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Open Question: Relationship Problems!!! please help!!!? and more... Open Question: Relationship Problems!!! please help!!!?Ok so i have been dating this girl for a month now. She made all the moves. She called me and asked me out and she made the move to hold hands. I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said some other girl liked me and she wanted to make sure that she was my number 1 and not the other girl. This kept going on and she wouldnt tell me who the girl was or what was going on. But all i heard from her friends was that i should leave her and move on. Last saturday, her best friend called me and told me that she likes another guy and that i should just forget about her because she has forgotten all about me. I freaked and because i had heard stuff from other people i broke it off. I told her that another girl came into play and that i heard she likes other guys. We sorted everything out but she freaked about the other girl comment. She finally told me who the other girl who liked me was. It was her best friend. So i promised her that i could forget about the other girl if she would just forget that happened. She told me i need to earn back her trust. we kept talking but we were both really cautious of one another for the next few days. On thursday, she started texting like she used to. We flirted the whole time. On friday, we talked about having sex. It was never even concidered a topic to bring up earlier. Last night, she was going to hang out with one of her friends thats a guy but he likes her. She asked my permission and i told her i dont care. she canceled her plans because she thought it had a chance to ruin things with me. I dont understand why getting in a fight all of a sudden opened up all these options, but we are still way to cautious around one another. She told me that she is willing to have sex if we wait one or two months. before she said no sex till marriage. And if she canceled her plans with that guy, does that mean i cant hang out with girls?! Open Question: What do you think about my relationship with my boyfriend?Ok well... I'm bringing this up due to a very recent event that happened between my boyfriend and his mom that I was present for, which I will mention near the end, but please read all of it before you comment. My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 2.5 yrs and we get along quite well. We always get any existing problems resolved in a calm manner, we make each other laugh, comfort each other, and all in all make each other happy. However, over the course of the relationship we have gone through things that most couples would have separated over by now... I'm just wondering what everyone thinks about our relationship as a whole. Ok... on the not so bright side of our relationship... my boyfriend has a bit of a streak of anger, which scares me sometimes, because when he's angry you DO NOT touch him. He's in the military, he has trained in self defense, and he works as a security guard. The first time he hurt me was when we were fooling around and play fighting on my bed. I was trying to push him off my bed and apparently I was pushing a pressure point on his chest and in a minute of that same position he then grabbed on to my neck with his free hand and started to choke me. I froze up and he then told me "let go". i got my hand away from his chest, he let go of my neck, and then moved away. I stayed silent for a bit but we eventually talked it out... he told me it was a reflex. The next time was when once again we were play fighting again and he told me to stop this time but he had a smile on so I thought he was "resisting" a little... he had told me before that a little bit of playful "resistance" is fun (true) so i didn't think anything of it and kept play fighting. Then he flipped me over and started to twist my arm... I didn't think it hurt that much, because all that play fighting that we've done I've gotten used to the bruises and the pain that comes along with it.. he immediately freaked out when he noticed what he was doing he apologized and told me that he was about to break my arm and that he really believed that he wouldn't hurt me again, but obviously he was wrong. Honestly, I really didn't care at that point... I love fighting with him... we have a lot of fun and it's a great alternative because my parents would shun me if I took up boxing... and he has only gone to that point 2 times (choking at 6 months and twisting my arm at 1 yr). I have seen him cry on several occasions... one time he was feeling really shitty another time I was going to break of with him to avoid the break up when I moved... and a few times afterwards. On my part... when we were in an open relationship only I dated others... he suggested the open relationship so I wouldn't break it off with him... which obviously hurt him... and there have been several occasions where I said or did things to upset him... like before the open relationship I cheated on him... but not with another man.. no no no my best friend (a woman) when he told me not to (yes i asked him) although all this does sound bad... but there are more good things... in my opinion the fact that we tell each other everything... the fact that we are always honest with each other.. and we have something that no one else understands. I have heard countless amounts of people saying that we were fuck buddies during the open relationship... when we knew that we were still together... the other people were like "benefits" meaning they weren't needed. anyway I can go on for long about the good things... but recently I have lost a lot of respect for him... when him and his mom had that fight during his birthday dinner (just a few days after his actual birthday where I ended the open relationship for his sake) he was being told not to drive me home since he had 3 shots of vodka (even though he ate a lot... sweat it out in bed with me... and waited 3.5 hrs)... I didn't take sides (parents or him) so i just stood there watching them yell at each other... him stomping around like a child... then his mom starts to cry... they go into another room... the come out and he cries... it just shocked me in the end i was given his birthday money to take an hour long taxi ride back home... never did i witness such an awkward moment now I can't look at him the same way... i still love him to bits but now i don't respect him as much as I did before and I get annoyed of him when he started to try and play fight... I've talked to him about this and he said that he wouldn't do that towards me... he says that both of us are too logical and open minded to fight like that recently he keeps talking about how others are getting married... and I suspect it's to get some incite into what I thing of marriage... but if this newly found view of him doesn't go away... I don't think we can have a future.. I'm afraid he might act that way towards me... upsetting when I think about it, because that last thing I would want to do is break it off... before this happe Open Question: Do You Ever Have This Problem in a Relationship?I have been dating the same girl for about 3 years and in that time i have been completely unable to relate to her friends. It is so boring when I have to spend time with them because I never have a clue what they are talking about. Every single time, there is an eight person conversation about someone that I have never met or situation that I wasn't in or just some other thing that I know nothing about. And it is impossible for me to join in because they are all loud, talk a mile a minute, and constantly wasted. Its like a couple of nights every month I have to sit around a listen to these loud, drunk people that I don't know talk about other people that I don't know, for hours. They aren't mean or anything (although they do have a tendency to ignore me) I just don't enjoy spending time with them, at all. Is there anyway that I can get out of these situations, without having to break up with my girlfriend, because they are excruciatingly boring for me? Is there anything I can say that won't upset her and still allow me not to waste 5 hours listening to drunk people ramble about stuff that I dont' care about? Open Question: Should I Believe Her? Relationship Trust Problems!!?So i met her in myspace, she is the cousin of some girl i went to school with. We saw each other after 5 months after talkin in myspace and met up at 3 am at her house wen she invited me over. We kicked it and w.e else. After 3 months, we started to date.. about a month after we were together, i saw some conversation on her myspace about her inviting some guy to her house after school. the guy asked, "whos gonna be in your house?" and she answered "no one, just me", the guy was said "what are we gonna do?" and she said "we gonna fuck jk jk jk" now, thats something i dont know if it happened or not.. i asked her and she said she never saw the guy. she said she was never planning on seeing him. everything was not written in myspace, they also had phone conversations that i dont know what they might've talked about.. so i dont know what to think of her no more. im mostly worried because thats a way we met too.. did i just fall in love with some myspace hoe? i dont know what to think.. what do you guys think? Open Question: My boyfriend says he doesn't care if I were to sleep with other guys....?I have been dating my current boyfriend for 6 months now. At the beginning of the relationship we had a long conversation on jealousy, and he expressed to me that he's never felt that emotion towards any of his previous girlfriends because he feels that it leads to irrational behavior and can consequently harm the relationship. I completely agreed with him on that part but he continued to say that he wouldn't even care if his exes slept with other people as long as it made them happy. When he first told me this I thought that it must have just been a way of protecting himself from his previously slutty girlfriends and unhealthy relationships by convincing himself "he didn't care". I thought that as time went by and our realtionship grew stronger, that he might feel differently towards me and maybe show some emotion when it came to feelings of jealousy. But he's repeatedly expressed to me that he doesn't care if i were to see other guys or even if I were to have sexual relations with them because love has nothing to do with lust. I told him that his way of thinking concerned me because I'd certainly have a problem if he were to cheat on me and he assured me that he only wants my happiness and that he'd never do anything to hurt me. I just don't know what to think...I don't find it normal for a person not to care at all about their partner's relations with the opposite sex. I'm not saying for him to be a jealous nutjob but I just feel like his not caring about this kind of stuff is another way of saying that what's between us is not serious. I see it as human nature to be just a bit jealous because of the natural fear of losing someone you really care about...I don't know, is it just me?? What do you think? Open Question: is he just using me for sex?i met this man on monday on my way to work he was working in my area for a week bt then he was going back to darby where he lives. its only a hours drive from birmingham tho so this isnt a problem.. anyway he gave me his number and i txted him myn and he asked me if i would come meet him on the wesnday. he came into my work place tuesday to confirm we see each other the next day and i asked him what he'd planned.. and he sed wacth a film... all i would say is and knowing he'd want more and he made a joke say err and alittle sex and then laughed and sed dont worry babes. wensday we went bck to his place lisened to some music and he tried to make a move.... i told him ima virgin and that ive never really had a boyfriend before and i wasnt really ready and we talked about it. he told me alot about dont let anybody make u do anythin and he wont and he doesnt need to becuase he can get another girl but the short version is that he 'has needs' and he couldnt control himself so he drove me home. he say's he wants to see me again and keep in contact because he does really like me and he see me next week but i dont know if hes only saying that so he can try again and hope i give in... which 2bh i would as i really like him and dont wanna lose him. he also said even thought he not a guy who likes taking girls virginity he likes the fact that he knows i'll be faithful and that im wifey (serouis gf) material ive been reading up about having sex on the first date and alot of aduts dont see it as a bad thing and hes alot older than me so i really dont know. i tried to start a mini convo with my mom about how she knew she was ready but she wasn't intrested in talking to me about it which is why im asking this so before people start saying im a silly little girl i just dont know where to turn... i dont have any extened family just me mom and 2 little borthers both under 5yrs old hes 24 and im 17 UK so its legal Open Question: whats gona happen plz help?!?ok soo im really sad and i cant stop crying its about my ex bf i just cant get over him. i noe it takes time to get over someone but wow i cant take it anymore i hardly eat and i dream about him and hes on mind 24/7 hes everywhere everything reminds me of him. heres my story i started dating this guy we were doing good very happy then we started to fight alot and then he broke up with me he said he still loved me but we had alot problems which i thought it was dumb cuz if u love someone ur willling to work things out! the nxt day he txted me saying he messed up he wants me bakk and yea he asked me out again and so we started dating again and we were doing good and then he broke up with me again and i was confused i said why he said things arent working out and he wouldnt give me a reason and all i said was i dnt want to tlk to u no more. the nxt day he txted me but i didnt read it cuz my dad took away my txting he told my friend to tell me to txt him i guess he wants to be my friend soo we see eachother now thru the halls he told my friend he was trying to avoid me cuz each time he sees me tht he feels (i cant remember the rest) but i dont get it if he said he wants to be my friend why is he doing tht he told someone he still had feelings for me but he doesnt think we are gona get bakk together and he told someone else tht he didnt have feelings for me. my friend told me hes playing games and hes confused and he isnt ready to be in a stable relationship. he has an attitude and he used to get jealous alot and ugh idk people say hes a jerk for breaking up with me and tht i can do better and even one of his friend told him tht and he got mad and i just dnt care who really can do better i just still like him and he is over me im guessing and i wonder wat hes feeling and is he regreting wat he did to me and why would he break up with me again i always blame myself for this how can i get through this?i still want to be his friend and i was thinking as soon as i get txting bakk i txt him but i said to myself wat a stupid move i have to show him idc and if he wanted to be friends he would have came up to me a long time ago. what do u think will happen i need sum advice plz?!!! Open Question: Does tonsil stones cause problem in relationships?It gives off a bad breath, I use mouthwash but the smell go away after a couple of hours, I'm scared to start dating because tis crap is giving me bad breath, any advice to get rid of it permantely without surgery Open Question: Exchanges student fellings =/ ??I'm going to be an exchange student in Ireland this coming January- June. I don't know, i used to be so excited, and we were having some problems, but i was so looking-forward and hell-bent on going i made it happen. I'm 15 and my feelings have completely changed. I have 23 days till i leave and i am scared, i find myself crying a lot as well. I used to dream about it and count down the days, it now feels like an obligation and i'm counting down the days till i come home. Is it normal to not want to leave, shortly before my departure date, are my feelings normal, or completely ridiculous. Not going is not an option. If you have any input of ideas please help? Open Question: What legal rights does a biological father have after 13 yrs if he is not the one listed on her birth cert?Ok...so 13 yrs ago when I was 16, I got pregnant. At the time I was with my long time high school sweetheart. We broke up for a short time and I had sex with a guy and then we broke after about 3 months. In that time, I found out I was pregnant, but because it was so close, I was not sure of who the father was. Needless to say, I was you and scared to death and gotten back with my high school sweetheart. I had no idea what happened to ex that I dated for a short time. My mother kept me from dating him because at the time, I was 16 and he was 21. Anyways...once she was born, even though we weren't sure, we pretty much knew my high school sweetheart was not the bio father. He was there for her birth, and signed the birth certificate. We married and divorced a couple of years later, but he has been the only father she has know up until last year. We told her when she was younger that Brad(high school sweetheart) was possibly not her biological father. I didn't want her to think I kept if from her or lied her whole life. I did try and locate him, however could not. It really didn't matter at the time because she loves her daddy and he has raised her as his own. Well last year she found her biological father on Facebook. She wanted to write him and get to know who he was. I was apprehesive, but I didn't want to keep her from her biological father. He accepted her with open arms and it is a little tough to juggle him wanting to see her and her daddy. Well after several months seeing her a little here and there, he is becoming a huge jerk and want to file to get a court order for a paternity test and get parental rights. This is taking an emotional toll on me and my daughter. My ex husbands family does not know that my daughter is not his biologically. We kept it between us and very close family, since he basically adopted her and raised her as his own. I can't believe that he is doing this to my 13 year old daughter. I'm not trying to keep them apart. If she wants to see him from time to time, I don't have a problem with that, but can he get legal parental rights after all these years? Can he force us to get a DNA test? Would he have to back pay child support? He said he would not have to since he didn't know about her. I don't even care about the child support, I was just trying to scare him, so he would not tear the only family she has ever known apart. She is refusing to want to take a DNA test. I'm so upset about this and hope someone can help. More Recent Articles
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