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Open Question: Should I be concerned about my daughter doing this? and more... Open Question: Should I be concerned about my daughter doing this?I work in an office with 11 other women and Bob. Bob is our go to guy for computer problems and we have a lot of computer problems. He is always available to help us and we all love him dearly. He is 25, single and very good looking. Us single moms all wish we were 20 years younger. One day my car would not start so I asked Bob to drive me home and he did. I promised him I would cook him dinner when we got to my house and I did. My 15 year old daughter Laura joined us for dinner. As we were talking at dinner it came out that Bob and Laura were big fans of a local sports team. I am not into sports in any way. Laura asked Bob if she could go to some of the games with him and he agreed. They both enjoyed their time at the games supporting "Their" team. Some of Laura's high school classmates at the games asked her who was that hot and sexy guy that brought her to the game. She just said Bob and did not explain. (Do 15 year old girls really know about hot and sexy) At school they were all talking about her hot date and she did not correct them. I think she liked the attention. She did not lie about anything. She just let them believe what they wanted to believe. At first I was troubled by that but after talking to other single moms I changed my mind. They told me that if that is my biggest problem raising a teenage girl, I should consider my self lucky. I know for sure Bob does not have any romantic interest in Laura. He has a beautiful girlfriend his age. I don't think Laura has any romantic interest in Bob. Should I just let this pass and not says anything to Laura about it? Open Question: Hey ppl, i hav dandruff problem...?where can i get neutrogena products 4 the same? i've heard they r good. if u can suggest sumthing better dat is quick, den thnx... i will be going on a date in the last week of december. i live in ahmedabad, gujarat, India. Open Question: Feeling a bit helpless and that what I am going through also feels like torture.?My girlfriend and I have been together a little over 7 months. For that 7 months we have lived together about the same amount of time. Yes, it was stupid and dumb to move in together that soon. Last Friday we had an argument over a game that we both play. I felt like it was starting to be her life, so I called her on it. She did say that it is her escape from reality and that she found something that she's good at and the alliance that we're in has given her a bunch of responsibility which she also enjoys. She has MS, so this is a big thing to her. She ended up saying that she wants me to move out of her apartment. She wants her space and her life back. She had only had her own place for 5 months before I moved in, so she feels as though it's not really her apartment. She said she would give us dating a try still. I moved back home with my mom. Now, how do I give her space? I feel like it's torture not being able to really talk to her. She has said that she still loves me, she kissed me several times since then and she has told people that she believes that god has written that her and I are supposed to be together, that we're soul mates and that she prays to god that we can work through this. She said the soul mate part while we were talking to a pastor at a church that we go to. We were told by 4 different people, a prophet, two evangelists and a pastor over the 7 months we have been together that we are going to get married and be together for the rest of our lives. Even with all that said, I still have all these negative thoughts running through my mind. Is she cheating on me, is she only saying these things to shut me up, those kind of thoughts. I still have her spare set of apartment keys and car keys. she does threaten to take them back if I start talking about what happened. she just wants to move forward. What's done is done and she says it's time to look towards the future. She wants to get her life back in order. Get back to where she was spiritually when she met me. I know I would be ok if she would reassure me that we're still together once a day. Let me know that she's still thinking of me, like I say to her. Yesterday, she told me that she is in solitude and that she doesn't want me to bring her out of it. What does that mean exactly. I did ask her if we were ok and she did say yes. I think for me, I'm afraid of what may be. I am very afraid to lose her. I love her so very much. I haven't felt this way before about anyone. It was an instant connection between us. I also know that part of my problem is that I don't really have any friends down here. I moved to where I am in August of 2008 and since I don't go to clubs or bars (I don't drink or dance) friends have been hard to come by. I did meet my girlfriend through a mutual friend, but she has her own problems with her boyfriend. If I was to hang around her, they would have even more problems. What can I do so that this doesn't feel like torture? See that's the thing. She doesn't want to talk about it at all. She just wants to move forward and not talk about it at all. I apparently am the only one that wants a resolution to the issue. She seems fine with just not talking about it. Is it just a difference between us in handling things? The game is called Evony. It's not a bad game at all. Just a strategy game. She has been spiritual since before I met her. So this is nothing new. She just "fell" a little bit as she puts it off of her path. As for where I stand, I guess what she feels is that she has told me where I stand already, so she shouldn't need to do so again. My thing is that feelings can change. If I ask her, it just drives her away more she says. Open Question: Study on male and female dating behaviors: What do you guys think?Yesterday I posted a question on this page that may have offended/humored some of you. In the details I described a trip to the grocery store with my mother and how a very unattractive guy tried to come on to me with a very cheesy line. We were looking at melons, we accidentally grabbed the same one, I said I was sorry, and he replied "No problem, looking gorgeous. Oh, and your not so bad yourself." Well, the thing is, this question was part of an experiment that a friend and I had to do for psychology on mating behaviors. Honestly, I was shocked by our results. Instead of showing a little sympathy for me because the man who hit on me was unattractive, extremely creepy, and at least twenty five years my senior, everyone berated me for being so shallow. Out of twenty two responses, maybe three people agreed that it was creepy. However, the other 19 peoples' responses ranged from "Oh my gosh, it's the end of the world" to "You are so mean" to "Stop being a shallow ***** and find some real friends to tell this to!" However, a male friend of mine posted a similar experience on this site, and HE gots TONS of sympathy. The strange thing is that I had more of a reason to be grossed out than he did. He told about a very overweight girl his own age who tried to pick him up, and how she was so ugly that he wanted to die right there. He used very mean language to describe the girl's physical state, yet his responses ranged from "Dude, I would have be out of there" to a couple of "Oh my gosh, I hate it when girls act like that." After recording our results, he and I choose a best answer and subsequently deleted our questions. We repeated the process again on two other websites similar to YahooAnswers, and when we got our results, I was really shocked: People were more sympathetic to a male being hit on by an unattractive girl his own age than they were to a female being hit on be a man around thirty years older than she was. While he got genuine "Oh you poor thing," responses, I got multiple answers calling me a ***** and telling me to "get a life/friends." Why is this? Why does it seem that men get to be more picky about there partners than women do? How many times a day do you see a really attractive woman walking down the street with an overweight slob? Several times. But how many times do you see an attractive man with an ugly chick? Not very many. This pattern is even the same on television. Jim Bulushi is much more unattractive than his TV wife. Kevin James is much less attractive than his TV wife on King of Queens. I just want to know why a man can be picky, but a woman can't be critical of an ugly man without being called a ***** What do you guys think? P.S Sorry for rambling. P.S.S Only insightful answers, please-I need this for class:) Thanks!! More Recent Articles
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