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Open Question: what should i do??[girls what would you do in this situation?]? and more... Open Question: what should i do??[girls what would you do in this situation?]?okay well in may my boyfriend was in LUST with some girl on myspace she was a big problem for us while i was away for a while.. he left me for her even tho he didnt do anything with her and he never met her in person.. he still talked to me & the only reason why i kept talking to him cos he threatened me he was going to kill himself & he was gonna get back with me.. and yes im soo stupid i took him back..i didnt think i was just caught up in the moment and he told me he didnt know what he was thinking he regreted leaving me the third day. he only dated her for a week. and we got back together cos i love him & he said he wanted to kill himself..ughh now its been 6 months since that happend and i bring it up like all the time=[ its jepordizing our relationship and i love him but what he did hurts me && its holding me back to countinue with him but i dont wanna throw away 1 year in a half i messed up on him a couple times idk if that was KARMA.. idk what to do at this point try to get over it and stay with him or break it off and move on.. Open Question: How do I deal with the unreasonable family of a drug addict? URGENT!?I've been dating this guy for about two years. He was a wonderful, kind, and brilliant man with a promising history in the field of neuroscience. I knew he had a history of prescription drug abuse (opiates) induced by a head injury, but I believed that he had quit. However, his behavior had taken a turn for the worst recently. He became secretive, had terrible mood swings, etc. I suspected he started using again, but never had any empirical evidence to prove it. His grades plummeted, he lost his job, and all sorts of other behavioral issues started presenting themselves. I called his parents to try to get them involved because he was throwing his life away, but they didn't seem concerned in the least. They simply told me to stay away from him. A month or two later, he became physically violent with me, and his best friend admitted he had been abusing prescription medication heavily and was withdrawing. He had never laid a hand on me before this, and I could see that he drugs were completely changing his personality. I immediately contacted his family again, and they finally flew in to see their son, but took their time actually coming to visit him (spent a couple days enjoying themselves upstate, etc). His sister eventually confided in me they they knew of this problem in the past, but never got him help because they lived in a small town and they didn't want people knowing their son was an addict. I tried to stay in close contact with them upon their arrival in my state but they only seem to be annoyed with me. They told me to please stop talking to his sisters because they have finals to study for and I'm making them anxious (I spoke with them once or twice on the phone for 10 minutes). I realize that it isn't even about the "finals" and the "anxiety" I'm inducing. They simply want to shut me up because they're annoyed they have to deal with this issue in the first place. They are throwing him in rehab in FL, but I am utterly at a loss as to what I should do. I can see that they will not be giving him the support he needs to recover from this horrible addiction. They are shutting me out in order to get me to shut up so people don't find out what is happening. He desperately wants help, and is willingly going to rehab. However, I'm just concerned if his family is going to throw him in there and leave him. They have made NO attempts to help their son in the past. Despite making $300,000 a year, they didn't want to send him to therapy, or any other form of counseling because of the expense and because of the fact that they wanted to keep it a secret. All of his problems could have been corrected had they just listened to him and cared enough to intercede and be proactive in getting their son help, but they didn't. I am utterly infuriated with these people. They want me to stay away from their son, but I feel like I'm the only person who truly cares enough to help. They're mad at me, but they don't realize that if it wasn't for me, their son would likely be dead soon. How do I deal with them?!?!? They are making me look like the enemy. Jesus Christ, this isn't a plea for advice so that I can keep dating the guy. I simply am trying to find a practical means of assisting an individual with a serious drug problem who desperately wants help. However, I am being blocked by a refrigerator mother and a generally apathetic family. This isn't some terrible issue they've dealt with for years. They were opposed to dealing with it from the beginning. They have given up on their own damn son! He isn't a mindless addict. They simply dislike having to pay the fees of rehab, and the inconvenience that comes with having an addict family member. Open Question: Why are Yahoo! Group messages coming through encoded?Since early November 2009, SOME messages posted to our Yahoo! Group by members with Yahoo addresses are coming through to SOME members in "code". I don't know if this is ASCII code or what, but it's almost indecipherable. When viewing the messages on the Yahoo! Groups page, they display correctly. I keep thinking this problem will resolve itself but it's been at least a month now and it persists. Thanks for any ideas. ======================== EXAMPLE: DuLAtY49ZOwVEQ1k08iEkWJzEMHHGHoYeip40R9lgSE0ANCcpthcJXpFXxKrBhmPj45y_0Vqqau4TatTu40ltZnf5imGxUK6mX3ixjOx3IxPN1WkMBCPqcFtgt89iO4fR5xVba3oEszTWA2hCEH.gseKaBGUuqGKXJ9oK_V.va.MNqAbBN47eu0tec_vLntBGvL6LNAN0JX7OrUV33VkkgumVooD.v75d3hYLQRWrxLvi8THkmHAcStqIPe5dALv0fwCiytTjiooQD9zrRTTwyiKftEGHUb2zTXzpjMOpOz3L9l6_3egjYJ0qzJdwktv7HGsDxPsqfy0m9cCldRjVl5faog8qm3CmhFrzWNxWlKDHhb7Ny27PaC3Hk_vJwlncmJo_M6h3Qq1uOGbiz8y_KRsdHe1E9hv1uNTZy7YDcqBJcR3bEyCE52IEGB3R4ljAR4vMbXSqXQ0x00_vXTFahmUVCNa.t4q7OQjcGRWSyFexxKlZgD37TTcakTkCvNJqdSdPppqfBuKjKRFPy0d6d2I9RI62gKPgZ36vDMnFs_zezjzfrNQndMZLgfUrP7hYOautnOSv0d4qgElT3tlUioPGRpJYWwmGDxglkPYsMjJqt9M8msM.9vV2mTigGi7adjhCuLrVrp47pknENDJuQmFQjUP3ZK2V X-Received: from [75.207.74.56] by web112810.mail.gq1.yahoo.com via HTTP; Mon, 07 Dec 2009 14:26:04 PST X-Mailer: YahooMailClassic/9.0.19 YahooMailWebService/0.8.100.260964 To: xxxxxxx@yahoogroups.com In-Reply-To: <692260.75069.qm@web53408.mail.re2.yahoo.com> X-Originating-IP: 98.136.165.35 X-eGroups-Msg-Info: 1:12:0:0:0 From: xxxxxxxxxx Open Question: Am I too afraid to admit I'm happily single?I met a new girl and at first I thought she was fantastic: funny, cute, sweet, and a blast to be around. But after a few dates, I'm becoming reluctant to see her again. She became really affectionate toward me and at first I thought it was fantastic, but now I'm feeling myself being pulled two separate ways: being a man of action and taking "what I can" before I run away or just killing it right then and there. My friends all think I'm being an idiot and need to keep giving her a chance if I'm serious about finding somebody, but I just don't feel "right" about it for some reason. I've tried thinking up excuses, but all of them aren't "real" problems, just ways to try and rationalize my sudden need to cut it off with this woman: she got attached quickly, she isn't as feminine as girls I've dated in the past, I am in the process of finding a new career, etc. My last long-term relationship ended in a blitz and although I've more or less put it all behind me, I also fear that I'm burning through relationships to "forget" or "make-up" for the one that failed. This has been a pattern for the past year, seeing a girl for roughly a few weeks or a couple months and then suddenly no longer caring and leaving her in the dust. My female friends tell me I've become a womanizer who can't admit it to himself, my male friends all think I'm over thinking what's normal guy behavior. My family just seems to think my standards are way too high. Of course, most of the girls, when I leave, just think I'm an ass who can't accept new people. Opinions? Thoughts? Do we know people like this? I think I can be comfortably single and just have my fun, but it's difficult to separate the "fun" from the "relationship" mentality. Open Question: How can I get over him?Iwas involved with this guy for a few months, and I'm stressed out I can hardly sleep.I just found out that this guy I was involved with, flew out out of town to see another woman or visit her shall I say, i text messaged him from a different number and we were texting back and forth, and stuff, and hes asking me what am I doing for the day, and eveything, he thinks that I am somebody from a bar he met, but I just think its weird that he would fly out to see someone , he told me about this girl, that she was his close friend, and that she would always call him about her boyfriend problems, so he flew to the east coast to visit yet he was on the phone with me, plus on top of that he treats me bad, he doesnt want to take me out, does not want to talk or have a nice conversation, he basically told me sex is all I will get and all I deserve, and he also told me that if he was nice and stuff to me I would not respect him and he wanted me to come over a few hours, but I never can stay all night, and he was making breakfast and I told him "Oh I'm hungry, I'm on my way" and hes like "Well there maybe none left by the time you get here" but yet on the flip side he prank calls my phone and job phone as well..and I just notice that these are the type of guys I always tend to get involved with, guys who do not want a relationship with me, or date me, or take me out,...I always get used and hurt for some reason.. I feel like I'm not good enough, or unattractive, what gives??I thought I had all this figured out,..I was celibate for four years, and I broke my celibacy for someone who could care less about me. and its been over five years since I ve had a REAL fulfilling relationship.I feel so so bad now..and the thing is that I still have feelings for this guy..what do I do?? Open Question: I'm in love with my best friends boyfriend?I found my soul mate. The problem? He's dating my best friend. What do I do? I love this guy more than life itself, but I don't want to hurt her. The thing that really bites, is that I know she doesn't really love him! what do I do? I really need some help here! Open Question: My brother is in a wicked controlling relationship help!?My brother has a girlfriend he's been dating for a few years now and she has complete control over him. I care deeply for my brother and he's changed ever since they started going out. He's only a sophomore in high school. Now here's the biggest problem. My brother excels in sports incredibly. He has the potential to go very very far. Tryouts for basketball just passed and he didn't go to them so that he doesn't make her upset. Last year he quit all star basketball because SHE didn't like it. But when she played a sport he was required to go to all of her games or he got in trouble with her. He won't listen to me or my dad or mom or anyone about how controlling she is. He thinks he "loves" her and that she "loves" him. Please any advice to help my brother would be appreciated. I don't want his wonderful years of high school to be ruined by some controlling girlfriend. Open Question: should i tell him i like him ?kay so theres this guy luke that i really like. and this guy james that im going to the christmas banquet with. so james really likes me and at first i sorta liked him but as i began spending more and more time with luke i realized i really like him. theres a couple problems with that though . 1. like 3 of my really good friends have dated him , and most girls know that if i dated him it wouldnt be good, cause its against the girl code. (btw when my friends dated him they werent friends with each other) and 2. he has a girlfriend and like i was about to tell him today but i was like well what if i cant help myself ? and like my friends get mad . and then he got sorta mad at me for not telling him what i was gonnna say -btw i know he likes me- . and like uggh . i jusst didnt know what to do and like if i did decide to date him ..hes a playyer . like hes cheated on every girl hes dated ... and like i dunno . so should i tell himm ? Also , with James he told my friends that hes planning to makeout with me at christmas banquet . liike hes gonna take me to the mezzanine and stuff. and if i dont like him what do i do ? do i just pull away or ...? Open Question: My brother needs help. His girlfriend has him whipped!!?My brother has a girlfriend he's been dating for a few years now and she has complete control over him. I care deeply for my brother and he's changed ever since they started going out. He's only a sophomore in high school. Now here's the biggest problem. My brother excels in sports incredibly. He has the potential to go very very far. Tryouts for basketball just passed and he didn't go to them so that he doesn't make her upset. Last year he quit all star basketball because SHE didn't like it. But when she played a sport he was required to go to all of her games or he got in trouble with her. He won't listen to me or my dad or mom or anyone about how controlling she is. He thinks he "loves" her and that she "loves" him. Please any advice to help my brother would be appreciated. I don't want his wonderful years of high school to be ruined by some controlling girlfriend. Open Question: How do I move on from a bad relationship, its so hard!?I was involved with this guy for a few months, and I'm stressed out I can hardly sleep.I just found out that this guy I was involved with, flew out out of town to see another woman or visit her shall I say, i text messaged him from a different number and we were texting back and forth, and stuff, and hes asking me what am I doing for the day, and eveything, he thinks that I am somebody from a bar he met, but I just think its weird that he would fly out to see someone , he told me about this girl, that she was his close friend, and that she would always call him about her boyfriend problems, so he flew to the east coast to visit yet he was on the phone with me, plus on top of that he treats me bad, he doesnt want to take me out, does not want to talk or have a nice conversation, he basically told me sex is all I will get and all I deserve, and he also told me that if he was nice and stuff to me I would not respect him and he wanted me to come over a few hours, but I never can stay all night, and he was making breakfast and I told him "Oh I'm hungry, I'm on my way" and hes like "Well there maybe none left by the time you get here" but yet on the flip side he prank calls my phone and job phone as well..and I just notice that these are the type of guys I always tend to get involved with, guys who do not want a relationship with me, or date me, or take me out,...I always get used and hurt for some reason.. I feel like I'm not good enough, or unattractive, what gives??I thought I had all this figured out,..I was celibate for four years, and I broke my celibacy for someone who could care less about me. and its been over five years since I ve had a REAL fulfilling relationship.I feel so so bad now..and the thing is that I still have feelings for this guy..what do I do?? Open Question: Am I On The Right Track?Okay, I've been talking to this man I meet on a popular radio dating sight for about 9 weeks now. I'm 45 and he is soon to be 52. I am divorced 13 years but have been dating during that time. He is also divorced about the same amount of time and has also been dating. I have 4 children of my previous marriage two adult males who no longer live at home and 2 teenage girls who do live at home. The new man has 3 children 2 adults from his previous marriage and 1 adult child from a one night stand. At first I was not sure about wanting to meet with him because his profile showed that he was a short man 5.5 and although I am 5.1, I never dated men shorter than 5.8 because I have only been attracted to much taller men. Over the past few weeks I have had to take a good look at why his stature bothers me and why I am trying to dismiss this potentially good relationship with a good man because of his height. He tells me that he loves me and he hopes that things work out between us. He has been doing whatever is necessary to make me happy. A few days ago, I had him meet my daughters and he has fixed quite a few things around the house that needed repair. Although, he is very attentive and caring I feel like I am not opening up to him the way I should. I was dating someone for 4 years and 4 months who I was very lustful over although he was legally seperated and did not feel as intense about me as I felt for him. However, he hung around because to him I am eye candy and I looked good on his arm. I broke up with him about a year ago because he constantly told me that he didn't think he should have to take care of a woman with two college degrees nor help me pay any of my bills because he had his own. Every now and then however, we would have sex and hang out including taking trips together. My recent ex- is a drug addict and alcoholic who does not accept that he is. He just got a divorce about a month and a half ago and has not done for me during the years that I've know him, what this new man has done for me in 9 weeks. My ex-husband was abusive to me and did time for comtempt of court orders or protection and he was also a drug addict and alcoholic. I don't know it seems to me that I am more comfortable or attracted to me who are chemically addicted and can not do anything for me physically, spiritually, mentally nor emotionally. This new man seems like the perfect match for me. He does not smoke, drink nor do any type of drugs. He has a great job and invest in property. So what, is my problem, why do I feel like I am holding back? And why do I feel that something is wrong or too good to be true? I need to put my fingers on it. Or am I looking for something to be wrong? I need help on this please! Open Question: HELP!!!! My friend is suicidal??????OK So I was texting my friend Michael last night. We started of with "How's it going?" and "It's goin goood" (he texted me first) So he told me he was bored and lonely. And, of course, I asked him why he was lonely. He said that every girl he has dated has broke his heart. And that he's afriad to date cuz he doesnt want it to happen again. And he just wants someone who really loves and appriciates him. Don't we all huh? It's makes me sad because I feel the same way. So he really really needs someone like that. And I really wouldn't mind being that person, but, He's my best friend's cousin. And I think that she would have a problem with me dating her cousin. So then he told me that all he's feeling is suffering, and he just wants to end it, and he cant live this this forever. Im trying to talk him out of it. But he says that no one can help him. But I know I can! Then he said that the world is a horrible place and the human race should end because theres so much wrong with us. Im so scared for him! Ive dealt with suicide before, and I dont want to do that again!! I really really care about him and I don't want him to do this. He's an amazing person, and he doesn't see that. What can I do to stop him????? Please help!!!! Other stuff: I'm 15, freshman. He's 16, sophmore. We go to different schools. And I don't see him that often. Open Question: Advice for sister dating an alcoholic possible drug user with depression and possible bi polar.?My sister is 18 and she is dating a guy with the above problems. She began college but started dating him and has since dropped half of her classes and has told me how he says things and then doesn't remember saying them and passes out drunk fairly often. He has told her a doctor has suggested he is bipolar and he is not doing anything about this. He has told her he has a drinking problem but always has an excuse as to why he can't quite. As far as I know he is not abusive in anyway but I worry about her future if she stays with someone like this. How can I give her advice without pushing her away. She was an honor society student and has a lot going for her but I fear it is about to go down the drain. She says she would like to move to the city I live in which is about 20 hours from her hometown. I think it would be a great idea but she is changing her mind from one day to the next. Please advise. More Recent Articles
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