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Open Question: SHE SAYS SHE NO LONGER LOVES ME...I NEED INPUT!!!? and more... Open Question: SHE SAYS SHE NO LONGER LOVES ME...I NEED INPUT!!!?This is the first time i've ever joined a forum before. I think that getting this off my chest and possibly receiving some advice or consolation will help me through this. I guess ill begin by stating my situation... This girl was my first love. We've known eachother for 10+ years now and we were best friends. We started dating senior year of highschool, when both of us had just turned 18. We've lived together ever since, with the exception of about 6 months. Like any young couple i suppose, we had our ups, and definately our downs. Due to immaturity (atleast i believe so), we had broken up for short periods 3 seperate times in 6 years. I felt as though this was normal, seeing how young and unexperienced we were with relationships. Anyways, about 2 months ago, she broke up with me suddenly. I had a feeling for months before this that something was off, but i continued to love her and treat her good as usual. We had just moved back home from Florida, and she told me she wasn't fully feeling optimistic about the relationship anymore. I had recently been laid off 2 times in a year, and was suffering from depression. I wasn't able to be MYSELF. Anyone whos been really depressed can identify with me here. Needless to say, my spell of depression took a toll on the relationship as well. About a week or so after she broke up with me, i visited her and opened up about my problems. I explained that i hadn't wanted to burden her with my problems and make her unhappy, and thats why i hadn't been able to put in 110% at times. She cried alot and told me she understood better now that i opened up, and offered to give us one more fighting chance. For the past month or so, we had been spending more time together actually communicating and from what i thought, rekindling the original feelings as to why we loved eachother to begin with. A week ago, i had noticed a sense of disconnection from her again. I confronted her about it, and she informed me that her feelings weren't changing and she wanted to call it quits. I was crushed. For the past week, i had moments of weakness when i called repeatedly to apologize to her and promise change. I understand that this only pushes that person farther away. Who wants to be with a weak and needy individual right? I just couldn't help myself. I love this girl with all my heart. I'd give the world to her if i could. She always said no matter what, we would work things out. Yesterday night i had called her again for closure. I had given one last chance at trying to get her back by offering to attend couples counseling together. This was an idea she had previously considered to be a positive step to healing our relationship. When i suggested this, she explained that she was no longer was in love with me and hadn't been for a couple years now. She claimed she dedicated more time to fixing our situation than she should have. She then told me she was looking forward to dating other guys. This killed me inside. I've been treating her like gold, and she's interested in other guys? ****! How can i love this girl so much that i can't function, but she's able to start giving herself to someone else? After 6 years, this girl did a 180 on me and it hurts to say this, but i hardly recognize her anymore. She was the closest person ive ever had and i really, truly thought that no matter how difficult something seems, if you have love, you can fix it. Im now questioning what if i thought was true. The only option i've been left with is to cut off contact completely from her until further notice. This is the MOST PAINFUL aspect because she was my heart and soul and i can't even communicate with her to atleast make sure that she's safe. I haven't been able to eat anything for 3 days now. My thoughts are consumed with memories of us...its a week before Christmas and about 3 weeks till our 24th birthdays and what would have been our 6 year anniversary, and i can't even spend any of these times with her. Im filled with anger and extreme sadness. Im usually a very outgoing person. Life of the party. Charasmatic. now i feel dead inside. I know what i have to do in this situation. I just would like some re-assurance from someone whos been in a similar situation. thanks for your time. Open Question: I don't know whats wrong with me? It involves my boyfriend...?Ok so heres my situation: I've been going out with this kid for little over a week now. Hes a nice guy and we've been on 1 date. The thing is, I don't know if I really like him & I don't know what to do. Going to school, I kind of dread seeing him and I really don't know why. But when I'm sitting in class or whatever, I really want to be with him and daydream about making out LOL. However, he kissed me after the first date and it wasn't too hot, like I didn't feel anything but then why would I want to make out with him? I'm like messed up or something. I enjoy texting him, its just when I see him in school I really wish I could be alone but other times when I am alone I want to kiss him. WTF is wrong with me? How do I fix this problem? What should I do? 10 points to best answer, thanks. Open Question: My wife retired from K-Mart effective August 1st, but hasn't received a check yet. Is this a common problem?She has contacted K-Mart on several occasions and they keep saying she should wait. I think she's waited long enough. The first check was supposed to be issued 90 days after date of retirement. As of today nothing has been sent in writing at all. I'm a little fed up. Must I organize some action? Please let me know of similar experiences with K-Mart. Open Question: Wait around or get out now?Me and this guy dated for 4 years back when we were in high school. We are both 25 now and I have 1 child and he has 2. He came back into my life about 3 months ago. We met at a bar and totally hit it off. I was in a relationship with my sons father at the time and I left him to be with this guy. He to is in a relationship and lives about 400 miles away. He comes down here to work during the week and goes back up north on the weekend. My problem is he says he done with her but hes still living there. Also his Mom tells me not to believe everything he says about their status. He says he moving back down here but he wont give me a date or even a month when he is moving. I am so in love with him I honestly don't think I ever stopped loving him and this is why this is so hard. Not sure what to do please help!! Open Question: Torn apart... someone help?Ok. So... It might be a long read, but trust me, the story is worth the read my friends. Anyways. I am a guy. I'm in sophomore year (im 17, but was never held back due to grades, just because i moved a lot in elementary school, and diferent states have diferent requirements, if its nessisary to say, im in honors classes.) , and im having a lil bit of a problem. Anyways, I've known this girl since seventh grade. Had a MAJOR crush on her, but never told her. Problem was, she had found a guy online that she fell in love with. See, from my point of view, she had/has a hard life, And when she needed someone to talk to, he helped her through it, and gave her an outside opinion. She eventually fell in love with him. Anyways, I, obviously, did not like said guy, Nor did any of this girls friends. This girl was pressured, into "breaking up" with him from their online relationship. Anyways, time passed, i had a few girlfriends in-between everything, but i ALWAYS liked this girl. She became my best friend in eighth grade, and we grew very very close. In 9th grade she began to be the only friend that really mattered much to me. She was all i cared about in life, but i would not tell her this, because, alas, she was moving. End of ninth grade, we all knew she was moving out of state, and may hours away from me. So i tried to keep my feelings at bay, but i failed. I fell in love with my best friend. There wasnt a thing i could do to stop myself. Feelings piled up, and before long, She was the target of my affection, just, not out loud. So... We got very close, but always, just stayed friends. She knew i "liked" her, but that was pretty much it. I had thrown around the word "love" with other girls, which i definitely, did not love. So i didn't want to make the word lose its value towards her. I knew it though, i knew deep in my heart, i loved that girl. I loved her to the ends of the earth, and would do anything she would ever ask of me. Well, that girl moved last year. In June she packed her bags and moved a state away. Yeah, not that far, but far enough. I was torn apart from the one i cared about the most in life. I was a massive wreck for a while. I didnt want to move on in life. I just wanted, to die. (not literally) anyways, come the beginning of September, i got a new girlfriend... A girlfriend who wasnt to... nice. She was the girlfriend MOST guys dream about. Willing to do anything i ask at the snap of a finger. She loved me, i loved my best friend. See, me and my best friend never lost contact. We talked for hours, every single day. So... At the same time, i learned that my best friend was talking to this guy online (same one as before) again. she said she loved him... it broke my heart. but i couldnt tell her. How could i? Who was i to tear apart her life, by telling her my feelings for her, when she was perfectly happy with someone else. I decided not to. so, time went on. (a few weeks) and i got to the point, where i simply couldnt take it anymore. I told her EVERYTHING. i told her everything ive felt, for how long ive felt it. My best friend was, to say the least, shocked. She didn't see it coming at all. anyways, me and her got to talking. She didnt like my girlfriend, at ALL. She knew i loved her, but she loved this other guy. She told me that she DID like me, a lil bit. but didn't know what she wanted to do. So... As proof of my commitment to her. I broke up with my girlfriend. Bout a month later. Another girl asked me out. My best friend told me she didnt want me to date her... so I turned her down too. But the thing is. I don't really know where this is going. Me and her havent ever talked about ever being a couple in a serious manner, or anything like that. and she wants me (for the most part) to wait three years until we're out of school, and she can figure out which of the two of us (me, or the guy she met online) she wants to be with. I have no guarantee it would be me. For all i know, it probably wouldn't. I've been fighting with myself. Should i wait the three years? Or should I move on, and stop rejecting girls, for a girl a chance at something that might never be? thank you, so much for reading. If you read all of that, and you give me a good answer, chances are, you WILL get best answer. And i will forever owe you my thanks. Open Question: I can't find my local area connection...how can i get it?hey i have a dell laptop i recently caught a virus that kept taking me to start up and never show any icon i try to restore it to a earlier date that work but it didn't work...so my teacher lend me his windows xp cd to reinstall everything the problem is when i use the cd everything work fined except that when i try connecting to the internet i couldn't find the local area connection. i try creating a new connection but when i tried still the local area connection icon didn't appear. i forgot to mention i got my laptop around 2005 it was my first computer and when i got it never came with a windows xp disk that why i used my teacher...when i had it was more updated then the cd my computer originally came with windows xp professional version 2002 service pack 3 genuine intel(r) cpu t2300 @1.66ghz 1.00 gb of ram but since i use his cd the computer went down graded to a service pack 2...but anyways can some tell me how can i get local area connection to appear again Open Question: How do i get a guy out of my head?I really like this guy i work with, but i don't really have a chance / i probably shouldn't date him. The problem is that I am 16 a junior in high school and he is 25, with a bachelors degree. I kinda think he might like me, but i don't think i should go there with him. he wouldn't get in trouble because the legal age where i live is 16, but still, it doesn't sound like a good idea. should i forget about it and be friends? and if yes how? Open Question: Guy problems (Girls & guys plz!)?Anyway, there's this guy in my class that I didn't realize that I liked him until a month ago, and I just can't get him out of my head!?! I would daydream during math about him asking me out, but no, dreaming isn't gonna get me anywhere. I don't want to ask him out 'cause he doesn't date ANYONE. I don't know how to ask him out. And I won't say "Will you go out with me" 'cause I'll be a jerk if I do. Thanks:) Getting down to the point, how do I get us to be going out? Without asking him, 'cause I'm really not that type of person. :) Open Question: Was she a good friend?Okay. Let's call this person Susie and I'm Riah. Ok. In the beginning of school, Susie mom would ride me, susie, and her cousin to school. I would sit by Susie and her cousin and some other friends. Well, they kept coming to lunch late and I didn't want to sit by myself, so I sat with my other two friends, (let's call them DD and Susan). Well, I continued to sit by them, DD and Susan. Until one day I saw Susie come downstairs to lunch by herself and I didn't want her to sit alone, so I sat by her. Susie is sooo sensitive. I would talk to Susie about boys I liked and what they put me through and other stuff,(I tried to include her in everything I did, but she always had some lame excuse.) One boy name was (let's call him Chris) Chris. I liked him and Susie did too. But she said Chris acts like his brother, so she stopped liking Chris, or as she say she did. I liked Chris on and off. But we were friends first, now we are currently dating. I noticed that as soon as I started dating him, Susie stopped talking to me. I was bewildered. The boy wasn't the problem, neither was I. So one day I told my friend Tori that Susie don't talk to me no more. And me and Tori wondered why. Susie talked to Tori more than Susie talked to me. So today, Tori told me that Susie said we don't talk much because I called her Susan, (i honestly don't remember that) and because all I did was talk about boys. Then Tori said, That me, Susie and Tori were the 3 Muskateers. Susie said she always felt like the 3rd will, that me and Tori was always leaving her out. Which is false. We try and include her in everything we do. We even tried inviting her to the movies. We even tried trick or treating with her. She always used her mom as an excuse. She is 14. Her mom doesn't even let her watch horror movies, better yet, have fun with her friends?! Susie is really sensitive. To me, she doesn't view the world as I do. To me, she views the world as nice. So tell me, is not being somebody friend wrong just because they called you by the wrong name? Was she a good friend? Open Question: I'm addicted to making fake identities online?Okay, long story. This is a serious question and I really need help. If you're willing to read everything I will be so grateful. First I'll start by saying that I'm in 11th grade and this is the first year I've ever been 'pretty'. I got my braces off, contacts, and started wearing makeup. But I still have problems from when I was ugly and shy the past several years. When I was in 8th grade I was with the 'emo kids'. I wasn't pretty, glasses, crooked teeth, acne, wore only black, had hair in my face. Me and a friend of mine used to play gaiaonline. It's really easy for boys who are good looking to get a lot of gold on that site because girls will donate to them. And being not so attractive females, we couldn't get ANY gold. So we took photos of random guys from google and said they were us. It was just a joke to get a lot of gold and we were only playing around, and it actually worked. But I kind of got addicted to it. My friend quit, but I kept doing it, while keeping it a secret from her. Whenever I was being this person online, I actually had a LOT of friends that I made. Some of them even liked me, as in wanted to date online, thinking that I was a guy. Sadly, I 'pretended' to date four of them, while having no attraction to them at all (Seeing as I am straight and they were girls, it was kind of like writing a story). It was really just a way to make me feel better about myself and it did, except for the fact that I was cooped up on the computer literally all day long, talking to these 'friends'. I did this for nearly a whole year. When I got into high school a girl had actually found out I was faking a guy online because I had made a myspace for him. She starting making fun of me for it and told her friends about it, so I quit. I just left all of those online friends behind and even the girl who I was 'dating' without ever telling them anything. I know I really hurt some of those people. I had to block their myspaces from my computer to keep myself from checking on them, because I generally cared about them as friends. Some of them asked where I was and I had my friend tell them that I had committed suicide. I don't even know what has happened to those people or what their reactions were. I'm afraid to find out because I know they really did care about me. For a while I stopped faking. But then over that summer I got bored and made another gaia account. This time I faked a girl whose pictures I found on bebo. I didn't get as many friends that time, and ended up making ANOTHER boy account. All in all, I probably have around 15 fake accounts on gaia, all of different people. I would spend hours looking for photos of people that I could use to make sure no one would find out I was fake. I photoshopped pictures of those people holding signs so I had 'proof'. I know this makes me sound like a freak, but it really boosted my self esteem to know that I could make so many friends and even have people want to 'go out with me', something that never happened in real life. I've stopped that for a while, because I felt disgusted with myself and it was keeping me inside all day. The last time I faked a person was this summer and I haven't done it since. But I'm afraid that I'm going to fake another account this Christmas break, when I'm away from my friends. How can I stop this, and what is wrong with me? I really need help because I truly think that I am addicted to doing this. Open Question: Ex boyfriend problems!!!!!! PLEASE READ!!!!!!?I'm dating one of my ex's friends. And recently he's begun to talk to me again...sorta. We've had some real convos like "hows your family doing" and "are things getting resolved between you and your mad friend" yadda yadda.. He says that doesn't hate me. But he says stuff like "You hate me! Ughh..you hate my liver...because without my liver, i would day. You hate my guts, you want me to die.." jokingly i guess. but we started this thing where he says stuff like "i hate your central nervous system" and so i'd say something like "well i hate your kidneys" and we'd sorta glare at each other and both hold back grinning....or he'll say something like "don't look at me" and i'll look at him and he'll look back at me and just give my a glare and a held back grin, and i glare as well and hold back a smile. then like today and it was reallyyy cold, when he was leaving school, he was like, "see you james! (my bf) ...i hope you freeze, michelle." and i was like "what the hell?!" and he said he was kidding, and smiled and said a regular "see ya later". and just a lot of weird stuff like that. SO i'm trying to figure out if he hates me for real..?????????? i mean what's going on? what is he thinking? whys he saying this stuff???? what should i do????? (btw, i still have feelings for him) he might like me as well ~ ickkk one of his girl friends hugged him after school today...um yeah *jealous* lol! ~MICHELLE :) More Recent Articles
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