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Open Question: What should i do now to make everything better? Help me? and more... Open Question: What should i do now to make everything better? Help me?I have been with my bf for a year. He's 23 and he's a loving, hardworking guy. We cheated on our ex and breaking up with them to be together. Sometimes i asks him what made him having affair with me and he answered that because she had ruined his life. My bf did the same thing to me. We actually didnt cheat on our ex, we both broke up with them before we became bf and gf but i mean we have some dates like friends before we made our decisions with our ex. The first 3 months after breaking up, both of us received a lot of messages and calls from the ex, but i just cut all the contact with him. But my bf couldnt do it, i know he wanted her to be a part of his life as a friend but things didnt go right so finally he cut all the contact with her. Then he had some problems and i let him to stay with me in my apartment. Everything went ok until i found out that a girl flirting him by checking his phone by accident. I stormed at him in the middle of night. I know Im a jealous girl. I know I was too wrong to storm at him in the middle of night while he was sleeping and the next day he had work. He moved out after that. And he rarely come to see me after that huge fight. We used to see each other nearly everyday, or he would call me just to say he misses me. But everything was gone. I cried a lot. but i believed that i could wait for him until he was not angry at me anymore and tried to make things better. Everything was better after that a month. After that we were both happy again, everything was back to me. We spent time together a lot, talking and cooking together. He moved back to live with me. But one day while my friends come to see me, i was too eager to see them and i hadnt seen them for a long time so i didnt notice that he was back home late after work and he was pretty tired. He's a guy who like to talk and to be cared. I didnt notice him being back. He didnt say anything he just went to our bedroom and reading the newspaper. After my friends went back to their homes I came up and hearing talking on the phone with a girl and that was the girl who tried to flirt with him even she knew he had gf. I didnt say anything. But it was like he tried to make their conversation as long as he could and he ignored me, like preventing me. I just ignored. But every day after that he always tried to do things that I hated to make me angry. he also tried to make me feel unwanted. Then we fight every day. And we had a really huge fight one night, then he took a day off from work the next day to move out again. And everything was gone a gain. He disappeared again. We planned to have a holiday together but now he said he didnt want it anymore. He would like to go a holiday with his guys friends and we will not have any chance to see each other for 2 months. I was so upset that i called him everyday, screaming at him. He was so annoyed. I know it and i just do it because i want him to talk to me again, to spend time with me again, i miss all the little things we used to do together. But everything just got worse this time. He didnt say he wanted to break up, but i always called to say that i knew he wanted to break up. he said he didnt and he hung up the phone. The next day he called me and he said he wanted to see me in the afternoon after work, i was so eager to see him, i dressed up and did everything just to let him know that i was so happy to see him again. he let me waited for few hours, really late and he called to said that he was sorry he couldnt make it, he just wanted to see his guys. I was so angry that i screamed on the phone again. i knew it was bad but i couldnt control myself at that time. then i said because he didnt want to see me. he hung up. i called him back a lot of time. i shouldnt do that because he get annoyed with that, then he called back to say that he called me the next day and we would have a dinner, i started to scream at him again, and he said he hated me. he said i was destroying his life. i stormed and him and said was that he wanted a break up. he didnt answer but i was pushing him by "say it say it" and he said it. i was totally shocked the next day he come i said to him that i was sorry, just because i was too eager to see him, i was missing him, he looked at me and he said :"i tended to come just to break up with you but when i came here i cant do it". i was so upset to hear that. he said he wanted me not calling him for few days.i dont know what is going on. Things are so different now. I know my behaviour is not grew up enough but im scared that he would break up with me, or somebody will come between me and him now at this hard time for our relationship. Im scared that he would want to break up with me again. I love him and I know he loves me too. I dont know if it is too late for me to change my behaviour to have him back to me or not. What happens if a girl come between us now. Im so jealous and I always think that if he doesnt see me he will see someone else. Wha Open Question: boy problems !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1?Okay so im 19 and most of my friends are guys , my parents kicked me out when i was 16 and my best friend jack let me live at his house with his family becuase they where family to me , his mum always siad she felt like i was her daughter and she would loved if i stayed , anyway i lived there in till i was 18 when jacks bestfriend tom moved in to his own house with his brother , i moved there too becuase tom was one of my best firends too , hes brother never really stayed there much once about a month , he worked far away , so it was just me and jack and tom , jack and tom are in a band with two of my other best friends which where there best friends too , ( so you see why most my guys are friends ) anyway , they where allways really protecitve of me , mostly jack , he would allways be there for me when i broke up with a guy or he would bash the guy when they would cheat on me , he was my best friend , after a while things started to get werid , i would say i had a date or something and he would get really mad at me or just get pissed at me for no reason and then be nice to me a week later , the other guys would only joke around when i went on dates but jack got so mad and i never siad anythiing when he would have dates ( which he did like all the time ) jack would sometimes get mad saying me and tom had a " thing " ( we did when we where 16 but we where better friends ) and say how i was a slut and how tom was a bad friend to jack , but then act like he siad nothing a day later , i got so sick of it that me and jack just stoped talking for about a month , i never wanted to tell him but i was in love with jack , i really liked him but was scared to tell him , tom new i liked him and siad that jack would get pissed at me becuase he liked me , but after when we stoped talking , he would bring home a slut every night just to piss me off , jack left to go on tour while we where not talking and while on tour he called me and siad he acted werid cuz he loved me and that we would get togehter whn he got home ( which was a week and 4 days ) when he got home he had a girlfriend and acted like he never siad he loved me and now i just dnt know wht to do ??????????????? im so sorry for this being so so so long , i reeally am , im just so lost !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Open Question: Can't stop thinking of him!!!...Take it to the next level?I met this guy two weeks ago. I don't want to go into too much detail, but the guy and I ended up talking for like two hours. It was one of those conversations where you don't want to leave because you feel like you just found your soul mate. Well, two problems: I have a boyfriend, and he has a girlfriend. I do not deny that I'm attracted to this man. Based up some actions, I think he feels the same. Here are some things he has done that I believe shows that he is interested in me: Three days after meeting, and telling him my name, he finds me on Facebook and we semi continue our conversation via message; A week later, I thought that he would have forgotten about our moment over the holiday, he messages me and we keep doing the ritual banter of "what's your favorite (insert item) ?"; No one ever writes in my honesty box. The week of Thanksgiving I mysteriously receive an honesty box message that someone (they hid their gender) likes me. Coincidental if I may say so. (I promise we are not teenagers, the man is just a little socially awkward.); I haven't seen him since that initial conversation, now we keep doing this "get-to-know-you" messaging on Facebook. I'm sorry, but two people in relationships don't keep a random conversation from two weeks ago going if there isn't something there. I don't think he would invest the amount of time he has if he didn't like me. I have asked around and he is very shy and very reserved so him initiating us talking seems to be a big deal. However, I don't think he is confident enough to initiate anything outside of facebook. I don't want a lecture about how wrong we are for wanting to get to know each other. I swear our conversations have been nothing but respectful, not even slightly flirtatious. But I'm curious to know more about him. How do I invite him to spend time with me without making it sound like a date or me asking for his number? If his intentions with me are not romantic, and I get rejected, I'd like to save face. We obviously have been hiding behind neutral messages due to our relationship statuses. Is he even interested in me? Open Question: Ladies! Its been 3mo since the break up. Is there still hope?So, my boyfriend and I were dating for a year before we split up. He broke up with me because he needed "space." (Sorry, Im going to go through this whole story about it probably.. its a habit.. but if you would please bare with me and give me advice I would really appreciate it.) At first we discussed a "break" but.. i guess my emotions got the best of me and i just tried to fight it so it lead to this break up situation. We took a "break" before, but after we hung out a couple days later it was like it never happened.. and i just regret not agreeing to a break because if I would have I wouldnt be having this problem ): -sigh- Anyway, the advice I have been receiving says stuff like "limit contact" and.. well mainly just limit your contact.. If I would have followed that advice in the first place we probably would have gotten back together sooner instead of me waiting to hear "I dont feel the same." Last night we were talking and he said "I dont know that it would happen. I dont feel the same." and.. im hoping that if i stop talking to him he'll eventually miss me and maybe feel something again.. if i would have done that before it probably would have worked better but its been almost three months since the break up.. What im basically getting at is.. even though its been a little while since we broke up and he "doesnt feel the same" would it still maybe work if I ignored him or "limited contact"? I mean.. some people have been broken up for so much longer and still gotten back together.. but I dont want to do something wrong.. like i have been doing, probably, and just lose him completely. If you have any other advice for me, i would very V E R Y much appreciate it. Thank you! ((: Open Question: Should i move on or stay with him?Awhile ago i had posted a similiar question but thought i should add some more details for people to better understand my situation.. I have been dating a guy for almost a year now. A couple years ago he broke off an engagement because she had a drinking problem and started going out a lot. He says that he has issues with trust and letting people in now. He says he cares about me, but since we have been dating he has taken me out on a date ONCE, I am lucky to see him once every 3 weeks and if i do see him its at his house at 10 at night where we watch tv and just go to bed. He hardly calls me and basically the only type of communication he has with me is through texting. he text me almost everyday but he never tries to call or see me. He says he doesnt want a girlfriend right now because he is too "busy" and that if i just "wait" it will be all worth it when he decides to change and to let me in his life. But who knows when THAT will be. I have been waiting almost a year and i feel like i need more commitment from someone. We have already discussed this but he wont budge... I dont know if i should just call it quits or what..i love him and the thought of him being gone just hurts to think about, but he really isnt even in my life to begin with.. Its kind of juvenile, but he also doesnt add me to his facebook. he keeps giving me some excuse like he didnt see my friend request and that he is never on it and yet his friends list keeps increasing And i didnt say "move in". I asked if i should move ON with my life Open Question: My girlfriend likes to make out and I dont.. What to do?Ok my girlfriend and I have been dating for over a couple years now and we love each other like crazy... One problem we seem to have is she likes to make out alot.... Like suck lips, kiss necks and everything like that... She is 18 and I am 22. I really dont like to do that at all, I dont know why.... It just (to me anyway) to each their own, but to me it seems childish to make out... Seems like a younger kid type thing to me. But I know she likes to do it... I just want some advice on what to do. We do have sex about 3 times a week and like to cuddle while watching movies... That is all good :) Its just the making out thing.... I just find it almost gross to sit there and suck on her lips for 5 mins straight and to be honest somewhat boring... Not that she bores me at all. Believe me I love her to death, and she still turns me on like crazy... Were together every single day, Its just I have never been one for making out even since the first day we were dating...Having my neck kissed is really annoying to me. And this creates another problem usually before sex we will do four play for a bit or something (like just for 2 mins) And then we will have sex... But I know she likes to make out for a while before and that gets her in the mood... But for me it almost turns me off ( I know it sounds weird) But anyway tonight I told her I dont like to do it but I will do so for her because I love her but then she got mad at me and said I dont want you to do anything you dont want to.... So I really dont know what to do. Any help?? She seems to want me to change and like to makeout the way she does, but I really dont and that wont change. Open Question: How do I take it to the next level..?I met this guy two weeks ago. I don't want to go into too much detail, but the guy and I ended up talking for like two hours. It was one of those conversations where you don't want to leave because you feel like you just found your soul mate. Well, two problems: I have a boyfriend, and he has a girlfriend. I do not deny that I'm attracted to this man. Based up some actions, I think he feels the same. Here are some things he has done that I believe shows that he is interested in me: Three days after meeting, and telling him my name, he finds me on Facebook and we semi continue our conversation via message; A week later, I thought that he would have forgotten about our moment over the holiday, he messages me and we keep doing the ritual banter of "what's your favorite (insert item) ?"; No one ever writes in my honesty box. The week of Thanksgiving I mysteriously receive an honesty box message that someone (they hid their gender) likes me. Coincidental if I may say so. (I promise we are not teenagers, the man is just a little socially awkward.); I haven't seen him since that initial conversation, now we keep doing this "get-to-know-you" messaging on Facebook. I'm sorry, but two people in relationships don't keep a random conversation from two weeks ago going if there isn't something there. I don't think he would invest the amount of time he has if he didn't like me. I have asked around and he is very shy and very reserved so him initiating us talking seems to be a big deal. However, I don't think he is confident enough to initiate anything outside of facebook. I don't want a lecture about how wrong we are for wanting to get to know each other. I swear our conversations have been nothing but respectful, not even slightly flirtatious. But I'm curious to know more about him. How do I invite him to spend time with me without making it sound like a date or me asking for his number? If his intentions with me are not romantic, and I get rejected, I'd like to save face. We obviously have been hiding behind neutral messages due to our relationship statuses. Is he even interested in me? Open Question: ARMY EOD. I'M putting in my letter of intent tomorrow. Any techs want to give me helpful advice?So im on rear detachment for my unit right now im expecting my first child. After she is born I am deploying to Iraq. I want to reenlist to Army EOD from Food Service.... I know...I hate the job it was a shitty move but, I got a hefty 30k bonus. So I have a couple of questions... 1. Do i have to serve my full first enlistment before I can reenlist because of my bonus? can I just reenlist and attend red stone after my initial ETS date? 2. The EOD recruiter said I "should wait halfway through the deployment to start the process otherwise you can start today." I don't understand that lol. IS he telling me to wait or not? 3. How hard is it to get accepted, other than the top secret clearance.I know about the physical performance tests and all that. im more worried about the initial acceptance.after the credit check and letter of intent. what are the steps? 4.Was it a good move for you? I know there's alot of time apart from families. My wife and I mutually decided after months of weighing the options, to go for it, and are 100% behind each other. 5.Do they have a distinguished honor graduate for every class? What constitutes it, test scores? PT? Overall motivation, All of the above? 6. If I get denied Top Secret, can I just fix the problem and try again? 7. how can you lose a Top Secret clearance?. And a little about why I want to reclass into EOD and why it means alot to me. A friend of mine from high school, SGT Phillip Mcneil was killed in Iraq jan 07 by and IED, he was an Airborne Combat Medic out of the 25 Inf Div, Ft. Richardson alaska. Had I known about EOD before, I would have persued it when i was enlisting. If I can do a job that saves my battle buddies and American citizen's live's, sign me up! I like the life saving aspect of the job. Being a cook sucks its a joke mos with poor NCO leadership, im talking 10 yr specialists. 20 year E-5's its a joke man.I want to do this job for all the right reasons, I'm just nervous that something will happen out of my control on the administrative end, and I get denied. the process seems so long and selective im worried that I wont even make it to red stone. I'M asking these questions openly you all of you istead of my recruiter because I believe he dosn't think im worth his time yet; He has been very brief on the phone and in emails. P.S. I have no adverse action, never had a Article15, MAINT score 109, GT 104 phules 111111, 2 years hit next month, and I attended a breifing. Thank you again for any advice you give. Initial success or total failure! HOOAH! More Recent Articles
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