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Open Question: Trying to help a friend? and more... Open Question: Trying to help a friend?My friend has been going through some problems with is his ex. They dated for a year and a half and he adored her. In the beginning of there relationship she was a drug addict and he helped her stop doing drugs, she got her life back together thanks to him. Recently she dumped him for drugs and somehow he got it screwed inside his head that drugs are better than him because of what she did. Constantly I remind him that he is better than drugs but he doesn't seem to believe it. How can I convince him that he IS better than drugs. And no this isn't based upon me I personally think I am better than drugs. Open Question: My bf & I were breaking up but he apologized, I told him I needed time & found out about a girl.?Hey... ** Thing is, I met him in a club, while he was still in a relationship, but things were not going well between them, just as US right now. I told him to be sure of what he really wanted when he called me back, which was when he broke up with her. We dated, went snowboarding, restaurants, met his parents, friends, etc. So I stayed. He was honest and told me everything. He invited me clubbing at the beginning, but we always ended up fighting bcuz we were too drunk, and he says he doesn't like me when Im drunk. So, everytime he went out clubbing after, he never invited me, saying that he needs time with his boys.. It was hard for me to trust him after knowing how we met and that we fight a lot. He is very impatient, and my problem is that I don't know when to stop when we are arguying! So you can picture it!I lost my self-control and need to take it back. We kinda broke up last week, and he apologized the same day, telling he cared about us, and that I don't deserve all those insults, etc. I told him maybe it was a bit too late, I needed time on my own. So I left, wrote him a long message about how I see an healthy relationship, that we need to make compromises and respect the other's needs and feelings.. that I was not feeling he would want to do those efforts for me and that I should let him go and move on. He read it, and got sad, pissed, his pride got hurt bcuz I am usually the one who is running after him. He wanted to talk with me, but I told him that I just wanted to breathe from all those strong emotions, it was too soon for me!! He told me ok, I respect that. First thing I know is he went out with his boys, 2 nights in a row, just like a child, and flirted. He called me at 3 am the second night, drunk, telling me he loved me, missed me, wants me in his life, etc. I told him that I would go see when he would be sober. I went to his place to talk the next day, sat down, but his cell phone was just there and he freaked out when I took it! So I understood that he wanted to hide something. It took 30 minutes to make him tell me that he met a girl, texted her back at the end of the night, etc. He told me her name, that he didn't kiss her, neither slept with her, but I will never know. The night before he went out as well, and usually, he ALWAYS calls me, maybe he was too pissed, but that night he didnt. He only called me that second night. So I think he met her the other night (the one he didn't call me) because he was with her, and couldn't call me. Otherwise I am pretty sure he would've call. He told me he didn't give a fuck anyways about that girl, but I got so pissed! I know guys hide their feelings pretty well and he has such a huuuuuuuuge pride that that doesn't surprise me. He said he was mad about my message and got drunk and couldn't think straight. We had another fight about it, I couldn't let this go without knowing, so he got angry and exhausted and said it was over, that this was too much, I couldnt stop asking him about it, I was crying. Our emotions are on the edge... I think we just need time...But I think I fucked up by asking him again and again. We were suppose to take 2 or 3 days to breathe, and then talk and try to spend a good time together, etc. Am I giving too much importance to what he did with that girl? I know he doesn't care, and that he is not the kind of guy to sleep around. But now we haven't speak since 2 days, I didn,t call, I want him to calm down, and I need to realx as well, getting my emotions stable. What should I do? I love him so much. Open Question: Why are white girls expected to race mix?I had to sit next to a black guy in my video production class. It was terrible, me being an attractive little blonde girl, he would always hit on me and try to get me to go out with him. I was so disgusted and I would always let him know that. I felt really intimidated by him and I was sure one day he was going to try and hurt me or worse... Any way, I kept turning him down and trying to ignore him until one day he shouted at me "Fine! I don't want to go out with you, you white racist b**** ! It's not only blacks, but non-white males as well. I was really afraid someone was going to get attacked by one, because they're dangerous and unpredictable. It seems like they intimidate people for fun. This also allowed white females to date non-white males. I'm so done with non-whites harassing us white girls because we don't want to date them, I believe I'm not the first one, a white girl was being bullied by non-white males because she didn't want to date a mexican. So in order to redeem yourself and prove you are not a racist, you would have to go out with him. what a joke. I read about white girls rejected Ball players' sexual advance (Gropping), and one of them attacked one of the white girls. I'm pretty sure that most of these interracial relationship are not because they're in love, it's because of the pressure in Today Politically correct obsessed screwed up society. I wouldn't date a non-white, I don't care how "good" and "nice" It is, because I don't believe anything about that, I only date within my race because I find white men to be cute and nice, But This obsession of non-whites with whites really scares me. Why do these non-whites have a HUGE problem with white people wanting to preserve their heritage and their people? The ultimate purpose of dating is to make a connection and get into a relationship, get married and eventually have children. To say people of European descent (or any other people on Earth) shouldn't have the right to date their own ethnic group, is akin to saying they don't have the right to have their own children. I can't imagine a greater infringement upon the basic Human rights of a group of people. In the media, White women are portrayed as plain. The beautiful ones are often shown race-mixing, why is that? Scott, you idiot If rapidly growing races mix with whites, and whites have a low birthrate, we WONT all be one race and racism will be gone and you'll finally have your racism free utopia. Whites will simply be gone, the other races will still be around. If you truly enjoy diversity, you would obviously oppose the extinction of white people. You have to realize that other races aren't living in multicultural societies like ALL western societies. Almost all asian countries are homogenous, and they keep it that way. Africa isn't bombarded by massive non-black immigration. To say that we will all be one race is ignorant. Open Question: I am having lots of boy trouble?Recently I have been having guy problems! Usually i am really good in the dating Field but recently my dating life has been a total drag ! Please some one tell me what guys like,and what they don't like!!! I am in high school.I generally like the smart and funny guys!! I am outgoing and really open about everything!!Most guys see me as more as a friend Open Question: I am having major boyfriend issues! HELP!?So my boyfriend and i have a really different relationship compared to most people so this might be hard for many to understand and to give me advice on. But we have been dating for almost a year and a half. Hes a Senior and im a sophomore in High School. We both love eachother very much. During our freshman year he gave me a promise ring and promised he would never leave me and that one day we would get married. We are very close. We go on trips with eachothers families all the time. We have sleepovers together. Hes basically my best friend and we do absolutely everything together and have so many fun memories. But we have broken up ALOT. its always me cause when we get into heated fights i just get so mad and i break up with him. It ranges from hours up to about a day before we get back together. So its nothing big. But about a month and a half ago.. He broke up with me. Basketball season had just started and hes on the same team as Harrison Barnes and all those guys. But he never gets to play so that bring him down and stresses him out alot. So i thought maybe that had something to do with it.His family said he was so depressed and would go home after school and go to bed. And wouldnt go out on weekends. They said wheneve he was with me he was happy again. so I did everything i could for a month and a half to get him back. He ignored me completly and some days he would randomly tell me he missed me. Eventually i got him back. We got back together about a week ago. We spent 2 days together and had the BEST time. But this weekend everything went down hill. he didnt talk to me. he wouldnt talk to me if i was having any problems. he just doesnt seem like he cares at all anymore. we always fight because i cant get him to stop saying rude mean and unecessary things to me. So today he finally contacted me saying "what the fuck did you do this weekend??" he was mad thinking id gone out and cheated on him or something. we met up for lunch later today and he asked why i was so upset. I explained to him how i had been working hard to be a good supportive girlfriend but i get no effort in return. He kind of ignored me. And when i left he was really sad and didnt want me to leave. So i guess what im asking is WHAT THE HELL DO I DO! im so confused. I get all these mixed signals and this is just tearing me apart! please help me! and dont be too negative. i dont wan all my answers to be "your too young" or "break up with that jerk" i want advice on how to get him to be the sweet loving boyfriend who used to bust his ass to make me happy. how do i get him back? Open Question: Friend is pregnant but there's a PROBLEM?Shes been having sex with two different men. The one she regularly sees she does not use protection with, but she has slept with another man also and does use condoms. Now shes freaking out (like I told her she would) because she doesn't know which one is the father. I suspect it's the man she does not use protection with as condoms are 98% effective. She checked one of those conception date calculator things and it said that the conception date was a Friday, and she had unprotected sex the Tuesday before that as well as the Friday it said she conceived, and had protected sex the Thursday between the two. Yes, she's made some mistakes... I'm sure we all have. I just want to get opinions on who is probably the father. (I'm so glad I'm married!) Open Question: Am I just one of those people that God doesn't want me to married?Am I just one of those people that God doesn't want me to married? Im 21, I've never had a girlfriend. I've never even been kissed by a girl. I don't even have any friends that are girls... I can't even make friends with girls in real life without screwing it up... I've never even been on a freaking date. I've been praying for a girlfriend for over 6 years. There's no girls for me at chruch, not like that matters since I did like a girl from chruch. She'd probably reject me or, I'd screw things up before we become friends... I love God, and I'm trying to become a stronger Christian all the time. I'm waiting until after I'm married for sex. I don't drink I don't smoke I don't do drugs I'm a virgin I'm waiting till I'm married for sex.(This include oral and anal) I'm a computer geek I'm planning on becoming a video game programmer.(I'm actually pretty sure that's what God wants me to do too.) I do sometimes look at porn, though for the most part it's fixed. But I could still use some prayer for to get this fixed. Since I don't want it in my life anymore. I do have basic hygine. I brush my teeth I shower I use deorderent I don't smell badly. I'm about 5-9" feet tall. I have dirty blond hair. I have no disfiguring scars or anything like that. Personalty: I'm nice. loyal respect(I actually look at a girl's face when I'm talking to a girl, and not her breasts) sincere I listen to what girls have to say, and actually care what they are feeling and saying. trusting honest smart I'm lazy I'm apprently creepy... I have Social Anxeity Disorder I have low self confidence I can be selfish I tend to slur my speech. I talk too speech. I have a hard time explaining things. I have perverted mind, and like perverted jokes, though I don't act on the pervertedness. I like touching when it comes to girls(Nothing sexual till married) Just stuff like hugs. I have OCD(Mostly fixed, yay God) GAD(Mostly fixed, yay Jesus) ADD(Not bad enough to cause any real problems) Social Anxiety and a touch of depression(Fixed) Open Question: How can i get this girl to like me back?Ok here is my exact situation: She is my best friends sister but he doesn't mind. Just so you know we have never gone out. So back in may of 09 I went on vacation with them and this guy leaned out of his car window and honked his horn at her and i got really mad and then a week later i realized i loved her since that i never reacted like that about anything not even people disrespecting girls i had gone out with. So in October I vacationed with them again and I knew i should have tried to do something to get her to like me but their parents were there the whole time so it would been awkward to flirt and stuff so everyone just had regular conversations. So now Christmas is coming up and i was planning on maybe getting her a gift but I recently discovered that she is dating someone. I can't really give her a gift while she is dating another guy unless i want to cause problems and we have known each other for a long time and I don't think she likes me. Also just last night i was at my friend's (her brother's) house for his birthday and when i was riding in the car with them we were talking and she kept looking straight into my eyes. Whenever we talked before she never really did this. How can I get her to like me? Any advice? And What do you think that whole eye thing is all about? More Recent Articles |
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