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Open Question: VERY angry with my boyfriends family, what should I do about it...? and more... Open Question: VERY angry with my boyfriends family, what should I do about it...?URGENT!! THIS IS LONG BUT READ IF YOU CAN GIVE ME ADVICE: HOW TO DEAL WITH DEPRESSION AND BOYFRIENDS PARENTS WHO WONT ACKNOWLEDGE IT... My boyfriend and I have dated for the last four year, He is 25 now and I am 24. We bought a house in Massachusetts together and have lived together for about 2 1/2 years now. We have 2 dogs and are planning on getting married. We are extremely healthy and practical young adults and we are doing out best to make it independently in this world without having to fail or move back in with our parents. The stress is heavy but our bills are still getting paid and food is always on our table. After over a year of being efficient in living on our own, The past four months my boyfriend has dropped into a stage of being overwhelmed and depressed. He has begun going to see a therapist because he started to lash out on me personally and have these breakdowns where he got really angry and unreasonable. With winter coming he has gotten to the lowest point I have ever seen him. His attitudes are unpredictable and he says some pretty rotten things to me I never thought he'd say. Very manic, very uneven. His mother is very depressed, his parents have been wanting to divorce for years but his siblings are still teenagers and so they stay together. His family are in no way emotionally efficient. They don't talk about problems, they bottle them all up. He has been going home after work to do odd jobs for his parents every day after work and not coming straight home from work like he used to. He always "stops in" to check on them or to pick something up or drop something off. I understand his need for seeing his family regularly but they don't help him with his serious depression. He has expressed to me he has suicidal thoughts and they pretend everything is just the same. His dad won't even acknowledge he is in therapy. HIS FAMILY DOES NOTHING TO HELP HIM. I have to deal with the manic attitudes, and the depression, and the complaining about the shadows cast over life, while his family gets to not have to face it. I have to bear the brunt of his depression. This has caused a divide divide between his family and I. I feel they aren't trying to help him out of this rough period. They pretend he isn't sad and depressed and everything is okay, they pretend not to hear when he comments about therapy or depression. How do I act around his family. Can I express to his parents how disappointed I am with them at their lack of support for their suffering son, what do I do about being so angry and resentful that I am the only one who has to deal with this depressed man? Where are the boundaries? Since his family tends to clam up when faced with real issues of importance or of heavy emotion how should I approach this. Is writing a letter to them rude And cold or is is appropriate and discrete? I don't want to cause more stree for bf by creating and argument between me and them. I want to make a big note that I lived with his family, in his families inlaw apt. with him for one year so I am close with them... relatively I can't ask him to not go over his families house, I have tried, I can't tell him to do that, nor will he stop even if I did ask. He is in a state where he cant receive criticism or help... I think the problem needs to be realistically brought to the attention of his family so they can hopefully understand the severity of his situation and not make it so easy for him to come over there and hide from his real life and responsibilites. Open Question: What can I do about my volitile nature?i have problems dating guys cause when they pi** me off i tell them everything im feeling and i do it in a very bad languaged way. It is causing me problems.cause ill tell them to get lost and then when i calm down and rationalise things, the guy in question hasn't been that bad. Open Question: I need dating help?? (Sad, I know)?I have a problem. I have never been on a date. I'm 17 now, about to be 18. I've always liked guys, but recently I liked a guy and I told a friend of mine about it and he told that guy I liked him. Now I have that guys number and we have been texting. I think (know) he wants to go out with me on a date. As soon as I got that text I felt like I was going to throw up. The problem with me is that as soon as a guy I like takes an interest in me I freak out and end up pushing them away. It scares me. I make up excuses for why I can't go out with them and things like that. I get this terrible feeling in my stomach and feel like I'm going to throw up. I feel comfortable around guy friends, but as soon as they become "friendly" I can't face them. What's wrong with me? Open Question: Should I try again..and will my current boyfriend think it's weird that I'm a virgin?I had a boyfriend when I was 18, and when we tried to have sex, it just wouldn't work. He was HUGE (down there), and I am a really small girl, (5'1" and weigh about 110). I also think part of it had to do with the fact that he kept trying to shove it in instead of taking things slowly (sorry if this is too graphic), so it would just hurt so much. The same thing happened when he tried to finger me, he would try to jam his finger inside without any foreplay or anything. He also didn't treat me that well; plus, I don't think I felt emotionally ready to have sex at 18, even though everyone else was. Now, I am 21, and I feel like I am not normal. I feel like everyone has had sex besides me, but I am scared to try again with the guy I am dating now. Is the pain a common problem, or could there be something wrong with me? Also, could guys think there is something wrong with me when I tell them I am still virgin? I don't want to tell them the real reason why I am. Open Question: What should I do?! Boy problem.?Me and this guy were talking for a few months.. weren't dating or anything, because he wouldn't give a proper answer as to what we were. then one night i called, but he was out, and said he would give me a call later that night. I haven't heard from him since.. it's been almost a month. should i call him, and ask where he's been? or should i leave it alone? or..ugh! what should i do? thanks for any responses. Open Question: Help ?? Just girl answers please.?Im 16, and a few days ago i was attending my high school minister group at church for the first time in forever, but thats besides the point. while i was there i talked to my ex from 5th grade. We were talking and she seemed very happy to see me and from my experience with girls (ive had plenty of experience with girls lol) it seemed like she liked me. I went to school the next days and talked to one of my best friends( it was a girl) and she said she doesnt kno if im her type, because im kinda preppy and sporty and shes into skaters. Here's the problem i like this girl alot and i could she me and her having a long relationship( not to mention my mom likes her, and would perfer her over pretty much any other girl, lol) So how should i go about talking to her and asking her on a date? Open Question: My girlfriend broke up with me after almost 4 years. What now?Out of nowhere she suddenly didn't want to be with me anymore. I tried to find out what the problem was, but I got so many answered tossed at me, I didn't know what to think. She wouldn't be reasonable. It was all so sudden and terrible. I've been feeling like I'm living in a nightmare. I'm not talking to her anymore because I think she was extremely heartless. I had her back for a long time. I helped her find a job and stop being shy. I didn't think all my kindness would be unappreciated. I stopped being attracted to other girls because of her, and I was never unfaithful. But I'm not worried about my dating life right now, I just want some helpful suggestions on where to go from here. I don't want to be depressed anymore. Open Question: What can I do?? Please, could you give me some help?I have next saturday the first certificate exam I am terrified.. :( I feel like I am not prepared and I would be if I hadnt have a health problem that made me stay at home and as a consequence not go to my english lessons.. Well I need some recommendation on what can I do to get up to date and pass the exam.. Open Question: i need relationship advice?So it turns out there's no perfect relationship. That's understandable. Me and my gf have been dating for about 7 months. For the first 4 months it was not sexual. Then it was and everything was fine. Now, a few months later, we will be getting all heated up kissing and foreplay, and she will stop and say shes just not in the mood. She's done this quite a few times and we had a fight about it. I just don't know what the problem is...i do everything to make her feel special, does she just have a lower libido than me? any advice would be helpful. we have had sex since the 4 months...is it normal for girls just to not want their bf sexually on certain days? thats what she has been saying....i would know if she was on her period... Open Question: Does this girl want more than a friendship?Ok im a freshman in college and have never dated anyone in highschool. So I really want to start spending more time with girls and looking for a relationship. I met a girl in my math class a few months ago at the begining of the quarter. I really like her and really want more than just a friendship with her. She has a conservative personality that compliments mine. We spend a lot of time txting eachother and lately I have been able to help with a past relationship problem. This is when she said "i am really glad to have you." Which to me kind of implies that she just wants a friendship with me. The other day we got together and had alot of fun. By the time she had to leave, we said the usually goodbye's but then she "shot" me a look that kind of implied she has feelings for me. But today she and some other classmates came over today and she expressed no interest in me (she may have just been havin a bad day idk). This is just one example of many though of how she is kind of giving me mixed messages. What should I do next? I really want to tell her how I feel about her. Should I do this? (I don't want to come across as being obssesed with her) I just want her to know that i'm unique, and that I really like her for who she is, not just another guy who is tryin to get in bed with her or somthin. Should I just ask her out on a date? If both which first lol? And yes I am well aware of how lame this is that I am resorting to yahoo answers for a situation such as this lol. I just would like some outside input. There is much more I should add, but I hope I included enough for you. Thnx Open Question: I tried to have sex and it hurt SO much!!!Should I try again? PLEASE HELP!!?I had a boyfriend when I was 18, and when we tried to have sex, it just wouldn't work. He was HUGE (down there), and I am a really small girl, (5'1" and weigh about 110). I also think part of it had to do with the fact that he kept trying to shove it in instead of taking things slowly (sorry if this is too graphic), so it would just hurt so much. The same thing happened when he tried to finger me, he would try to jam his finger inside without any foreplay or anything. He also didn't treat me that well; plus, I don't think I felt emotionally ready to have sex at 18, even though everyone else was. Now, I am 21, and I feel like I am not normal. I feel like everyone has had sex besides me, but I am scared to try again with the guy I am dating now. Is the pain a common problem, or could there be something wrong with me? Also, could guys think there is something wrong with me when I tell them I am still virgin? I don't want to tell them the real reason why I am. Open Question: Me and my boyfriend are arguing about something?My boyfriend got invited to a girl's birthday party, and I was allowed to go along. We get there, and everything's going good. Then as we're getting food, there's no more room by the table left, so I sit by myself, next to a wall near the table, but not sitting with everyone (because I can't). I'm near tears, because I only know him and kinda know one other girl, and I feel humiliated. Then, he keeps telling me, "Let's get skates" and walks ahead of me the entire time, not even talking to me except to command me. We get our skates on, and he won't get on the ice until the other girl gets on because he wants to make fun of her. We skate for a couple minutes together, then go off and cut the cake and such. He wants to talk to the other girl about her problems, and I finally tell him I don't want to go. He asks me why, and I explain to him that it's none of my business. We go outside, I break down into tears, because I wanted to spend the night with him, because we barely get time together. He says he used to feel lonely all the time, but it really hurt me, because I feel like a complete outsider. We go in and help the girl and he tries to hold my hand and hold my shoulders, but I move away, because I'm upset, and he gives up and walks away. I talk to the girl and he comes back and gives me the cold shoulder, blah blah blah, we go outside, I explain why I feel the way I do. He says there's no reason for it, I think she should have been there a bit more for me. Or at least be a little more concerned. It's so bad that I don't want to go out on dates with him, it was that bad an experience. Who's in the wrong? Open Question: HELP WITH MY SUICIDAL FRIEND!!!!!?OK So I was texting my friend Michael last night. We started of with "How's it going?" and "It's goin goood" (he texted me first) So he told me he was bored and lonely. And, of course, I asked him why he was lonely. He said that every girl he has dated has broke his heart. And that he's afriad to date cuz he doesnt want it to happen again. And he just wants someone who really loves and appriciates him. Don't we all huh? It's makes me sad because I feel the same way. So he really really needs someone like that. And I really wouldn't mind being that person, but, He's my best friend's cousin. And I think that she would have a problem with me dating her cousin. So then he told me that all he's feeling is suffering, and he just wants to end it, and he cant live this this forever. Im trying to talk him out of it. But he says that no one can help him. But I know I can! Then he said that the world is a horrible place and the human race should end because theres so much wrong with us. Im so scared for him! Ive dealt with suicide before, and I dont want to do that again!! I really really care about him and I don't want him to do this. He's an amazing person, and he doesn't see that. What can I do to stop him????? Please help!!!! Other stuff: I'm 15, freshman. He's 16, sophmore. We go to different schools. And I don't see him that often. Open Question: I tried to have sex three years ago and it hurt SO MUCH..now I'm scared to try again?I had a boyfriend when I was 18, and when we tried to have sex, it just wouldn't work. He was HUGE (down there), and I am a really small girl, (5'1" and weigh about 110). I also think part of it had to do with the fact that he kept trying to shove it in instead of taking things slowly (sorry if this is too graphic), so it would just hurt so much. The same thing happened when he tried to finger me, he would try to jam his finger inside without any foreplay or anything. He also didn't treat me that well; plus, I don't think I felt emotionally ready to have sex at 18, even though everyone else was. I saw the gynecologist, and she said everything is healthy and normal. Now, I am 21, and I feel like I am not normal. I feel like everyone has had sex besides me, but I am scared to try again with the guy I am dating now. Is the pain a common problem, or could there be something wrong with me? Also, could guys think there is something wrong with me when I tell them I am still virgin? I don't want to tell them the real reason why I am. Open Question: Help with girlfriend/dates please?Alright, so my girlfriend and I have only been out on actual dates a few times (we've only been dating for a couple of weeks and we're both pretty busy), and every time we go out we watch a movie. Recently, she complained to me that all we ever do is go to the movies. I understand her problem with that, but what really bothers me is the fact that she ALWAYS makes me decide EVERYTHING when we go out (like i have to ask her out, pick the time, place, and movie, etc.) and she gives me NO input. I would like to do something with her that she enjoys, but I cant do that if she never gives me any input. Do you have any suggestions? Open Question: How do I get a girl to stop rambling so much?This one girl just will not stop talking or whining about her problems left and right whenever she calls me or hangs with me. It goes blah blah blah and then she switches topics so fast that you cant even respond. You would think she likes me but then she starts asking me to find her a nice boy and asks me to make a list of guys for her to date. How do I get her to stop? Open Question: I like two guys.. Advice?First off, I know it looks long, but it actually makes sense! So read it all please! Haha. So, I dated guy #1 for 4 and a half years. He lives in California and I live in Minnesota, so it was long distance. He used to fly out here every 2 or 3 months and stay with me for a good 2 weeks. We have been on and off for the past 2 years and it's been annoying and driving me crazy, however that doesn't change the fact that I love him and care about him. We broke up 3 months ago. I met guy #2 at work and we became "best friends" and hung out every single day, to this day, and we've been friends since June. About 2 and a half months ago we both got pretty drunk at some party and he ended up spilling his guts and telling me how much he likes me. Him and I started hanging out a lot more and developing stronger feelings for each other. My problem with dating guy #2 is that guy #1 always texts me and always tells me things are still there and he loves me so much. He's been stepping it up, sending me flowers, bought me a teddy bear, and has always been there for me when I broke down. I feel selfish and I don't think I deserve either guy and I don't know why they're waiting around for me to make a decision. Part of me wants to be with guy #2 is he's pretty much perfect. He makes good money, has a good job, very attractive (pretty much any girl WILL think he's a hottie and WILL try to flirt w/ him) and I guess it makes me feel good when he walks away from a bunch of girls just to put his arm around ME, and we aren't even dating yet. He ditches his friends and everyone to be with ME. He's got a great personality, HOWEVER, his confidence level bugs the crap out of me because he knows he's gorgeous and lets it be known and talks about it sometimes.. Then I think of guy #1 and he doesn't go to school, has a decent job, he's a hottie, too, and has the most amazing personality in the world, EXCEPT FOR WHEN ANGRY then he's just a jerk, which is mainly the reason why we called it quits. Long explanation, I know but I feel like people will ask for more and more information. I've broken guy #1's heart so many times and I'm done hurting him. My life changed when I met guy #2 and I love it. I go to more parties, I've met a ton more friends, we always have fun together, I never have to pay for dates as usual haha! And if I go back to guy #1 all of that will go away and I'm stuck back at home talking to him over the computer and on the phone.. waiting for those few months to pass so I can see him again and I'm starting to question whether or not it's worth it.. But again, I love him. What advice can you give me? What should I do? Who should I pick? And if you pick guy #1, what can I do to make it up to him? Open Question: Is this wrong to say?I am 5'11". I have a problem dating someone shorter than me(basically refuse to). Is this wrong? Everyone has standards right? I am not picky in looks or anything else really i just feel really weird with a guy that is shorter than me. More Recent Articles
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