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Open Question: talk a teenage girl out of a huge mistake? and more... Open Question: talk a teenage girl out of a huge mistake?I dated this guy forever, and I love him.. the only problem is, we had to break up because ewnever saw eachother cause my parents hated him. We satyed friends, then he dated this girl. He was obsessed with her. She broke up with him on his birthday, and was only using him to piss off her ex fiancée. This guy and I decided we were going to get backtogether, we decided this about a year after him and this girl broke up.. only now she came back, and still has feelings for him. She told him so, and he tells me that he doenst like her like that, but he still hangs out with her, and I think hes even having sex with her.. I tried to talk to him about hi, I asked him if he told her about me, and how we were going to get back together. He said no, he didn't want to piss her off. He is so mad at me right now… because I wont just drop the subject.. but I really think hes in the wrong here.. what do I do? am I wrong?? Open Question: My drinking hurts my Girlfriend... I need advice.?So heres the scoop.... I have been with my girlfriend for quite a while now (over 2 years).... We love each other like absolute crazy. We are together every single day when I am not working or she is not in school or at work we are with each other. We hardly ever argue (about little stuff) But other wise we get along perfect.... HOWEVER there is one thing I do that really hurts her and bothers her and that is drinking. When we first started dating she knew the type of guy I was.... I drank every day (Yes I was an alcoholic I guess you could say) but she didnt have a problem with that when we started dating.... A few months after we started dating is when I really learned alot about her. Her dad abused her when he was drunk and was a real As shole!! So she told me how much it hurt her to see me drinking. I promised her I would cut my drinking down ALOT. Here we are today and I drink twice a month... And when I do drink its not like I used to where I NEED it or crave it. I just drink when her and me go out to a party or when we go over to my friends house for football (She loooves football to) So maybe Ill have a few beers or so. She doesnt say much, however when were all ready to go to a party and then I say ok lets go pick up some beer she gets crushed and gets mad at me and says you know I dont like you drinking... Can you try to just have 2 tonight or 3. I dont know what to do.... I have really cut down alot for her and when I do drink its never that much. Its like 5 or 6 beers. On Grey Cup weekend we went to a party and every single person there was drinking, and I had 2. I know it hurts her to see me drink and I want some advice. Is it selfish of me to even want to drink a couple times a month? Or is it selfish of me to even want to have 6 beers here and there?? I know her dad was a bad person and an alcoholic, but at the same time a huge part of what I like to do when hanging out with my friends is drink. My girlfriend is always with me when we go to parties as well. She just likes to be with me that much. I just dont know what to do.... I feel so guilty every time I drink yet everytime I talk to my brother or friends they tell me not to feel guilty at all and that I should be able to live my life to. By the way I am 21 and she is 19. Open Question: How can I get her mom to like me?My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost two weeks now. I met her when I went to see the opening of New Moon and we really hit things off. Now we are really starting to heat up, except there is one problem. Her mom totally hates me. I don't know what the hell her problem is honest. The very first time I met her mom was after I dropped my girlfriend off after picking her up from school. She immediately hated me from the second she met me. I didn't even say a single word and she just started screaming and slapping me in the face! I had to run away because I thought she was going to kill me! Since that day, I've tried to completely avoid her.. But now she has really crossed the line. I usually go meet my girl for lunch at her school, but her mom called the principle and told them not to let me on property anymore. What is up with that!? Is there anything I can do to get her mom to ease up a little bit and learn to like me? This is so frustrating! I could just choke a puppy! Open Question: How do I get him to realize I didn't do this?There was a guy I was seeing earlier this year. After a couple of months, his ex-gf came back in the picture and he and I broke it off. But less than two months later, we were seeing each other again, on the side…all the while he was still with said girlfriend. About 2 months ago, he called me and explained that he couldn't see me any more, that things with them were working very well and he didn't want to jeopardize it. So we parted. I missed him, but I respected his decision and because I care for him, I only want him to be happy. A couple of week ago his girlfriend received some type of letter in the mail. I'm not sure the content but from what I've heard through one of our mutual friends, it was allegedly from me, telling dates and times I was with him and was supposedly had my signature on it. I did not send it and I have no clue where it would have come from. Now she's dumped him, he's all upset and thinks I sent it when I didn't. He told one of our mutual friends that I repulsed him. Hearing that made me physically ill. He is convinced I did this to him and will not consider any other possibilities. I did not nor would I ever do this to anyone, but I have absoulutely no idea who would have. There are only a few people who knew he and I were continuing to see each other on the side of his relationship, and NONE of them would ever do something like this to either of us. I've emailed him, telling him that I would never, EVER betray him that way and that none of my friends who knew about us would do that. He hasn't responded and it was sent well over a week ago. My friends tell me that when he calms down and begins to think logically again, that perhaps he will realize that I am not the type of woman to cause him problems like this. I am so torn up by this. He and I have been so very close over the last 8 months or so...and now for him to think I've done this is crushing me. The reason I am so concerned by all this is that A) someone did something and I am getting blamed for it when I had NOTHING to do with it and B) he and I have been friends for years and years...and I hate that he thinks I've done this to him and betrayed him. As far as I know, his girlfriend read him the letter over the phone and he hasn't actually seen it...so comparing the handwriting is out of the question as she refuses to talk to him and has threatened him with calling the police if he shows up at her house. Open Question: relationship problem?well there's this girl i've been dating on and off for about 6 months. well i want to move in with her, but she won't let me. we lived together before, but we broke up and she moved back to her hometown. anyways she wants me back, but doesn't want to live with me. it's hard for me to except that because i'm so use to being around her everyday. well she has a kid by another man, and she's going through custody battle for her son. when we were living together they had me fill out a paper with info about me for the courts, so the courts know what kinda parent/guardian they have for him. well i filled it out and sent it back. they told me that she could lose her son if she lives with me. just because of my past criminal record. i was thinking about moving in with her after court is settled. but i'm not sure if the courts will check up on him and she isn't sure either. i really want us to be living together again. but that is getting in the way. what should i do? any advice? Open Question: I don't want to screw up a good friendship. What should I do/say: A 2-subject question-Which means: LONG STORY?He works for my dad (and is also his friend) and we've been friends for some years now. He told me that when he first got the job he saw a picture of me and asked my dad, "Who's that? She's hot." and he said my dad told him "That's my daughter." and kind of gave him a "back-off" look. As a couple of years went by, I still havent had any serious relationships (just a couple of flings that last about 2 months tops because guys probably don't want to waste time on a celebate girl) and I think my dad started to get the impression that I'm gay because of that (not that there's anything wrong with that) and because I once wore a temporary butterfly tattoo that is a so-called gay symbol (I didn't know that at the time). Anyway my guy-friend said when my dad was drunk he told him to ask me out because I need/don't have a boyfriend. I told him he once got drunk and tried to hook me up with some guy in his early 20's that he only knew for 30 minutes when we went on a camping trip solely because he's so worried that I might be a lesbian (but I'm not, I just don't want a real relationship yet). The thing is, every since he admitted he has a crush on me I've been having some mixed thoughts about him. He's not a bad-looking guy, he's about 7 years older than me, our philosophy on life is pretty similar, we both enjoy the same music, and we like to party. But the problems are: 1) I have met a couple of his ex-girlfriends. They seem pretty cool and I'd hate for them to dislike me if anything were to happen between me and him. 2) I tried to hook him up with one of my friends and so far they're just friends, but I think she's building a slight attraction to him the more he's around. 3) He's my dad's friend and employee, which we both know would result in a real awkward mess if we ever dated. 4) I'd hate to ruin a good friendship by being more than friends. 5) I never really had much sexual attraction to anyone. I've had experience with foreplay, but when I deconstruct the situation and analyze the concept it takes the fun out of it. When I really think about what I'm doing I don't see the point. I'm bored with it. I'd rather have a loyal companion that can be one with me on an intellectual level, but I know he's the type that would eventually want more than that. 6) *Drum-roll*...I'm a virgin and I don't plan on getting any for at least 3 or 4 more years (I'm not religious/saving it for marriage. I'm just not ready.) I think I'm starting to like him. I get that fluttery feeling when he's around sometimes. He's flirted/hit on me a few times, but I don't really know if I should/how to respond because it's still a little awkward for me. I'm afraid that taking it a step further might screw up our friendship. What should I do/say? And what's with my dad? (sex is out of the question for at least a few more years. Who knows? I might not even like it.) More Recent Articles
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