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Open Question: Why me? Why him? What to do now? and more... Open Question: Why me? Why him? What to do now?Ok, here is the problem. I am a 27 year old female.. I like to think I am educated... I have been in... er... several relationships, though I have only been in love once in my life. I date a lot, but nothing long term, I am not at all wanting to settle down, I tend to enjoy the single life. I do tend to crush a lot, but that's it, a crush and I move on. I feel so helpless. There is a surgeon where I work... who I have only seen twice since I have been at this hospital (3 years)... they say he is an ignorant a$$ who never talks to anyone. Both times he saw me, he was really sweet and did talk to me. I have not seen him in... er 2-3 months.... we don't work together, we don't even work on the same floor. He is... er...about 55... not good looking at all.. he is also married (and I never ever go after married men)... (and I do work with young, social doctors/surgeons who are nice looking) but I swear I just woke up one day and couldn't stop thinking of this one doctor!!! Not even just sexually... but relationship wise. I lead a busy, active life... and I must say he just keeps popping into my head... its been 2 weeks now and I feel like I am going crazy. Has this ever happened to anyone? Am I batty? Why him??? Arg... Im so confused... I feel like a school girl. Open Question: is he lying or telling the truth ?i am with my husband since 10 years and married 8 1/2 years we have a son 6 , a daughter 5 , another daugther 2 and a son on the way , he is black and i am german . he is in the army so it happens that we are seperated some times . the been 3 times i know about that he had contact while we where together , ones while we were dating and the other time in 2005 while i was in germany and he was in ft bliss . both times he claimed that therewas no sex involved , he just neded somebody to talk . than the last chick ( she was black , short and fat and worked for the army as a civilian where my husnad worked ) i really have a problem with , this was the one he had contact with in march 2008 while he was in ft bliss and i was in germany . i found out because he left his e-mail open and i saw it . the e-mail said " i really enjoyed our conversation last night about marriage and kids ! i miss you i love you and i can't wait to talk to you again " his story is that she was working with him and one time some people went to lunch together and him and her went , so they start talking . so from that time on they talked at work , than she asked him to go to lunch with her , they went and she paid for lunch . so they kept talking and then they went to lunch again this time he paid . he said that they talked about her boyfriend marriage and kids. than he told her that he would go to watch a fight on the weekend and she asked him if she could come with her boyfriend who was in town that weekend . they talked on the phone every now and than . he claims thay only talked for an month . then he left ft bliss to go to meet us in alabama and then to go to korea for one year . he says that they had no sex or anything .she was 25 and my husband 33 and we had 3 kids by then . but what i have problems with to believe that there was nothing is that he kept telling me lies about her after it came out , wrong names , diffrent stories , lies over lies . after he left ft bliss , he called her on the day me and the kids came back after 2 1/2 month he called her for one our from our house phone , thats how i found out her work number and called her ( about 6 month after they were last in contact ).he said he wanted to tell her not to call no more . when i asked her if they had sex she told me that she was at work and i need to talk to my husband about that . if there was nothing why would she not tell me that they were only friends ? another thing was that he called her again a coujple days later after we had a fight from a pay phone and this is when a day after the e-mail came ( i really enjoyed our conversation last night about marriage and kids ! i miss you i love you and i can't wait to talk to you again " ) i found . a couple month later i also found out that he uses her name as the password for his online buissnes . i think if there was nothing between them why would he use her name as password or why would she send such an e-mail or why would he call her for one our before his wife comes home ? the only thing i got to say that when he picked me up from the airport he dresses up for me , he cooked for me . and he couldn't wait to have sex with me even while i was past out , he came twice in 5 minutes . i don't know what to believe , if they really didn't do anything like my husband told me or if they did and he is lying . i think about it every night , and i cry everyday and since i am pregnant my feelings are even worse . he said he would do i lie dedecter test , but i am scaried what would come out . Open Question: Relationship problems with girlfriend (long story)?I had found out my girlfriend had another Myspace profile and she never told me she had two of them. Her and I had many conversations about it and she never told me about. I found out about the other one looking up her friend and that is how I found out about her other profile. Then I called her and asked her about it and she said yeah I have two but she was nonchalant about it, because if I would have kept something like that from her she would have been upset about it not saying I would have done that but only saying if that was the case. She did not care at all and she said I'm sorry for not telling you about it and then she had the nerve to say anything else because I'm going back to bed but she said it in such a mean way as if it was not a big deal or as if she did not give a care at all. She always have a nasty attitude especially when she is in the wrong she gets all defensive and she plays reverse psychology always trying to find a way to turn stuff around on me when the main reasons why her and I broke up because of things she done 98 percent of the time I would have to end it to let her know I won't tolerate it. The profile mess was my last straw and then she been playing games like not answering her phone while she is out always have excuses and one time she went a few days without talking to me and she always have an excuse to justify whatever she does. I won't lie in the beginning when her and I got together I did break up with her and get back with my ex but it was so recent after I got out that relationship. I was not completely over my ex and her excuse for ignoring my calls for 4 days was that time which was after her and I got back together. She said the reasons why I ignored your calls was because I thought you were going to get back with your ex again. I told her well you could have been mature enough and said how you felt instead of ignoring my calls for 4 days and she done that to me twice when she had a friend or family emergency she told me that but I honestly believe she probably with someone else because I don't think she is completely honest. She told me she never cheated but I told her that time she ignored my calls I told her if she felt I was going to get back with my ex she should have been mature enough to tell me how she felt and I told her if you were holding a grudge for what I did I told her why get back with me that is what I said to her. I felt like she could have been mature about and told me how she felt instead of ignoring my calls for all those days and she said she was scared to get hurt again if I got back with my ex but like I said she should have been mature enough to say that is how she felt instead of ignoring my calls for 4 days and she done that twice. She plays too many games when it's to her convenience and she is 34 I'm 24 and she should know better for her to be 10 years older than myself. She should have been mature enough to say her feelings instead of ignoring my calls for all those days. After all that this Myspace profile mess happened she had the nerve to be so nonchalant about it. She did apologize but I felt like many times I asked her about why is her Myspace profile private the one I knew about she told me she needs to get access to a computer to make it no longer private so I could see it but all the while she never told me about her other Myspace profile. I told her since you keeping things from me I told her know your giving me reasons to be suspicious and I told her to give me her password to Myspace and I could not access it because she was giving me the wrong password. It was strange how the next day after she went to her mothers house to use the computer then all of a sudden I was able to login. I think she went there and changed the password to the one she was telling me and I honestly believe that night the real password was something different and she hurried up and went to her mothers house to use the computer and fix it to the one she gave me and she plays too many games and she lies a lot that is why it's hard to believe her. I am honest with her about everything unlike her and she expects me to have to ask her everything that is her way of keeping secrets. I felt like she should have have offered the websites information without me having to ask especially after she gave me reasons to be suspicious after that Myspace profile she been hiding. I also had an issue with her still going on these dating sites after her and I were in a relationship but she always had an excuse talking about her classmates from high school doing charity work so she claimed but I felt like if they had to talk about something like that it would be discussed on the phone not on any dating website. I just felt like she was always looking. Then I asked her to give me the password to one of her emails and she told me outright no! Then I was like well you must be hiding something and she admitted it was stuff she did not wa Open Question: has anyone else had this problem?basically my good friend tried getting with my ex more thhan a few times behind my back without me knowing... and supposedly nothing happened but they talked as much if not more than me and her did. and once i found out i kinda got pissed jsut the fact its my good friend and the girl i love.. and she got really mad cause i was upset about it? is that fair at all? what did i do to get yelled at because she was shady behind my back. i dont talk to either of them anymore and its been about a month and a half. but its hard and idk if i should get over it and try being civil and friends but it bothers me to bad.. we dated for a year and a half andd this kid after a year with me qand my ex started trying to get with her. yeah by the way bro im outta highschool so its none of that drama that you are thinking. i actually dont use a facebook really so trust me im not with the drama. im asking a question.. and no they met cause me.. and i dont talk to her anymore cause i feel like she started using me it was jsut unfair yeah by the way bro im outta highschool so its none of that drama that you are thinking. i actually dont use a facebook really so trust me im not with the drama. im asking a question.. and no they met cause me.. and i dont talk to her anymore cause i feel like she started using me it was jsut unfair Open Question: The Scorpio Man and His "Sting"?I have met and was dating a Scorpio man. He has a problem with people who don't trust him or at least so it seems. If I question him about something, he will become very angry with me. It's like the temper or explosion comes out of nowhere. So that time I apologized. Well, this time, I asked him twice at different times of day about something having to do with his trustworthiness. On the last time, he just went off on me by text in an explosive way. Is this the scorpio sting? I feel so hurt and he is not the type to apologize so I don't know whether to leave him alone totally or reach out to him. Open Question: Should I leave him for hitting me like this?So this is kind of my fault. I told my boyfriend about my fantasy of getting spanked by a guy, and he said he'd be glad to do that for me. Problem is he hit me far harder than I could handle and basically held me down and refused to stop until I had tears in my eyes. I did tell him to quit, but he thought I was playing a game...like the whole being punished and begging for mercy thing. So he continued. He's got a lot of arm strength from lifting weights so I guess it was easy for him to underestimate his own strength? I don't know. In any case, now, my butt is really like sensitive to the touch...it feels like there's internal bruising or something. I know this sounds odd, but it seriously hurts SO bad. When he asked why I was crying, I told him that I was serious when telling him to stop, and he did apologize and said I could kick him in his balls if I wanted. He asked if he could rub my back(b/c he knows it tends to soothe me when I'm crying) or if I just wanted him to get out of my house, and I told him I didn't really care what he did, so he pulled up a chair next to my bed and rubbed my back until I fell asleep. So he is remorseful, but now I'm kinda scared of him. I never knew he was capable of such aggression. Should I continue to date him accepting that it was my fault or leave him? Open Question: How do you makeout and or french kiss?Okay, PROBLEM! i am 14 and i date, i kiss, but when i tried to makeout with my girlfriend, i failled. she gave me 3 out of 10!! then we broke up. oh the sadnes. ok, help me AND DONT MAKE FUN, IM ONLY 14! Open Question: Am I nuts...I cant stop thinking of him... I don't even know him!!!!?Ok, here is the problem. I am a 27 year old female.. I like to think I am educated... I have been in... er... several relationships, though I have only been in love once in my life. I date a lot, but nothing long term, I am not at all wanting to settle down, I tend to enjoy the single life. I do tend to crush a lot, but that's it, a crush and I move on. I feel so helpless. There is a surgeon where I work... who I have only seen twice since I have been at this hospital (3 years)... they say he is an ignorant a$$ who never talks to anyone. Both times he saw me, he was really sweet and did talk to me. I have not seen him in... er 2-3 months.... we don't work together, we don't even work on the same floor. He is... er...about 55... not good looking at all.. he is also married (and I never ever go after married men)... (and I do work with young, social doctors/surgeons who are nice looking) but I swear I just woke up one day and couldn't stop thinking of this one doctor!!! Not even just sexually... but relationship wise. I lead a busy, active life... and I must say he just keeps popping into my head... its been 2 weeks now and I feel like I am going crazy. Has this ever happened to anyone? Am I batty? Why him??? Arg... Im so confused... I feel like a school girl. I cant even believe I am resorting to this :( Open Question: Do I brake up with him? Who do i chose? Help :(?OK, so this is my problem.. Currently i am dating a guy named Trace.hes 14..We've been dating for almost 2 months now and it doesn't seem like he really likes me...He's never called me..I'm the only one who calls because he's always too busy...I only see hi every 2 weeks or so,since he goes to a different school,and i only talk to him maybe twice a week...but then when i see him(which is usually when me and my bros go fishing) hes ALL OVER ME!! holding my hand and kissing on my neck and hugging me constantly! (i love it but i mean really??come on..)oh and the only reason his mom is OK with us dating is because I'm a really good influence on him..I'm all A's and hes all well...F's and D's and hes a sorta bad boy(Grand theft Auto).. And then there's Isaac.who is also 14..he used to go to my school and we used to be bf and gf until he cheated on my with my best friend Brianne..hes regretted it ever since and i cant even tell you how many times hes tried to get me back and he still is very persistent in that... now it has been nearly 8-9 months since i saw him at school(he got expelled for putting Fuck you Mr.Collins,my dean, on our Christian academy's bathroom wall ..he just wanted to get expelled:P)well just 2 days ago on Thursday he invited me caroling with is church and i went...now i was really nervous because Ive never exactly stopped liking him and so yeah...when i got in the car he immediately gave me a stuffed moose with a Christmas hat on and a card... so when we were done we went to his moms friends huge barn with the rest of the teens from the youth group and we played pool upstairs on the 3rd floor... (were we kicked ass) :P so anyways when his mom drove me and his cousin home i guess i earned a butt load of brownie points and she invited me to come to church on Wednesdays with them and their family and to go play pool on the weekends and play volleyball with them..and he want me to be the first to go for a ride in his new camero next yr when he has his license...and he always calls every day to two days... WHAT DO I DO!!! the choice is obvious but im scared to make it Open Question: Boyfriend issue! I don't understand my boyfriend?I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, but sometimes he gets angry at me when I talked to his guy friends. Well I can't ignore them because they are all my friends even before we start dating. I tried talking to him a couple of times already. And the problem usually lead to jealousy. He told me he doesn't care about what I talked to them, but it's how i talked to them that get him piss off. I didn't understand what he meant by that because I was just being normal... and i am definitely not a flirt. When I asked him to make me understand, he just ignore me and say that I won't understand and i have to fine out for myself in order for me to stop doing it. I'm just so loss at when he said these words, so lately he had been moody and won't talk to me. Open Question: It really hurts. He hit me (with a twist though). Should I break up with him?So this is kind of my fault. I told my boyfriend about my fantasy of getting spanked by a guy, and he said he'd be glad to do that for me. Problem is he hit me far harder than I could handle and basically held me down and refused to stop until I had tears in my eyes. I did tell him to quit, but he thought I was playing a game...like the whole being punished and begging for mercy thing. So he continued. He's got a lot of arm strength from lifting weights so I guess it was easy for him to underestimate his own strength? I don't know. In any case, now, my butt is really like sensitive to the touch...it feels like there's internal bruising or something. I know this sounds odd, but it seriously hurts SO bad. When he asked why I was crying, I told him that I was serious when telling him to stop, and he did apologize and said I could kick him in his balls if I wanted. He asked if he could rub my back(b/c he knows it tends to soothe me when I'm crying) or if I just wanted him to get out of my house, and I told him I didn't really care what he did, so he pulled up a chair next to my bed and rubbed my back until I fell asleep. So he is remorseful, but now I'm kinda scared of him. I never knew he was capable of such aggression. Should I continue to date him accepting that it was my fault or leave him? More Recent Articles |
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