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Open Question: is he worth it or not? LONG? and more... Open Question: is he worth it or not? LONG?Ok so there's this guy he asked me out like in year 7 in high school, I said Ok and then he told me it was all a joke and a dare and he doesn't really care.. we didn't talk for ages until he said sorry and then we became really close like best friends. Then in year 8 he asked me out AGAIN and ofcourse i said no u lied to me before and he asked at different times about 7 times saying will u go out with me or not? All times i said not really your just lieing.. AGAIN he asks in year 9 and he asks to go out with me since im older now (13) i didn't really answer cuz i dont like him that way THE PROBLEM my closest friend went out with him a long time ago and since then everyone has been calling her that boys name practically the whole year found out about them two and kept teasing them both about each other its so bad she still gets called his name sometimes. So he says if we do go out you can't tell anyone not even your best friends and we can't be seen together in school only OUTSIDE all the dates he suggests I have to come on my own and can't bring my friends along (i want to cuz i dont know him tht well). THING IS... I dont even like him I haven't even actually said Ill go out with u and he thinks were going out he asks are we in luv or not? I didn;t answer because I was busy and then he said f*** u then b**** and i swore back and all.. the convo we had before he also told me to shut the f**** up when I said something that he didn;t like. Does this guy even care what I think and does he really like me or is he just playing or using me.. Open Question: Hanuted by the past, am I/are we a lost cause?Ok simply put I'm 21 years old dating a 18(almost 19 year old). I do like her alot a scary ammount actually and I think that is the source of our problems...I thought she was to good to be true and I was right we started getting open about our past and some skeleons came out. I already have a fair ammount of anxiety problems and when she revealed 9 partners, (one being an adult) several stories of questioable behavior (skinny dipping in front of people At a party etc) it all hit me hard inside. There was an extremely gaudy experince before we started officialy dating where she hooked up with a friend of mine in front of me. She was very genuine and is always straight forward to me it was easy to forgive...but not forget. I'm not some immature prude but I like her alot enough that it's more than just a casual sexual relationhip to me. It's all just starting to accumalate and as much as I like her, it is really starting to get to me. Should I just walk away? She has never been shady and she claims I can't judge her based on the past but (I'm a psychology major) that's impossible. If I should leave I will break her heart how should I do it? Open Question: Ugh. Im so confused with every thing. Boy problems!?So. I had sex with this guy ive known for yrs. Im thought i was in love with him. It wasn't wat i though it would be. And he had dated two of my best friends.(we had se before). Ugh. Im so grossed out by the fact that i put my self in that position. He always lets me walk ahead on the way back from school. and he always wants me to get on the bus Hes never mean to me about the fact hat we had sex(like he is to my friend) He always tries to have conversations with me. and he pretty nice. I don't know if he likes me or if i was a booty-call. and if i was a booty call is he just being nice to try to keep me around for next time hes hard up?? Ugh. Please any opinion can help.(yea i know it was decision to have sex with him while not dating) Open Question: Marriage counselling during separation?Currently separated from my hubby. It was my decision as he was not speaking to me for about 1.5 by then and by the time he wanted to talk, I really couldn't do it anymore. It's very hard living with someone who won't speak words to you. By then he'd taken my engagement ring and won't give it back to me and I spent the night at my parents' house one weekend and he didn't even call to find out where I was. I'd been asking him to go to counseling with me for 7 months before I moved out and he went one time with me. We are both at fault here... him for not communicating with me and me for going out a lot. He was also going out a lot until 4 and 5 in the morning and never invited me out. Eventually I had an affair which I regret every single day of my life (during the time he didn't speak to me, he does not know this happened though) and accept 100% responsibility for, he is not to blame for this at all. The guilt of this eats me up every day and I hate myself and have no idea how to come to terms with this. So we separated and he served me with legal separation papers which I've yet to sign. We've seen eachother a handful of times and I asked him if he wants to do marital counseling to save our relationship and he keeps saying "I don't know." Last year I found he had a dating profile looking for sex which he later said was a "joke" though he admitted to having it for years. He's always had a hot and cold temper and I've always been impulsive. We are both very stubborn but I love him so much. How can I forgive myself for what I did and him for ignoring me every 2 months for days/weeks. How can he forgive me for "not being supportive?" and going out a lot? We are both at fault here for our problems. I've been doing marital counseling alone since June. I am wrong and he is wrong. His visa from another country was expired when we married and now he has a greencard that came from our marriage. We do not have kids. Where do we go from here? I want very much for my marriage to work. Advice. **OH, I forgot to add the most important thing: We spoke just last night and I asked if he wants to do m. counseling and he said "I don't know..., I'm not sure." In Feb he told he outright he would not go and then went once. I have been going alone since. Open Question: Can you forgive and forget 100%?I'm not so sure I can do both. Before my now boyfriend and I started dating I was in a relationship where after we break up he hooked up with one of my friends who I considered close to,this girl always asked me for advice,always called me for her nonsense talk,and she always wanted to know who I was dating that's how she ended up hooking up with my ex,So after all of that I hated her.lol? Months later I started dating again,just talking to guys and that's when I met my now boyfriend.It was my mistake by telling him everything that have happened between my ex and that girl,he mention that girl tried talking to him before,so I told him to watch out.I was also talking to this other guy and me and him ended up being really close,my boyfriend and I weren't dating just talking so I didn't think id be a problem,little did I know he was jelous and to 'get back at me' he started talking to that girl.I was really upset not because I was jelous but because I clearly told him I didn't like her and he still went and talked to her,so after that I didn't think it was a good idea to still talk to him that way but I remained his friend.The other guy and I ended up hookinh up and my now boyfriend got so mad that he decided to date that girl and pick her over me,months later he came back apologysing and whatnot I forgave him but made it clear I wasn't going to date him,and I didn't want him to mention that girl around me. I stopped talking to the other guy bc it bothered my boyfriend,he didn't stop talking that girl though and he always denied me when she would call,he told me hurtful things she would say about me,and later on I found and saw prove how they both talked pretty bad about me.he again apologysed and told me he would stop talking to her.He never stopped and I was pretty upset because I had developed feeling for him.I told him and he said he felt the same,yet I found out he would mess around with her. A year later,we decided to officially date,he was pretty sorry about what happened and decided to come clean telling me he was only talking to her so he could hurt me on purpose bc it hurt him how I hooked up with that guy.I was really sad because bc of that girl I was hurt not to long before that and now he was trying to hurt me ON PURPOSE?! I never tried to hurt anyone. So to show me he was 'sorry' he got my name tattoed on his arm and its been an awesome boyfriend. Sometimes I get mad over the past,just because I know he tried to hurt me on purpose,I know its the past and it should be left there but I still hold that grudge and honesly its been getting in the way of me being nice and sweet to him or even loving him 100% Should I get over it,or is it something I shouldn't forgive? Does anyone have a related story?or what would you do if you were in my position? I'm sorry its long,I always try to give as much detail as possible :( Thanks. More Recent Articles |
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