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Open Question: was i wrong to tell him this? and more... Open Question: was i wrong to tell him this?Hey, basically I've been seeing this guy in my class for 'bout 2-3 weeks. We've been going clubbing together, hill walking, movies, hanging out in general. Problem is, I really don't know what we are, like relationship wise. It's been eating me up for some time because I really like him but I don't want to get my hopes up and get hurt in case he's just wanting a bit of fun. So, last night he was over at my place after we went to the movies, and things started to heat up but I stopped him going too far because I wanted to take things slowy, so as not to ruin things. Thing is, I think I kinda confused him by this because we continued to do stuff after I had said this (so, I like contradicted myself) and he was still confused and so I decided to tell that I like him and explian that I didn't want to do some things with him just yet (pretty bad timing right? =/) . So, we agreed that we are dating, but I'm worried that I've ruined the thing we had by putting a label on it too soon :( Have I scared him off? I really feel there is something here... Any feedback of your throughts would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance - C thanks everyone for your feedback, just reading that you think that I have done the right thing really helps me to chill about my decision. I guess it's always best to say what you need to say in the long run (: Thanks again! xx -C Open Question: Relationship issue(Its a lot so if you have time and real and good advise please read)?Me and this girl were dating off and on since 2008 January. She's older than me by 6 years (shes 29 and I'm 23) and has been through some bad things in her life relationship wise. This was the first woman I've fallen in love with my whole life I found that I loved being around her, I love everything about her even the bad things I thought I'd never tolerate in a woman. I think that shes afraid of love but, I'm wildly in love with her. Just her voice makes my heart pound, when I stare into her eyes it seems like I'm stareing into something so beautiful I have to look away or I might faint fall. I'll do anything to see her with a smile on her face. Well, the reason we broke up a few times was because I just never thought that she took me seriously. She has a problem with showing affection. At this time she semed to compare me to her old boyfriends who had done her wrong in the past and that bothered me a lot. At the same time she would do so manythings for me that no other woman ever did. She was nice and caring and thoughtful. She was a proven great mother to her son. Just all around what I looked for in a woman. It hurt me bad when the first time I told her I loved her she didn't even say anything back. So, I refrained from telling her this again for a long time. Well, that was the first time we broke up shorly after that (we split for a few months) because I felt like I was wasting my time. I had sex with a few different women thinking that this was going to help me get over her It didn't work at all. THis made me want her more because none of these women compared to her in the slightest. She started to see another man that didn't work out at all for her but she didnt have sex with him. I felt gulty so I never brought this to her attention. So I could stop feeling the way I felt, I went and got her back. Without her in my life I was just really unhappy. I felt like I found the one I wanted and needed in my life and she was gone. It felt like my soul burned for this woman. When I had goten her back, we decided to just be friends for a while and keep seeing each other. I thought this was okay because at that time I jsut wanted to be around her again. Well the just be friends thing didn't last because we started catching feeling for each other all over again. Well to make a long story short we stopped talking again for some more months because of a really bad arguement we had. She said soe things that hurt me really bad and so I did the same. This time I tried to cut her off completely, I erased her number, her myspace, her facebook, I got rid of her pics on my phone I tried everything to not think about her. this went on for some more months. I tried to see another woman again but this just made me wish I had her. I found out I didnt care about the sex It was her personality her smile, just to hold her thats what I wanted. Well, I found myself doing things I had never done in my life. I was looking up her pics online just to see her face again. I called her number but she wouldn't pick up. (She only did twice out of 4 months.) Trying everything to get back in contact with her I finally did. I found out a few months ago she started seeing another man again but this time she had sex with him. She asked me if I had been with anyone and I lied and said no. I don't know why I lied . Maybe because I didn't want her to hurt like I was when she told me she was with someone else. Well he dogged her out and used her. Since we began talking again with no sex involved, we've gotten closer than ever before. Talking about things we've never spoke about good or bad. Now I've found myself back where I started. I'm deeply in love with her again. But I'm afraid to tell her how I feel I don't wanna mess up what we have right now. I want to be a part of her future and I want her to be a part of mine. I dont want to see her hurt ever again. I know in my heart I want her to me my wife one day and mother to my child. What should I do?! Open Question: What is the problem with a black man dating a white woman?I am a white woman and my fiance is black. Why do some people have a problem with this? We love each other very much. Open Question: sexual problems with boyfriend?aww why do i feel like throwing up every time my boyfriend and i do something sexual? I start feeling really sick and disgusted and want to be furthest away from him possible! is this normal? Afterwards i dont want to see him for days! We've being dating for 8months and i have known him for 5yrs. Someone help please, i almost feel like telling him it isnt working between us.. Could it be a fear of falling in love or intimacy on my part? Im not really that sure, or it may be fear of letting go.. Umm yeh i have had past emotional abuse and not the best childhood growing up but no physical or sexual abuse from a boyfriend. I thought i felt ready in the moment, although afterwards was wen the disgusted and regretful feelings started. I did feel pressured by him to do other sexual favours and he was complaining that it had been 3months into it and i hadnt yet done anything. Maybe i should see if i can connect differently with someone else, take a break with him and see how it goes. More Recent Articles
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