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Open Question: Is this normal? HELP!? and more... Open Question: Is this normal? HELP!?I'm 20 years old and a full-time college student. Is it normal for me to hang out with my boyfriend (we've been dating for over a year) more than my family? I understand that even in high school, teenagers begin to branch off and mold their own lives outside of the family. My parents can't seem to understand this, so is there something I'm not seeing or understanding? Is it normal for me to want to pay for my cell phone plan? I mentioned to them that I wanted to pay for my own cell phone plan/bill and that if I got a job on campus, I could get a discount. Well, they got extremely angry, calling me crazy for wanting to throw away my education (which "they work hard to pay for"). I only wanted to after they looked at the bill (which shows every number I call or receive) to see if they could call me after I didn't pick up for the phone even though I told them I was studying. Also, I had to lie to them before and tell them that my boyfriend and I broke up because they didn't want me to have a boyfriend and they constantly worried that I would have sex and get pregnant therefore, ruining my college career and my life forever. My mom would make comments if I hung out with him too much like "you two are getting too close," "i don't want you kissing in or in front of my house." She's even called him to tell him that he's not welcome to the house anymore. Anyway, they noticed on the phone bill that I talked to him "too much." Next semester, I will be moving back into a dorm. I'm an upperclassman and most upperclassman stay in off campus apartments. Plus, it's $200 cheaper, I'll get my own room with my own bathroom and campus is just a bus ride away. They don't want me to take the bus (I'm a commuter right now and have been parking in a lot to take the bus for a semester now), they don't want to pay monthly payments and would rather pay for tuition+room and board altogether because it'll be financially convenient rather than financially affordable! Well, I told them that they can pay the full rent for an entire year at once, but they refuse. Again, they think I'm absolutely crazy for wanting to live off campus. Is this normal? I feel like they have me on a leash. I care about my parents and when they worry, it's an absolute stress on me. I know they love me, but it's to the point where it's completely overbearing. And I know it's hard for them to let go of their child who is growing up (esp since I'm the oldest), but they won't admit it! After the last fight we had, they think I have psychological problems because all I want to do is grow up, gain some of my own responsibilities and do what I want to do. My mom has told me that with my personality, I will make my life harder and has asked my sister if she thinks I need help! I've been a good child and will always be. I'm not a crazy, slutty, binge-drinking every weekend type of college girl. I'm smart about the decisions I make and want to make some mistakes on my own and learn from them! My parents want my life to be an easy, non-bumpy road, but I understand life isn't like that! I know 20 yrs old isn't "old," and that I'm still young, but they make me feel like I can't do anything on my own as if I'm still in high school! Please Help! Open Question: I hate to admit it but I do find most intelligent people to be white?Most Intelligent people do happen to be white. And im not just some "troll" saying that.. just look out in society and see the majority of successful people are white.. most really educated minorities whether they be black, asian or hispanic happen to be raised around whites anyways. Every black person that i come across in daily life always happens to be into this brainwashed "ghetto lifestyle" mentality or just simply have no desire to upgrade themselves academically.. the ones that do, make up a small minority. Most of the time they have this stink attitude look on there face as if they are going to slap you silly if you even smile at them.. they frown upon people who inter racially date calling them "sell outs" and other crude words.. the black women i notice seem to complain about all the black men that are dating white women and use that as an excuse as to why they put no ambition into finding a man or at least looking decent enough to attract one. I mean you cant expect to attract ANY man besides black if you are fat, rolls hanging out of your stomach with a stink attitude.. even the black men are opening there eyes and seeing other options.. its sad that most of the time there options happen to be fat white chicks.. but some are coming out of there "fat obsession" and moving on to better thinner women regardless of race. I think its time black people that you wake up and stop blaming other people for your problems.. stop bantering back and forth with whites on simple observations they make based on things they see on daily basis.. stop being on the defence and start changing your ways. Im obviously not speaking to ALL black people but there is a HUGE majority in which fall into the category i just described. Its like after the civil rights movement the motivation in the black community to do ANYTHING and accomplish anything just died.. Its nice we have a so called "black" president.. but he was raised by WHITES.. which is just proving my point. I was raised around whites which is probably why i think the way i do.. but i still believe its true even if i wasnt i would just be in denial. every one who disagree is in denial and on the defense not in any motive or amibition to actually change there ways to getting an education and making something of there lives other then being a rapper or fathering 10 billion babies from a guy who u know very well is not father material. or looking attractive and loosing the FAT to find a decent man whether he be black or white. Open Question: Is his sex drive normal?Alright, I have decided to try to get an outside opinion on my problem I am having in my otherwise 'perfect' relationship. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. We are both in our early twenties, healthy, and happy. We have lived together for the past 3 years and besides our sex life everything is great. We have typical fights here and there but nothing major ... when we first started dating and for the first couple years we had sex very regularily ... even a lot. I was usually the one having to bat him off or complain I was too sleepy etc. Now things have changed ... I would not say that I want sex a lot, but much more than he does. If I did not approach him for sex we could easily go months now. I cannot remember the last time he inciated it... and I am routinely turned down with him stating that it is either too late and he has to get up or he is tired and "I promise we will do it tomorrow" ... When we do have sex it is good ... he is very attentive and into it ... but it is getting him to do it. Otherwise we are very cuddly and always kissing and play fighting etc ... just no sex. We are both attractive people...I know he is attracted too me...he tells me multiple times and day. He is crazy about me ... but just has little interest in sex. I love him more than the world and I guess I either figure this out or live with it ... I would hate to live with it like this. I have tried spicing things up ... we went to the sex store together ... He is not cheating...would never dream of it. We spend almost all our time together. He gets hard and stays hard ...etc What could be the reason?? Open Question: There is a boy I really like...? :(?ok pplz sorry if i make this ridiculously long but if i dont tell you the details your not gonna understand. so here's the story. i go to a treatment center for a suicide attempt(trust me i dont think suicide is the answer anymore). I go to this place for school and therapy for 9 hours of the day then i go home. we have school for four hours, a half hour of free time, 45 minutes for lunch, an hour an a half for group therapy and the rest of the day recreational therapy. anyways not like that really matters.. so for group therapy we are in there with boys and girls who have similar and/or different issues and the guy i like is in my group. he's the first boy ive met that isnt into drugs or sex and seems like a really caring and funny guy(every guy ive ever met has used me and hurt me). so anyways i really like him ALOT and trust me ive gotten to kno him. he likes the same bands i do and has the same interests and problems(as far as parents) as me. we've had alot of conversations(another question i have.. does he like me..? i constantly catch him staring at me and trying to talk to me. im pretty skeptical tho). but the treatment center has very strict rules and were absolutely not allowed to date anybody. i can definitely understand why they have these rules im not saying i dont but still i really like him and i feel like i wont meet another guy like him. the people that work there say we can hang out or facebook or whatever if were out of the program but i really feel like he wouldnt want to and even if he did how the hell do i ask him that??? PLEASE help :( Open Question: Why am I not good enough for anyone? (almost anyone.. the people I don't like are the ones who like me..)?Seriously? I couldn't be more pathetic of a human being... MAINLY, I have one rule... My first time has to be with another virgin, and of COURSE the only girls who like me were not... The girls I do like, I never have a chance with them. The virginity thing does matter to me, it won't change, otherwise I would have slept with the perfect girl in the world >_>> I'm alone in this fucking world... 15, never kissed, 10th grade, and it has triggered depression on me.... But when I talk to girls, I don't show any signs about it. HOW DO I GET A F*CKING GIRL TO LIKE ME?? I don't TALK to any girls... I TRY so hard, but none of them ever want to text me, none want to talk to me... In the last 3 years, I've been rejected over 40 times.. (i know what I did wrong with all of them now, I've learned my lesson :\ I know how to start it off, and time it just perfectly now...) The only problem is... I've run out of girls to go after. 2 of the 3 girls that liked me, were HUGE. I do not mind chubby people, but i mean these girls were like 5'3 and 250+ pounds.... And neither of them were virgins? Chubby is fine with me... I can't date a girl bigger than me though, I'm chubby, I'm not FAT... But most girls say the chubbyness isn't the problem, but apparently I am ugly... I didn't think so, i never thought I was hot but I didn't think I was ugly either? I've had several girls say I wasn't cute enough for them... (which is bullsh*t, looks don't matter that much too me anyway and I don't go after extremely hot girls... i go after average girls?) but HOW DO I GET A GIRLFRIEND? There is NO ONE left at my high school, I have a car and drive my friends places, but I have no idea where to go to meet girls. For the longest time, I really wanted my first kiss also to be with another girl who it was going to be her first kiss... I've accepted that fact, although I would still love it, but now I don't know where to go to get a girlfriend :\ I hate being lonely, where do i go. Girls tell me I'm one of the sweetest and funniest people they know (however i am quite clingy :\ ) but I'm stuck... And I hate myself.. Open Question: ex-girlfriend problem! what should i do ?i use to date so many girls in the past, now that i see them their all gorgeous and with their man and heres me all lonely with nobody...when i see them that feelings back, my heart just starts pumping like the air is just so thick to inhale....what should i do ? Open Question: If i forgot my last period, how can i count the duration of my preganancy?The doctor told me that according to the ultrasound, right now i am about 17 weeks and my due date is on May 27 2010. My problem is i forgot my last period, so if anyone has the due date and the duration of the pregnancy like me, please let me know when was ur last period. I do hope that i can find mine by ur answers...thank u so much in advance. Open Question: What to do to get through a bump in our relationship?My boyfriend and I were previously best friends for 9 years, then 2 years ago started dating. We both had been married and divorced, and now neither of us is quite ready to get married, however, we both want to be married to each other and often talk about it. But, lately we have both had major stresses in our lives and it seems our relationship has hit a rocky spot. We both agree that we are willing to do anything possible to get through this, but we aren't sure where to start. The problem is that for the past few weeks our relationship has ultimately been about 80% about sex. We have had few chances to see each other and it seems that's the only thing we get accomplished when we do. Day to day it just seems that things are great one day on the phone and the next we are both sort of dragging. We both want to get back to where we were a few weeks ago, where we were extremely close and very very very much in love as always. But the lack of face to face time we've had is really taking it's toll on us as a couple. Does anyone have some suggestions to get things back to where we want it to be again? BTW, it does seem that until after the holidays we still wont get too much time to devote to each other, between now and then probably only a max of 5 times (a few hours each visit) we'll get to spend time together without being together with our families. Open Question: what should i do? i can't seem to find clarity or get any help.. i'm pretty much stuck?well, to make an extremely long story somewhat short, i'm in love with this girl. i've seen her in a serious relationship, i've seen her get cheated on and be completely broken. i've seen her rise from that, and she's now in a relationship but she always says "it's nothing serious." this january will make 3 years that i've known her/felt this way for her. friends tell me to try and date others, and i dated this one girl but it didn't work out at all, she ended up hurting me. i ended up going to the girl i'm in love with for advice, because she's one of the only ones i could trust with it. she helped me through it. she'll sometimes do things that look like she could possibly be into me, too. (walking into a circle of people i'm in and bringing up a show i told her i was watching the night before. like, 'so how about criminal minds last night?!' and taking me out to clear my head, asking me to go to her job with her to get papers and contiuously telling me 'i'm so happy you came with me, i'd be so bored without you.' showing a lot of skin around me, etc.) but then my insecurities get the best of me and i point out all the things that would make her NOT like me (besides the fact that she's 5 years older.) we don't talk everyday, maybe a couple times a week.. sometimes less than that. she leads a very busy life. i know many of you are probably like "okay, i don't see the problem.. just tell her how you feel." well, it's truthfully not that easy. it's taken me so long to finally get her to trust me and open up to me like she does now. i'm willing to wait, because i've been waiting this long and some of her (meaning having her as a friend) is better than none of her. i just don't know what to do.. i'm so in love with her, and it breaks my heart to not have her. i miss her so much the pain is excruciating. i don't know what to do.. someone PLEASE help?! she's the only reason for happiness i have in my life, and i don't know what i'd do if i lost that. but i feel like i'm not good enough for her and she deserves so much better than me.. Open Question: Why cant he believe that im attracted to him? (interracial issue)?So there is this guy who i been with and he happens to be white and its like no matter what i do he seems to not believe im attracted to him. Everything is always him second guessing my motives.. looking through my cell to see if im texting other guys.. having to keep a close watch on ANY guy i talk to.. i cant talk to one guy without him asking me "who is that, why were you talking to him" etc etc.. its like he expects me to not talk to anybody but him and to follow him around all day. I have my own life before i started dating him and now its like he wants my life to be all about him. He is a great bf besides all that very caring and pays attention to everything i say or do.. but that is the problem he pays attention to EVERYTHING i say or do.. if i wear my hair curly and dress really cute he thinks im doing it for another guy and trying to show off .. if i dress down he asks if im depressed and questions me about whats wrong the whole day.. He expects me to hug and kiss him 24/7 even if were at his parents or mine.. Its getting to the point where he drives around looking for me if were away for more then an hour.. Im not much of a dater and im not use to commitments.. im not well with commitments and i told him that.. but i really feel like this is just to much. I dont know if its common in interracial relationships for this to happen where insecurity is at its all time high cause the person feels they may loose you to someone in your own race or something.. i dunno.. but he is just too protective. Where there is a significant amount of black people in an area he makes us walk the opposite way.. he grabs my hand tighter if we walk past a black guy.. the list just goes on and on.. Harvey pooka whatever ur name is u need to get out more.. not everyone is a racist closed minded bigot like you. and who says "colored" anyore? its black.. black or african american. Clearly you do not get out.. which is not shocking as to why your so ignorant with your dumb founded mentality and thinking ways. Open Question: ------what does this mean?-------?i found the note on the bottom in ajournal on 1 of my gf's sites what does a.h.o means in this note? Help!!!!! Wow. my life is so confusing. Feels like my head is spinning, and i've got a headache... wait no. actually, it feels like my entire WORLD is spinning... ow, my head hurts... ok, so here's the problem. I dated a guy last year, who is two years younger, and goes to the middle school, while i go to the high school. Cuz of my mixed up emotions, thought i didn't know who i loved... I ended up breaking his heart, and mine, out of stupidity... Now, his mom hates me, she won't allow us to talk, since we go to different schools, we only see each other at bus change, for only a few minutes on the days that i DON'T have cheerleading practice, and then on the days that i do have practice, we have even less time after school to exchange notes, which has become our only means of communication, besides the occasional site that ISN'T blocked on the school computers, (including here), since im not allowed on the computer at home(my mom says it's all my fault that the computer crashed, even though it isn't, and my sister remains blameless) I kinda think that i love him, and he's told me he feels the same way, and i kinda wanna (a.h.o) for christmas, but... i'm not sure if its a good idea, with how little time we get to spend together, and the fact that we aren't supposed to talk at all... i don't know what i should do... does anyone have any tips or ideas for me?? ANYthing is welcome... Open Question: Do u think we can pull this off?Oct 9,th 2010 is my wedding date i started planing my wedding in March i got alot of things like all my centerpieces, our wedding rings, our wedding flute,brides maids gifts,guest book,invitations,thank you cards,decorations for church & hall, my shoes & accessories,my dress ($850.00) is half way payed off. This is the problem we still owe $1600. on our photographer we just made only a deposit of $600 we still owe $3000. on our reception hall we made a deposit of $250, limo deposit $100. still owe $700. cake will cost $300, DJ will charge $300.alcohol will come up to $400, I'm on unemployment and now hes out of work due to injury he might be out of work for about 6wks and doesn't have any more vacation days left no workman comp yet no temporary disability yet I know that Oct is a long way off but does anyone think that we can pull this off Remind you income tax is coming up soon that might be about $4500. We dont and will not have any help Open Question: Im nervous about labour can any one help?Hi ya my first baby is due jan 12th 2010 i've had such a great pregnancy with no problems and have enjoyed it so much:) i've been trying to keep active throughout walking lots ect and have been doing soooo much research about pregnancy and birth?! even resorted to watching videos on the internet about the stages of labor to try and ease my nerves, but to be honest even through recognizing the signs, understanding the stages and processes of labor it hasn't really made the nerves go away lol and as the due date is coming closer im becoming more and more nervous. My pregnancy seems to have flown by so fast - though im really excited to meet my baby boy is there any thing i can do to ease my nerves???? help xx Open Question: my situation is a little complicated.?okay, so im friends with this girl. im starting to like her, and im not sure if she feels the same way. we hang out sometimes, and text every day. she says she really enjoys talking to me, and she does act flirty sometimes, although im not sure if its intentional or not. my friends, who don't know i like her, said they think she likes me, when i didn't even ask them what they thought. now, the problem is that her and her ex broke up a few weeks ago because all he does is party. shes straight edge, as am i, and i know she is still in love with him. (they dated for like 8 months). she says she thinks they may get back together, and they hang out a lot too. they walk around holding hands and stuff, but i want to think that might just be because they are still really close. what i want to know is, do you think theres a good chance she may like me? because id rather not tell her how i feel, because it could jeapordize our friendship and make the guy pissed at me More Recent Articles |
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