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Open Question: Relationship problem (not really but read anyways)? and more... Open Question: Relationship problem (not really but read anyways)?Ok so i just posted several different fake questions in the singles and dating section for Psychology class and you guys are hilarious. You judge so quickly and over react. Just an analysis. Thanks for the answers! ok here is one of the questions i posted. this is my antagonist view project i did for my essay:http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ar.7CvWzyk_YNYWUnqV6uKzsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091217183619AAq0kG2 Open Question: EX problems, pleeease help!!!?So I dated this girl for a little over six months. Then she broke up with me over a phone call saying she didn't feel the same. I asked if we could talk but she never agreed/wanted to. I was seriously messed up, I really love this girl. I've tried to get ever her but never was able to. Then like two months later she asks to hang out with me. I thought we'd start being friends again. It was difficult being with her because i missed being her boyfriend, but I did it anyway because i care for her and enjoy her company. One night after hanging out she texts me saying she broke up with me because she had a lot of problems and stress in her life then, and she thought not having a boyfriend would reduce that, but that she was wrong and that she wants me back/she misses me/breaking up was a mistake etc. I said next time we hang out we'll talk. I was excited to finally get answers because i had heard rumors that one of the reasons she really broke up with me was because she wanted to go to some dance with another guy. And I saw on facebook that she was in a relationship with someone for like a week or something idk. i wanted to make sure that i wasn't just a last resort; that the other relationship(s) didn't work out and I just "better than nothing" or whatever. We scheduled a time to talk but that night she invites a bunch of people over, so we never got a chance. (wtf) She never really mentioned it again, so i brought it up a couple times but she always says she can't because she's sick and her mom won't let her. (and she has been reeeeally sick. like she only goes to school for a half a day) But she's had opportunities to talk to me multiple times but never did. So whats going on? I can't figure it out. Is she scared i might not take her back? Has she changed her mind again and doesn't like me? I need to know if i should start (well, 'restart') moving on. Lord knows thats going to take a while. Thoughts?? Open Question: Dating Help for older guy....where can I find?....?Hi, I'm a Caucasian man in my early 40's that's looking for a long term relationship with a great woman. Here's my problem...my looks are just average, but I have a huge heart..great sense of humor..am very romantic and attentive to my partners needs...and I'm considered by my peers to be very Intelligent and well read. But I'm having a heck of a time getting the ladies to notice me anymore, and i was hoping the community could point me in the right direction on this. I'm actually very attracted to both Asian, and Hispanic women, and also find some African American ladies very nice as well. So I guess i'm trying to find the best avenue to meet these lovely women, and get their attention! I'm looking for someone in the age range of 35-49...but can't seem to find any websites that specialize in the age range. or ethnicity's i'm looking for! Can any of you offer any suggestions? Thanks for your help!! :-) Open Question: Will I get food poisoning?I've just eaten around 100gms of this nut/oat cluster/chocolate mix. Only problem is, I've just looked at the packet and realised the Best Before date was August this year (thought they tasted a bit strange!). Is this going to give me food poisoning or anything? I've been really paranoid about not eating anything that might be even slightly spoiled since I had a rotten dose of food poisoning not long ago. I never want a repeat of that. It's basically just a mix of caramelized nuts (cashews/almonds/hazelnuts), dark chocolate and toasted oat clusters. No, it wasn't open. I only bought it last week so really it should never have been told to me. Open Question: Girlfriend Needs Support - What can I do to help her out without derailing my livelihood?I've been dating a Canadian born girl for the past six months, and am from the States. Things have gone very well to date, but her family life and money problems are starting to become both a burden and worsening vision of things to come ...I need some solid unbiased advice on how to handle the situation, because I care about her, but at the same time am beginning to feel like she's holding me back from all the fun I used to have before we met. I'm probably being selfish in a way, because at the same token she's provided me some stability which I previously lacked, personality-wise; and I do genuinely enjoy her company...but the grass is starting to look greener. Since we've met we spend almost all our free time together, save the weekly breaks of "guy" and "girl" time respectively with our friends, and while it was great at first I feel like she's becoming increasingly dependent with her need to be with me. The great thing about her though, is I've been able to openly talk about this with her, and she's given me the space I feel I need when I ask for it. So on to the nuts and bolts... She's 3 years my junior (23, I'm 26), and we have the occasional bouts with priority and life goals. She can be quite stubborn, thoughtless and immature at times (but what 20-something in this day and age isn't?), but in the same token that's part of what I found so appealing about her in the first place. I live in a city that can often times seem very materialistic and callous, so in many respects she has been a refreshing breath of French-Canadian air. I work in IT, software development, and count myself fortunate in the fact that I possess marketable skills in this otherwise rough economic cycle, as I never completed my college degree. I've been the type to get drilled by my family and old friends to return back to school, but up until about two months ago I never took this notion seriously. I do well for myself, relative to my age and lack of a formal education pedigree, but have a glass ceiling over my head because of my missing degree. And, thanks to management changes at work inspired by an aggressive corporate buyout, I'm beginning to see the necessity of having the foundation that a degree provides (makes finding a new job less ire-some). On the other hand, my girlfriend is pursuing a bachelor's degree at a local community college in Social Work, while working a part-time retail job. She just completed her second semester, and I'm proud of the strides shes made to make that happen; I suppose we're both "late bloomers" in regard to our formal learning. We've butted heads a few times about her actual degree and desired field of work, but honestly its all about money in the end. I don't think she'll ever be able to sustain a worthwhile living in the industry, while she wants to heal the world. I'm undoubtedly the bad guy in this argument - as I realize that the world needs social workers as much as it needs affordable doctors and available technology. But, as far as careers go, social work is thankless and oftentimes depressing a field [I have another friend who recently finished her Master's in Social Work, and she's shared plenty of stories that make me cringe about the industry, its lack of proper funding, and soul-sucking void that is humanity...but I digress with my cynicism]. It's funny really, as my girlfriend always chastises me about how much Americans value wealth over common good. So enough about our respective backgrounds! Here's my problem.... My girlfriend still lives at home with her parents, and her family is in the process of losing their foreclosed property. This has been ongoing since I met her and some time before, and there seems to be little they can do to escape this fate. She comes from a divorced parents background (as do I), and the parents she's living with now (mom and step dad) have been very unreliable and unforthcoming about the housing situation and their future plans, which has her believing she's going to be homeless in the next few months. I'm devastated with how they've treated her regarding this, but unfortunately they've never been a reliable or stable part of her life. She has her dad's family in Boston and great friends in Montreal that would provide her with somewhere to stay should she need it, but relocating now would cause some strain to the effort she's put into her education. She's also afraid of losing me, and I think may be one of the big reasons to why she hasn't decided to ship out yet. In some ways I feel like she's waiting for me to ask her to move in, and while we almost practically do, I can honestly say that I'm not ready to formalize that commitment. I also don't feel like I could support her if she did move in, unless she started working full time. Up until now, because our great wage discrepancies I've been paying for just about everything - great for her, not so great for my savings this year. What can I do to ease this situation? I d (continued) What can I do to ease this situation? I don't want her to leave, but I also believe it might do her better if she can live independently once and for all, and learn how to take care of herself properly and realize that life on your own isn't the cake she sometimes thinks I have. She doesn't want to work full time because she believes it will affect her school life - though in some respects I feel like the local community college she's attending is doing her a gross disservice (that's a whole 'NOTHER argument). On the flip side of the coin, I wonder if it would be a huge mistake to have her walk out of my life, because I care about her as a lover and friend - and she's provided some amazing emotional strength that I can say with certainty no relationship to date has. What should I do, interwebs? Open Question: How can I open myself up to people?Freshman year, I dated a girl who I got really close to. Sophomore year, I dated this girl and broke up with her quickly. This was the start of a long decline. That same year, I liked this girl, as did my really good friend. In the end, I got betrayed by both HIM and HER (she dated him, and he threatened to kill himself if I did anything....sooooo dramatic). To this day, I don't let people get close to me. I make fun of people to make them understand that I care for them, I look out for them, but I don't want the same in return. I don't know why, but it makes me feel a lot more secure after sophomore year. I think the problem with why I haven't been dating is that I make fun of girls to keep them kind of distant. I mean, we talk and stuff, and we joke around, but nobody has gotten to know me DEEP yet. My friend says she loves spending alone time with me because I'm her best friend when I'm alone with her and when I'm in front of people, I act like the "tough guy". My other friend feels like I'm the friend she's been asking God for for a long time. My other friend who I used to like says life without me would make her contemplate suicide. These are female friends who I acted tough, and still kind of do, but I know their deepest darkest secrets and stuff, BECAUSE THEY OPENED UP TO ME FIRST. I don't know why, but they just chose to really choose me to know their deepest secrets. One thing in common with them all; I didn't make a lot of fun of them, because I didn't see them as threatening. They didn't remind me of the guy and girl that betrayed me sophomore year. How can I start opening myself up to people again? I've been like this a YEAR AND A HALF NOW, and it's time it STOPPED! Open Question: How would a Leo go about preserving a relationship with a Scorpio during the upcoming Mars Retrograde?I'm a Leo, my boyfriend is a Scorpio, I know we're already 'least compatible and whatnot, but this is the best relationship i've ever had. The next Mars retrograde starts on Dec. 20th, and the last Mars retrograde 3 years ago REALLY screwed with my life, my ex and I broke up and had serious troubles until we finally called it quits. This retrograde is supposed to be in Leo the entire time, so I'm going to have a lot of troubles, and all the websites i find are talking about how it's also going to be particularly bad for Scorpios since that's their ruling planet... Does anyone have any advice to give about things i can watch for and ways i can handle certains types of situations just in case? We've been dating almost a year now and don't have many problems, no real fights, occasional disagreements but never anything big. We're young college age, nerds, etcs. :) More Recent Articles
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