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Open Question: Will we be blamed for mold in the apartment???!? and more... Open Question: Will we be blamed for mold in the apartment???!?We have been in the same apartment for a little over a year now. When we moved in, we noticed a bit of mold in the bathroom. nothing major, just around the top of the shower where water may have splashed up. we also noticed a tiny chip in the tub itself, which we reported to the office. the maintenance man came over to look at it, and said that it's nothing and that all the tubs in the apartment are starting to do that. okay so we shrugged it off. after a year of of living there, we had a toilet issue where we had to lift the lid off the tank of the toilet, where we noticed the inside of the tank was completely black. i really didn't think too much about it, just thought maybe it was from the toilet being kinda old and the water being hard. around that same time i had dropped the shower head and put a tiny hole in the tub. we called maintenance right away to tell them about it. and when they came over the maintenance man just caulked the hole, and i also suggested that he do something about the original hole as well. i also suggested he do more than caulk it, there was no way that caulk would hold up through all that water. so a week later he came back and put this black putty stuff in the 2 holes. and then when that dried, a week later he came back and put this white paint on the dried putty. he did a crappy job and i was still pretty sure the water would still get through that. i had him give me a receipt saying he fixed the holes, and thats all he did. he didn't even put a date or what he did to them. we resigned our lease in june, and just this past week we went on vacation. we turned all the heat off in the apartment (our apartments are not very well insulated, so our electric bill is always through the roof). we just returned, and i took a shower only to notice that the mold at the top of the tub is worse!! i think not having the heat on has caused it to grow. I am getting worried that its just going to keep getting worse. We are calling them first thing int he morning to tell them about it. this will be the first time we have mentioned the mold problem (i didnt really think it was a problem till now!). im worried that they will try to blame us for the mold, say something like we should have noticed it was an issue a year ago when we moved in. or maybe even say the hole we put in the tub caused it, even though we called them right away to fix that (even though there was a hole that had been there before we moved in!). I know for a fact we didnt cause the mold, but it is definitly getting worse little by little. Can they possibly blame us for something like this? Open Question: Did i Make the Right Decision? Your Thoughts? it's kind of a long story..sorry?Okay so here is the problem, I was in a relationship for 3 yrs. with a girl from high school and we were very much in love..not just puppy love..we were both mature enough to know what we wanted and we even got through alot and were even living together when both our parents through us out on the street..we even got engaged...i loved her with all my heart and i know she loved me the same.. but here was the problem.. she was a bit of party girl when i met her and was the leader of her dance crew and she had alot of troublemaking friends from her past.. though she had fixed most of those problems and was getting more mature she still had some of those habits...me on the other hand have never smoked, drank, or even cursed for that matter..not because i didn't have the chance but rather i felt it was wrong to do that sort of things...this led to alot of arguing and ultimately to us breaking up..i took it bad..i loved her with all my heart.. she turned completely into a party girl and was completely rebelling... through it all i still loved her and would constantly always show her compassion when i would see her (we worked in the same mall). Her on the other hand would shove hurtful things in my face..i still said nothing and went about my business heart broken.. then i met another girl... she was nice and caring just like me and very beautiful..she had a rough past and instantly fell in love with me.. i still had feelings for my ex.. then my ex got wind of my new girlfriend and starting trying to get back with me..... it even got to the point where she would call me crying for me..i listened because i still cared but my heart was cold...i ending up kind of dating both for a while because i was so hurt and cold.. she had completely changed her image and was exactly the nice decent girl i always hoped she would become..and to top it off she giving %110 of her heart..but i didn't feel the same and eventually went back with the other girl... i loved my new girl but i wasn't in love like my first..but in an effort to block the pain i went ahead and got her pregnant... my whole life i've just wanted to be a good dad..everything i have done to this point in life has reflected that but i still loved my ex..it still hadn't left.. and the same with her.. i would still call her and talk to her...she was my best friend..but she is also a responsible person and understood that i have to do what's best for the baby...and on the other hand i couldn't deal with breaking this girls heart that has had such a hard life by leaving her pregnant... so i walked away from the love i had for my ex once and for all...i even got married and am expecting my second child...i'm happy with my wife and love my kids more than anything in the world.. but i'm afraid i'm not in love with her..i still to this day think of my ex and wonder what could have been... that short time that we got back together she was living that everyday was a gift and more happy than i had ever seen her but i didn't feel quite the same...that's the only thing i can hold onto to back my decision to marry my wife..maybe it was because i did actually love her and had to go back to her or was it because my heart was still a bit cold towards my ex for how we broke up and the way she was after..this plagues me everyday...i'm happy but i'm afraid it could have been better and avoided..your thoughts? Thanks for taking the time to read this Open Question: Another Boy Problem !?OK so my cousin dating this boy. My cuzin is 17 & he's 16. I also like the boy. I mean a lot. But no ones this secret & i don't know if i should tell my cousin or her bf. I'm 14 & i think he likes me cause he gave me his aim, plays with my hair joking around & pushes me softly.I don't know what to do. Please help me ! Open Question: Husband is having cybersex, phone sex,etc.Any advice on how to confront him I know what he is up to?I have a real problem and I don't have anyone to talk to, hence why I am asking for help/opinion. I just found out that my bf of 6 years has been having online sex, cybersex, whatever you call it these days, phone sex with women he has been meeting from an online dating site. He even went to an internet cafe on his way home from work yesterday and spent 4 hours chatting with numerous women, very sexually explicit...and also asking for phone #'s and wanting to "hook up with them". How do I approach him that I know about his online activites? How I found out was I put a key logger on the computer to see what my teenage son was doing online, and came across my bf's dating profile, of course I logged in to see what's up and who's profile it was, not my son's thats for sure!...that's where it started. I am angry, hurt, betrayed and don't know what to do...we just had a baby 5 months ago, I really don't want to see us split up b/c of this, but if he doesn't stop that seems to be the only option! Please any advice would be helpful. Oh just to clarify we are common-law and have been living together for 5 years. Sometimes I just call him my bf. And my husband knew there was a keylogger on the computer, I installed a free one which I guess he thought was no longer working. Open Question: Problems with msn and a mysterious way to repair to it?I have a query here, I dunno if anyone would know the answer. The other day there I could not sign into my msn account, So I phoned an IT friend of mine and asked him if he had any solutions,.....automatically he asked me if my computer clock was at the correct setting, I checked it ........and it wasn't, as I had been using the calendar and clock the night before to check out some dates etc. As soon as I reset the clock and calendar........Wallah!! I could sign in..........Any clues.....I haven't seen the mate yet to ask him........but I'd rather have the answer first. Cheers in advance Open Question: Should I be concerned, my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend just had a baby and says it is his.?I guess, what I am wanting to know is should I trust this woman, or should I be cautious. They had dated for only 1 month about 3 months before me and this guy started dating. He was very open and honest about the whole situation from the beginning. So it isn't like I didn't know what may possibly happen. But, all along she didn't want anything to do with my boyfriend that I have been living with for about 4 months now. Two months after she has the baby she is finally agreeing to let him see the child, and of course on her terms. I am not allowed to be around the child. My boyfriend also has an older child, when it is his weekend to have him, then I am mostly the caregiver of the child. Of course this child is from a different woman, so maybe it is different in that case only. My thing is we are trying to have a family with trust and honesty, and now I am afraid that this is going to cause a lot of problems. I mean I have two kids of my own, they are almost grown and I don't have questions about this situation on their behalf but should I? Do I just let it ride and see how this goes, or do I stand up for me and my kids trying to be a part of this family? Open Question: does he want divorce?Last year I had a bad prescription drug problem. My husband got me help & I was ok for awhile. But, the past couple of months I've been taking lots of sleeping pills & some pain pills. I think he knew, looking back on the situation. Last monday night, I came home from work, and all his clothes were gone and most of his things. He DID leave some things that are very important to him. Before he left, he called my mom and told her 3 or 4 times:"I need a break from the way she is." My mom asked what do you mean the way she is? He said he wasn't so sure I was off drugs. I called him when I got home, crying & begging and he told me that I can't change and he's not coming back. He said he would pay the bills for awhile & stay married for awhile so I could have health insurance. He slept in a parking lot that night. The next day, he drove out of town, I'm not sure where, most likely to see family. I spent thanksgiving without him. Anyway, I called him again later on & he said a couple of things that made me think he'd be back. I offered to go to marriage counseling he said I can't change & he can't change. He said nobody cares about other people's problems. He said he has not told anybody about this, b/c nobody cares. He said he was still wearing his wedding ring, but it is "just a symbol nothing more" I asked if he loved me, he said "what do you think after all I've done for you the last 4 yrs?" I ask him again he said, I guess not. But that was after I asked if he minded if I dated. A friend of mine called him, & asked if he was coming back to me. He said:"yeah..I don't know...no..". I texted him later on & he said he would see a therapist with me when he got back. But maybe he just wants the therapist around when he tells me its over, so I will have somebody to talk to. I found a bill in the mail yesterday for a larger storage shed that he had rented without me knowing. Anyway, I started to go to NA meetings & church. No drugs, no desire for drugs. He has his phone turned off, or its out of range. I've had the church pastor leave him messages. I sent a text message saying I was worried about him. He sent a text back the next day that said: "I'm sorry for not letting u know I'm ok. That is rude. I can't say I'm ok, but I won't do anything stupid." He has not been to work in 9 days. I have 1 child (not his) he has 2 from a previous marriage. Do you think he needs space, or is he leaving for good? Should I keep trying to contact him? I'm getting serious help now for my drug problem, & I'm working on ways to avoid nagging him like I used to. I just texted him to ask what type of oil my car needs, and he says he is coming back tommorrow. I texted back to ask him if he would go to a NA meeting with me. He hasn't answered. Do you think this means he wants a divorce, with no chance of reconcilliation? I asked him if I could date other people to see if he was serious. He paused, then said "I'm your husband not your father." More Recent Articles
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