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Open Question: We're platonic...and I want to change that.? and more... Open Question: We're platonic...and I want to change that.?I met this guy about a month + ago, and we became extremely fast friends. We met on our church retreat, and we just connected on such an intimate level so quickly. I immediately fell for him, but I'm confused now. At the very beginning, he said we were just friends. But now we spend multiple days a week together, we do things alone, and we talk for hours at a time. The problem is, he thinks friends should not date because it can get complicated or ruin the friendship. However, I think if done correctly, it could make an excellent relationship, and I'd still want to be best friends if it didn't work out. So my questions are: how can I tell if he likes me as more than a friend? And is it possible to convince him to act on those feelings as well? Thanks so much! Also, he has personally told me he thinks I'm attractive---and he says he's usually shy around girls he likes, but he said if he liked me, he would probably still act the same way with me because I am such and outgoing person. Thanks again! :D Open Question: What are the best cities for black men to date inter-racially in the United States?I'm a black male of African-American/Native American/French decent that has dated a wide variety of women. However, I've grown bored with white women(not to mention the racism they attract) and sick of black women(too much attitude, lies, and drama) , so I'm looking to exclusively date bi-racial, asian, or latin (Non-Mexicans) women from here on out. The problem is, there aren't very many attractive ladies where I currently reside that fall into any of those categories. So where should I consider moving to in order to have a better chance of finding that physical specimen that I want? I only say non-Mexican latin women, because I'm personally not attracted to them as much as I am to other latinas. No offense to anyone, but I just happen to find most Puerto Rican, Cuban, and Dominican latinas better looking. Open Question: Girlfriend's father is extremely unstable. Seems even psychotic.?So to give a little background my girlfriend is 17 and I am 16. We've been dating for a little over a year now. I spend a lot of time over at her house. Now onto what happened: Last night (friday night) I was at her house. Her curfew (the time at which point I need to leave) is 11:30 on a weekend. So the problem was I accidentally fell asleep because I was extremely tired from sleeping so little that week. I woke up after about an hour (at about 12:20) and proceeded to grab everything of mine because I needed to get home. The same time as I and my girlfriend were outside he was getting back here from a business trip. Because of this, our paths naturally crossed. He mentioned that it was late and seemed to make a joke about it. I was tired and he seemed fine enough so that I thought no further explanation was needed. (If needed I planned to tell him later, because I was very tired). Anyway I left. Now I am going to interrupt for a second to explain logically the evidence for why this was an accident. 1. I sent several texts to several friends telling them how I was going to be home at 12. (They wanted to know when I'd be back and available). 2. It's a friday night. Why would I be directly going against her father to get a slightly longer amount of time with her when I would have seen her the next day? (saturday) 3. My curfew is at 12 and therefore I need to be home. So anyway to continue I was with my dad and his girlfriend and my younger sister the next day (divorced parents so I do not see my dad as much on regular days). We decided to ask my girlfriend if she wanted to come so that we could all hang out for once. We went over to her house and my dad and everyone stayed in the driveway so that I could go get her. (Keep in mind that my dad has never met her dad). I knocked on the door and her mother let me in. I stood at the door and made a little smalltalk with her mom while I waited for my girlfriend to come downstairs. After a few minutes I hear her father running down the stairs. He starts screaming at me, telling me that I have "violated the curfew for the last time." He opens the door and kicks the screen door open while still screaming at me. I am in total shock. He proceeds to go outside to my dad's car. He bangs on the window and starts screaming at my dad saying something about curfew (remember they have never met before. my dad's first time meeting him consists of him screaming). My girlfriend is standing in the doorway also in total shock. My girlfriend's mother is freaking out, staring in disbelief. He went back inside and my girlfriend's mother goes to my dad (and me) apoligizing for him and trying to help. I try to tell her the reasons for why "the curfew was violated" but she doesn't even care. She already completely understands. (I'm still in a state of shock). My dad cannot believe that her father talked to a complete stranger (my dad) like that. He told her mother that he was "not impressed" with him. With the situation like this, I leave. My girlfriend calls me in a state of hysteria. I can barely understand her. After about a minute, she had to leave. Now to give a little background on her dad. He is not stable and will sometimes get into fits of rage and destroys things and is extremely verbally abusive. He also has (without telling anyone) randomly driven to the border of our state (a very long drive). Also he has gotten drunk and just wandered away. After a little bit my girlfriend's mom texted me to ask me how I was, etc. I later found out from my girlfriend that he screamed about how he wanted a divorce, at which point she told him to just leave then. He didn't leave. Now her mom had told me that this isn't because of me and that it's something else. Judging by the situation, I am inclined to agree. My girlfriend has been in total dismay all day (unsurprisingly) and I know that her mom isn't too happy about this situation. Well, that's the story. Not sure what I hope to accomplish by telling you all this but I guess just writing it down does help. Any answers are appreciated. To the person who said awkward: lol, i think any awkwardness had already passed by that point. I think he may be bipolar. I assume he has low levels of serotonin but I have noticed him with extremely high levels (judging purely by his behavior). This is classic for someone who is bipolar. Open Question: BHelp me with my boy problems?Okay so this a long story but hopefully i get answers. So about two years ago i met this boy he had came to my cousin house and i was him and a couple of his friends. We where real bored so we decided to play spin the bottle. I know really kiddish, but we thought it'd be fun. So yeah we all did real funny ha ha things, but then we all decide to go to a "date" the next week. I really hit it off with a one of them, lets call him bobby. Yeah well it was my cousins and them all in a group date. I thought the whole rules of the first date was over since the first time we met it was already too late to act shy... or play any of the usual games. Well my cousins didn't think that at all... so that day it made me look a little slutty but hat day was over. Then the nest day i had realized i did look slutty because it was just dumb I really did think Bobby was cool but i new hee wasn't going to take me in a good way so i tried to just ignore him. Except he did the exact opposite he blowed up my phone, as if nobody had ever blew him off. So i decided that we'd be friends at least. That lasted less then a week and we began to talk-talk and we really did hit it off. He would ask me to make it official and be his girlfriend, but i never did accept. W e had come to some understanding that me turning into his girl wasn't an option anytime soon. We met on February. Somehow that summer he came to an understanding that after that summer i would definitely agree to becoming exclusive. Maybe i somehow lead him to think that, but anyway he asked me to be his girl a week before school began and i said no. I'm not positive but what i heard and think that he felt angry and stupid.First because Bobby he is a Player type he was never known to even think of settling with one girl and plus he is a real good looking guy and he could get many many girls, so i guess he flt stupid for spending so much time with me for no reason. (8 months to be exact) Then he stopped talking to me completely not one thing out of him. It was realy bad like he wouldn't even like my name mentioned aournd me. I actualy had people ask me what i had done for him to be so angry at me. He didn't talk mess about me or anything but everyone pretty much knew that we had something and that it was like the first time Bobby had even gotten close to liking someone soo much. I felt real bad and about 3 months later i heard that he had a girlfriend and that they where a real good couple and that they where extremely in lpve. I felt bad but i knew it was my fault and i couldn't say anything. Yeah well that's when that winter he called me out of nowhere. He always had the right timing when i got to start thinking of him he'd call me allmost as if he knew. He never once lied to me about his girlsfrined but he tolde me he realy missed me and that he had begun to think of me alot lately. (i felt yh exact same was) i told him the same and even though i realy did not want to beause i knew that he had a good thing going with his girl. But me being extemley selfish decided to agree to meet up. We did and we kissed at first it was just holding hands but then he kissed me.(note: he kissed me) wow i was realy shocked because i specificly told him that we weren't going to do nothing that would count as cheating. I felt realy bad but i just pretended nothing happened and went on. He didn;t realy talk to me after a while, i thoght it was because he maybe realised he loved his girl but it was a diffrent story. His girl some how found ou that we met up and had began talking agian. She called me and asked me nicely and straight up if anything happened or was happening. I lied about the day we kissed because i felt that it was nothing. Then after that me and bobby where friends again for some strange reason. We rarely talked though. Then Months passed and once again when i had begun thinkin about him and when i turely missed him he called me. He told me he ended it with his girl and that it had been awhile, i was happy and we where talking again. The only bad thing was that he was introuble with the police, he had a warrent and he was running from it. He lied to the poloce and he said that he had left the country. He told me that me and his family where the only ones that knew. I din't want to stop talking to him for that detail because i felt that he realy needed someone at that time. Sadly he got caught and was sentenced almost a whole year. Now he if getting out on February, i know because he has his friends check on me somtimes, and i fell real bad because i have not seen him ever sence. But i don't know to ever speak to him again because after all that happened he ;left me with alot of questions about what he thought of me. He gave his friend my number, a friend taht i ahve never met before and i don't know if it's to check on me or because i was that girl he should share with his friends because in a way his friend began to talking talking to as if in we where ever to be somethin Open Question: i need someones help! please! is this really love or am i wasting my time..?im 17 years old and im dating a guy whos 19 (were 2 years and 4 months difference in age). I met him in high school right before he dropped out. My friend asked me to eat eat lunch with him one day and Michael was sitting with him. Mike was the biggest loser in school and had only goth geeky friends..but i thought he was handsome and very sweet. He invited me to a party that night and i went and he asked me out 2 days later. it took us 2 weeks to kiss and then 2 months to have sex. we were our 1sts.. this was all almost 2 years ago. At 1st it was wonderful, he was super sweet and never yelled at me. but after the 2 months of dating he started to get vert moddy and controlling. He would yell at me and get mad if we couldnt have sex or if i couldnt see him for a day. every time i would almost dump him he would punch himself in the face and give himself a black eye!! He always says how he loves me and wants to marry me, and the only reason why he gets mad about the sex thing is cause hes young. but he said he would never dump me for that reason.. sometimes i feel like i want someone esle but every time i hung out with a nother or had sex with someone esle it wasnt the same..i feel like im soo in love with him..even though he has anger problems..I also almost had his baby but we lost it.. i sound inmature and stupid but theres no one i can talk to about this..i just wana know what some people have to say about it.. here is a pic of us- http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.editAlbumPhoto&albumID=1918447&imageID=33027982 http://www.myspace.com/brittneycraig his pic is on my profile. the one under heros section Open Question: which is more important: love or friendship?hi guys, i have a friend. we study together and have been friends for about 4 months now. i know she has some feelings for me. but what do i do? do i ask her out and date her. or do i remain being a good friend. the problem is i cant stay long with a single girl whom i date. so do i date her and lose her or remain friends? its really hard for me to decide guys. hope you can help.. 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