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Open Question: Why did I lose my sex drive? and more... Open Question: Why did I lose my sex drive?The most ironic and weirdest thing happened to me! ok so im a girl and I started dating this boy about 3 years ago and the first couple years I had the highest sex drive ever! I always wanted to do it everyday, all the time, but the problem was that after about a year my boyfriend never wanted to do it anymore! I this he was just really stressed because we had a lot going on during that time and i know he wasn't cheatin because were together like 24/7 n he is one of those sweet/nerdy/trustful guys that dont do anything wrong. so it kinda bugged me at first that he never wanted to do it and I always did but i eventually started to get to use to it because i loved him. but now lately his sex drive is back up and my has just disappeared! I never ever would have thought that I would have a low sex drive for a long time . Its weird to because when we kiss I still get turned on and get that sensation, but even though im turned on, for some reason i still never feel like doing it. I dont understand how thats possible . does any one know if my sex drive will ever come back if im always with the same guy? I dont want to take any pills to fix this but it would be nice to know that im not going to feel this way forever because im only 18 years old. Open Question: Having a planned C-Section being 38 Wks pregnant?Hey guys, I'm just uploading this because I'm a little concern. Last week I went for the normal OB appointment and my C section was scheduled. The doctor decided to do it on Dec.17th which it makes me exactly 38 weeks pregnant. I know a pregnancy is considered full term after 37 weeks but I have read that the baby still runs a risk of having breathing problems. I have my next appointment tomorrow...what should I do? Should I just wait after Christmas to have the baby? Or is it too late to change the date since it's on the doctor's schedule and they're doing the last blood work and all on Saturday? I'm having a planned c section due to previous c section and having a major surgery while pregnant with this baby. Open Question: Friends with benefits?So I've gotten myself into a friends with benefits situation with my ex. When discussing what to do he made it clear he'd just prefer not to date. I made it clear that i wasn't doing stuff with out knowing i wasn't just a girl to sleep with. We settled it by continuing to be friends with benefits and figuring it out later when we have to make a decision. The problem is, we don't act just like friends with benefits. We still say stuff to each other and hand hold and all that stuff that recommended not to do in a FWB relationship. He acts like we're still dating, minus our titles. Will this pose to be problematic? Like i said, we both know we either need to get back together or call it off later on. Open Question: Sorry, I know this is long but I need help, do I even have a chance?Sorry it's long, don't bother complaining cause I warned ya This girl is one of my closest friends at college. When we first met we went on awkward half dates (mostly started by her) for a while up until her roommate drunkenly told me that I should make her night and f-ck her. Maybe things would have been easier had I followed her advice, but at the time I wasn't very interested in her romantically and stopped dating. I continued to hang out with her though because as I said, she has become one of my best friends. We share a ton of interests and have many of the same friends. That was freshman year. This is middler year. We both have been in a failed relationship since then, and are both single now, trying to find someone else. We spend nearly every weekend together, and since I don't drink much and she enjoys drinking a lot we frequently go out to bars and such. I watch out for her, and she trusts me to mix her drinks for her at parties so I can cut her off before she goes overboard. Problem is, we're both pretty shy. Sure she let me hold her hand to guide her back to her apartment last weekend, but she was also blackout drunk. But she also only told me when she was coming back from her internship a week earlier than expected a month ago and wanted to surprise everyone, just to make sure I would be there (cause I live so far away). Basically... I'm madly in love right now. I want to tell her, but I also don't want to screw up this kind of friendship. I know I USED to have a chance, but now I have no idea. If there's the chance it'll happen I need to try, but if there's no chance at all, well, I better keep silent. Regardless I need to make a decision soon, if she gets asked out before I tell her sh!t is gonna hit the fan. Help me? Open Question: Why do I hate having sex?Now first-I don't know why, I have not been raped, before I had chidren i loved sex and wanted it all the time but when I got pregnant and after i no longer wanted it (baby is now almost 9 months so plenty of time of getting hormones out) YES we've seen a councler and nothing helps (seen many actually-one said my husband should be the one comming in more as he thought the problem was with him but hubby stoped when he heard that) It's not that i'm not attracted to him but i don't like being physically around him much-i don't like his natural body smell or the sex feels-we've even tried directly after him taking a shower (for the smell) and doesn't help-sometimes I get horney but then when it comes to his *** in me i lose it and no longer want it. We've been married for a year and before we had out baby as I said I LOVED it. YES we've tried toys, the only thing i like is the vibrator but i only like useing it alone, not with him. I hate giving oral so that's always a no, my mouth is just too small and it hurts after very short while-i just hate the taste of it all- I have tried talking to him about this and he jsut gets so stressed going off saying how he tries to shower or change things up. We've tried roleplaying and I like everything BUT the penis in me. And yes I've cheaked with doctors and there's nothing wrong-all say psychological but as I said, we've seen councelers and such and no one can find out what. Sometimes I grit my teeth and just tell him to hurry and get it over with which I know he doesn't like doing that. I only like useing the vibrator as I said but not with him or anything-and i've tried keeping it away so I would only want him but again, i don't. It's not that he's gained weight or anything like that, he looks the same as when we first started dating (better in my experience) but there have been times i've said someting abotu his eating-he's in military after all and can't go over a particular amount but gets mad if i say anything-he goes off about me eating what ever I want so i don't say anything as I do'nt like him telling me things like that either. I'm at the point where I no longer care about my body or anything and have even brought up a divorce (i've heard that a marrieage without sex doesn't last long) and he doesn't want one. I tell him lets live our own seperate lives, but can still stay married, like he can have a mistress or something so he can get what he wants but becasue I guess he thinks I'lll find another to sleep with he won't. He complains about not getting sex, yet doesn't want a divorce or anything-and I coudl care less what happens as long as stop asking about wanting sex. I jsut don't like it anymore (and i'm only in my 20's) yes I do get horney,but again, i do not like anything inside me. No i have not been raped or abused, yes we've seen counseling, yes doctors, yes toys, yes new ways, yes to the talking....so please do not say anything of what i've already mention to try-and as for the smell if your wondering no its not BO-it's just the natural smell-even when we first started dating i didn't like it that much but at the same time didn't notice it at much-and living together before we were married for several months i made myself get used to it but now i guess i can't get used to it anymore. If you can help then please do but if your going to give a bs answer or not help then please just go on by. thanks its NOT hormones as I said-if i was selfish then I woulodn't have bothered cheaking with doctors, toys or counelers (i hate going to docs!) as for the ledbian thing- FUCK NO! a girl kissed me once when I was drunk and I was so disgusted. Not that she was a bad kisser but i can't seemyself in bed with another woman. isn't the only way to please woman (women on woman) is oral or hand? yea uh noooo, i'm NOT licking some other girls stuff! Screw that! Craaazeee you're a dumb ass!!! The vibrator does NOT go in me, nothing does!!!! LEARN TO READ YOU RETARD! the vibarator is for the clit-dumb girl Sentra-HELL NO Read! i'm not attracted to kissing a woman much less sex Karin-thanks! best answer so far, i've heard bout the viagra thing-as for oils and calogns, no they don't work-even just a smallest amount is too sttrong for me, and yes i have a strong sence of smell, i can get sick sometimes of smells and no i'm not pregnant lol YES I've been to post pardom and all I was fine-i had to have natural labor becasue the damn docs couldn't get the epidural in correctly without it sending pain thorugh all my back! and I've tried to find a hypnosis but there's not one around here for medical or personal needs-only in entertainment thomas good point but no i'm not on birth control- i can't have it because it causes blood pressure to reach stroke range-not even on the lowest dosage-if we have sex it has to be with condoms, the lube that kills the sperm (sory forgot name) and he has to pull out-i can't have BC and yes on anxiety meds but much worse without them Open Question: How do I deal with my friend?First off, I drug her to go to college with me. We attended different high schools, and rarely hung outside of class. When we first moved into the dorms we had hoped on becoming roommates, a problem occurred with her application and I was assigned a different roommate. I eventually helped her figure it out, but the only way we can now dorm together is next semester. Since this semester is about over, the manager of our dorms asked if we still wanted to room together. I said no because we have the same classes, and she is ALWAYS with me. She doesn't have a car so I take her everywhere, back home (3hrs away- we're from the same town), class (some classes are 15miles away from dorms (2 diff. campuses), bank, etc and wherever she needs to go. She didn't have covers, pillows, baskets, or a computer so I lent/bought her what she needed. I even lent her my extra PC since it has the Adobe suite. When she got her loan money she spent it all, so she never has any. She bought a laptop so I could take my PC back home, but it lacks the amount of RAM needed for the adobe suite installation. She threw the box away so she can't return it for a better one. I don't why but for some reason I've just been very annoyed with her. We're good friends, but I can't talk to her about dating, or sex, etc because she's never done anything, and judges me upon it. Saying things like "Dating's stupid." As if she'd know, and I don't want to waste my breath. When it comes to classes she ALWAYS makes me late cause she moves slow, she sleeps all day, she doesn't listen so I have to constantly repeat myself. She won't go do things without me such as eat lunch in the cafeteria, go to class, do her homework, enroll, etc. I have to pretty much nag at her until she does it, and by the time she does it's too late and she's angry because it isn't finished. Not my fault. She just gives up so easily and expects me to bend at will to her family's random needs when they want her home. Uh no, My car, MY gas money she helps when she can, but I got her into college, I helped her waaaay more than she's helped me. She gets upset if I go to lunch without her or hand out with different girls aside of her. She never wants to get out yet claims she's bored. She steals my ideas for projects, and leaves my room messy- So I make a pallet on my floor of everything she needs to take out. If we go to McDonald's she'll purposely stand behind me so that I can order before her so she can try to get on my order because she doesn't have money. Like a "Feel Guilty For Me" act. Of course I won't let her starve so I buy her food. :/... She always forgets to order fries and gets upset with me when I won't let her have any of mine. I tell her she should have ordered her own. Then she rants about me being "selfish". Can you believe that?! ME! Selfish! HAH! Look at all I've done/do for her! I've let her wear my shoes but she scuffs them up so no more of that. She doesn't THINK before she does things, buys things, etc. Or she'd complain that my computer was slow, even though she could have came computerless, or that her bedsheets get too dirty. It's called dead skin, and it's from her dry skin. The covers are solid black. I want them back! I brought them for me- but I'm a good friend and do what I can. She comes from a poor family, I'm middle class but I work for what I have, she claims that she's had a hard life yet it's no where near as tough as mine. It's like she doesn't care to do good sometimes in school, and I have to peer edit majority of her work since she can't do it herself. I have no idea why I get so angry with her, I just feel my fuse shortening. She's a great friend and there when I need her, but I feel like I'm more of a benefit to her. Oh, and now this other girl and I have become AMAZING friends and she's secretly jealous. I feel it. Me and my "new friend" are dorming next semester and now she feels like I said no to her for the other girl. That's not the case. I just feel more like her mother than her friend. How do I stop feeling this way about my friend? I love her and don't want to hurt her (she's had enough of that) but how do I kick her into gear? Or am I just getting upset for no reason? More Recent Articles |
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