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Open Question: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 moths and...? and more... Open Question: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 moths and...?and we haven't done anything besides making out, shes a virgin and i am not! I love her sooo much! and where not in any hurry to have sex, im glad we haven't, its made me lover her and respect her so much more! And we talk online about how much we want each other, but then when were together it never go's past kissing! so my question is, how do i make the transition from kissing to anything else. ive never had this problem before, and i thinks its because ive never really been in real love with someone! any suggestions? Open Question: Please help, I really could use some relationship advice?ok here we go. I'm engaged to a soldier, we've been dating for two and a half years and we both love each other so much, but the problem is we also drive each other crazy. I've never been so mad at anyone before. The funny thing is that most people think I'm so nice and friendly and they are shocked to hear that I get so mad. The truth is that I get mad at the people I'm closest too because I know that they love me and that I can be myself around them and say what I feel. My guy and me have "bickered" from day one, he was my best friend before we started dating and he fought with me because I liked his roommate and for some reason his persistence and the fact that he fought with me to get me to see how much he really liked me really made me fall for him. I know its strange but he is very sweet and perhaps he's like me in the fact that he felt comfortable enough to fight with me because we were so close and I related to him. Anyways, the problem is that he is my first really serious boyfriend and I'm a hopeless romantic. The only thing I have to compare our relationship to is some shitty situations I've had with guys on one end of the spectrum and the perfect romantic movie relationship on the other. Obviously, most successful and real relationships are not these extreme. The problem with having these as comparable relationships is that I either feel insecure about myself from the way other guys have treated me, and the way that I see men falling short on t.v. (like Tiger Woods) or I feel that my guy is not being the right guy (because of the romantic movies). I know he does so much for me and I don't want to lose him, but I keep nagging him and letting my insecurities be known to him. I also wonder if he is the right guy because I have no other real relationship to compare to. I'm just confused about what to do. I know that I love him and he loves me but at times I think that we will just fight all the time because maybe we aren't compatable. Or maybe I just watch too many movies in which relationships seem more perfect than what they are. I guess what I'm asking for is opinions on my situation, and how to solve my problems. I think that while he is not necessarily the perfect guy, I am the one at fault and if I could figure out myself more than perhaps I wouldn't nag him so much. Should I tell him everything I want in a guy, should I expect him to be that? Should I accept how he is now and not expect anything else? I don't really know what is right. I don't necessarily think i'm settling for him but I do know that I want more from him. I know he loves me enough to try to give me what I want, so I want to do the same for him. Perhaps if I focus more on making myself better I will stop seeing all his faults. Please help, thanks so much, sorry for the length :S Open Question: My boyfriend is cheating. What should I do?I found out that my boyfriend of 2 months was cheating on me w/ his ex girlfriend. The day before we broke up he had told me to call him. The next day I did and his ex answered. I didn't know who it was but she informed and told me that "he no longer needed me and I was dismissed". Yeah-like that. I didn't know what to say so I just hung up the phone. The next day he called me and I didn't take his calls or call him back. This went on for 2 more days than finally I went to the bank and he came in after me. I didn't even know he was following me. He asked me why I've been so cold to him and demanded that I talk to him. I told him that I found out about him and his ex. He was astonished but not for the reason a sensible person would think. Apparently he had been dating his and ex and I at the same time. She knew about me, I had no idea about her. Everything was fine until she was starting to get jealous of him being with me that's why she sabotaged his little 3-way. He told me that he was telling me all this out of remorse but to tell you the truth he didn't look at all upset or remorseful. I told him that I thought we shouldn't see each other anymore, that if he wanted to be with his ex that's fine but you can't be with me as well. I even went so far to say that I didn't care that he cheated on me, that's not the point but because he did he obviously does not want to be with me. I thought this would make him see but he will not leave me alone, he will not take no for an answer but I don't see him ever breaking it off with his ex. I seriously think he thinks I'm going to cave and let him date me while he dates his ex as well. I don't know how to get through to him-how to get it through his thick scull but everything I've tried has just failed on me. I need advice, lots of it-fast. I'm sorry if I've rambled but this is a serious problem, my biggest and sole problem at the moment. I need it to be taken care of. Andy thoughts/comments from both men and women would be helpful although I serious do need some advice from men because I need to get through to him. So from a man's point of view how can I do that? Open Question: Should I date him or dump him?I met him in September and I thought he was the sweetest guy. He gave my butterflies and I was positive it could go somewhere. And it did. We went out a bunch and now he considers us to be in a "relationship". Lately though, after we had sex for the first time I've been noticing a change in him. He's less talkative with me and I feel like he's acting colder to me. He still wants to see me, but he always tries to lay the moves on me when we do, even when I don't feel like it or not in the mood. He is unemployed, which is a turn off for me, and he doesn't seem motivated enough to get another job. He quit school and all he seems to want to do is get high and see his buddies. Not once has he taken me out on a date or done anything remotely romantic. He even makes me buy the condoms. A few weeks ago he told me that he's not buying anyone a Christmas gift because he's too broke, (I guess that was his way of informing me I wasn't going to be getting anything from him), but just today he told me that he bought a new jersey and was all excited about it. I know jerseys aren't cheap, and it makes me mad that he obviously does have money; he just wants to spend it selfishly. I really like him, he has even said that he loves me but it's so hard to believe it, and there are so many problems with him. I'm still young, a student in college, and I'm starting to feel like I can do better. What do you suggest? Thanks for reading my freaking long problem btw Open Question: How do I tell my roommate I don't want to live with her next year without hurting her feelings?My roommate and I have known each other for 3 years. She's my "best" friend at least in her words. We all hang out with the same group of people. This year we lived together in the same dorm for the first time, because we had been planning to for the whole year before that. That was before I knew her better. Here's the problem: She wants to room with me again next year but I don't want to. Because she's annoying! I mean, she can be nice sometimes and outgoing and bubbly when we are hanging out with our friends. But I feel like rooming with her is just too much. She likes to talk negatively a lot, about how poor she is, how things are always so horrible for her, and she likes to talk about herself a lot. She also likes to repeat herself for emphasis, and also repeat other things like telling the same stories over and over even though I have heard them several times. On top of that, her boyfriend of 2 years, we found out that he had cheated on her about 3 months ago. It was terrible. I was there for her and comforted her and did all I could to cheer her up. However, even after all that, they are still dating. I have tried to tell her that I don't think she should be dating him anymore but I know for a fact that's not going to happen. Before the whole cheating fiasco, her boyfriend would come up and spend the night sometimes and I was fine with it. Now I am not so fine with it, I am actually very uncomfortable. So, whenever she has him spend the night (she doesn't tell me when btw, which I was fine with before the cheating thing but not fine with now) I just go to my boyfriend's house -- which is 30 minutes away -- and also inconvienent for me because I work late hours and have to be up early on certain days. I don't want to tell her that I am not OK with him spending the night because my boyfriend spends the night one day a week and I don't want her to say that he can't spend the night, either. I can't talk to my friends about this because she is basically the "favorite" friend and everybody loves her because she is so outgoing and bubbly and the life of the party when we hang out with them. I guess the biggest issue here is that I don't want to room with her next year. But, she thinks we ARE rooming together next year since we are roomming this year. If I tell her how I feel (i.e. that she is annoying and I don't like her boyfriend, thus not wanting to room with her next year) I feel like she'll be upset and mad at me and I don't want to hurt her feelings. Besides I still have to room with her for another semester. It's not like I want to stop being friends with her. I still want to be her friend. I just don't want to room with her anymore. The crazy thing is, is she thinks that we don't spend enough time with each other -- when I think we are spending more than enough time! How can I tell her I want to live by myself next year without hurting her feelings? Open Question: problem..................?ok so i don't really know what to think because my friend (lisa) has been getting on my nerves lately. she's always being selfish and acting like a hypocrite... for example: my other friend (jamie) has been talking to this guy lately and they went to homecoming together and after homecoming the dude wanted to kiss her and jamie's not really that experienced and lisa kinda ruined it for her and kept telling her not to do it (who knows what all lisa has done with a dude) so jamie didnt even though she really liked this guy. well lately, jamie kinda stopped talking to him because its been awkward since that night and now lisa is always trying to flirt with him. like i'll be in class with them and she's always got his jacket and sitting on his lap and buying him candy from the snack machine and it really pisses me off because jamie doesnt even know about it. i dont know if i should tell her or not cuz i dont want to ruin their friendship or upset jamie and i also dont want lisa to get mad at me. what makes me angry though is that she's flirting with another guy that my other friend is dating. but she got mad a few months ago because another one of her friends went out with her ex boyfriend 3 months after they broke up. so i really think she's being a hypocrite. should i tell my friend what's going on? i dont want to hurt her. also, she never forgave my friend for going out with her ex 3 months after they broke up. Open Question: Why do men run away from single mom's?I have been a single mom for almost 4 years now, although i have not been in a serious relationship during that time frame, i have dated a some of guys. However, as soon as a man finds out that i have 3 kids he ends the relationship. I have asked them why and i am told that they could see being with me for the rest of their lives because i am perfect for them but my kids are the problem. My kids are not bad by any means, they are the sweetest kids any mom could ask for and they have said that but they still say that my being a single mom is the problem. Why is this? I am a college educated woman and i hold a steady job while coaching my sons' soccer teams and getting a degree in counseling and i am devout and active in my church. Seriously can someone tell me what is wrong with me? I am sick and tired of hearing that i am perfect in every other way except for my having kids. I could understand if my kids were by several different men but their not, their father decided he didn't want to be married and have kids anymore and walked out on us almost 4 years ago. im seriously starting to think that the problem is not my kids, i am starting to think these men are using that as an excuse instead of telling me the truth! i was married when i had my kids. Open Question: Which boy should I choose?I have a dilemma. There are two guys who both like me, and I like them both, and I have to choose between them. 1st: We dated all of summer and only broke up because he was moving to college in another state. Smart, good-looking, fairly popular, very sweet. We have a good connection. My friends approve. He comes back for two months for winter break soon and I think we might end up dating again... 2nd: Just started being good friends with him about a month ago. He likes me a lot, is very smart and eloquent, a great listener, but some people at my school find him weird/annoying. My friends don't seem to like him very much. I love to be around him, but don't find him as attractive as #1. #2 just asked me out tonight. I said no, explaining that it would be unfair to him since I have so much emotional attachment with #1. I really like both of them, but I like #1 more! The problem is he's gone most of the school year and we don't want to do a long-distance relationship. Who do I choose.......??? When #2 asked me out, he brought me a flower and walked to my house in the rain and said he wanted to be with me. They're both really sweet.... I just don't know. Open Question: Why do me and my girlfriend argue?Ok, so I have been dating my now fiancee for 2 years I asked her to marry me xmas of last year and she accepted. This is the problem I am so heated right now. We argue almost every other day and for stuff that somtimes I ask my self WTF!!!. Example this morning, she usually wakes up early takes a shower and gets ready cool, the other night I told her that I need to be at work 30 mins earlier as I am in training and if she wants me to drop her off at work as I usually do than we need to wake up real early b/c she goes into work at 8:30. That night she takes a shower and I ask, maybe for verification, "why did you take a shower tonight instead of morning like you do" she replied, "so I can curl my hair in the morning. I thought as she knew i needed to arrive early to work the next day she was cutting out time. That morning I woke up and took a shower. I woke up at 7:05 AM and took a shower for not that long got at at 720 Am she than hoped in the restroom and took a shower herself..... OK not a problem. I than came up around 735 after she already hoped out and said "babe I need to leave soon" long story short, she got mad at me b/c as she says "you know I take a shower in the morning why did you take longer in the bathroom". To me WTF!!!! are you serious. I knew that she would get mad at me but kind of hoped she wouldnt. Tonight we argued b/c at my work I expressed an experince I had about choking. I was choking one day and she was drunk that night that she really did not help me, I mean I saw myself falling to the ground...... I am alive tho!! but to me its somthing that if some one hasnt experinecd it or seen it they wouldnt know what to do so whatever. She sat there while I told her my work of the day with her head down and eyes to the ground as if I scorned her like a dog and she does this all the time.... So it gets my upset b/c I feel like an asshole and guilty for mentioning anything example, anything that has to do with girls good or bad, past experince, dreams, etc. Now, I feel that I have all rights expressing my experince and sharing it as we were in training for helping a choking victim... I was stupid enough to tell her about my day so she made me feel like an asshole. I asked her why does she do this to me and she says, "to me its like if you see some guy touching me and do nothing about it" I told her that its not comparible to that. She says that she feels ashamed of that incident and thats why she does it I understand but why make me feel guilty for mentioning it, I didnt mention her I mentioned an experince. She continued about how she feels and nothing else. So I was tired of trying to explain myself to her where thats when I relized I did not have to explain myself to her!!!!! We walked away and did not speak for an hour or so. Later I felt bad and made her some food as a peace offering, thought it went well.... However, an Hour later she came storming down asking me about 2 girls that I friended in facebook I knew them since elementary and middle school, we are 5 years apart in age me and my fiancee.. meaning I knew them before her, I tried to explain to her but she than accused me of looking for some one in facebook and that I stopped looking for her as I couldnt find her, where Im like where in the fuck does facebook have a tracker for that type of activity, than accusses me of not calling her enough "like before" b/c I am out smoking and flirting with middle age woman who have children the same age of me IM 24 DAMMIT. I was unable to call her today b/c I didnt have 2 breaks like always but I did call her for my 30 min lunch. I would like to sit down and eat peacfully but she expects me to stay on the phone with her and talk to her while I eat out in the freezing cold. I am in training so the room that I am in is also the lunch room, brake room, and there are 10 other ppl so no I dont find its peacful to eat and talk to her while there are 10 other ppl. So I tell her that I will call her back during my 2nd break which I do. She than accusses me of calling her for only a brief mintue during my lunch break even tho I have 30 mins...OK DAMMIT 30 mins I have time to one use the bathroom...... get my lunch...... eat my lunch.......and get myself ready for the rest of the training......did I mention use the bathroom........ But she has all rights to get angry at me and I should just feel her pain... WTF... I am done for tonight.. Please let me know Open Question: girls,would you go out with a guy who did this?There's this guy who I care about very much and I think he feels the same way,but there's a problem,he does alot of thing that I consider as bad.He drinks alcohol,he smokes weed,and chews skoal,he does it very often.He got suspended from school yesterday for having skoal and he doesn't seem to care that he's damaging himself by doing these things all the time. Would you not date a guy who does these things,or do you think it's not that big of a deal? He's 15 years old and I'm 14 years old,btw. Open Question: I'm really uncomfortable around guys....?I'm in middle school (I know, i've got PLENTY of time...), going to high school next year, and I have a really big problem. I have NEVER been in a relationship with a guy. I don't mean dating...I mean I've never had a guy friend, never even had a real conversation with a boy. It's not adults, I'm pretty mature for my age, so I have a MUCH easier time relating to the more mature males in the world, but the ones in my age group are another story completely. Whenever I'm around a guy that makes me nervous (...pretty much any guy that so much as acknowledges my existence) I get really uncomfortable. I start being really rude and sarcastic towards him, and anyone else who approaches me while I'm in this mind set, and that's entirely the opposite of who I really am! I want everyone to see the real me! I want to make friends....I like guys! But because of these seemingly uncontrollable self-conscious "brat-attacks"...pretty much all of them start to hate me. What's going on? What can I do to be more comfortable with this? Thanks! Open Question: Was this something mean to say to a friend like me?i asked this guy why do you get creeped out when i had a crush on you? here is the replay: y is it only me that u bring up the past with? i mean its all the time. either on myspace, facebook, in person, or even in chatting. like....does it look like i really wanna talk about this cindy? i dont! i mean its not like im going to see u again so here i go. i thought u were creepy as hell, especially the way u spoke. like had no emotions and ****. like for real, u spoke like u were emo and wanted to kill urself. and u moved like u had a hunch or a back problem. everything about u was just neutral, never any special or surprising thing to see. all the time u were close to me, i felt like u wanted to kiss me and i got creeped out even more. u always have a problem to talk about. always. i dnt mind helping out but im not a therapist or psychologists. i love to help out, but when u have a problem every ten minutes, dnt u think it gets a little annoying. plus: everytime i go on myspace and ur online, u chat with me and when i dnt wanna chat, u keep sending me chat msgs. for example: You: hey manuel ME: no reply. cindy, if i dnt reply, then that means i dnt wanna chat. especially over myspace, i hate myspace. it bugs the **** out of me. and then u send me more msgs. YOU: yo, manuel ME: no reply then u send me like 5 more msgs, like **** man, dnt u get it, i dnt wanna chat. and i know u just dnt do it to me, u do it to other ppl. i really hate it when im about to reply or i reply late or if i dnt reply at all, they keep sending me msgs like "r u there, yo im talking to u, r u going to reply to my msg, where r u". like **** man, do ppl not know about patients or their so blind that they cant see that that person doesnt wanna tlk. i only send msgs once, if they dnt reply, **** them. idc, its just a msg. ive never done this to anyone but cindy....it takes some real person to get on my nerves so bad that i can only take in so much. u really pushed my buttons and all ive done was be nice to u, yea sure i would chat with u, or send msgs online, or maybe even give advice, but cindy ur just there 24/7. enough is enough. and somehow in ur head, u feel like i think every girl likes me or wants to be with me. i doubt that cindy, yea sure i dated 3 girls last school year but that doesnt mean girls love me, im just nice and i tend to get feelings for them becuz i hang out with them. the only person i prefer to be with is EMILY♥ . idc if someone else likes me, idc if someone calls me ugly or thinks im the most ugliest person in the world or think im the most handsomest person in the world. i could really give a ****. no girl is fighting over me. if u would check ur research, u would know the real reason of whats going on. and not to mention, on myspace, when yoselynn was commenting on my status about my hair, she wasnt flirting, she was just making jokes and then u had to ruin our conversation of fun by saying that "oh wow, look at these pathetic girls trying to flrt with you". like wtf cindy, REALLY!!! shes not flirting, why the **** r u such a cock blocker. she wasnt flirting, we were having a fun conversation and then u had to ruin it all. u sometimes ruin everything. do u even know what flirting is cindy? do u really? cuz i think u dnt know what flirting is. im pretty sure u dnt. now there u go, this is what happens when u bug a person too much about too much **** that they could really care less about. u asked a question, and i answered it for u. dnt get mad at me becuz u wanted and answer. Open Question: I had an affair with a married man?I had an affair with a married guy, then I found out I was pregnant. I told him that if he wanted to be a part of his daughter's life he had to fess up and tell his wife or leave her. He decided to leave her and I explained to him that if he did this it didn't mean I would get with him. He decided to leave his wife, but didn't want to hurt her. So he told her he was gay, she didn't seem surprised (which is hilarious) and they were able to remain friends. He misunderstood what I said and thought we were going to get together and have a 'secret relationship' for a while- even though I never told him that... but that doesn't really have to do with anything... anyway, his wife found out about our child and when he confessed he said that he was confused and really drunk, so he had a one night stand with someone random.-- Which I am pretty sure was a lie... and even if it wasn't I shouldn't care but I do... Anyway, he kept up the gay rumor and when I asked him what he was doing. Thinking he is either trying to manipulate everyone or he just got wrapped up in a huge lie that keeps growing. He just told me that he plans on staying single for a while- until Rachael meets a guy she likes a lot then he plans pretending on going to a church program and changing. When he told me his idea, I just didn't know what to say. Whats even more surprising is although he is obviously screwed up I still like him. And although I am dating a nice, handsome guy who loves me I still can't get him out of my mind. please help me, what I am feeling isn't good, I know its not. what's even sadder is I am pretty sure the only reason I feel this way is because I don't think he likes me right now, and I want to see if he would start a relationship with me if I wanted one. I obviously have self esteem problems and need to have everyone love me. :( although, I will admit it I am scum. More Recent Articles
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