the time but as soon as his ex is with them or by them they completely ignore me. on thanksgiving we were all talking and happy and everything was good, then at his show his ex comes and is with them the whole time and not one of them looked at me or said hi or anything they ignored my existence. so my question is what can i do to make them like me? how do react to this? am i wrong for feeling hurt and mad at them, im going outta my mind with all this and need help. Open Question: "I don't want my child dating you, not bc you're black, but..."?My friend is dating a white girl, and the parents liked him until they decided they wanted to marry. They claim it's not him, but that once they are married, they fear for their daughter's and potential grandchildren's welfare as they may identify with the bad parts of African American culture and/or become friends with the stereotypical people that cause problems. They go into saying that they don't want their grandchildren feeling oppressed for being half black and falling into the wrong crowd while trying to "find themselves." I know this is some B.S. but what would you tell them to counter their "concerns." Open Question: I need some help with a messy situation.?Theres this girl that i really like , we are always together at school doing work together eating together and what ...she gives me really strong signals such as rubbing my back , putting her arm around me and being all touchey feely, she asked me to go to a movie with her, wants me to help her out at the gym and she told me she knew what she was getting me for xmas. I really like this girl , shes beautiful , smart and awesome to be around. Problem is , she has a bf ....she will be negative about him sometimes which out weighs the good things she says. I dont make any moves because i dont want to interfere with their relationship. So we are all done classes for the semester and shes been trying to get a hold of me but ive been ignoring her to try to get her out of my head...i feel bad for ignoring her but i dont want to be played ...ive been asked from different people if we were dating , people i havent told this to. Im just wondering if i should keep doing what im doing because i do not want to be the other guy she just has there to screw with , im too good for that. any help would be awesome Open Question: Would you rather date a knowledgeable and negative person OR a clueless and positive person?I recently have been getting to know two women. Both are good looking but one is better looking the other. Both have given me more than enough signs to indicate that a long term relationship is suitable between the two of us. One is the versatile type that can do anything and has a pessimistic output in everything she does. She is "VERY" biitchy when she's mad. But, there is nothing she can't do. At times, she leaves me stunned with her abilities to do anything and her quick ability to solve problems. The other, she's is slow and very emotional. She has one of the greatest positive attitudes I have ever seen on a person. She is kind to everyone and she can definitely be trusted to be introduced to anyone and put on a good impression. Now, I do favor one over the other but I won't reveal which one of the two it is. So, the question is, which one the two types (in correspondence to your gender) that I described would you rather date? Open Question: what to do what to do what to do?ok so in my last queastin i told u guys my problem about how i asked out this girl and says she just wants to be friends and she is dating this other girl well like ever since i asked her out everything has been kinda awkward and its weird she told me she just wants to stay friends but like she is always telling me she loves my hair our i look cut or that im such a gentleman lol i really hav no clue of wut to do can someone help??????? btw i talked to her gf and it sounds like ther going to break up Open Question: Big problem. Suicidal depressed and miserable and got into a car accident?I took Rivotril yesterday because I was so stressed out and needed something to calm down. I got in a few car accidents. I don't wven remember how many. I got out of the car at every accident and there was no damage. But 911 got a call saying there was a car driving all crooked.. and it was me, so when I got home, the police car pulled up behind me and told me I was under arrest. They told me I'll have a court date. If I have to go to court, kill myself now.. They cops wanted me to call them back today but they'll be in tomorrow morning at 7 so I will be calling them and ****, I did nothing wrong. I had already taken Rivotril and it never had this effect on me . ****. If they say anything regarding to court, I am done with life. Stick a fork in me, I am done.. Can they seriously revoke my liscence because of this one incident.I don't know what to do. If the cops get me angry tomorrow moinring, I am overdosing while on the phone with them Open Question: How can I stop feeling like people are always taking advantage of me?A year ago, I had a best friend who severely took advantage of me to date a girl. The girl was an attention whore but was the most innocent looking girl ever. This combined, it really scarred me. I have a problem now. I always feel like people are taking advantage of me. If someone asks me to hold something, I'll tell them no. If someone asks me to do them a favor, I'll say no. Also, I don't trust girls in general. I really want to date again, but I can never open myself up to a girl to the point where I feel really secure with her, all because of my previous experience. How can I overcome this? I make fun of people to keep them away from me, so I don't get too close to them. That way they can't make me trust them and hurt me. Open Question: What do you think my problem is?I went into the army to get away from the town where i was at, had a great girlfriend that i loved, and now i'm back and just sitting around wasting my life. I feel like I need to bet away again. Maybe need a change of scenary. I went to Korea for a year while in the Army. I kind of felt better, but then missed my family. I dated a korean girl for a while, but didn't want to get serious. then I just started drinking alot. Now that I'm home, I just sit around, playing on my computer. I am starting a new job soon, so that gives me something to look forward to. But there is no passion inside me. Open Question: Are these jokes funny enough to tickle your funny bones?The mother of a 17-year-old girl was concerned that her daughter was having sex. Worried the girl might become pregnant and adversely impact the family's status, she consulted the family doctor. The doctor told her that teenagers today were very willful and any attempt to stop the girl would probably result in rebellion. He then told her to arrange for her daughter to be put on birth control and until then, talk to her and give her a box of condoms. Later that evening, as her daughter was preparing for a date, the woman told her about the situation and handed her a box of condoms. The girl burst out laughing and reached over to hug her mother, saying, 'Oh Mom! You don't have to worry about that! I'm dating Susan!' A man went to church one day and afterward he stopped to shake the preacher's hand. He said, 'Preacher, I'll tell you, that was a damned fine sermon Damned good!' The preacher said, 'Thank you sir, but I'd rather you didn't use profanity.' The man said, 'I was so damned impressed with that sermon I put five thousand dollars in the offering plate!' The preacher said, 'No shit?' Brenda and Steve took their six-year-old son to the doctor. With some hesitation, they explained that although their little angel appeared to be in good health, they were concerned about his rather small penis After examining the child, the doctor confidently declared, 'Just feed him pancakes. That should solve the problem.' The next morning when the boy arrived at breakfast, there was a large stack of warm pancakes in the middle of the table. 'Gee, Mom,' he exclaimed. 'For me?' 'Just take two,' Brenda replied. 'The rest are for your father.' One night, an 87-year-old woman came home from Bingo to find her 92-year-old husband in bed with another woman. She became violent and ended up pushing him off the balcony of their 20th floor apartment, killing him instantly. Brought before the court, on the charge of murder, she was asked if she had anything to say in her own defense. 'Your Honor,' she began coolly, 'I figured that at 92, if he could screw, he could fly.' A doctor was addressing a large audience in Tampa . 'The material we put into our stomachs is enough to have killed most of us sitting here, years ago. Red meat is awful. Soft drinks corrode your stomach lining. Chinese food is loaded with MSG. High fat diets can be disastrous, and none of us realizes the long-term harm caused by the germs in our drinking water. However, there is one thing that is the most dangerous of all and we all have eaten, or will eat it. Can anyone here tell me what food it is that causes the most grief and suffering for years after eating it?' After several seconds of quiet, a 75-year-old man in the front row raised his hand, and softly said, 'Wedding Cake.' Bob, a 70-year-old, extremely wealthy widower, shows up at the Country Club with a breathtakingly beautiful and very sexy 25-year-old blonde-haired woman who knocks everyone's socks off with her youthful sex appeal and charm and who hangs over Bob's arm and listens intently to his every word. His buddies at the club are all aghast. At the very first chance, they corner him and ask, 'Bob, how'd you get the trophy girlfriend?' Bob replies, 'Girlfriend? She's my wife!' They are knocked over, but continue to ask. 'So, how'd you persuade her to marry you?' 'I lied about my age', Bob replies. 'What, did you tell her you were only 50?' Bob smiles and says, 'No, I told her I was 90.' Groups of Americans were traveling by tour bus through Holland . As they stopped at a cheese farm, a young guide led them through the process of cheese making, explaining that goat's milk was used. She showed the group a lovely hillside where many goats were grazing. 'These,' she explained, 'are the older goats put out to pasture when they no longer produce.' She then asked, 'What do you do in America with your old goats?' A spry old gentleman answered, 'They send us on bus tours! Make the most of what you can do on your PC and the Web, just the way you want. Windows Live Open Question: Am I just afraid of commitment? What is my problem when it comes to guys?I'm 18 and a senior in high school. I've had plenty of boyfriends over the years, but none in the past year and a half. I have a problem, and I don't quite know what to call "it". Could you help me? Usually this happens: I start liking a guy, flirt with him (a lot) until eventually we start "talking". At this point, I REALLY like this guy...and really want to date him. Usually I can't find any faults with him at all, and think he's perfect for me. Then, we go on a few dates, and then all of a sudden I lose interest in him...and start noticing all of these "faults" that I didn't see before, and all I want is OUT. Then, I'll see another guy, and the process starts all over again. (This has literally happened like 4 times in a row now). All of my best friends have great boyfriends, and I am SO happy for them, but very jealous, and I don't understand why I can't just be happy with one guy. Am I too picky? Do I just like "the chase"? Am I afraid of commitment? I'm not a slut or anything at all. In fact, I rarely "hook up" with these guys. For some reason I just start losing interest once I've gotten the guy. What is my problem and what can I do to fix it I really don't want these guys to just think that I "used" them to get to one of their friends, because that's not what happens at all. Thanks! Open Question: I want her back, but how can I do that? (Long but worth reading)?I have this problem that I find difficult to explain. In my past experience I've let someone in, I've trusted that person and I felt commited to that person. All up until the day she had left. That was 2 years ago. Ever since then, I've created a box that surrounds myself, and myself only. I haven't let anyone in. Until last march of 2009. I found her. We started seeing eachother, everything went well. I decided to take the next step in the month of October. We were dating. It lasted just under 2 weeks. Here's the problem. By that time, I didn't want to imagine going through my days not seeing her. I messed it all up because of that stupid box and past experience thoughts. I was in denial. I made her believe that I was ready to catch her. When really, I watched her fall. We didn't break up. I just left. Without a word or any kind of action. I've said some horrible things to her that if I could, I would take them back without a doubt. I blamed everything on her, when she hadn't done anything wrong. Before this happend, I bought her a $300 bracelet with real diamonds. I don't even want to imagine what she has done with that now. I want to apologize, but buying her something cannot get her to look at me. She won't talk, she won't even look in my direction. It's like I don't exist anymore. I want her back. I want to show her that I CAN be a good person, that I CAN be faithful and I will not lie. I want to be able to show her that we can do whatever we want together while suffering through the rough patches of life. Please help me. Anything will help. Advice or an opinion? I'm tired of breaking down. Tears aren't worth it anymore. Open Question: Should i do something about it?I have a crush on a really good guy friend. We've been friends for like 3 years, but have really gotten friendlier over the last couple of months. We joke with each other all the time, like ill say f you! and he'll say something like "when and where?" we are always on the boundry like that. i think i really like him. but the problem is, i think he likes someone else. he broke up with his gf b/c she cheated on him. a couple weeks ago he hooked up with her at a party. shes still dating another guy, but i see them together sometimes. what should i do? Open Question: Help! i Have a Serious relationship problem and i don't want to lose it!?ok its gonna be kinda long but please hear me out! ok i was dating my bf for almost 3 years, i moved in with him and his family 10 months ago.(i have no family to begin with and not much friends) everything seem perfect until several months later we got into serious arguments over some stupid things. over the months, i notice my bf suggest me to see other ppl and to moved on. but he always recovers from his temper and runs back to me. during this month, i had a mental breakdown and tried overdosing because i had no job, cant pay for college, no car and my current relationship was going down hill. after that day, his parents suggest we stay away from each focus on our own lives. so now we dont sleep with each other nor talk much. strangely he floats around me when i stay away from him for a long time. eventuality he hugs me and mentions that im his best friend. this what makes me extremely mad, a couple days ago he met up with a childhood friend from a reunion. he told me, he use to have a crush on this girl. better yet, he invited this girl in our home for a movie. he sat next to her during the movie. while i was away cause i couldn't bare his insults. later i took his phone and went through his txt messages with this girl. some messages were like" i want to cuddle with you but my ex is here so its awkward" i couldn't tell u how much i cry and didn't sleep. he lied to this girl that we broke up and stuff. thinking it was ok to do so. so i did the dirtiest deed and confronted her on the phone about the true him. she seems dumbfounded and denys she didnt know that my bf likes her. and dont know whats gonna happen between them my bf keeps saying that he wants our relationship to work out and he even told me today to be his roomate by moving out his parents house because they were driving him crazy. i dont know what to do, ppl told me to move on and find a new bf, and to love myself first. i know what usually ppl want me to do but its hard living in the same house. my bf clings on to me when hes lonely or sad. i take his suggestion pretty hard when he tells me how he feels. hes my first love and high school sweetheart and IM TELLING YOU THAT I DONT WANT IT TO END. can anyone tell me whats going on with my man? more than bored, and tired of... i need someone to talk to... Open Question: I always feel like people are taking advantage of me?A year ago, I had a best friend who severely took advantage of me to date a girl. The girl was an attention whore but was the most innocent looking girl ever. This combined, it really scarred me. I have a problem now. I always feel like people are taking advantage of me. If someone asks me to hold something, I'll tell them no. If someone asks me to do them a favor, I'll say no. Also, I don't trust girls in general. I really want to date again, but I can never open myself up to a girl to the point where I feel really secure with her, all because of my previous experience. How can I overcome this? I make fun of people to keep them away from me, so I don't get too close to them. That way they can't make me trust them and hurt me. Open Question: I would really appreciate advice about my boyfriend/situation?We were together 2 years. I'm 21, he is 22. He broke up with me because he just decided one day that he needed to be on his own and grow more/find himself, but there was never any argument or anything so it ended fine. Besides the fact that I am still in love with him. He said that he wants to get back with me someday to marry me and that I'm perfect for him, he just had a gut feeling that something wasn't right, right now and we needed to break up for now so he acted on his feeling. It has been a couple months, and I gave him his space like he wanted, because I didn't want to risk losing him by getting upset and freaking out because I still loved him and he didn't want me back yet. After a 2 months of no contact he started contacting me again slowly just to talk a little and catch up. Then we agreed to hangout once. We had a lot of fun together and he said that he realized that he had feelings for me again but that he still didn't want to get back together yet. So I waited. And didn't contact him because I thought he needed space. Then he got upset and told me one day that he wished I would still be there for him even if we couldn't be together right now. I told him I am here for him that's why I haven't just left after all this time. But I was like it just breaks my heart even more when we talk and you still don't want to get back together yet so the only way I can stay somewhat okay and not completely sad is by not thinking about him so I told him I needed him to leave me alone until he figured out what he wanted. Then after 2 weeks of not talking, I missed him so bad I finally broke down one night and told him how much I still cared for him, and explained how I felt and acted all emotional and everything..and it just made him back away more. He said I was acting weird just going off like that. He said maybe we should take away everything that reminds each other of the other person and delete each others numbers and everything, completely erase each other from our lives. And if we are meant to be it will happen, one day we will find each other. So I didn't know what else to do, 2 days ago I did that. But when I did he got upset and basically said he was done. I want him back so bad, but he seems to be waiting for a sign or feeling to tell him that we are meant to be and it isn't happening so even though he said he has some feelings for me still and has fun talking to me and hanging out, it's still not the right time right now. Anyways..now I found out from his best friend who I'm friends with that he met a girl a couple days ago and even though he doesn't think they are good for each other and she doesn't seem like his type at all, that he asked her to go out to lunch in two days. And he told his friend that he feels like he feels a connection with this new girl, and that he felt like we had that connection and then slowly lost it, which is why he hadn't wanted to get back together yet even though he thought besides that I was good for him. So for months I had been wondering what I had been doing wrong for him to not want me back, and was really confused. And I finally realized last night that our problem is that we stopped having deep conversations, besides having them about our relationship. But in those deep conversations that we used to have about life and just other topics in general, that is where we had once had such a strong connection and felt the spark. And that had slowly gone away. So ..now that I realized that all I need to do is just call him and just start talking, about life and things how we used to, and he would feel the connection with me again, instead of just stressing about our relationship situation. But now I made a big scene and we deleted each other on everything and he said he was done putting his energy into this because it didn't seem to him that we might ever had what we used to have in the beginning again. So he got mad and was done with me. I feel pathetic and he might not even answer his phone or if he does just say he doesn't want to talk, now that he has this other girl on his mind, and now to him I'm just an emotional freak that he wishes would turn back into the girl he once fell in love with and had a connection with, but now I feel like I have ruined everything, he just thinks I have turned weird. I don't want to regret losing him because I was too scared to call, I just am not sure if it will help at all now:/ He has a planned date with another girl that he feels a connection with, and he is done wasting his energy on me. :/Sorry it is so long..I just thought I should explain the situation ... Do you think I should risk it and call him anyway even though he will answer the phone negatively, probably, if at all, and not want to talk to me. And he will ask why am I calling we are done for now, and I freaked out on him for not wanting me back yet, so I need to leave him alone, and he will probably just be mad that I'm calling, but should I just tell him I j just want to talk and press on and talk about life with him and things (I already know what I want to talk to him about and what would be perfect) And get a good conversation going with him like we used to without stressing about our relationship at all. I know I can get him to feel a connection with me again, we get along and relate so well. I just don't know, do you think he will accept me trying to talk to him. Basically guys, if you still had a little feelings for an ex-girlfriend, but you liked this new girl a little. If your ex-girlfriend called you after you cut everything off with her and at first didn't even want to talk but then the conversation between you two was good and it made you feel some connection again. Would you maybe re-consider her? Or still go for the new girl. I am willing to risk calling him to get turned down anyways, I just am wondering if you think it will help at all. Thank you in advance! More Recent Articles |
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