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Open Question: Obsessive Girlfriend? and more... Open Question: Obsessive Girlfriend?I am wondering to see what other's thoughts are on this behavior. My girlfriend is a bit of a chronic worrier, which is something I have until now been fine with. More recently her behavior has taken a turn for the worse. She has become fanatically insecure to the point where she maintains a list of every name friended on my facebook profile, and scans it daily to make sure that I haven't added or removed people. Even removing people is now treated as potential evidence of cheating. She has logged onto numerous dating sites and created accounts on them to ensure that I am not active on them. She also goes onto forums I use, and closely scrutinizes every post I make for evidence of me being disloyal There are also significant security issues in real life to go along with these. For example, I am attempting to move off of university housing in the Spring. She was terrified, and started a huge fight over the possibility that I could have a roommate, and then that roommate would bring a girl over, and I would be more interested in that girl than her. The frequency of such panic attacks has also increased, from monthly to almost daily. I will attempt to lay out my concerns so others know how I feel. My primary concern is related to my profession: As I am entering the Active Duty army, I am very doubtful that she is secure enough and mentally tough enough to be able to handle me deploying(both in combat and for domestic army schools such as the airborne course). Secondly, I am even slightly doubtful of her mental stability, as the panic attacks have become so frequent, and they are even severe enough that is causing her to have problems with sleep and her grades have slipped due to her need to constantly stalk me online. At this point, I am considering ending the relationship while we are on good terms, between fights. It pains me to feel this way, but I fear that her fear of being abandoned is a self fulfilling prophecy. Does anyone else have any suggestions? She is already seeing an individual counselor, which only seems to have amplified her angst. The counselor has repeatedly corrected her concerns, but her response is to go online and "shop" for an answer that agrees with her worries so that she can feel justified in her actions. Open Question: My girlfriend gets mad when I choose to spend time with my family, what can I do about it?It's just me and my little sister and it's really difficult so it's nice to just go to aunts and uncles house to relax and take a load off my mind but she doesn't understand that. She sees it as me choosing my family over her and that's not the case. When I need a break I can't leave a kid with her for a few hours. She's in college and not what she needs right now so I have my other family members help me out. I come from a tight knit family and they like to help out when they can. If I go to see my uncle to talk she's is like why don't I want to talk to her. I don't want to stress her out with my issues and family is just really important to me. She won't stop making this issue into an argument and it's really starting to get on my nerves. We've inseparably since we were kids and we started dating when we were 17. It's like she's scared we'll drift apart so she's trying to smother me or something. But we won't. How do I explain that I do appreciate her but I don't want to burden her with my problems and get her to actually listen and quit assuming? Open Question: Finally ended my unhappy two year relationship. WHY am I still pining away for him?FIRST OFF: I tried to keep this as short as possible. For anyone who doesn't want to read, that's perfectly fine.. but please don't post an answer anyway stating you didn't bother to read the actual question at hand. Move on to the next one! I broke up with my boyfriend early this morning over the phone (about 5 AM). He's been in my life for five years.. it was only two years ago that we started dating. Being in an actual relationship was an entirely new experience for both of us. To be fair, most people enter into their first relationship terrified and clueless--things are said, mistakes are made, people get hurt. On the other hand, several things have happened over the duration of our relationship that I've been having an exceptionally hard time getting over. I'll go through a period of time when I think I'm fine, and then I began to feel it tenfold. Ultimately, I've come out of this feeling a little bit used, even though he has assured me over and over again that he loves me deeply and didn't mean to hurt me. Regardless of that fact, I realized that it was unhealthy to keep replaying all of the negative events that occurred in my mind. I also realized that it was unfair to him as well. The issues I've had with our past obviously keep surfacing and I don't want to continue to punish him for it. Several times I wanted to apologize to him and ask that we try and work it out AGAIN, but upon receiving texts messages such as "I'll go, u don't want me" and "I'm just a crappy boyfriend, all I do is make ur life a living hell," I was reminded of why I was breaking up with him in the first place. I told myself over and over not to feed into his self pity. I guess I've taken it well considering. I've yet to really cry over it, but I've been keeping my phone close by and my heart sinks when I realize he hasn't texted me. *I* broke up with him. *I* asked him to back off, and he did. That's unusual for him however.. whenever we've had a problem before, it was almost as though he was right on my back about it until we worked it out (or pretended to, I guess). I knew it needed to be done. I wanted it to be done. Having said that, why has this been such a painful experience if I'm the one who wanted out in the first place? For anyone who has been through this before, what can I do to get it off my mind for a while? My friends work on the weekends, I've been sick and I'm stuck at home for now.. Open Question: Black women are jealous of black men dating white girls?Really? Because the last time i checked, i nor any other black women i know even cared! When will people understand that it only becomes a problem when that black man disrespects and put black women down? When black men so call love white women, it's usually because of some pathetic reason! Why would i want a man that just wants an easy screw, women with no backbone, or flawed perception of beauty? I'm not saying all black men date white women for these reasons, but most of them do! Why would i want a man=boy that thinks this way? I need a black man that's strong and patient enough to handle me, and one that's obsessed with everything i possess! A white women can have that weak brainwashed black man any day! Alex: any man that dates white women because their own are too headstrong and don't put up with their non sense is WEAK! I didn't say all black men, but most are like this! Windam: When i see interracial relationships in public, i can care less! People, of all races, stare at me and my husband! EDIT: i never said all white women were like this! But I've plenty of black men state the reasons why they date white women, and it's usually always negative! Most black men only date white girls for these reasons! Open Question: Fun time for religion! top 10 signs if your a fundamentalist christian?LONG BUT READ THE WHOLE THING IT IS FUNNY I have a quiz for all you young or old bored humans out there on this forum! HOW TO TELL IF YOUR A CHRISTIAN FUNDAMENTALIST Answer the following based on your personal beliefs: 10 - You vigorously deny the existence of thousands of gods claimed by other religions, but feel outraged when someone denies the existence of yours. 9 - You feel insulted and "dehumanized" when scientists say that people evolved from other life forms, but you have no problem with the Biblical claim that we were created from dirt. 8 - You laugh at polytheists, but you have no problem believing in a Triune God. 7 - Your face turns purple when you hear of the "atrocities" attributed to Allah, but you don't even flinch when hearing about how God/Jehovah slaughtered all the babies of Egypt in "Exodus" and ordered the elimination of entire ethnic groups in "Joshua" including women, children, and trees! 6 - You laugh at Hindu beliefs that deify humans, and Greek claims about gods sleeping with women, but you have no problem believing that the Holy Spirit impregnated Mary, who then gave birth to a man-god who got killed, came back to life and then ascended into the sky. 5 - You are willing to spend your life looking for little loopholes in the scientifically established age of Earth (few billion years), but you find nothing wrong with believing dates recorded by Bronze Age tribesmen sitting in their tents and guessing that Earth is a few generations old. 4- You believe that the entire population of this planet with the exception of those who share your beliefs -- though excluding those in all rival sects - will spend Eternity in an infinite Hell of Suffering. And yet consider your religion the most "tolerant" and "loving." 3-While modern science, history, geology, biology, and physics have failed to convince you otherwise, some idiot rolling around on the floor speaking in "tongues" may be all the evidence you need to "prove" Christianity. 2- You define 0.01% as a "high success rate" when it comes to answered prayers. You consider that to be evidence that prayer works. And you think that the remaining 99.99% FAILURE was simply the will of God. 1- You actually know a lot less than many atheists and agnostics do about the Bible, Christianity, and church history - but still call yourself a Christian. if all these apply to you your a fundamentalist if 9 of these apply to you your pretty devout but not entirely insane if 8 of these apply to you your devout but can change if 7 of these apply to you your sort of devout but sort of normal if 6 of these apply to you your just below the devout line if 5 of these apply to you your neither very loose or devout your in the middle if 4 of these apply to you your not very strict if 3 of these apply to you your not the kind of person who goes to church weekly if 2 of these apply to you your extremely loose and non-devout if 1 of these apply to you your barely religious if non of these apply to you your not christian post your answers last post (or if it changes 8th poster) i just thought this up to kid around I respect your personal beliefs as long as you dont walk around calling me a "gay athiest liberal" and tell me i'm going to hell go ahead, worship said man in sky, i dont care Open Question: There's this girl that's jealous of me, but she's so mean to me, how do i tell her off...NICELY?!?It all started in 5th grade when she tried to cut her hair like mine, and her mom told the lady the wrong thing, so she looked like a guy the next day, and everyone made fun of her. I had made friends with her (wrong choice) earlier that week, and later that DAY, she wouldn't let me be NEAR my other friends, she wanted me to be her only friend and her to be MY only friend... so i decided not to hang out with her anymore.... a year later, we were at a camp-out, and we talked for HOURS ONE END, and i told her that her problem is that she doesn't trust anyone and doesn't tell anyone her secrets, so then my bf called me and asked me on a date, and i went in the cabin to tell everyone and i say, "guess what every one?! I'm-" and just then she interrupts me and says, "Ana's going on a date with Josh!" WTF??!?!?! WHY DID SHE DO THAT?! I WAS TRYING TO HELP HER!!! SO SHE JUST BLOWS ME OFF AND PISSES ME OFF ANYWAY?!?!?! so i look at her in shock and anger - furious anger - and i say, "WHY DID YOU JUST DO THAT?!" so she looks at me in her "yeah that's right i just looked at you in a really fugly way to indicate that i just told you off for no reason" face (mouthfull) and says, "you TOLD me to let out my secrets..." W T F ? ! ? ! what is WRONG with this girl?! there are SOOO many other stories of how she was a b**ch to me, i lost count! but PLEASE help me understand why she's being like this, and help me GET RID OF HERRRR!!!!! Open Question: I backed into the car behind me.....will I win in court?First off, I never really felt bad for people that blamed the cops for their problems or for beng crooked,BUT NOW I DO! I was driving 25mph down a neighborhood road in a 24ft work box truck(with too my knowledge nobody behind me). I drove for about a mile looking for a house number to make my delivery. As I came up on the house, I slowed down, and came to a complete stop in the road. Still I had nobody behind me. I sat at the driveway for about 10-15sec debating on how to pull in. Still with no cars behind me or in front of me, I proceeded to back up so that I could swing wider into the driveway.Still looking in my mirrors. I backed right into a car that I never saw. I got out and asked the woman where she came from? She said she had been behind me the entire time.(1+miles) She was obviously on my butt. She called her husband who she said was a cop. He showed up off-duty and called another cop. He showed up and asked me, what happened? I told him " I backed into her because she must have been too close, because I could not see her in my side mirrors." He never asked me another question, he took my info, sent the lady and his friend cop home and sat me in his car. I sat there for 5-10min silent and then realized he was writing me a ticket. No more questions, he asked for no details, no in depth descriptions, he never asked my partner a single question. I asked for an explination, and what and why I was being charged. All he said was improper backing. I said did you charge her with following too closely? He said he could not prove that, so no. I asked him how he could prove that I backed up improperly without questioning me or my partner. He said he didnt need to. This went on for a few min, I was getting no anwsers just sarcastic remarks. I asked him repetedly to talk to the only witness at the accident, my partner, he refused. Getting very frustrated I kept asking for an explanation and claiming that this seemed very unfair. He put the ticket in front of my face and said to sign for my court date. I said that I didnt agree with it and I was not going to sign. He gets out of the car comes around pulls me out tells me to put my hands behind my back, calls for back-up, pulls out his cuffs and yells sing the paper or go to jail! At this point I signed the paper of course. After, I asked if I could go and he said yes. It is then that he told me to send out my partner. I sort of lost it at this point and yelled back at him that that basically made no sense to question the witness after writing the ticket. He yelled at me and pulled out the cuffs and sent me to my truck. There are several other botch details in this incident, however this is enough to ask, do I have enough to win in court? Keep in mind I have a perfect driving record, criminal record, never been in trouble, and never lost my cool with anyone. He was clearly helping out his friends in my opinion. Open Question: So I really like this guy alot but...?Okay so I've been good friends with this guy for awhile. We've kinda been talking like sorta. Well we went to the movies last night because he really wanted to go. i didn't think he thought it was like a date or anything. but apparently he might have? because he flirted with me alot and grabbed my hands alot and stuff. And when i got home later that night. we were texting, and he said 'so you flirted with me alot tonight' and i was just like no? i think that was you and his reply was okay(: and i told him i didn't realize i was and he said 'i don't care(:' so he likes me right? i'm pretty sure. And i like him too. There's just one problem.. and yes it sounds shallow, i know, so don't cut my head off.There's a major height difference. I'm 14 and very, extremely short for my age. I am like 5'1, but most people don't believe i'm even that tall, and he's 6'1. when i'm walking with him, i feel kinda strange. But he makes me happy. When i'm with him, i laugh and smile(: I like him soo much like i haven't been able to get him outta my head all day. So what do you think? Does the height difference matter? i mean, i'm not shallow, i just feel like maybe we wouldn't look right together ): And what about if and when we break up? Our friendship will prolly go down the toilet ): Thoughts and comments greatly appreciated ((: More Recent Articles |
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