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Open Question: I'm intimidating. What do I do? and more... Open Question: I'm intimidating. What do I do?There is a guy who I have been interested in for a solid year now. We don't get to interact much but I do see him several times a week either around town or when we all get together and play football. When we do see each other he talks to me. Always complements me, and goes on and on when I do something really. He is really playful towards me as well, so I return the favor and have been trying to subtly flirt with him when I can. So on to the problem, apparently I am an intimidating girl. I am really athletic, example, I am the only girl that the guys invite out to only guy sporting events. I am smart, friendly, Christian, easy going, very sure of myself, very competitive, and people tell me that I am very good looking. According to my friends I am too picky and all of these factors combined scare off guys I would like to date. My "crush" has been making it a point to talk to me more recently and the other day was hanging out by my car to change shoes after football. He looked up smiled, started to say something, and then got interrupted by one of our friends. So he just laughed and said bye. So what on earth should I do? Wait around for him to ask for my number or ask him out to coffee myself? I don't want to freak him out and I am the kind of girl that wants the guy to do the asking, but this is getting very irksome. Open Question: do i have a valid reason to seek counselling?hi this is really embarrassing. But basically I suffer from mild, recurring depression and Im pretty sure its because of my (lack of a) love life. I constantly feel rejected by boys and unwanted, and have zero confidence in myself in regards to my dating life and relationships. I miss my ex very much and I just want to date other guys even if it doesnt lead to anything, just for the experience and so i dont feel so lonely. Im not saying i want to use guys to get over the ex; i just mean i want to experience life, including guys, to the fullest. But due to constant rejection I get very depressed and that makes me miss the ex, which makes me even more depressed. I want to go to counselling to help my problem because it's spoiling my life. But Im worried that theyll think im wasting their time. is this reason valid to seek help? x Open Question: Did I do the right thing by giving him another chance?My boyfriend and I have been on and off for 7 years now, within that time we've dated other people. So as of August this year we got back together, before that he dated this girl for about 3 months but than had left her to come back to me. When I asked him if they still talk he had said no, problem is I just recently found out they were still talking over the phone up until beginning of Oct, he claims it was mostly her calling and that there was nothing going on, He knew i had a problem with him talking to her because Ive read some text messages from her saying she misses him and wants him back, so when i confronted him I also told him to tell her to leave him alone he denied that he made calls to her and he said that she hasn't called him for awhile so there was no point of calling her and telling her. Later I asked him if he will block her number, finally after sometime he agreed to block her number, and promised not to talk to her again, but should I believe him? I just don't want to be hurt again, I really do love him though. Does he deserve another chance? Open Question: My EX is a Cop, I broke-up with her, and she wants me back. What should I do?I've known that girl nearly 10 years, and basically the only guy to know her inside out. Our relationship was based off of trust, honesty, and loyalty. All I can say is when a woman becomes a cop during that process, the academy brainwashes everyone, meaning women tend to be more like men. Because, women have to be twice as strong for 1) being because of their gender, and 2) also to be taken seriously. I never found her intimidating, that was never the cause of the break. The problem was I noticed was things such as "saying we're going to do something and not coming through with it (flaking out), ditching me for her cop buddies, making plans almost as if I'm not even in her life, oh and she started drinking just out of the blue, when she quit when she started dating me, and than she got a tattoo (god knows why?) and of course alcohol alcohol alcohol....things add up, became annoying. Basically, the person that I fell in love with just disappeared a matter of months. Im still friends with her, and always will be there for her. But when A COP thinks HE/SHE is ALWAYS RIGHT about everything during an argument, or debate, or statment. There's a big problem. The problem is if you want to date a civilian dont bring your work at home, leave work at work. Even if you are on call, stop checking your phone, dont text when youre with your loved ones (big rule), this is coming from a guy that had the last 8 months turn out bad, and ended up DUMPING HER (because I couldnt take it anymore). It was never over the fact of her being intimidating since alot of guys tend to fall in the "i feel inferior category", it was always over the fact she kept flaking out, or petty arguments, and hanging out with her cop buddies over me, or being forgetful about events and occasions, not being time efficient, or even being considered of that person youre in a relationship with and that person's feelings. Will there be a second chance? Who knows. All I can say is cops are good (depending on the person who is a cop), but the only problem is when you take the "emotions" out of a woman theres no point being with her, might as well date a guy? I believe, Women should always be more emotionally attached with their feelings than men, it shouldnt be the guy trying to understand the situation all the time? Basically, the career should be equalize between the person in the realtionship with, and if you cant do that, thats just a bit selfish I would say. Anyways thats just my "IMO" on the whole female cop thing. I supported her in her goal to be a cop, even helped train her at the gym, but when you notice a personality change, socially and mentally, Should a person choose career over true love? Theres so many occupations that you can do out there that are similar and dont aquire the brainwashing system...it just depends on what you do. So despite all this, she calls me 6 days after we break-up and wants things to go back to normal. I tell her we'd talk about it when shes settling down, and getting used to her schedule, or when she KNOWS what she wants and takes US seriusly in the coming future. But I want to ask you if i should or should not take her back? Since she wants to start off with a clean plate. Ps: Thanks for reading my long detail explanation. Open Question: Can we go out? Please help?It's complicated but please help: I know this guy since we were in 4th grade. I'm 21 years old now and i'm the kind of the girl that is still shy. He was in another class when we were kids but in high school we were taking the same classes. A friend of his(not best friends but just friend) was in love with me and he was showing it everyday(but wasn't interested at him). Anyway, I liked the guy even when he was taking bad grades or saying stupid jokes. The only little problem is that we never talk! We were of the kind of schoolmates just say good morning or ask about a lesson..He was sometimes making jokes to make me laugh as he was doing to other girls, he didn't show me any move. I knew he was dating with girls of the class but not like me (I was fat then) or my friends.More likely with blonds, make-up & perfect nails girls or cheerleaders..I ever dropped him one day talking with his friends and said he preferred nice girls in personality not only body. But other time I heard him saying sex is much important in a relationship. So I was confused. When I finished school I had bad grades and went to study miles away but he still studies in our hometown. I'm different now comparing to what I was back then. I have confidence and I take care of my clothes and make-up. I had a relationship but it wasn't going well. He's graduating college next year (I have a year more) and every time I come back to hometown I'm frightened that I might see him with many girls or something.(because a friend told me he still acts like a child..) I'd like to make him understand I like him and I don't know how.! It's funny because i know him since he was playing with pokemon cards and I just can't talk to him. Also I feel ashamed of my bad grades of school and I feel he might think I'm stupid. Please tell me what can I do? Something more: is usually true that when guys get to know a woman really well the get bored of her?..(because I had a relationship that didn't work because of it) How can I prevent it of happening again? Thank you Open Question: Is it normal for him to care about looks THIS much? Does he sound shallow?My boyfriend is absolutely gorgeous. Problem is, he knows it. Whenever we take pictures together, he'll go on about how sexy he looks in a certain photo and say stuff like, "you didn't tell me you were dating such a stud muffin." I constantly see him looking at himself in the mirror, as if he's checking himself out. I make fun of him for it, too. When he worked as a waiter a while back, female customers would always ask him to take a picture with them and tell him he's so cute. When he worked in retail, the tourists would always ask him to try on clothes just so they could see him shirtless. I think perhaps all that female attention went to his head? He's a nice guy, but sometimes when he talks about how gorgeous he thinks he is im like, okay, okay, I get it. You're hot. Next subject, please. He doesn't put me down or anything. In fact, he always tells me how cute/pretty/gorgeous he thinks I am. And says things like, "We are one hot couple" or "We would make one sexy baby" and "My ex girlfriends don't hold a candle to you." Does it sound like he puts too much of an emphasis on looks? I get hit on a lot too, but I dont' bring it up as much as he does and I definitely don't go around talking about how hot I think I am. I just don't make as much of a big deal on looks. I'm more of an inner-beauty type of person. It just get a little annoying hearing about how attractive he or other people think he is. He also makes comments like, "I could never date a fat girl, please don't get fat." or "That girl was so ugly it bothered me to even be in the same room." Makes me wonder if he'd stop being so loving toward me if he didn't find me attractive. I love him and think it's great he has confidence, but do you think its a bit much? More Recent Articles
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