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Open Question: Stereotype of loud, black women? and more... Open Question: Stereotype of loud, black women?I always thought the loud black woman with attitude was just a stupid stereotype. My mother is black (I'm biracial) and she is a mellow person. However, I've noticed that in my school the black girls tend to be the loudest and with the biggest attitude problems. Even my mother agrees that she notices this behaviour (not just in my school.) Of course girls from other races behave that way too, and there are a lot of laid back black girls as well. But it seems as if there are significantly more black females who are rude in this way. I also notice it in places where there are a lot of black women, such as hair salons. Black tv shows even promote this stereotype. My question is, why is this behaviour so common? Is it media influence? Is it not considered rude to be loud in the black community? I'm also asking this because I recently read a study by an online dating site, and apparently black women are the least likely to have their messages replied to compared to all other races (even when sending messages to other black men/lesbians!) Open Question: I'm worried that I'm not good in bed? Is that why he cheated?I lost my virginity to my bf (well now ex). I was 22, he was 27. He came to know I was a virgin like 3 weeks after we started dating (I told him). We were going out for 9 months before I decided to make love to him. In those 9 months, our relationship was great. We got along well, he was really sweet and thoughtful and we just had a lotta fun together. He never pressured me in having sex and he was patient with me. Finally we did it and since that time we've been doing it quite reguralrly (3-4 times a week). Since I was inexperienced, he was the one who basically showed me how it's done, which he seemed to enjoy. Also I was a little insecure at first, but after I felt comfortable and really enjoyed making love to him. We'd almost always did missionnary, and then came doggy (which I absolutely loved...and always let him know). We sometimes did me on top, but for some reason it was a bit uncomfortable for me and he would always slip out. So most of the time it was missionary. As far as fore play goes, I was always willing to give and receive oral sex anytime. If I could describe our sex, it was really passionate, sweet and intimate (well at least for me). After a while though, I asked him if he wanted to try smt different - I implied I was open to try anything since I was "new" to this- coz I didnt want him to get bored. I was always willing to please him. He always told me "no, dont worry I love what we do. You feel really good, I love the way you are, we dont need to change anything". Also, I noticed, he wouldnt last very long. I think the LONGEST we've had lasted like 5-10 minutes. Most times it would be 2-3 mins. After a few months, I realized we were making love less and less. Sometimes it would be just once a month. I questioned him about this many times, even got into fights about it...and he always blamed it on his stress, his financial problems, and also because at that time I was busy going to uni and working and his roomate moved back in with him so I would hardly go to his house. Well, lo and behold, I found out he's been cheating on me. With a 40 year old woman that lives in his neighboorhood. I was shocked and more importantly, extremely confused and hurt. She's big (fat), she's taller than him, she's very very PLAIN looking. Compared to me, I'm much prettier than her. Also I spoke with her on the phone, and she has no class or education at all for a woman her age. She fits the "trailer trash" description. So I dont understand? When I spoke to her I asked her how they have sex...she said they dont say they love each other, they dont do intimate things like bubble baths and showers (we used to do that). I even asked her if he lasts long and she laughed and said no he doesnt. So it's not like the sex was AMAZING with HER....or was it? I dunno I just feel really really insecure and hurt. I trusted him with my virgintiy and he just threw it away....for her? Im just re-eveluating what went wrong, and I feel sooo damn insecure about myself. I'm even reading sex-tip articles and everything they list like how to please your man, are things I/we used to do!! So I dont get it. Everyone is telling me it has nothing to do with me, but for some reason I feel like maybe it was our sex? Was it because I was inexperienced? Or maybe he got bored? I kept asking him to try different things and he kept "reassuring me" that he was enjoying himself. This guy used to get hard just by kissing me and at one point a few months ago, when we were ready for intercourse, he got soft. I just dont understand?? I feel ugly and gross and very empty. I pleased him every way I can (not just sex, but general stuff) and I loved him a lot. I thought that's what guys wanted? He always said he was happy with me and that I was the best gf he had...so wtf? Open Question: Need a program that can create a chronology with mixed dates (ie 01/01/2005, 01/2005 and 2005). Ideas?The chronology also has lots of text, which makes using Excel not a great choice. Word has a problem sorting the mixed dates and Access (I believe) doesn't even allow you enter the mixed dates like that. What program could I use? Open Question: i am a triplet girl with TWO BROTHERS!!! do you think this is impacting my dating/social life? DOES THIS GUY .?so here is my story in a nutshell: me and my brothers are seniors in a high school where everyone knows our name.My brothers both play football and are noticeably big guys while i an very petite; i don't even break 5 feet. Although the size of us should be irrelevant because we are all the same age, i am somehow always treated like the little sister!!! i am told by tons of people that the entire team makes comments about me, but im not stupid and i am pretty sure they just do it to try to piss off my brothers..... there are two freshman guys in particular who always report to my brothers about other guys i talk to. they make fun of me for talkign to this one dorky guy and this whole ordeal erupted about how "-------'s sister wants this dorky looking (he is really sweet) guy". it has been the talk of the school for some while...because this dumb kid cannot get over the fact that i would choose to hang out with this kid. he followed us once when we were hanging out with a group of friends, constantly makes jokes about us being together (which we both know we aren't), tells my brothers untrue stuff, and stares at us all finance class! i don't know if this kid likes me or what but i feel like he uses all of these excuses to talk to me.. its so confusing.... my friends including the one guy hate him because he has ego problems and basically thinks he is the man (which for a freshman, he arguably is". in the one class i have with him, i also come across as being almost as outgoing as himself, even though i am normally pretty quiet aroudn people i don't know. Could he possibly liek me or something? he always tries to talk to me but i always get awkward around him. lol the whole situation just confuses me... the dude despite his small size, could have options. maybe thats why my friends think he is in love with me? i could have sworn him and the football coach were walking next to me one day and talking about me.....i could be crazy, but i know i'm not stupid. i see all of these sketchy guys looking at me all of the time and my friends have noticed it too, and it quite honestly makes me really self conscious.I am a a really good kid, so i don't really get why i attract their attention.. but i will admit it is sorta flattering sometimes. (because i am not going to lie, i usually find the b@#!@& type to be attractive). lol WOW I APOLOGIZE FOR THIS BEING SO LONG!!!! but back to the original question, do you think having two brothers has impacted me at all? Open Question: Why does my computer restart during games?I Recently bought parts to build a new PC with windows 7, it works perfectly and nothing goes wrong UNTIL i try and play any of my games (Unreal Tournament 3, World of Warcraft, Guild Wars), when after 30 seconds (max) of play time the computer will restart itself. I have tried using two different graphics cards and the result is the same (first used ATI Radeon HD 4850, now using Gigabyte Nvidia Geforce 9800 GT). And I have also tried two different RAM, a Corsair 2GB one i returned and now OCZ ReaperX (2x1GB). Here are my current specs: Motherboard: ASUS P5QC Processor: Pentium(R) Dual-Core CPU E5400 @ 2.70GHz RAM: OCZ ReaperX HPE OCZERPX1333EB2GK System: Windows 7 Home Premium 32-Bit Graphics Card: Gigabyte Nvidia Geforce 9800 GT Sound Card: PC Line 5.1 Channel Sound Card As far as I know all of my drivers are up to date (Graphics and sound for sure) and I do not overclock. I have DirectX 11 installed. My system temperatures are as follows: (Taken from SpeedFan analysis) GPU: 42C System: 33C CPU: 20C AUX: -48C Core 0: 34C Core 1: 31C Thi is a big problem for me because I want to be able to play games but I'm really stuck on what could be causing the computer to restart as soon as i start playing games. Please help! Open Question: what is the best way to explain to your guardian you want to get married in college?i'm going to be starting college soon and my boyfriend of five years and i want to get married. the only problem is my grandmother doesn't i've been living with her for 10 years. he wants to get married while i'm in college and wants me to move in before i even start college( summer of 2010) and i don't know what i should tell my grandmother or explain it to her or even if it's the right choice. after all we have been dating for five years and maintained abstinence. so what should i do? Open Question: Do you find this as disturbing as I do?Well I have this 17 yr old online guy friend who spends like 14 hrs a day in a chat room talking to ppl he has never met. He considers them his best friends even though he only knows them online. Anyway, there is a 21 yr old woman who spends her entire life ther as well even tho the chat is mostly teenagers. She "dates" these kids more than one at a time, cybering them and befriending them, talking filthy and immature. Is this unhealthy for this 17 yr old guy to be part of this. He has emotional problems and has no real life friends so is very dependant on these ppl. What do you think? Thanks More Recent Articles
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