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Open Question: Need advice in my current relationship. I love him and I honestly believe he loves me, need some help...? and more... Open Question: Need advice in my current relationship. I love him and I honestly believe he loves me, need some help...?I know you ask. Where is the "problem" the issue with me is this, my boyfriend is a wonderful man. He is also the soon to be daddy of our unborn child ( a baby boy ). He wanted this baby more than I. I decided to give him a baby. I am too excited. Anyway. I have done a lot for this man as lately he has done a lot for me. I met him three years ago, but have only been together a full year. I left my husband for him. I moved to another state, also I left my two other boys back in the state their daddy lives as to not uproot them. So I have to fly/drive back to see them, hoping to resolve a current issue with that to get them out here for visitations ( 800 miles away ). anyway...that's another issue; however I'm wondering how to "fix" the one I have. I left my husband for emotional abuse I dealt with when he started as a prison guard, he changed. I told my current boyfriend of this behavior and how it would be nice to have someone treat me right, that granted he took care of the bills and what he could emotionally I was lacking something ( love making, sex, kisses, hugs, etc ). Love and devotion basically. I know to some people they see paying the bills as devotion. I want affection, and some attention. I know our lives get busy but to keep love alive you must do things together, dinner dates. ETC. So I told my current about this and he agreed I should be pampered, that he claimed he would massage me, treat me right, make love to me, etc, etc. It all sounded GREAT! and I believed it. All the trips made out to see him and the trip he had made to my home state made me believe he would be this same way if I moved to him. The conversations we would have were AMAZING! we were keeping our love alive 800 miles apart via. webcam, texts, e-mails, etc. Naught7 pics, vids. Now that I'm here things have changed. He doesn't seem to want to give me that attention I crave as much. I am however a bit more EMOTIONAL b/c I am six months pregnant with his child. Although he doesn't seem to understand this, or has issues being sensitive to the fact at times. He is a small time film-maker and he does have a busy schedule, but I've told him of his frequent amounts spent on the internet, although I think he has chilled out a bit more. But seems after he gets home from work he worries first about the computer or something else. All I want is a kiss, a hug, a hey hunny how are you. I am NOT a nag, I let him do as he pleases. I feel in love with this man when he had NOTHING, no job, no place to live, etc. NOTHING basically. I just loved him. I moved 800 miles away and from everything I was familiar with, for HIM, for US!. Now I wonder if I had made a mistake, that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Although I love him I find myself often confused, I tell him how I feel but now I feel he doesn't listen to me. He takes it all to heart. He even told me today that he is doing so much for me that he's basically "exhausting" himself, that's so hurtful. I'd do anything for him. I feel he pushes me aside. I told him I appreciate all the gifts, etc. But the support isn't always there. Ex: I was working many hours and him as well and sundays, mondays are my days off. I realize he likes football sundays, so I let him take my car on sundays and drive to his buddies home to watch. I asked for "TIME" together when he got home, seems we barely make love anymore and it's not as good as it was. For me it feels HE wants it over and over quick, yes he can get me off and it feels good but the romantic chemistry feels like it's going away. I left an eight year relationship for him, even though that one was slowly falling apart towards the end it took awhile for it to do that, fall apart. My x did make me happy. Did a decent job of telling me he loved me, he always forgot about me on birthdays, anniversary, xmas but...lol typically he was good. My current is good at gift giving but lacks emotional support at times ( which he's admitted to not being great at ). He also came from a shitty relationship. She wasn't as touchy/lovey dovey as I. But my example continues that he came home after spending his football sunday and it's 8pm. He didn't say HI hunny, he didn't kiss me NOTHING! he basically ignored me, I couldn't figure it out. The laptop of his was right by me and he still didn't kiss me. He opened up his laptop and that's it. He had time to get on his facebook but claims he was only dealing with school, I said BS you had time to get on facebook but not kiss me or say crap to me. He didn't understand why I was so upset. I explained I wanted him to simply acknowledge me. Gifts are great but knowing I'm loved is most important. I've had moments of thinking of leaving b/c of me feeling unloved from time to time or that I "get in his way" although he's never stated, but he always speaks of things he wants to do. He rarely remembers my schedule at work, although always the same. He forgets to t Open Question: My bestfriend have feelings for me but she is getting merried to someone else, what should i do?okey. lil about my self. I am just a normal guy who is been leaving in US since I was 13 with out parents and with my uncle's family. All my life i was just too busy either paying my own bills while going to school. In my jr year of collage, I met this girl. I didnt wanted to be a good friend with her because she was in relationship. However, she was soo persistance that i ended up being her bestfriend ( i guess I needed somone, i was feeling lonely also). She was in relation ship since she was freshman with this guy. and I met her in June 2008. after that, we took all our classes togather. Her boyfriend was a consultant, so he used to come back to town and live with her from thursday night till monday morning. I used to not bother her or contacted her (give her space). I was soo into my own lil world that i never discover anything. however, she used to force me to do stuff. And I enjoyed alot. I felt that wow there is somone who cares about me. Mean while she bacame closer and closer to me. She also became possasive of me as a friend. Peole in school used to tell us we make awesome couple and this and that. However she and I knew that she was in relationship. In December 2008, she went and got engaged. mean while she was in home land, I did miss her alot. but then i got used to it. SHe came back and took all classes again. and i kept pushing her aways cuz i was getting attached to her. but then as graduation was coming closer (march) she started freaking out that I will replace her once she graduate in May cuz i was graduation in August. I told her I wont do that. She also became all depressed and stuff. Then I met another girl, girl who had all the characteristics I was looking for (no drinking, No party, No clubing) and she was really nice. So i told my bestfriend that I like that her. My bestfriend started freaking out, and getting in depression and she started saying she made a mistake. She should have dated more guyz (her fiance was the first date). She started saying she is soo loney, she wants to kill her self...and what not..but then i told the girl i like that we cant just leave my bestfriend out like this and she need a company before she make a stupid move (like break up with her fiance - he is nice guy except he didnt pay much attention to her for past 1 years) tho he used to buy her all kinds of things, and also take her out to vacations. She also became part of us (me, my bestfriend, and girl i like) as a group in school. People used to say "you guyz (me and my bestfriend) that lucky that u guyz have this friendship in same school, and classes". My bestfriend started to feel all sad. she even used to be jeleouse of the girl i was trying to be with. However, after that they both became good friends. Then in may sumester she graduated and me and the girl i like took a class togather. however, my bestfriend kept coming to school cuz she was bord at home. Then i started loosing feelings for the girl i like. I started comparing with my bestfriend. I knew i was having feelings for her but i kept it quite. And i tryed to help my bestfriend go get back with her life. but then one day she told me that she has feelings for me and I said the same but we knew the obstacles and she is commited. Once I was really going thru my family problem and she gave me her shoulder, and then one night (no sex) but lots of kissing happen, next day we both regretted it. First of all I hated my self for doing that, and she was also regretting it cuz she cheated. However, she told me that "she never felt like this before, and I made her feel like a woman". After that day we have not touched each other. However, feeling was there. I was trying to show that I am out of it. She told me she needs to work it out with her relationship. She even told her fiancé that she is falling out of love with him need to spend more time w her. Plus, then her family/ and his family wants them to get merried now in june. She said her fiancé is changing himself and trying to make it better and trying to shift his office to town instead of traveling. I got upset and said all kinds of things that I just became a subject of your relationship issue lesion. But then I appolagized. She kept getting involved in my family, and she perfectly blended in. However, I told her recently that I cant carry on this bestfriend ship cuz I m not improving in my feelings I am keep think about you all the time. She said please don't messup the friendship we have and stuff. I also told her it was easy for her to get out of this feelings but this was my first time love. I do not need to see you or talk to you. And I only have 5 months to get out of this till ur wedding or else I will literally gona hurt my self. She said why cant you just see that I am someone elses and I m under commitments, and I told her yes I know. And I m not asking u to break up or anything but I need this. She was begging not to but I had no choice. I feel so upset and I do really care about h continue... I feel so upset and I do really care about her. (reason I don't want her to break up with her fiancé is that we are diff culture, and her family will disown her and so will her friends). I told her its better for both of us. She keep saying I cant do anything, I messed up with my relationship and friendship. Please don't do this to me she said. But I explain her and she did understand. However, I don't want to push her thur her marriage. I was wondering If she will get those feelings back with her fiancé? More detail… this is weird but back in 2004 my bestfriend was dating her bestfriend. At this time we didn't even know each other or seeen. One day back in 2004 my bestfriend asked me to come out with them (her girlfriend and her bestfriend (the girl who is my bestfriend now and have feelings)). But I didn't go so we didn't even know each other. Than in 2004 and 2005 she worked at the same mall I worked at and she even came to out store to buy stuff but we never ran into She also told me when I told her that we wont be friend for lil bit right now. She was upset. She also told me, that she will get feelings back for her guy, and after dark night there is always a morning. But she said yes, her relationship went up and down and stuff, but thats all relationship. She told me she doesnt have feeling for me anymore, and ahve feeling for her fiance, but I think she was saying that so that i could stil be her friend. I dont know whats the truth. Open Question: Relationship advice needed desperately?I'm in big trouble. I dated a girl last year. She wanted us to get married etc but I didn't love her but felt under pressure from family. They couldn't believe it when we split because I'd always seemed so happy when in truth I wasn't. After the split I went through the most horrific episode of depression. I was filled with terror about growing old alone. My ex kept in touch and supported me. When I felt better, I decided that she was my "one" and anything was better than being alone. Needless to say, the first few months I was happy. I was still suffering from crippling anxiety and having her around helped to dampen this. I now realize though that the reasons I didn't love her in the first place still exist and I feel trapped. I've said so many things, meaning them at the time but now know I was kidding myself. She knows I'm not happy but how do I get out of this? I hate the thought of hurting her again but do not want to live a lie. If I tell her the truth I will lose all credibility with her, her family, my family and friends. I'm not a mean person and I'd never hurt anyone on purpose but my mental health problems have got me into such an awful situation. I'm so depressed. Please help me. Open Question: What should I do?(Im hurt)?Ok Im here because I have no one to talk and Im in some serios pain right now.Ok...You guys will think Im pathetic when I say this but here goes. I never had a girlfreind before and Im 17 still in highschool.Im just not good with girls. There was this one day where I just felt really loneley and hopless and I always thought that I was never meant to be with someone I love.I would always be lonely livin in a house bymyself for the rest of my life.well that day I decided to go hunting...but in the wrong place.craigslist and I found a girl thats 21.and we started emailin eachother.But I was never really planning to fall in love I just wanted to know how it feels to get a girlfreind.This girl was a freak she was bi and loved sex.and we even had cyber(It was her idea)...anyways I eventually started to talk her more and more and we even talked on the phone a couple of times.we even exchanged pics.then one day she said shes startin to have feelings for me and thats when we started to go out.shes told me so many things about her and eventually even said she loves me...but I didnt really feel the same so I just went with it.Then we finally meet one day and we went on a date to the museum.I even got my first kiss ever :).and the whole day felt like magic.It might of been the best day of my life cause it felt so right.but this girls a freak...and at times she would only think about sex.anyways we went on a couple of more dates and got more sexual.but not to the point where I lost my virginity. The problem is that she lives very far from me...like a 3 hour trip away from me.and I only see her like once a week. I ve grown this feeling...I call it love. the feeling of always wanting her to be with me.I wanna live my life with her and even get married.and she says she feels the same.now were having sex and I lost my virginity to her and was proud...but now Im not.I cant tell if this girl really loves me.If she really cares or she just wants a boy toy to have sex with.and now everyday I cant sleep without the fear of her cheating cause I barley see her and we dont talk as much as she used.It makes me suspicious cause she thinks about sex a lot.I literally get thoughts about her cheating on me 24/7. I dont wanna be hurt.I dont wanna lose this girl. I ll never find another girl like her...In fact I ll never find another girl again.Im hopless.Ive sacrificed so much for her.and she might be toying with my heart.I talked to her about the way I felt and she was "hurt" cause she thought I trusted her...but were still together.This girl has literally stolen my heart. and she can do whatever she wants with it. I wanna trust her. But its just so hard.and my pain is increasin more and more everyday.the only thing on my mind is her all the time.The thought of her lying to me and cheating would literally kill me. Id never date again cause I just wont find another one...how can I trust this girl?is she cheating?what should I do? And yes I know its illegal but it doesnt bother me. Open Question: NEED HELP WITH MY LAPTOP!!!!!!!!!!! IBM T23 !!!!!!!!!!! 10 points to best answer?Hi, I just recently bought a laptop off ebay. Its in good working condition and is pretty nice. I am,... for the most part very good with most computers and know how to fix them. Anyway i bought this IBM Laptop the model is T23 .... so its a IBM laptop T23. I have right now 256mb of ram witch is not that good. And a 80gig HD. with Pentium III 800MHz processor I want to play a game on it some of u might know it. Delta Force Black Hawk Down. The system requirements to play are .... . Requirements: Windows 2000/XP,Processor: PIII 800 MHz,DirectX 8.1 .... 256 MB RAM,Free hard drive space: 750 MB,Direct 3D 32MB DirectX 8.1,DirectX-compliant Sound Card, First off what are the direct 8.1 things. I have all of this a PIII 256 Ram and i just upgraded it to 512mb I have plenty more than 750mb free space. But what i want to know is ...... if it is my video card. delta force black hawk down... plays with any ... /D3D card with 32megs or ram on the card. I dont know what my video card is right now because i got grounded from my laptop now and my dad wont let me look at it or touch for like a month. Any way i can play the game on our Emachines pc and it works fine... but b4 i got grounded i tried to play and when the game was about to turn on it said.... The resolution test has failed, check to see if all your driver and video cards are up to date.... Something like that. Could it be my video card is not goo enough. I mean Delta Force black hawk down does not take an amazing computer to play as you can see. I just need to know why its not working. I mean I HAVE WINDOWS XP PS:I ......... could this be a problem before i tried to play. I went to display setting ... u know were u can change the pixels and things. And I could choose my graphics card thing. It was on the first choice then i moved it to the second choice, Then tried to play. I never got to cange it back... could that be a problem???????????????? And if it is my video card could you tell me a good site or were i could get a new and better one for my IBM laptop Model T23... Thanks for the help guys. much appreciated. I HAVE WINDOWS XP Open Question: My boyfriend is cheating on me! Please help!!!!?Well we've been together for a month now and I know almost everything about him,about his past. He has been dating a lot of girls and even tho he is not that hot, girls go crazy about him because he knows how to make a girl fall in love with him. We first talked as friends and we were talking about our problems, our life, personality nd everything so he says that I know him better than anyone else. Well before we started our relationship he was dating a girl and he broke up with her. he says that he doesn''t love her. We started like this: I started to tease him with words and after some 10min I found myself in a serious conversation and him telling me that he would leave everything only if I say YES. Then I figured out that I just couldn't say NO because I loved him also. I thought that he has changed but last night his ex called him and he aswered her, and started to talk to her so I figured out that he was datig her again. He says that he loves me, swears that he loves me and he has shown to me that he loves me, but from last night I don't know what to beleive anymore. I love him more than my life... I don't wanna leave him, but I don't trust him anymore. It hurts so badly. Please I need some advices. Open Question: I feel he's falling in love with me BUT...?there's just this one problem that I'll come to at the end of this. He is the most caring person I have met in person. He makes me feel very special. We have great chemistry. Our first two dates lasted the entire day and he invited me to his place (in another town) and he was simply perfect. He kissed me when we were out and said it was nice to have me. And invited me to spend a week the next time and also wants to plan a holiday with me at the end of the year. It's just since the three months we've known each other, I have been utterly neurotic, obsessing over him not having ever called me. Even once :( And texting me but not too often either. I have been constantly complaining about it and dropping hints... but nothing works! I don't know if this is his idea of taking it slow... or what?? I stayed at his place and met the help and the driver and everybody and he seems loyal so chances are there's nobody else... but what is with the never calling???? I just don't understand it. Because I do FEEL like he really likes me and possibly even falling for me. I certainly am!! But am afraid to get hurt and have been in bad relationships in the past and in general don't trust my gut feeling. Please help me, I am torn between wanting to dump this person for hurting me and not connecting when we;re not together and making me feel so loved when we're together!! :( It hurts!! Open Question: Is this good about my relationship?so i have been dating this guy for a year and we are really good together. we were friends in the beginning and i did no think i would fall for him he was so different from who i would normally date but his personality got me. the problem with our relationship once we started dating was that we fought. well recently we decided to take a break to try to fix things. well this break has been on for about 2 months now and we have been talking on and off about us. and he has decided to let me go cause he thinks that having the relationship now just isn't right. he wantes to be friends but i told him no cause if i want to be happy and try to move on i can't be in contact. so i told him that when im ready to be friends i will call. he told me that he hope we can try this relationship later, and we can be more mature and grow up. he said he wants to be friends and then if our love comes back we will try. jsut right now isn't meant to be. he loves me so much and so do i. but i wasn't giving him his space it's my fault it's like this but this is how is supposed to be happening. so i was wondering if this makes sense. and is this a good thing that he says later we can try it again just not right now it's not meant to be? i beleive that it is good what he said. i jsut would like other interpretations on this. 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