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Open Question: What to do if his family hates you? and more... Open Question: What to do if his family hates you?I don't really know where to turn to for advice so I am hoping atleast someone on here will offer me a view I didn't think of or just some reassurance in my time of need lol. :: Warning this is a bit long :: So I have been dating "Jason" for about 7 months now. Which ok isn't that long but we are deeply in love. I have never met another person who understands me like he does and I think he feels the same way. We just have this connection that is beyond all reason. Ok so I am a hopeless romantic but in all truth this just feels like what true love should be and all that. We are so happy together. The problem is that the rest of the world seems to want us apart! On the outside we both seem very different. I am sure it paints a picture of the wild pagan whore getting with the sweet straightlaced good choir boy. Ofcourse that is nothing of what we are and deep down inside we have so much in common in how we think and see the world. His parents are very much involved with their church. They think that if like you don't go to church or have sex before you are married you will burn in hell. Kindof strict but not really like bad horrible people either, they do alot of good they just are not the most open minded people. (where as I am pagan) Before I met Jason he was like their pride and joy. He pretty much let them control his life and was very depressed for it. He had only had one girlfriend ever and it was a really bad relationship and she broke his heart :( But his family adored her ofcourse. He works with two of my roommates. I was always hanging around their job and often giving them rides to work and such so we kindof knew each other but really I never paid much attention to him. But one night it was downpouring and I went to pick one of them up from work and there was a stray puppy in the parking lot and there I was in the pouring rain trying to get this poor little puppy to come to me lol. He was getting off work and was my hero. He stayed out there with me for like 40 mins until we got the puppy. We then went to the store to get food for the little guy lol. We went back to his place where we stayed up all night long just talking until we both fell asleep. The next day he didn't work so he took the puppy to the vet with me and he actually ended up keeping the puppy aww. So that entire weekend I ended up staying with him just talking. We were just like glued to each other. There was never a dull or quiet moment lol. I don't think I talked to my best friend so much ever lol! Ok so anyways afterthat thing got very serious between the two of us. And I will admit he went through alot of changes... and maybe even a bit too fast that it worried people. He cut his hair with like the sides shaved, dyed the tips blue. got his ears pierced, got a tattoo. started dressing a bit differently and stopped going to church... Now I never pushed him or even told him omg you should do this or that. None of it was my suggestions. It was all his idea. I think alot of it came from a sense of freedom that he finally tasted and so he just like threw himself out into the world and got a bit carried away too fast lol. and I can even admit that I found it all kindof fun and I wasn't exactly noticing him doing this at first and didn't try to stop him. None of that stuff makes you who you are. But he was finally just trying to find himself and have some fun along the way. I also don't think it is that big of a deal it isn't like he is doing drugs or jumping off bulidings or anything like that lol. But omg i have become the most evil person in the world over this. All of my friends and family think that I am getting myself into some mess. That we don't have anything in common, that I am corrupting his innocense (apparently he doesn't have a thought in his own head), what good friends I have huh? idk I just think they don't understand and that I have never dated anyone like him before and they don't really know him like I do. Then ofcourse there is his friends & family who think I am an evil whore. who has mind controlled him with sex and devil worship or some nonsense.... My friends and family will support me and love me no matter what nutty thing I do and even if they disagree. His side on the other hand is not quite so understanding... I am not welcomed anywhere near them. and they are saying that if he doesn't quit seeing me they won't talk to him anymore. He swears that is fine with him and he doesn't want to see them if they feel that way. But come on..it is his family. You fight with your family but you love them and it is very difficult for me to get why they cant just deal with it. I don't want to come between him and his family. He is to the point where he refuses to talk about it anymore. :( I don't know what to do... Open Question: why do i keep dreaming of him?i keep dreaming about my co-worker in a romantic way. i used to have a crush on him, but i've been trying to get over him. you see, i have a boyfriend who i've been dating for 3 years and he has a girlfriend now. i still think he's cute, but i know that we would never work out. we're just different people. he's also kind of dumb and annoying to work with. super nice guy, but he's kind of an air head. the problem is, whenever i have sexy dreams about him it kind of makes me like him a little more. why do i continue to dream about him even though i don't want to be with him? how can i stop getting these dreams? (also, i've been known to talk in my sleep occasionally and i don't want my boyfriend to hear anything innapropriate) i haven't been thinking about him, i've been dreaming about him. i'm trying to stop the dreams. how can i do that? and how does him having a girlfriend mean that he doesn't respect me? please read the question before you answer it, thanks. Open Question: What career would I like?-I'm best at science labs and writing assignments in school -I like using creativity, but can also be logical -I'd rather apply what I learn, not just memorize equations/dates/etc. -I like moving around and spontaneity -I'm pretty introverted, but don't mind being around people in doses -I like to think outside the box to solve problems So what careers do you think might fit me? Open Question: Does this explain the pathology of AGW denial?http://www.wired.com/wiredscience/2009/12/climate-psychology/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed:+wired/index+(Wired:+Index+3+(Top+Stories+2))&utm_content=Google+Feedfetcher The Psychology of Climate Change Denial By Brandon Keim December 9, 2009 | 1:29 pm | Categories: Brains and Behavior, Earth Science, Environment Even as the science of global warming gets stronger, fewer Americans believe it's real. In some ways, it's nearly as jarring a disconnect as enduring disbelief in evolution or carbon dating. And according to Kari Marie Norgaard, a Whitman University sociologist who's studied public attitudes towards climate science, we're in denial. "Our response to disturbing information is very complex. We negotiate it. We don't just take it in and respond in a rational way," said Norgaard. The Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change declared in 2007 that greenhouse gases had reached levels not seen in 650,000 years, and were rising rapidly as a result of people burning fossil fuel. Because these gases trap the sun's heat, they would — depending on human energy habits — heat Earth by an average of between 1.5 and 7.2 degrees Fahrenheit by century's end. Even a midrange rise would likely disrupt the planet's climate, producing droughts and floods, acidified oceans, altered ecosystems and coastal cities drowned by rising seas. "If there's no action before 2012, that's too late. What we do in the next two to three years will determine our future," said Rajendra Pachauri, the IPCC chairman, when the report was released. "This is the defining moment." Studies published since then have only strengthened the IPCC's predictions, or suggested they underestimate future warming. But as world leaders gather in Copenhagen to discuss how to avoid catastrophic climate change, barely half the U.S. public thinks carbon pollution could warm Earth. That's 20 percent less than in 2007, and lower than at any point in the last 12 years. In a Pew Research Center poll, Americans ranked climate dead last out of 20 top issues, behind immigration and trade policy. Wired.com talked to Norgaard about the divide between science and public opinion. Wired.com: Why don't people seem to care? Kari Norgaard: On the one hand, there have been extremely well-organized, well-funded climate-skeptic campaigns. Those are backed by Exxon Mobil in particular, and the same PR firms who helped the tobacco industry (.pdf) deny the link between cancer and smoking are involved with magnifying doubt around climate change. That's extremely important, but my work has been in a different area. It's been about people who believe in science, who aren't out to question whether science has a place in society. Wired.com: People who are coming at the issue in good faith, you mean. What's their response? Norgaard: Climate change is disturbing. It's something we don't want to think about. So what we do in our everyday lives is create a world where it's not there, and keep it distant. For relatively privileged people like myself, we don't have to see the impact in everyday life. I can read about different flood regimes in Bangladesh, or people in the Maldives losing their islands to sea level rise, or highways in Alaska that are altered as permafrost changes. But that's not my life. We have a vast capacity for this. Wired.com: How is this bubble maintained? Norgaard: In order to have a positive sense of self-identity and get through the day, we're constantly being selective of what we think about and pay attention to. To create a sense of a good, safe world for ourselves, we screen out all kinds of information, from where food comes from to how our clothes our made. When we talk with our friends, we talk about something pleasant. Wired.com: How does this translate into skepticism about climate change? Norgaard: It's a paradox. Awareness has increased. There's been a lot more information available. This is much more in our face. And this is where the psychological defense mechanisms are relevant, especially when coupled with the fact that other people, as we've lately seen with the e-mail attacks, are systematically trying to create the sense that there's doubt. If I don't want to believe that climate change is true, that my lifestyle and high carbon emissions are causing devastation, then it's convenient to say that it doesn't. Wired.com: Is that what this comes down to — not wanting to confront our own roles? Norgaard: I think so. And the reason is that we don't have a clear sense of what we can do. Any community organizer knows that if you want people to respond to something, you need to tell them what to do, and make it seem do-able. Stanford University psychologist Jon Krosnick has studied this, and showed that people stop paying attention to climate change when they realize there's no easy solution. People judge as serious only those problems for which actions can be taken Open Question: How can I convince my boyfriend to get rid of his dog?We have a 9 mos old yellow lab puppy who is destructive and has a serious biting problem (you can barely pet him because he will snap at your hand). My boyfriend got the dog right before we started dating and I don't think he realized how much work the dog would be. Both of us work long hours and the dog is too destructive to leave alone in our place so he stays in a crate during the day but my boyfriend just keeps making excuses saying the dog will get better in time. We live in a tiny apt and simply do not have the time or space to properly care for him. Open Question: any tips would be helpful?hahah okay so i know this sounds dumb but if I beat my best friend at icy tower on facebook he will go on a date with me (his idea). the only problem is I can't get past the 250th step and he is at 400. Any tips on how to survive longer on ict tower? Open Question: Boy problems.. Ugh. Please help me out :[]?Well, my friend and I have been friends for a while. We are both 15. I dated this boy, let's call him Joe. Well, Joe and I dated for (I know this sounds silly) a month. And I really REALLY liked him. But I broke up with him because I was afraid of falling in too deep and getting hurt. Then about 3 or 4 months later my friend, we'll call her Janie, asked me if I would be angry if they dated. I told her I didn't care. And I didn't. I had no problem with them dating even though it sometimes made me unconfortable to sit next to them when they were all smooch-y. Well, during their 7 to 8 month relationship, Janie fell harder than Joe. She claimed that I still liked him (and I really didn't. He was my first "love" and that's all in the past. Plus, I would always chose my bestfriend over a boy.) Janie said that I still had feelings for him and that I was trying to break them up. The only reason she said that though was because we were such good friends (me and Joe). When we switched grades we drifted farther apart and we were almost not speaking when I flat out asked Janie why she was pushing away. Once again, the whole "I love Joe" thing came up, but this time she wasn't afraid of me taking him, she was afraid of losing him.. Joe honestly wasn't all that into the relationship and Janie basically controlled him like he was a dog. Joe claimed that he got tired of one of Janie's male friends always being around her and broke it off, but I am a skeptic because the male friend wasn't even that close with Janie and what little friendship was there could never ever be mistaken for more than that. Joe was still one of my closest male friends and we talked and he told me everything. (That's why I know he wasn't really into it. He talked about other girls a lot. He never cheated though, he's not like that.) Well, Janie got sad, but she was hoping. Joe's parents are the type of parents that think butting in on their kid's relationships is okay so they told him that he better give it another shot or they were going to ground him. Soo, Joe gets together with Janie again. But, Janie gets mad and breaks up with him because it was his parents doing and she knew Joe was really done. Me and Janie are still friends. Me and Joe are still friends. I sit with Joe at lunch in a two-seater lunch seat. We sit in the same seat and that seat's ment for one person. I am sort of gaining my feelings back for him but I know that Janie would think that I've always had those feelings and that them breaking up was my plan all along. I don't know if Joe likes me or not yet, but I'm hoping. What should I do? Any opinions? Open Question: How do I get her back? She met someone new?I was dating a girl for a few months and a freaked out and ended it. Two weeks later she meets a new guy and they date for a few months and then HE ends it. We started hanging out again and we act almost like we're dating, which made me realize that I have fallen in love with her. The problem is that she is hung up on this other guy and keeps talking about him. I told her how I feel and she said that she cares for me deeply, but is too hung up on this other guy to consider anything with me right now because it would be fair to me. Can someone please give me some advice on my next move? I really appreciate your help! There is one problem. I thought about the jealous thing too, but she doesn't respond well to jealousy. She is a needy person and I fear that jealousy would only scare her into going back to that douche, simply so that she could avoid being left without either of us. Open Question: Friend problems! NEEDS HELP!?Okay, so my ex boyfriend of 9 months won't leave me alone. I'm dating someone else, and they hate eachother. I don't want to be friends with my ex anymore, and he won't stop calling me. It's to the point where if I don't answer, he IM's me every 5 seconds. Does anyone have any ideas on what to do?? More Recent Articles
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