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Open Question: My Fiancee's Ex!!!!!!! Please Help I Need Answers.? and more... Open Question: My Fiancee's Ex!!!!!!! Please Help I Need Answers.?My fiancee (Dan) and I have been together for almost 4 years now and we also have a 8 month old son together. His ex (Becki) started badgering me on myspace when I was 2 months pregnant and it's still going on to this day. She has said very mean and crule things about me, my fiacee and our son. He has another ex named Jess whom he still gets along with, he's even her daughters godfather. I have only met her a couple of times and she seems very nice and very cool. She added me on her myspace a little bit ago and we started talking back and forth through e-mail. My fiancee has told Jess everything that Becki had been doing for the past year and so she aked me if I was still having probelms with her and I said yeah i was and I asked if she ever had probelms with her and she replied with this: no, according to becki, i caused all the problems. you have to remember Dan and i knew each other before becki was part of the picture, so according to her i was trying to interfere. the only thing i can tell you is she seemed to love mind games. hope that helps. Now heres' the rest of the e-mails she has sent over the past week. she has always come across as a bit jealous and incredible insecure. not like she was a very good girlfriend when they were together either. i know more than i would ever tell dan, even though he doesn't care, he does. ya know? i never saw it as my place to interfere with his relationships. the last thing someone needs is an ex butting in. i'm not saying i was great by any means, i was a complete bitch at the end, and i will always have to live with that. anywho, yes, she loves mind games, and she has this need to be in control of everything. granted, i could see how she might have been concerned for a while when i started coming back around, but i NEVER interfered, it's not my style. dan needed someone to vent to and that was me. i will always be there for dan, that's just who i am, but i am not going to be in his face about it. if he needs someone to talk to, i'm here if he chooses. i ended up inflicting my own mind games on him unintentionally, and i will never be able to forget that. i'm not by anymeans meaning i'd BE there for dan, it's not like that, but i understand some of where he's coming from. as usual, not sure if any of this helps, but i'm just being honest. btw, is there a date set for the wedding yet, or did we miss it? sorry, i have a tendency to ramble.... i know, and it's hard. i actually ran into Blake one night at the bar. if dan's told you everything about him and becki, then i'm sure you've heard about blake. anyways, long sotry short, i found out a bit, and i made him pay for it - literally. i got him to put down more than $500 at the bar - buying rounds, doing shot specials - then when he thought he was coming home with me, i smiled at him and walked out of the bar, no good bye, no phone number, nothing, i just turned and left. i was a regular at the bar, and i got special drink prices for a week. he never even saw it coming. it was the greatest feeling ever. all i can tell you is dan's heart is in the right place. he can be an ass, he can be a jerk, but he can be the greatest guy too. things just weren't meant to be between us, and we both get that. i really do hope things work out with you two, he deserves someone who will be good to him. as far as becki, until you guys get the f*** out of dodge, you're gonna have problems. i see it taking alot for her to just leave you alone. and i understand there's been alot of shit said. i don't doubt he's just as big a B as she has ever been. i do wish you luck, plus i think most of us have a least one crazy ex...if you can get past that, you guys will get through anything yea, and like i said, being the ex, i wasn't butting in. you know how much crap that would have caused, me telling him i thought she was cheating? i mean i told him i didn't trust her, but that was pretty much it. of course they say the one who is paranoid is usually the one cheating, but that's neither here nor there now. i have seen many sides of dan over the 10+ years i've known him, and some of them scared the shit out of me. as long as you don't sweat the small stuff, you guys will be fine. and i'm glad he finally has someone with a brain (cause we both know his doesn't always work ) she is an interesting one that's for sure. she gives me funny looks when i go into meijer too. (and i'm in there maybe once a year) time to go work on my homework...ttyl Basically what I want the answers to is that I think she still has strong feelings for Dan and she really wants to be with him but she can't. She also seems to underestimate repeatedly about how much I know about my OWN fiancee. Should I be worried about her trying to get him back? Please help me on this. Open Question: Cane somone help me? Women out of my league like to try and get close to me? I mean me of all people!?Well this all started really, I remember me a bunch of girls always used to talk to each other in lesson. Someone I got them to treat me like little kid (don't ask) and used to like wave at each other do origami and stick up for me against the school bully. :S Though the thing is I never allowed any of them to get close to me because at the time I did not think relationships where important. but at the same time I was very docile and easily led. I mean in reality I lack self confidence, am a kind of nerd (as well as a gym addcit) and I am weary around new people and place. Every time I look in the mirror I think to myself: How? True that one who the was considered the prettiest girl in school would not leave me alone. She was a bit sex obsessed yes, but looking back I regret rejecting her. Just relationships are more than just about looks I think. I have always felt I've been sending out the wrong message and doing everything wrong to women but in not being big-headed or gloating about my eveyr achievment I can't help but feel that actualy atracted girls more in that they prefer a man who accepts he has problems over some overatted playa. See, I don't like playas. Thye treat women as objects and I really hate men who do that. It just annoys me. Ironically i was a top contributer in Yahoo answers singles and date until a coupel weeks back because I stopped answering for a while because of my college work, though I have never out any of the words I preech into pratice. And that brings me to my final point a veyr pretty woman in college is trying woo me at the moment. There's plenty of other men but someone she wants me? i it because she has seen my muscly arms or she genually likes me?This time I think I willl take the bait but I mean I am very withdrawn person and I can't understand why women like me. It seems so strange Myabe i have underestimated my dating skills? Reason being I am scared of failiure or I am fearful that they are not serious. Open Question: I need some boy/parent help. helpp?Well I've been going out with this one boy named James* and I am like head-over-heels for him, and it's the same for me with him. He's been my first kiss and everything, he's very special to me. I've already been sneaking around with him, because I've never gone on a date. It's a big deal. Me and my bestfriend went to the movies for her birthday and we met up with him, no one knew except us 3. Ever since that night he's been asking me about going as just me and him, which I really want to, but the only problem is my parents. I'm extremely nervous about asking them. I don't know how to ask them. It's really hard. I'm dying to go out with him as just us 2. I need some advice. Please help. More Recent Articles |
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