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Open Question: What am i supposed to do? We're not gay, but......? and more... Open Question: What am i supposed to do? We're not gay, but......?I'm a girl and I've been friends with this girl for a couple of years now. We met in high school and now go to the same college. We're like the best of friends, but lately the friendship we've had is more like a relationship. We do everything together, hang out, shop, go to dinner, movies, etc, even sometimes sleep in the same bed. We're always together and when we're not, we're texting each other constantly. We argue like a couple, get really mad and then get over it a little while. We're really comfortable laying on each other's lap and playing in each other's hair. We talk to each other about everything, problems, joys, life, boys, etc. We've even said if one of us was the opposite sex we would date. The problem is I love guys and she does too, but lately I find myself jealous if she's with a guy or talks about one too much. When we're apart I think about her like I do guys. I feel like I'm in serous like with her, but I'm not gay! To make matters worse when she's drunk she'll try to kiss me but I never do it. What in the hell is going on???????! Should I say something, keep it to myself? I have no one to talk because my friends and family would never accept this. HELP!!!!!!!! Open Question: Is it wrong to be extremely friendly when you bump into an ex crush/date?I never dated the guy, we just talked for a couple months and it faded. He stopped liking me, I was heartbroken but I decided to defriend him on facebook, delete his numbers, etc, and move on. We went on a couple dates and used to talk everyday. He started blowing me off avoiding me and pretty much being a royal dick. 6 months later I saw him at the library trying to avoid me so I figured I'd break the awkwardness and say hello. We talked for a few awkward minutes with many silences and he left. I ran into him a second time that day and this time we were both stuck waiting in the same area for an abnormally long amount of time. Since I couldn't stand the silence, I decided to chat it up. Problem was- I was incredibly chatty and nervous and I can't even begin to recollect what I told him. He laughed at me alot and kept shaking his head. He seemed bored and aching to get away. For example, he asked me what I was doing for break and I proceeded to tell him that as well as what I was doing next summer. I was VERY enthusiastic, perky, and excited. My friends told me I should have barely said a word, pretended to text on my phone or something, and let him "wonder." I just didn't see the point of being so distant. I didn't want to seem bitter or that I even thought of the past anymore, so I thought I was taking a more mature approach. My concern is I don't want him to think I still have feelings for him or that he still affects me. I didn't bring up the past, except that I remembered that he hated living with his family and I said I was happy for him that he found his own place. He used to affect me so much to the point that he completely broke my spirit and made me question myself all the time. Any feedback would be great. Thank you! Open Question: Relationship Problem.. need advice?Okay so im guna try to shorten this up as much as Possible so someone might take the time to actually READ this. i met this guy Devin about a year ago. He's 26, im 20. he wanted to date back around when we first met, but i was in a relationship. well i broke up with the boyfriend back in june and me and devin have been seeing eachother a lot lately. im really starting to develop feelings for him, but he just got out of a serious relationship also. theres a lot of stuff going on in both of our lives right now, a lot of complications. but im so impaitient. i really just want to date him exclusively but i know neither of us have time right now for that. he has twin baby girls who are 3 months old. i work A LOT. so we get to se eachother like maybe twice a week. sometimes less. its starting to get bad tho, im not in love with him or anything, but i miss him so much when im not around him.. & i think about him constantly. i just need some advice on how to handle this situation. me wanting to be with him, but knowing theres no way it can work right now. it really gets me down sometimes because i feel like i should have took my chance with him when i had it back a year ago. if i would have he wouldnt have got someone else pregnate, and we might be with eachother exclusively right now. twin babies take up a lot of time, im sure you can imagine. not worried about the babies mother tho. she got pregnate after they had a one night stand.. her & devin cant stand eachother.. just btw. any advice would be appreciated tho. Open Question: XBOX LIVE BIG PROBLEM?Basiclly over the past few weeks when ever i sign into my account it says your payment option is no longer valid and thats true because i canceled the credit cards but i just pressed okay and i could still use my account. However today when i signed in it said that your 'account has been suspended due to a problem with your payment option. Please use a different payment option or update your current information in account management' I go onto my membership details and it says that your next bill date is 1st january which means i still have nearly a month left. So whats the problem Open Question: Where do I go from here?Ok I have been dating this girl for a few weeks, (5 or 6 dates, I'm not sure). I like her, she's pretty laid back, good sense of humor, we have similar interests, there's definitely sparks. I'm 19 and she's 17, which is a problem, not because she's still in high school but she lives with her grandma, uncle, and mom, and they're all weird. Especially her mom, she doesn't feel comfortable talking about her but she's always saying how much she hates being at home. I'm wondering what I should do? I mean she's gorgeous and I'm...ok lol (see profile pic) Does she like me because of an unstable home situation, and if so, is that always a bad thing? Thanks in advance, and please be respectful :) Open Question: My clinically depressed boyfriend broke up with me. Need advice, please?When we met in spring he fell hopelessly in love with me. He was passionate and absolutely crazy about me. He told me how he was depressed until he met me and felt better. It was bad timing for me though because I was dating another guy at the time but I still fell for him, even though I know it was wrong, because the other guy I was dating had already booked a plane flight for me to go and spend the summer with him which I eventually did. He begged me not to go and see the bf I had at the time. I was stubborn and didn't listen. So, he became distant, stand-offish, emotionally withdrawn and minimally affectionate towards me. After I left he started seeing a therapist and revealed to me that he was diagnosed with clinical depression. When I finally came back from the trip a month later I dumped the other guy and told him I was finally single, but then I discovered I was pregnant. I told him about it. He was there for me all the time except he still did not show me affection and he seemed depressed. It seemed his was no longer passionate about me.. I had to terminate my pregnancy, eventually, due to medical reasons. About 2 months later, after I had recovered, he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend. He said he didnt not want me to think he was non-commital and he wanted to try and just experiment to see if we could work. At first, everything was okay and he seemed content with me.. but when I asked him if he still loved me like he did before and asked him why he had became stand-offish again last week, he told me he did not know how he felt, that he did not want a relationship anymore. I said I felt unloved. And he said he missed us being friends because he felt like we got along better outside of a relationship status. This confused me because he was the one who initated it two months ago. And back when he asked me if I wanted to be his gf, he said this: "I am not interested in the same things your other boyfriends were. I have no problem being in this situation though. As long as you don't expect me to be something I'm not. I only say that because my mind is filled with a million thoughts at this point in time.. very few, if any of them, are very romantic. I do not know what I want. But that is not in regards to you. It is highly unlikely that our relationship will end due to an interest in someone else from my side, it is almost improbable. So accept that I am not breaking up with you. I'm just saying our relationship may be... a bit on the back burner for now until I've figured some things out." I don't know what I'm supposed to think anymore. He said he loved me at least in some regard. Before his depression hit him he was crazy in love with me. Did he stop because I hurt him by going and seeing that other guy and ending up pregnant? Can anyone give some constructive advice please? Is this all due to his depression or not? He was begging me not to lose contact with him yesterday. He said that our connection, friendship, bond, whatever you name it, was important to him and he wanted us to just get along like we used to, that he just wants to talk to me. Sorry for the uber long text.... I'm just so heartbroken right now. But I guess I deserved it. Open Question: My clinically depressed bf broke up with me. Does he not love me anymore? Advice please?When we met in spring he fell hopelessly in love with me. He was passionate and absolutely crazy about me. He told me how he was depressed until he met me and felt better. It was bad timing for me though because I was dating another guy at the time but I still fell for him, even though I know it was wrong, because the other guy I was dating had already booked a plane flight for me to go and spend the summer with him which I eventually did. He begged me not to go and see the bf I had at the time. I was stubborn and didn't listen. So, he became distant, stand-offish, emotionally withdrawn and minimally affectionate towards me. After I left he started seeing a therapist and revealed to me that he was diagnosed with clinical depression. When I finally came back from the trip a month later I dumped the other guy and told him I was finally single, but then I discovered I was pregnant. I told him about it. He was there for me all the time except he still did not show me affection and he seemed depressed. It seemed his was no longer passionate about me.. I had to terminate my pregnancy, eventually, due to medical reasons. About 2 months later, after I had recovered, he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend. He said he didnt not want me to think he was non-commital and he wanted to try and just experiment to see if we could work. At first, everything was okay and he seemed content with me.. but when I asked him if he still loved me like he did before and asked him why he had became stand-offish again last week, he told me he did not know how he felt, that he did not want a relationship anymore. I said I felt unloved. And he said he missed us being friends because he felt like we got along better outside of a relationship status. This confused me because he was the one who initated it two months ago. And back when he asked me if I wanted to be his gf, he said this: "I am not interested in the same things your other boyfriends were. I have no problem being in this situation though. As long as you don't expect me to be something I'm not. I only say that because my mind is filled with a million thoughts at this point in time.. very few, if any of them, are very romantic. I do not know what I want. But that is not in regards to you. It is highly unlikely that our relationship will end due to an interest in someone else from my side, it is almost improbable. So accept that I am not breaking up with you. I'm just saying our relationship may be... a bit on the back burner for now until I've figured some things out." I don't know what I'm supposed to think anymore. He said he loved me at least in some regard. Before his depression hit him he was crazy in love with me. Did he stop because I hurt him by going and seeing that other guy and ending up pregnant? Can anyone give some constructive advice please? Is this all due to his depression or not? He was begging me not to lose contact with him yesterday. He said that our connection, friendship, bond, whatever you name it, was important to him and he wanted us to just get along like we used to, that he just wants to talk to me. Sorry for the uber long text.... I'm just so heartbroken right now. But I guess I deserved it. Open Question: 20 year old first date ideas.?so tonight im going out AND the only problem is that it is freezing and there is snow :( to make things worse I live in a small town also AAAHHHHH. So are there any ideas that i can do? and please no movies! THANKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Open Question: recently broke up and need advice?Me and my ex girlfriend had been dating for 16 months. We recently broke up due to problems like every couple experiences. I also had major trust problems in her and always got kind of jealous when she wanted to be with her friends instead of me. The other night I told I her I would change and promised her eveything would be better, she needs time and space to think but I'm afraid she may not believe me. So how can I prove to her that I can and have changed? Open Question: Is my husband depressed or (uhh...) lazy? He only wants to play Warcraft & does not help much with kids/house.?We dated for several years, and I had concerns at the time. However, we married and now have children. If I talk to him about leaving unless we can both work on things together, he gets better for about a week or so. Then things cycle back to normal. For the last several years he has alienated me from my daughter (his step-daughter), and does not do much with his own 2 children who are very young. My daughter is 16. They play Warcraft together and do not help much around the house or with the young ones. I feel like the "excluded mom" or Electra complex is happening. In the past year I suffered some major chronic health problems and now I am not able to do everything I used to. I am depressed and lonely and love my children but I am afraid I lost respect for him and I will not get that back. I have my name on a waiting list for an apartment, but I am afraid I will not be able to care for my children (financially and b/c of my health). I would also like to keep our family together if possible. He is negative about therapy, but I have used counselors in the past. The previous counselors have told me "He does not get it, and he may never get it". I try to do my best, and stay creative (I am an artist), and do things with my children most days when I feel better. I miss having a relationship with my 16 year old, and I would like to have an adult partner in my spouse. What shall I do? I did see them laying on top of each other on the couch last year (in clothes) and whispering. I talked to my spouse about it not being appropriate behavior. Last week I got out of the shower and saw them in my bed cuddling. I heard him say, "Mom's out of the shower. She won't like you cuddling with me, so you need to go." I asked him about it, and he denied it. My daughter gets angry and asks me why I am jealous. I am not, I am worried. Jennifer, I have had the same worries and talked to them both (separately) numerous times. When this alienation started was when my daughter was 10 (prime age for molesters) and I was very ill and in/out of the hospital. Our middle daughter was born, and with working (demanding 60 hr week job) they spent a lot of time together. I so hope this is not what happened. Yet he got very angry and jealous when he found out she was talking to a boy classmate on facebook. He threw a fit. We are intimate several times a week. So...I do not think he is under-sexed. I woke up the other night after he had been drinking with friends (he never drinks) and he was stroking the hair of our 4 year old on the couch while she slept. Everything inside me says to get out now. Thank you Scatter... It is nice to hear this from a male perspective. I know what I need to do, don't I. It is just so hard. I can do it. I have to. I am knew at this question/answer thing...so thanks to all who have contributed. More Recent Articles
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