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Open Question: What do I follow? Heart or head? and more... Open Question: What do I follow? Heart or head?Problem. Two guys in my life. No I am not cheating. my heart is with guy number one. my head says to go with guy number two. BOTH long distance guy number one hasn't really been treating me as great as he did before. He forgets dates, and left me hanging a lot. He doesn't introduce me to his friends as much and I don't really know his family. We been dating for more than half a year now. Pros: we have history, he has my back, he still makes an effort to talk to me everyday since I left which was 6 months ago. I have a strong emotion for him, and he gets me on so many levels. My family doesn't like him, yet my heart is with him. Guy number two, i just met him. well not just, i knew him since 8th grade, but we got into contact and now we're talking JUST as friends. I don't play like that. he is VERY cocky, he is EXTREMELY experienced yet hes not a player, hes faithful to his chicks. he wants to be a seal and fight in iraq, its going to be long distance with him ALL the time if ever. he recently told me he likes me. hes in the navy, really smart, keeps in touch with me constantly, introduced me to his current friends, he's in good terms with my family. My head says to go with him.. what do i do? my heart and head hurts. So basically im torn. yet im listening to Two Princes - Spin Doctors! song is pretty happy for a sad song! ah... I just knew him longer. thats why i have more things to judge him on, didn't mean to seem unfair. Everything is okay when it starts out but then falls apart into the relationship, how do i know thats whats going to happen with guy #2? Open Question: There's this guy and he's my bestfriend's older brother, i really like him, help?Ok so my friend and I have been bestfriends since 7th grade and I didn't meet her brother until 8th. I started to like him at my friend's birthday party which was this kind of camp out thing. I didn't really pay any attention to it until my friend pulled me aside and told me he was flirting with me (he was actually throwing food at me). After that we would sometimes text and talk on Facebook. Well, in September my other friend (T) and I were sitting in the auditorium and she told me she liked this guy too so I told her that I liked him as well. T likes another guy more but he isn't important. This guy is 18 and I am 14. T, my bff, and this guy and I often go to to the movies and he normally picks me up and drops me off at my house. T told me that the one time after I got out he said I was hot and he wanted to date me. Another time my bff said that she overheard this guy talking to his friend about me and how he would just have to wait until I am 18 so he can date me. My bff also found pics of me on his phone when we were at her camp thing. This guy has also given me a nickname; fruit loop. I always catch him staring at me and I really really like him and I have no idea what to do. PROBLEMS 1.He's my bff's older brother 2.He is 18 and I am 14 3.I don't know if he likes me 4.My other friend also likes him Any Advice, PLZZZZZZZZZ Open Question: Would you date a guy like me?I am 17 and i am i have an athletic build. I am not a big guy, (5'9"), and have short brown hair. I have French and German heritage, but for some reason i look east indian to people for reasons unknown, some people even think i am aboriginal. People refer to me as the brown Caucasian guy. I have quite a few friends i, and i party and hang out with them quite a bit. I am a virgin, but have made out with girls and stuff, but i am not like the popular douche bag kind of guy that takes advantage of drunk whores. I am not trying hard to get a girlfriend or get laid to tell the truth. I think my classes and my career are more important at this time. I don't do drugs at all. I drink, but i don't like to get completely sloshed like most of my friends who smoke weed and have gone to the hospital with alcohol poisoning. I really like snowboarding, dirtbiking, snowmobiling, basketball, and soccer. I kinda have a "skater boy look" i guess. I wear alot of skateboard and dirtbike brand clothing, and i like tighter pants, just so you know how i dress. I have often been called "The squirrel kid" because people think i have really good coordination.(I can juggle really good lol) I am not that talkative, and am most of the time quite serious, but people think i am pretty funny. They say i have a really dry sense of humor. If i have a problem about something, i am not afraid to speak out, and tell people what i think. I stand up for what i believe is right. I think that i am a really down to earth type of guy. I am liberal, and also a really techy and like computers and video games. I will be honest, if i am in a bad mood, i can be very stubborn, and arrogant, but everyone has their downsides. I am pretty good at math, and school in general. I am one math class behind calculus and almost have a 90 in it. I don't like girls that are really insecure, loud, and annoying, if that matters to anyone. I hope i will get some answers. Open Question: guy problem.. helppppp?I have been talking to one of my old friends who went to my primary school on facebook for a couple of days now and i am really starting to like him, how can i tell if he likes me? and how can i get him to go on a date with me? He has been replying to all of my comments and he even replyed on my status from a day and a half go. hmmm. pleasee help :) Open Question: I just broke up with my boyfriend BUT...?My boyfriend and I dated for 2 years, I am 18. We broke up just over a week ago and it was actually really tough on me for the first week. But we had been fighting for a while and I sort of saw it coming. The problem is that I think I might be falling for my guy friend! He was really there for me during the break up and he is a real sweetheart and always makes me laugh. We have only been friends for about 2 months. Just so you dont get any ideas my boyfriend and I didnt break up becausee of him. I just want to know if my feelings for my guy friend are real or if it's just a way to get over my ex-boyfriend. Open Question: I think I'm one of those people?Who are rude and make other people miserable because my life is miserable as it is. I've been accused of it by my mother ( who I have had no trust in growing up because I've felt she was just trying to brainwash me with these 'evil lies' ) Like, she would fuck up my perception basically. If she fucked up, she'd convince me she wasn't the one who was wrong ( when really, she was just being this god-awful person to people for basically no reason. ) Hence, I feel like I'm following her. And now it's to the point where it's like I think she just knows me so well. Like, I've learned off her for so long now that whenever I'm doing it too, she basically mentally mind fucks me and is like "If your life is so miserable, you don't have to take it out on me" when really, I know it's her making MY life miserable ( which I guess needs to be solved by me moving out. ) But I feel like I can't do it. I have no support in my life, a weak mentality, and no idea who I am. Followed by a million philosophies that I try my best to live by. (Like, refusing to date people as I know I'm just 'lonely' and anyone I meet will just be false love.) I'm really trying to fight all the above things, I've tried turning to drugs (weed specifically) but that just fucked me up more even with very very little use. The one drug I've found that really helps me are klonopons and xanax's which calm my nerves & remove most of my anxiety. . but I've learned I can do this on my own, I just have to really keep busy & tell myself to stfu whenever negative thoughts come. I haven't had any idea where I'm going in life for a while now. I don't seem to know myself, everything I do seems to be completely backwards. Like if I'm trying to make friends, I tend to just.. anger people I guess. They seem put off by me in one way or another. One guy I worked with a couple weeks ago pointed out that I act like a know-it-all because I seem to 'know' everything people talk to me about. Which is probably them trying to get close to me, but I don't really care or seem to pay attention in the moment as I'm distracted by showing off my intellect. I've been accused of being gay all my life, judging from my voice. I don't want to be one of those people who change their entire outlook on life to be macho just because I want to prove I can have a gay voice & be manly.. but I've also found myself acting very effeminate to the point that I feel embarassed by it because it's not really who I am either-- I think it's mostly letting what other people think of me control me. So basically, all it comes down to is what my family has judged me to be-- which is not one of them, which puts me in the classifieds as rude,snobbish,judgemental-- when I guess I really just can't stand any of them. They've got issues that they need to resolve too. Which I guess would make the following statements true...? as I don't accept people for who they are (or my family in particular..) I feel they need 'fixed.' Or I need to reach a point in my life that I feel like I can accept them. If you can seriously tell me what the fuck is up. I have a feeling I'm just a ridiculous slacker, but it's like.. It doesn't really slap me in the face when I put it into those contexts. I'd like to change, but I don't know how.. or what to change. I get idea's every now and then, but then I just shrug them off because it'll take so much work & by the time I start working on them I'll forget the problems ( or atleast, that's how I prophesize it. ) hence, I'll never leave the circle of trying to 'fix' things. This makes me slightly more depressed. I've kind of been getting idea's of suicide, but I don't really know if I plan to act on them because part of me wants to figure all this out-- but then there's always the other side that's like, what's the point? it's probably something that'll take the rest of your life to figure out. That's even more depressing. I've always thought I was really mature for my age and that I was above the other kids when it came to reality and dealing with shit--- but now I think, no, now I see that I'm completely wrong. Atleast those kids had support from their families and had friends that actually seemed to care. I don't think I've even had that. I feel unworthy of it. -shrugs- What the hell is wrong with me? I think this was more of a rant rather than a problem. So be friendly to me, be a friend, not a con-artist. Lol, by the way the reason I think I'm rude is because... 1.) The first time I was called rude was because I was talking to this guy (via text message) and I called him fat. It was funny, we both lol'd, but I kept going because I didn't think he cared. We ended the friendship whenever I asked him if his boyfriend was fat too, (yes. he's gay.) and he called me rude. Gay is also a really controversial topic with me? Like, I don't know if I'm gay or just childish. I really need a friend. 2.) My mom called me rude whenever I left the house and she already had the door locked & chained. I unlocked it, relocked the doorknob using my key from the outside, and left. I come back like an hour and a half later and the chains back on the door and she's 'seemingly innocent' in the room next to the door. Of course, she "didn't know" I was gone and "need to learn" to tell people when I'm leaving. Bullshit of course. So I get angry about it and I'm just making her life miserable. Ugh. I need out. Open Question: Okay I have a relationship problem.....?Here we go. I was dating this girl for about three to four weeks. I was having the time of my life and I think I could have gone the extra mile with this one. She's very mature for her age, beautiful, strong in Christ, and has a very strict family. Here's what happened. After my three weeks my best friend breaks up with her older sister, and she "tells" him sarcastically that he should go out with her sister, my girl. And the first thing he did was go to my girls work and "talked" with her. I don't know what happened. I wanted to help him out. I later here he was just there to be comforted. I went over to his house and talked it out with him. He later told me how I felt about my relationship. I said you shouldn't be focusing on my relationship at this moment. I was very suspicious at that moment of where he was getting to. A day after the talk he starts to be everywhere my girl is. I have a job so I don't have the power to be with her all the time and he's taking the advantage. He always picks' her up from school and takes her home. Now he says he's always playing around with her, biting her and tickling her. I got pissed at them both and ended up breaking up with her without saying anything to her. I later here that she had nothing to do with him and he was only getting me jealous. MY BEST FRIEND!!!!!! She said I was very immature with what I was doing and I couldn't get anymore stupid. So now I have to live with the guilt of my stupidity of not trusting her and wanting to talk with her about the situation. I'm sure we'd still be dating but never got her opinion of how she thought of me til later. We talked about it at the park and I brought my friend with me so he can talk to her sister. I find out she really liked me and said I left a good impression on her. After this situation she's thought differently of me and I don't know her full opinion about me now. So after that I asked her if there could be any chance in the future, she didn't respond. Now every time I talk to her I get I don't knows for every question. We still talk as friends and talk about what we do in the mean time. But it seems she's getting farther away everyday. I still want her, how to get her back is the question. I need a straight forward answer and no trolling or move on crap. I've heard that too many times and found out my ex's still liked me. Give me a good answer and hopefully it's good enough to get her back. Okay age's: I'm 19 and she's 16. But she acts like she's 19 or 20. Don't tell me she's too young or any bullshit like that. Just please answer your best, Thank you. Open Question: How to fix my boyfriend's problems w/my friends.?My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a week but we haven't told anyone. Why? 1. Gossip flies around our school. (I don't really care about this) 2. Long story, my best friend got asked out by him and rejected him. Like 1-2 weeks later she confessed she now liked him and he rejected her. Then he claims he asked her out after that 2-3 times and she said no. (I made sure he told me this before saying yes to him asking me out) Then he said he had just broke up with a gf. Later on he tells me it was another one of my close-ish frenemies. Oh my... But I WANT to tell my friends for these reasons! 1. They alllllllllllllllways flirt with him!!! 2. They always talk about how he "checked them out." When he didn't but unfortunately most of them don't hang around with older people/go to alot of parties so they aren't used to being checked out. Also, no offense, but one of them is DEF not being checked out hahahaha. 3. Guys are alllllllways flirting with me infront of him and behind his back. 4. Because to be perfectly honest I really just want to be able to hug him with out pretending "oh haha we are just friends!" I HAVEN'T EVEN KISSED HIM YET. So.. I don't usually have much time to go about this during school but I have exams Monday and my boyfriend is taking the same exam as me so we could probably talk alone for like 10 minutes before/after. What do I say?! I'm kind of nervous so I'll talk to my Sister a bit about it tommorow. Also, I don't feel like doing it over text... But thats a option I'm willing to except. More Recent Articles
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