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Open Question: problem with boyfriend? and more... Open Question: problem with boyfriend?Well I'm 14yr old girl and my friend is a 16 yr old guy. we have a thing for each other and we both know it, we're both thinking about dating and I think it will eventually happen....but my mother and father has a problem with him.... he really is a good kid, I'm not one of those naive teenagers who always wants to be right..but I do know he's changed a lot in the past year.. my mother told things about him to my dad before I was even friends with him because she works with his grandmother and hears stories about him and his problems. he has AD-HD and takes medication for it now but before, he used to get in a lottt of fights when he was 15 and at one point got into drinking, which he doesnt do anymore.. but because of the fights he got kicked out of school (until next year) and I feel so bad for him because people deffinetly judge him on his past, anyways... so my mom told my father all of this before me and him ever even knew each other but my father knows who his is and what he did. my dad knows we r friends now but he said "I've heard things from his grandmother and I know he's a problem child" but my mom and dad dooo both know that being kicked out of school straightened him up and the meds are helping him, and he's better off now.. a cool calm collected character lol he's getting better and better but my parents tend to judge people of their past (and always have, not just people I am involved with) and I can see why at times, im their daughter, that makes perfect sense to me.. but what should I do? and if we dooo end up dating, what should I say to my parents? he really is a good kid, and they know he has changed, but once they have an oppinon of someone, they tend to stick to it.. help please?? Open Question: Should i give him another chance?My boyfriend and I broke up 4 months ago. It had been a 3 and half year relationship and we had plans of being together forever, as do most long term relationships. After we broke up I liked another guy who was my exboyfriend's friend (We'll call him J) J had liked me for over a year while we didn't talk and legitimately loves me. Once he found out I had feelings towards him, he was a complete sweetheart, as always. He brought me on the most amazing date, including golf, lunch, a mountain walk, watching the sunset, he rented a movie and he even gave me a back massage. He seemed perfect. So, I decided to date him. While we were dating, every time we drank he was really mean and acted angry. He'd say hurtful things many times. Since I have a father who's an alcoholic, it reminded me of that and hit home for me. Plus, I started to realize I wasn't over my ex. I thought, if I talk to him it will be fine. So we had a little talk about his drinking. One night he drank to the point where he almost burnt my house down while sleep walking. Not his fault, but still a problem. So, I broke up with him. I had told him it was mostly because I wasn't over my ex. Which, he helped me through. After a month of being friends I was starting to get over my ex. J was really trying. He was nice when he drank and still hasn't gotten drunk like he used to. He says he'd do anything for me. Then.. I get a phone call from my ex boyfriends mom saying the ex was in the hospital because J beat him up. Story was, J had been harassing the ex for a couple months and wanted to fight even though my ex didn't want to, he had no other choice. J hit him once and he hit his head on the pavement when he went down so hard that he got memory loss and brain damage from it. I got extremely upset, worried and disappointing in J. I'm not a violent person, I hate confrontations and anger. So I told him I never want anything more then friends. Well after a while J couldn't handle just being friends because he loved me too much, which I understood. It just hurt being so close. We said a last goodbye and he left my house. I was miserable again for 4 days... then he started talking to me again because he said not talking didn't help, it just made it worse. So here we are again.. I do have feelings for him.. but After the drinking situations(which are fixed), the fight which he was a complete *** about, and my ex's parents always telling me how much of a loser he is.. I don't know what to do. Also, my mother says hes a good guy but I should lay low and single for a while. idk I like him but he loves me.. should I just give him another chance? Or just lay low for a while? Open Question: how do i convince my little sister that everything will be ok?Ok i'm 15 y/o and my sister is 12 y/o our mom recently started dating a really nice guy that has two daughters of his own. They been going out every weekend for the last 3 months. our mom has been divorced from our dad for 12 year's and his wife died 5 years ago. I have no problem with my mom dating him I think it's sweet that she found someone. But my sister don't like it and she wont talk to our mom about it. But anyways how do I convince her that everything will be ok and that mom still loves us and that mom needs a man in her life that will love her Me and my sister has been out on a few dates with them and we even went over to his house for lunch and dinner and to watch movies but my sister is still not ok with him Open Question: It's not good for me to get attached to this girl, but I keep getting attached. How do I not get attached?I love this girl. We were dating for about two and a half, maybe three months, but she broke up with me after some stuff happened, and now we're good friends and lovers as well. But since she broke up with me, we have had significant problems because I am still so in love with her, and she needs her space, and wants to date around a bit. But she doesn't much, because we spend so much time together, although she does a little. I understand her situation, and why she doesn't want to be in a relationship with me, although I'm not really saying why here... I would like to just enjoy things and not emotionally invest myself, because when things don't work out I become full of resentment, and it just makes things worse... I'm really trying to just be detached. Any tips? Open Question: why is it that the caring guys always end up in the friend zone?I have alot of female friends and i am the guy they always turn to when their boyfriends break their hearts or they are having family problems, but when it comes to dating or something like that they always look right past me, so why is it that guys like me always end up in the friend zone? Open Question: I'm about ready to give up on this girl... a lot of details inside.?History: This girl and I both work together at Hollister. I've know her since February of this year. We have/had a great relationship at work. She used to ask me to go on breaks with her and hangout with her outside of work all the time, but now she has stopped. We've hung out before like go to the movies together and once at the beach at 2am. The way we interact with each other, some coworkers and managers thought we were dating at one point. She doesn't know I like her, but honestly the way I treat her she should know unless she's just dumb. I can't tell if she likes me as well because she's so friendly to everyone that it's hard to read her. Problem: Yesterday she had a party which I wasn't invited to, but that's not the problem. She invites one of our new coworkers and I guess he tried to start a fight at the party and she's mad at him. She comes into work today tell her story to everyone, but I acted like I didn't care because it's really none of my business. Anyways today for the first time I saw a side of her that I can't stand. She was bitchy and rude. I walked by her to cheer her up and she says "either help me fold this or go away!" I just walked away. Then I noticed that she looks at me like she wants me to say something, but I didn't the entire night. Question: From her actions do you think she even liked me? Do you think she has lost interest? Should I take offense of how she acted today or brush if off because she wasn't in a bad mood? I was going to tell her I like her, but now I kinda think don't bother? I sorry for this long explanation, I just need to get this off my chest. Thanks anyone who helps! More Recent Articles
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