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Open Question: My boyfriend says he doesn't care if I were to sleep with other guys....? and more... Open Question: My boyfriend says he doesn't care if I were to sleep with other guys....?I have been dating my current boyfriend for 7 months now. At the beginning of the relationship we had a long conversation on jealousy, and he expressed to me that he's never felt that emotion towards any of his previous girlfriends because he feels that it leads to irrational behavior and can consequently harm the relationship. I completely agreed with him on that part but he continued to say that he wouldn't even care if his exes slept with other people as long as it made them happy. When he first told me this I thought that it must have just been a way of protecting himself from his previously slutty girlfriends and unhealthy relationships by convincing himself "he didn't care". I thought that as time went by and our realtionship grew stronger, that he might feel differently towards me and maybe show some emotion when it came to feelings of jealousy. But he's repeatedly expressed to me that he doesn't care if i were to see other guys or even if I were to have sexual relations with them because love has nothing to do with lust. I told him that his way of thinking concerned me because I'd certainly have a problem if he were to cheat on me and he assured me that he only wants my happiness and that he'd never do anything to hurt me. I just don't know what to think...I don't find it normal for a person not to care at all about their partner's relations with the opposite sex. I'm not saying for him to be a jealous nutjob but I just feel like his not caring about this kind of stuff is another way of saying that what's between us is not serious. I see it as human nature to be just a bit jealous because of the natural fear of losing someone you really care about...I don't know, is it just me?? What do you think? Open Question: Is she just playing hard to get, or did she just not realize I was into her that way?So I have met this girl in college. She is 18, I am 24. I never talked to her in the class we have together, but she was always looking at me a lot. I caught her looking at me occasionally and I smiled at her and she smiles back and looks away. So I ran into her one day when she was in the library, and we talked (she was just hanging out waiting for her friends to get out of class.) We hit it off and we found out we had a lot in common. She was very open and talkative, and we talked for an hour before I even knew it. Well we met up like that a couple of times over two or three weeks. (She told me when she was in the library usually) I asked her for her number after our third conversation. So I called her two days after she gave me her number and I got her voicemail (it was Wednesday night and she was at church I found out later.) and left her a nice message saying I enjoyed talking to her and I left her my number in case she wanted to call me back. (Not actually expecting her to call me back of course.) Well just before Christmas break I decided I wanted to ask her out on a date. I found her in the commons area of our school where she sometimes hangs out, by herself. So I went up and talked to her for a bit. Complimented her on her new hat she said she got for Christmas. And then I proceeded to ask her out to dinner this Friday. (I was a little nervous but I kept it smooth through some miracle.) She smiled and she said she liked talking to me and thanked me for asking her out, but she thought of me as a friend "right now." It all seemed very sweet and I took it very well. It didn't seem awkward really. I said "that's cool I understand, maybe another time." She smiled and said yeah. So do I just not know this girl well enough, or is she just trying to let me down gently? I think I should have hung out with her some more before I asked her out, and we never really flirted a whole lot. That is what I think the problem was. Thanks for any advice on what to do! Open Question: Should I Switch Schools or Not?Hi, i will try to get to the point here. i have always wanted to be an actress since i was small and i got accepted to an arts school in grade 9 that is predomanantly jewish and asian (nothing is wrong with this fact alone). i am currently in grade 11 and am hating this school more and more. everyone is so cliquey and i feel off beat with everyone. i am a likable person and have no troubles making new friends. but i can not relate with any of my peers. my closest friend is russian and has a physical disabilty, so i guess we relate in a way in which we both do not fit in. but she is annoying at times and i can only take her in small doses. i am half japanese and half jamaican and cherish both of my cultures. i am in the drama program and i feel like it is turning me off from my dream of being an actress someday. for school events and plays it seems like u have to have gone to they same feter school as all the other 'artsies' or be in the whole little clique. i am an 'artsie' technically but i am so not like the rest of them. i feel like im being constricted from being who i really am and i know this sounds stupid. i dress fine with up to date styles and brands and i enjoy it, so its not like a fitting in thing but i sometimes find myself talking like them and i do not like that because my middle school was so diverse in culture that one was free to be themselves without any fear. i dont care what ppl think of me usually but lately it has been on my mind and i do not want to be that type of girl. im wierd i like wierd things, i dont fit the common stereotypes of jamaican or asian girls. i guess my point is, an arts school is supposed to be expressive but EVERYONE is the same. i have tried to commit suicide and have been having major emotional problems for the year of grade 11. i am usually a energetic, rndom, silly, happy, smart person. my marks used to be 80's and up and now i am 50's. i dont know what to do. the people and teachers are great but i jsut hate the school for some reason. i was thinking of inrolling in a school which my cousins go to. i feel like i could truly be myself at that school for some reason. no idea why. i just want to go to a school to focus on my marks because im am in grade 11, grade 12 is around the corner. but all these arts are a major thing to give up. it is a prestegius school. i do not get bullied but, since grade nine i found that i talk to less and less ppl and its almost like i have no friends just aquaintences. so on the exterior things might look fine but inside im confuzzled. im sorry this is so long, but any advice would be great. Open Question: help me with this having girl problems?Alright so I have known this girl for about three years now and even dated her once but it was really wierd because we are both shy and didnt talk much and she was my sisters best friend so that made things even harder after awhile she broke up with me but thats understandable now two years later I have grown and matured and its not so hard to speak to women anymore so Ive been talking to her again on myspace and she said that after we broke up she really missed me but she aint sure weather she wants to date me again or not cause of the way i treated her when i was around friends how do i show her ive changed Open Question: am i a bad person ? does he like me ? did i mess it all up ? do i leave ? but all the history we have ?okay , im 21 and im best friends with like 4 guys who are in a band , i live with too of them who have there own house , they go on tour a lot and im left by myself a lot , anyway , one of them jack he has been my best best best friend forever and we the guys who to say he liked me , he would allways get a little jelous when i went on dates and he stoped talking to me for 3 months when i had a boyfriend , so i asked him stright up wht hes deal was , then he kissed me and told me he loved me , i had a boyfriend at the time who i loved so i told jack that it was too late , i siad we can still be best friends , so we started hanging out again and we where all good but about 3 weeks later my boyfriend cheated on me ( which jack had siad from the start but i never listened ) anyways we broke up and i started acting in a bad way , i was leaving the house for days without coming back or telling them where i went , i started getting drunk every day and started doing all sorts of bad stuff with guys i diidnt even no , anyways i got in some trouble and they guys had to safe me , they told me if i diidnt get strighted out that they would kick me out , so i got strightened out and things where normal again , after a while i got a new boyfriend and again jack kissed me and told me he loved me , its like he only wanted me when i had a boyfriend never when i diidnt , he diidnt talk to me for a week after that , i asked the guys wht his problem was and they siad that he only siad he loved me whn i had a boyfriend cuz he was scared tht if i diidnt have a boyfriend i would still say no and then that ment i diidnt like him , but if i had a bf and i siad no that there was a reason ( is that a guy thing ?? ) anyways , i broke up with my bf for jack and we started going out and everything was perfect , such like a movie , we dated for 6 months in this time they went on tour for a while but not long only a week here or there , one day i woke up and i got a text saying , i think we sould brake up , i dnt love you anymore , as i lived with jack and his band mate , it wasnt like i could just not see him anymore , he was allways there , i diidnt talk to him for 2 weeks after that and him and the guys where acting really werid around me and stuff , i had a really close guy who i stayed with a couple of nights just cuz i was over the weridness at the house , i diidnt understand why the guys where actiing werid around me too , not just jack , i found out that a guy i use to date told jack to brake up with me or he would send nude photos of me to everyone , when i went home i find jack and told him i no why he broke up with me , i told him i diidnt care about the photos only him , so we got back together , fast forward to 18 months later , every thing as great again but then his band got bigger and he went on tours for about 2 months at a time and i was left by myself , one day i got a phone call saying i had a job offer in new york for a fashion company and it was like my dream job i had been working for my whole life , we live about 7 hours away from new york by plane , so sould i stay with him or leave to go on my dream job , i dno why i siad all the history but thought it would help . things where finally great ? how can i leave ? sould i leave ? or stay Open Question: i'm 15, my boyfriend is 14, is this okay?so i'm 15 1/2, and my boyfriend won't turn 15 for another month. noo sex or anything like that, but is there any problem with this? like dating, or personal or moral problems? we are also in the same grade. just wondering, thanks! Open Question: What can I do when I have a boyfriend who's ex drives me insane?So I've been dating this guy for a year and a couple of months already. We've been doing so good lately. But before I get into details about us I wanna tell you about us BEFORE we met. When I first met him was during homecoming month.. At first I didn't know that he was a father. His baby mama was in my class and I did not know about her. So she starts throwing a bitch fit about it. At first i didn't have a problem with him having a baby.. So its the week of homecoming, and its October 4, 2008. He calls me and tells me to come over his house. He has this paper and he tells me the baby isn't his.. His mother took a DNA test when the baby mama came over and took it... He went to her house and he tells her and shows her the paper and she see's that it's not his baby. she tells him that he bought the DNA test at a Wal-Mart mart which you can't! So there's so much drama at school and people are telling him that he's a bad father and this and that. She's telling everyone that he is the father of her child. But there's a twist to the story... A couple of months ago, before she was pregnant she sneak out of her house and went to a party with one of her friends.. she said she asked for water and didn't realize what was in it so she drank it. Which was Vodka. I don't understand how you cant taste the difference. She got wasted and had sex with another guy. She changed her stories up so many times that my boyfriend knew she was lying. One day after school he went to her house and locked himself in her bathroom and read all her notes. One of them said she isn't sure if the baby was going to be his because of what happened that one night. All her friends at school would talk about us and try to break us up.. At one point she got into my head.. She told me that she knew in her heart it was his and the test was all fake. I cried my eyes out for days I couldn't handle this. I'm only 16 years old. She would bring her baby to school and rub it in his face in some way I couldn't even handle. This year she sort of calmed down.. the baby is about a year old and now we can see if it looks like my boyfriend or the other guy that I know she had sex with. And, It looks like the other guys baby. His own sister said that the baby looks like him. Lately, I've been freaking about it. I think Im going psycho.. I go on her myspace every single day look at her pictures. I had an event at school yesterday and she bought her baby with her.. and let me tell you I went home and cried my eye balls out. I know it's not my boyfriends baby but the fact that it could of been his drives me crazy. He tells me to forget about her and just try ignoring her but I didn't know what I can do to stop paying any attention to her. What can I do? Open Question: Relationship advice, please!?Alright I kind of need a bit (a LOT) of relationship advice. Right now, I'm in the 9th grade. Last year, in middle school, I really like a guy and he liked me back but we never started going out unfortunately, after 8th grade the middle school splits (half goes to one high school other half goes to the other high school) and he was on the other half from me. Over the summer he started dating my bestfriend but then broke up as the school year neared. I still really like this guy but i haven't talked to him since mid summer. my friend is ok morely thrilled i like him and think we should date. but i dont know if he likes me is the problem. any advice as to start talking to him again? he doesnt have email, myspace, or anything online. he does have a cell phone but no texting... I really want to be at least really good friends like we were last year and see how it goes. I know that was really confusing but do you think you could give me advice for this situation? Open Question: need your opinion on this?I'm 14 and i got a job a officeworks as a shelf stacker. Anyway there is this really really hot guy (lets call him bob) who stacks shelves too. he is 7 years older than me, that makes him 21 years old. Now that is the details this is the problem. I have only been working for about 3 week and bob and i have been getting on just fine. this sounds really stupid but do you think that he like me. These is some of the thing he has do. 1. We were talking and he kept on telling me about his 21 fist birthday (like he was trying to inform me that he was 21) 2. there was a song on the radio about being single and i think he was trying to tell me that he was single because he was saying that that was his song. 3. keeps on offering to carry heavy boxes that i am capable of carrying. I might just be a strange person but what is your opinion? P.S my mum and dad are 7 years apart and yes i know times have changed but i have talked to mum about date older guys and mum has no problems..... wish i could say the same about dad:( More Recent Articles
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